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Okay, this may sound dumb, but im confused.
If you call a suicide hotline, do they call the cops? Especially since you are in danger? I have always wondered this and my councelor at school gave me a list of hotlines because I am always thinking about suicide.
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i really don't knowi would think so. i wouldn't know cause i don't go to a councelor or want to kill myself.
I cried this morning, and I never cry. I haven`t cried in months so this was somewhat of a big deal and I almost killed myself but my friend calmed me down. I cut myself, I did it not because I wanted to hurt myself or was upset for any good reason just because I could, it's dumb I know. My mother hates me, like seriously unconditionally hates me and tries to ruin my life by thinking anything that makes me a bit happy is stupid or along the lines of stupidity. I can`t talk to her that`ll just make things worse, and I don`t want to bring my dad into this because he tells her everything. Why can`t my life be better?! What did I do?! xxOo
what makes your mom hate you so much??well idk but don't kill yourself cause i was already tramatized when my best friend told me she wanted to die and has tried to kill herself quite a few times. hunny cutting isn't good i tried it just last night and i told myself i would never! do it again. it was on my leg and the big stink is that i have a volleyball game and people will see it cause my shorts are really short. i guess i'm trying to say that if you don't want to get caught don't do it cause there are tons of ways to get caught trust me. i know how u feel. there are plenty of times when i wanna hurt myself or even kill myself because people tell me they hate me and that so do other people. even my own family. so if you need help you can leave something in my inbox or i/m me on
xl n kristy s lo. good luck!! kristy
There is these 3 boys on the bus that keep bothering me and my best friends. They keep saying that we're a "threesome" and in three days they've made me cry 5 times. They call us sexy and say I love you. We know that they don't mean it.. they're all a year older than us (we're in 7th grade) and they always try to steal my stuff and call me and my best friend gay. I've tried EVERYTHING!! Nothing works.. a little help on handling these people?
call them puss-lickers, i would do that
i just got my hair permed 2day and i was wonderin if i can get it wet and just not wash it??? thanks
your not allowed to wet it for 24 hours
In my house, all I have is a small stand-up shower (no tub!). It sucks. So that makes it more difficult to shave my legs. I tried shaving out of the shower using the sink with a towel on the floor to catch loose water...but it takes forever! Does anybody have any ideas to make it quicker? Or anything I can do? Thanks
when i shave i just stand up and i have the same shower as you. all you have to do is get shaving cream put it on and well shave its not that hard trust me.
I tend to get paranoid very easily. For example, I will think my boyfriend doesnt like me, or thatI have no friends or that people are always talking about me. Everyone says I'mbeing stupid but I really believe it. Any advice?
wow! you are just like me, but i realize that i'm wrong. yes, people do talk sometimes but they would never say anything to hurt you.
I think I might have paranoia. I have a wonderful gf. I love her todeath, but she talks to the one guy, who constantly flirts with her and it pisses me off. She says dont worry about it and that she loves me, but I still get worried. What if she will start to like him? I know nothing will happen. Were perfect for each other but I feel like bad things will always happen. Can anyone give me sties to read up on it or tell me what I can do to not be paranoid? I dont want to lose her over my problems. I want to be normal.
its normal don't worry. guys are more of a jealous type. you just love her so much that your afraid you'll lose her. it happens to alot of people. don't feel like your the only one.
I don't eat. Is that retarded? No. It's not. I'm happy all of the time at school, and then I'm sad and "depressed" at home. I get mad at my parents a lot, I don't smile. At school, I'm happy all the time, people tell me I laugh a lot, and then i just smile all the time. I'm really sensitive: ex) I once saw a homeless man in front of the subway station. I gave him 5 bucks, and he said happy holidays. I turned around and said happy holdidays to you too. then i went into the subway station, saw one of my friends, and started crying into his shoulders. After like, 6 stops, I stopped, and he asked me what was the matter, and I told him everything. Then I said i was sad cause the guy WASN'T going to have a happy holiday. The next day, i went back with my friend and he held my hand and everything, and we gave the homeless man 10 dollars with a post it attached that gave him the address of a nearby soup kitchen. He said bless you. And then I started crying all over again. How messed up am I?
well maybe at school you are happy being around alot of other people that enjoy being with you. maybe your not happy at home because your parents don't support you or they don't enjoy being around you because you get mad at them. try doing something nice for them that thet will appreciate. see what happens. your not messed up, you're just grateful for what you have and upset because you see people who don't have what you have. it simply meens you have a great heart.
I have a problem: some part of me wants my older sister's approval so much, yet I am nothing like her. She is a good and decent person, if not a little conservative and practical. She is a good role model, but I am not her. I am intellectual, studious and questioning. When I ask her the big questions, she thinks I make a big deal out of little things. But I think she never asks herself the big questions in life or is afraid to.
Why do I want her approval so much? She is a good person and I love her, but why don't I have the fortitude to be my own person?
it's very common for a younger sibling to want to be like the older sibling. maybe your life stinks and your not happy but hers is great and shes happy. maybe you just love her so much and want to be like her.
I apologize in advance for the potential length of this post.
Lately, I have been having trouble with my father. It seems like he's taking every opportunity to ruin every chance at happiness that I ever had. I normally wouldn't care, but he's really effecting my relationships with other people and my potential opportunity to get into a good college, which is really important to me.
Since I'm only fourteen, I have no way to move out without his complete consent, and I have considered moving in with my mother in San Francisco, but she is physically abusive toward me, so that really eliminates itself as an option.
He's making me feel worthless and like I'm a horrible human being and I don't know what to do. He's called me a slut, a liar, a failure, and a sociopath. Someone please help me.
ask another family member to take care of you. your mom isn't the only one abusing you. your dad is mentally abusing you and thats not right.let your relatives know what is going on, i'm sure they'll understand you can't live with this guy.
ok so, what do you do if you're stuck in this situation:
your dad had an affair for 3 years .. without telling your mom or you or your brothers
sounds bad enough, right?
well .. he's still with the whore and expects me and my brothers to warm up to her... be nice to her .. accept her into the family and what not. oh right, and to add to that: she has a 2 1/2 year old son who is annoying as hell.
she comes with us on vacations, and i know my dad spends the money ...that he needs to 'save' before we're able to buy a BASKETBALL HOOP? ... on her
thats not right.. and i've tried having those long serious chats with him. he thinks i'm just doing what my mother does ... hating her for no reason. she screwed over my whole life, why shouldn't i hate her? ...what should i do? and don't say i should try to like her .. cause thats not happening .. other than that i'm up for any ideas
helllp me
well thats tough to deal with. see my parents are divorced and my dad is hiding his girlfriend from us even though we kno he has one, but he doesn't know that.if your parents are also divorced(i'm guessing they are) then ask if u can stay with your mom and not go back to your dad. try it, if it doesn't work tell me what happens and i'll see what u can do.
My sister has had a pretty tough year, and I think she's finding the festive season a bit overwhelming. She hasn't wanted to get involved with any of the usual things she enjoys this time of year, like decorating the house with lights. I'm nervous that tomorrow on Christmas Day, she'll be really down. How can I cheer her up, given that the normal "festive" things she likes are just depressing her?
Thats tough. i don't know what to tell you. maybe you shouldn't mention anything about the holidays.
okay i cant handle this anymore. how do you deal with parents that are ALWAYS fighting? i mean they wont separate they talked about it but they wont and it's beginning to tick me off because they will be good one day and then the next you know it they are fighting and it sickens me! i cant handle it anymore i feel like punching them out. please help. THANKS!
its annoying when parents fight. try talking to them. if they don't listen, ignore them, see how they like it. you should show them that you are mad and upset.
i'll try to make this short. my brother was overseas in the army for three years. he came back in august. i've only seen him a couple of times since he's been back. the problem is we used to be so close and now he's just so weird. he won't talk to me. i went over for thanksgiving and he ate in a room all by himself. i felt bad and went in there to keep him company and as soon as i sat down he walked out of the room. he wouldn't even say hi to me or the rest of the family for that matter. i have to see him tommorow for christmas. should i ignore him or try to talk to him. he shuts me out everytime i try. any help would be great thanks.
well maybe you should try. he is probably tramatized by something that happened in iraq. thats not exactly the place you want to be right now.maybe his friend died or something. the least you could do is talk to him. if that doesn't work then don't bother, he'll come around at some point.
well you see my dad just got up and left last night...he didnt tell anyone where he was going or when he would be back, we didnt even know he left...so after awile i called his cell...he answered and when i asked where he was he told me driving...i asked where, he siad the mountians when i asked when he'd be back he said WHEN I FEEL LIKE IT! and hung up!...i havent slept in my room becuz im scared he'll show back up and hurt me...hes a drunk and a very mean drunk...im really scared and upset becuz im daddy's lil girl and i want him home for christmas but aty the same time i wish he would leave forever! i dont know what to do anymore...plz if you have any advice plz tell me!
Thats a scary situation. Don't worry, stay with your mom, she'll protect you. If anything happens you have to call the police. Maybe its a good idea to look for a place for your dad to become sober.
My parents keep the house so so so so so cold...I'm always freezing and it's the middle of the winter...it's always like 60 in here, and I've told my parents so many times that I'm SO cold when its that cold, but they don't care. They say that they are comfortable that way, and that if they turn it up they will be too warm. I'm not the only one who thinks its too cold...friends or relatives who come over say its so cold! But, they don't have to live here!!! I DO!! What do I do???
Well i guess the best i can tell you is to bundle up! get a comforter for your bed, extra blankets, or whatever. if you have to wear your sweaters to bed. i hate the cold to i must be warm at all times.
OK today is Christmas and my dad got drunk.Well my mom and him were arguing and my dad sometime hits my mom well I have a brother he's 17 and today he had enough and my brother went and hit him then they began fighting and alot of mess started.I don't know what to do or even think and my brother is leaving to the Army I'm really confused plz helm I'm 14/f.
It's tough when parents fight. It's not good that your dad hits your mom. Get a phone book and loock up a marriage councelor. They need some help. Otherwise your mom will end up really hurt. If he keeps hitting her you have to let some1 know. i know hes ur dad and you love him but you can't let this keep happening.
I am going through a break up because my boyfriend just wants to give up on our relationship all of a sudden. Now this is a big deal because a child is involved. We have worked through everything for years and now all of a sudden when we have a family started he wants to run and give up? I am extremely hurt and I wish I could just be calm and move on with my life and say well, he's just stupid. But I am so angry and I just want to scream at him so bad but I know that could make things worse. How do I be a calm, cool, and collected person so that there is a chance that he may want to work through this? I don't want to be that angry girl with sarcastic comments comming out of my mouth every five minutes...it's really hard to control guys, I am so mad at him for giving up at the worst time. I wish I could do something as simple as smack some sense into him, but I know I can't. He doesn't understand that he's messing up a chance for our child to create family childhood memories and everything. How should I be throughout all of this? I really need advice I am so lost, I have crazy mixed emotions and my anger is so huge. Please please please help!! We can't afford couples counseling either. thanks.
its tough if you can't afford couples counceling. Let him kno how you feel. Tell him you think what he's doing is crazy. Don't act like a bitch though.
For as long as I can remember, my aunt has always been an alcoholic. My family has stopped being in contact with her because she has caused many problems with my family in the past. There are days she will drink so much she'll pass out and other days she'll become extreamly violent. I never see her anymore and yet I'm worried about her. I'm more so worried about my 10 year old cousin (her daughter). My aunt has been on and off with drinking. Before I was born it was really bad. My mother told me that it was because she was in love with this guy but he was Chinese and his parent's didn't want him to marry a woman of another race so they had to end their relationship. That was nearly 30 years ago. I fear for my aunt. Although I do not have a close relationship with her, let alone any relationship with her at all, regardless she is family and I'm scared she is going to take things too far and hurt herself or someone else. I need to find her help. My mother and my other aunt have been trying to find places to take her but every place said that they needed more information about her problems. We really don't know at all why she is the way that she is. Her husband isn't any help at all. He just sits his fat ass on the couch with a beer in one hand and the TV remote in the other. Their house is a terrible mess and a person living on the streets would be too disgusted to even live there. They have a 10 almost 11 year old daughter and they do take care of her, and as a matter of fact, she's a spoiled brat. I'm still worried because the environment she is living in is in no way healthy for her. I don't know what to do. My family doesn't know what to do. I need to find her help but we can't find any place for her. Please, please, help. I apologize for the length of this question.
well i know shes family but i think it mght be good to call the police and take care of your cousin for her because she can't be going home to her daughter drunk. she could abuse her or sumthing. you either need to go to the police or keep looking for a place for her.
my brother and i used to be extrmely close even though he is 14 yrs older than me. but after he found "the love of his life" he seems lik he doesnt even no who i am. when he got engaged i cried and when he was married i wanted to die. we can never seem to talk about anything and hes always saying how stupid i am for going out w/ my bf bc he doesnt live by me. hes wife is super awasome and i love her and all but sometimes its lik its her fault. everytime someone talks bout my brother i get rele upset and when they compare us i always say since you think hes so much better than me go get him to do it. i hate it bc everyone asks why ben (my brother) and i dont spend that much time together anymore. and hes having a child and im afraid hes going to rele forget about me. he relationship w/ everyone else hasnt changed only w/ me. when i was little and i cried when i had a nightmare hed come in my room and sit w/ me till i went to bed but when i my first bf broke up w/ me he told me to shut up and get over it. and it rele hurt bc i used to be able to turn to him when i was sad but now i cant. i rele dont no what im asking but do you think r realtionship will ever be the same? or how can i tell him how i feel? thanks and sry bout the length
well i have to say, your brother has changed. let him know how you felt back then and compare it with how you feel now. ask him if you can spend more time together.