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Two households, both alike in dignity...
I apologize in advance for the potential length of this post.
Lately, I have been having trouble with my father. It seems like he's taking every opportunity to ruin every chance at happiness that I ever had. I normally wouldn't care, but he's really effecting my relationships with other people and my potential opportunity to get into a good college, which is really important to me.
Since I'm only fourteen, I have no way to move out without his complete consent, and I have considered moving in with my mother in San Francisco, but she is physically abusive toward me, so that really eliminates itself as an option.
He's making me feel worthless and like I'm a horrible human being and I don't know what to do. He's called me a slut, a liar, a failure, and a sociopath. Someone please help me.
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Yeah my dad is the same way at times. I'm not sure what to do either. I just sit and take it only sometimes im brave enuff to stand up to him but i do regret it after i do. I dont really know what to tell you but umm..be strong?? Try living with some other family members or telling them about your dad and stuff.
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ask another family member to take care of you. your mom isn't the only one abusing you. your dad is mentally abusing you and thats not right.let your relatives know what is going on, i'm sure they'll understand you can't live with this guy.
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What your dad is doing by calling you those names is being Verbally Abusive. I go through it too..so trust me I know what you go through, it gets tiring, annoying,and just plain old...Im 16 and im worrying about college, and I am honestly going through the same thing, only my parents live together and my family is falling apart. and Me being the middle child, I have 4 people comming to me with their problems...Im honestly at a breaking point, which looks like where your at also, and my parents tell me IM breaking the family apart. I know this has NOTHING to do with your post but, Its just letting you know that Im going through the same thing, and to ME...there isnt really a way out of it..Ive tried talking and it doesnt really do anything ....but hey! Each person is different...get a friend and vent completley to him or her, or do anything that will make you feel better...hope i helped! love ya ! byee
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A parent figure should NEVER do that. I feel bad that you have to put up with shit like that. A parent should be someone who tells you NOT to listen to people when they say that You need to serioussly go to a guidence counselor and do something about this. See if you can live with a friends family or something. Hopefully you have some relatives and nice friends.
~Brina~
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Hey. dont take that crap from him!!! you are not a slut liar failure or a sociopath. you dont deserve taking crap from your dad that things youre nothing but a worthless peice of crap because everyone is somebody. if i was you i will be face to face with him and be like look dad just because your life ended the way it is right now doesnt give you the right to bring me down with you when i am capable of getting a good education! just because you are having a bad days doesnt mean you can being my day down too and call me names which i'm not. i am a person and not worthless or a horrible human and get it through your head. and if he decides he wants to hurt you...call the cops...lol but i mean let him know you no longer want to listen to his crap. i would move in with my mom if she's abusive. anything else let me kno.hope i helped! take care. x3 SweetStar.
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Aw, I'm sorry. What you should do is see if any aunts, uncles, cousins, or grandparents could take you in. Both of your parents are abusive, you have to live somewhere else. If nothing works, call the police, because that's about the only thing you can do. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~
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You could call CPS on him, and then they could put you somewhere, but that may or may not make you happy. Maybe you have friendly aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents? You can talk to your dad and tell him that if he can't treat you respectfully the way you treat him, then it's going to have to be his responsibility to find a place for you to stay with someone who will respect you. It's a really hard situation, but if you're up for handling it, then you should go for it. I really really hope that things work out for you, and be really careful, I hope I helped. Keep ya head up. -Angel
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Would you consider moving out of both their houses, and go to a relatives or something? Like with the help of a lawyer or something. You may want to talk to your counselor at school. Your father shouldn't be doing that, and your mom obviosly shouldn't either.
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Thats horrible, I'm very sorry. What I think you are failing to realize here though, is that where as your mother might be physically abusive, your father is being emotionally/mentally abusive. You have to get out of this situation, otherwise you will seek out people that treat you this way in future relationships. Is there any other relative you can consider moving in with? I would talk to a school counselor or something, the only problem with that, is they have the potential to report to the authorities, and have you taken to a group home (though sometimes that is better than dealing with what you are dealing with). Maybe you could (without dispelling all of the details) tell a counselor that you would like them to suggest to your father that you go to family therapy. It would be good to be in a forum where you can openly express your concerns to your father, with a moderator there to keep him from lashing out on you. Mentally abusive people usually don't even know they are being abusive. It would be good for him to hear how bad he is hurting you, but in a "safe" environment. Good Luck!
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well you know you cant move in with your mom so someway try and make things better with your dad get some music and go to your room and just listen to music that makes you feel good about your self or you can try and talk to your dad and tell him what is going on and about your future!!!
hope i HElped
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