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I have been having this problem for quite sometime. I am a cutter. And i can't really stop. I have been going to counseling and I had been taken off antidepressants. My mood hasnt gotten any better, it feels alittle worse. Parents are no help, my dad thinks that I am doing this for attention and he yelled and screamed at me saying that I am faking everything and its just a waste of money to keep the counseling going. So now, I am not in that anymore. I feel terrible, worse possibly. And my freind who I have known since the second grade is going through problems, she is cutting herself and trying to kill herself. I have been trying to give her advice but, how do I give advice to someone who is doing the same things as me? I need some major help and someone to talk to.
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I can relate to you in so many ways. I was a cutter for 3 years. I went to consouling and still am. First off to get you to stop take all sharp ojects out of your reach. Take anything and everything that you could possibly use and put them all somewhere , where you wont get to them. Put rubber bands on your wrists and snap them whenever you feel like cutting. Stick in there. Your not the only one going through this. Stay away from anyone that would make you have an urge to cut. Talk to your parents and tell them about all of it. Tell them that your not doing it for attention.. Tell them that its not helping that their saying all that stuff to you. Make sure they understand. If nun of that works ask to stay at a friends house for awhile to get away from all the drama and just relaxe and have a good time with your friend. I hope I helped. Im always here if you need a friend to talk to . If you have AIM/AOL talk to me. My name on there is " solastmonthx " I swear Ill be there to talk to. Im a insomniac so Ill mostliky be online to talk to.
-brit
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Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'd recommend seeing a school counselor- they're free- or calling a hotline.
I'm a former cutter so I know what it's like- if you need help my AIM screename is andallthatjazz71
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Sounds to me like your home is filled with chaos. You need to go to a school counselor, how can you be like that and in school at the same time? I had to drop out because I was too depressed, I was in the counselors' office more than in class. You should be there too, I get the chill just thinking of being in school right now, I get nervous for people, I'm always saying "are you sure you can go, how can you, aren't you afraid?" But, I'm a little concerned about you being taken off medication, I'm wondering what the reason could of been, probably because it didn't help much. And you should talk to your friend more, just try grabing a notebook and writing down 5 bad things about living and 5 good things about dying, write down the list of good things about death first, both of you create your on list, and just kind of get an idea of how you guys feel and just be there for each other, especially if you have the same problems.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hey,
I know where you are coming from...Well I dun really wanna talk about that kinda stuff on here so IM me k? We'll talk there.
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Next time you get an urge to cut yourself, harm something else- like cut an orange or punch a pillow. It gets out some of your anger. You don't need to spend money to get help- try emailing the Self Harm Allience on support@selfharmalliance.org for free. Tell your friend about them too.
Remember, there are lots of people out there who care about you and you don't have to suffer in silence. Love yourself, think of the positive things and try to be happy.
Zoinatrobe
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Alright if you dad cares about money maybe you have a Youth Works near you.. They dont make you pay unless you can. Or if you dont.. maybe you have a older cousin whom you can talk to. I actually do both. But you just need to know for whatever reason your cutting.. is worth cutting over.. cut something else.. a apple.. i know thats dumb.. but i know you'd rather not hurt yourself. Thats terrible. I really wish you the best of luck!! My friend was a fake cutter she cut sideways.. instead up n down.. but she went into a residential home.. she is a lil bit better... she came along way.. idk if thats something you would want to do.. but if u want to help yourself n your friend.. that sumin you should consider-trix ((plz rate))
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well it looks like you have a serious problem. i have this friend whos best friend was also a cutter and she accidently hit a vein one day and almost died.u definately don't want that to happen. now my best friend resently last year had told me she was going to kill herself. she has tried to kill herself a coulple of times also.i helped her get through what she was going through, so maybe all you need is a new friend. some one with no problems at all. talk to her, ask her for advice. if you can't find a friend trust-worthy enough i'm always here to help you back out of doing something you'll regret.
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be an EXAMPLE! work on it together or she won't listen to u
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I think you should definately get back on the antidepressants. It's sad that your dad can't see that you need help. What about your mom? Can't you talk to her? I don't know. If you really need help with this IM me at fAiRyBaBeE04. I'm usually pretty good about stuff like this.
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First, for your friend as much as you would hate to do it you need to notify her parents immediately. Also, tell her this : Suicide is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. You cannot help your friend until you first help yourself.
When I was a little girl I was in a bad car accident and the complications from the injuries that I suffered in that wreck haunted me for years and many times I thought about cutting myself or hurting myself in other ways. Sometimes you feel as though you have to get the pain out someway and you can think of no other way to do it. It can be an act of defiance or an act of revenge against yourself for not living up to the expectations that others have set of you and for you. Whatever the cause, there should be nothing in this world that would make you hurt yourself. You, no matter what you may think, are a beautiful, important, impressive person who deserves all that life has to offer. You have to begin to value yourself over the value that you place on the pain in your life or on your problems. YOU are important. YOU are valuable. YOU deserve to be happy. What you are doing to yourself will not help you feel that way. It will not help you lessen the pain. It will not help your relationship with your dad or with anyone else. I suggest speaking to a counselor as soon as possible if you have one through a school that you can talk to. You need help and guidance to get yourself through this. I know that you are a strong person because you knew that you needed help enough to ask for it here. Try to talk to a school counselor about this and tell them that your dad made you stop the therapy that you were going to. They should be able to help you get into counselling with or without your dads help. If you would like to talk to me please find me on Yahoo anytime. My Yahoo ID is dearheart790. I would love to help you in anyway that I can.
Dont throw your life away. Get help. Stay strong. Love yourself. Believe that you can beat this. I have complete faith that you can.
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if you watch an episode of degrassi that would help 1!!! get rubber bands and like snap em on your rist so itll get rid of the habbit of cutting yourself but give you that habbit instead!!tell this to your friend!!!and all your friend also needs is for some1 to be there 4 her!!!hope i helped happ new year 2005 (((indeed2)))
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you need to tell her theres more in life then this. when shes 18 she can get out of hte house and start over, get better live better, you need to tell her shell find someone and shell live a great life, cutting i had a friend who did that, she stoped because theres no point in it, hope i helped
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the first thing you need to do is talk to someone. you say you cant talk to your parents so find a trusted teacher or mentor. you can most likely talk to a school counsler. you need to tell your friend the same thing and maybe you can help each other through the process. thsi way you'll always have someone to talk to abotu it. ask an adult what you should do, and they can get you into professional counseling, even if your dad doesnt think it necessary. i hope you get better, but always remember that in a situation like this, you should always tell someone.
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I'll talk to you. Just IM me at searooster82. If i'm on I'm very willing to listen. I think cutting is just a way people try to solve problems they have no control over. You should just try and resist the urge to do it. Something has to be causing you to cut. Try and fix this problem if you can. Hope i helped.
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