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Im 23 f. I have a friend (girl) that I consider 1 of my best friends. but lately I’ve been upset at her and don’t know what to do.
We were at my birthday party and she was with a guy that i liked. She told me that I shouldn’t get with him and should move one. At the party she ask for his number, and now they text. Its not the only time this has happen we have had incidents in the past where Im attracted to a guy and she ends up getting really close to them. Sometimes in relationships. I don’t want to lose our friendship. But I feel like every guy is attracted to her automatically. It bugs me and I don’t think she notices it. What should I do?
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I think you should talk to her about it. If she's a good friend and this is the only problem you have with her, it's not worth losing friends over boys.
So I think you should at least talk to her about it. Be straight up with her but don't start pointing fingers and blaming her because she won't respond well. Just tell her that you like a guy and you don't like it when she goes after guys you are interested in.
If she keeps it up after that, it's best to never tell her who you're interested in or just stop hanging out with her.
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I am 15 and my boyfriend is always pressuring me about sex, what should I do? (link)
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It is extremely disrespectful when a boyfriend pressures his girlfriend.
What you need to tell him is no. And that no means no. No does not mean, "convince me".
If he keeps doing this, it will ruin your relationship and you obviously don't deserve a guy who doesn't respect your boundaries.
So sit down and talk to him. Tell him you're not ready. Tell him that no means no and you don't want him to try to convince you.
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I just started cutting about 3 hours ago I don't know if I should tell my parents or not or at least my girlfriend (link)
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You definitely need to tell your parents. It's one of those things that when you start, it's hard to stop. It's almost like it becomes an addiction and it can ruin your life. So stop before it gets worse.
It's really hard to stop cutting by yourself, so go tell your parents and get help. They probably won't understand why you did it. My parents got angry when they found out I used to cut. But as long as they get you the help you need, then everything will turn out fine. You need to find a way to deal with your problems because cutting isn't dealing with your problems. It's trying to forget your problems but it doesn't work so please, go tell your parents and go get some help.
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you answered a question a few days ago about a guy that stopped texting me and that I should text him first because he probably thinks I blew him off. but before that when we were texting we took like a 9 day break then started texting then stopped like I said. then yesterday he texted me hey and we talked neither of us didn't bring up to hangout we were just catching up on stuff. and I said something and was like I guess I miss seeing you all the time lol and he was like lol aww thankyou. he said he appreciates being missed because I asked why he said thankyou I mean I didn't expect to say it back but im like really confused (link)
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It's really hard when guys aren't being straight up with you.
I really can't tell how he feels or what he wants because it could be either or.
With my experience, when a guy doesn't tell me he's missed me when I haven't seen him in awhile, and responds with an "Aww :)" then I pretty much got the hint that he doesn't feel the same.
But he did text you so he was thinking about you. So that's a good thing.
Anyways, this guy is giving you mixed signals and the best thing to do is be straight up with him and make sure he is straight up with you.
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hi.. my "friend" and i have this thing going on.. i know he likes me more than a friend and i also like him alot but i cant get him to tell me how he feels himself.. we alwayz try to avoid conversations about our feelings towards each other. but now i am tired of keeping quiet i am too scared to tell him how i feel because i am afraid he will shut me down.. how do i get him to open up and tell me how he feels? please help me i like him ALOT (link)
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The only way to get him to say how he feels is to ask him. You can either write a note or just ask him face to face.
I mean obviously you won't be able to have a relationship with him if you guys avoid important things.
So find a way to ask him and see how that goes.
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Does anyone know the meaning for sex and why and who invented it? (link)
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Well the actual reason why people have sex is either for pleasure or to have children.
It isn't a thing that was invented, it's a thing people do to have children.
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I love my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years, but he's my first boyfriend.
He wants to marry me eventually. He's positive about it. He tells me all the time. And I love him so much and he's my best friend...
But I feel like... we're not right for the long run. I feel like we're perfect for each other at this point in our lives though.
But I know I'd never be sure about marriage with him since I've never dated anyone else.
I'm happy, but I feel like I'm still not sure what I want in a relationship because I haven't had experience with other guys...
But, is it okay to date someone you don't want to marry as long as you're both happy at the time?
Am I being unfair by staying in the relationship when he wants marriage? Is it okay to date someone you love but don't think you'll marry?
We're both happy and we both love each other... but looking to the future... I feel like he's not the one. Though I always want him to be my best friend. (link)
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This is a tough situation to be in.
It seems like you like having him around, but you're not looking for anything more than that with him.
I want to say that it's ok to date someone you don't want to marry but he sees a future, you don't.
Not just that, you're basically just pushing the putting off the break up a little bit longer. That will probably cause a lot of pain the longer you wait. You also said that you want to date other guys, so how long will you stay with him until you decide to go and meet other guys?
Then you're also putting off his time to go find a girl who wants a future with him.
It's ok to be with someone you don't want to marry, but if the other partner wants that, you won't be able to give him what he wants. So I don't think it's fair to him.
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl who will be a sophomore in HS in the fall. I honestly think that I wasn't meant to have friends. As long as I can remember, even back in kindergarten, I've been bullied. Growing up, I would get invited to birthday parties by the parents, but when I got there the kid would say they didn't want me there. :( I've had years where I would come home and cry for hours every day because I was so miserable. Fast forward to the present. Everyone at my high school is so shallow that it drives me insane. Don't tell me to join clubs to meet new people, because my school has 300 people and everyone is exactly the same. I had a lunch table of people that I sat with this year, but I have nothing in common with them. They barely said anything to me at all this entire year. People think that I'm a nerd. I get straight A's without even trying because I've basically given up on myself. Plus, everyone likes to pick on me because I'm younger (in my town for some reason, freshmen are sixteen years old, but I was thirteen). I really hate my life. I WANT to be able to go out and have fun with friends, go on dates (I've never had a boyfriend and probably will never have one), and do stuff, but I'm just so depressed. I don't even feel fulfilled doing the things I used to like doing. My entire life revolves around regurgitating A grades to keep my parents happy. I don't want to live like this... Last year I started cutting but it didn't make me feel better. Thanks for reading this far. Help.... (link)
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Everyone else had great advice.
I think your problem right now is your self esteem because of your friend issue. If these people at your school are so shallow, you don't need them.
What are your interests?
I think if you actually are looking for friends, that's where you start. It doesn't have to be in school, there should be places around that have things you can do and you can meet people there. Like dancing, martial arts, ceramics, ect. Just look around, look online and see if there is anything you'd be interested in.
If you're not happy doing the things you used to like doing, then that means it's time to try new things. So if something sounds interesting, then do it. Don't start thinking you can't, because then you'll never get out there.
Just start doing things for yourself and the right people will come into your life.
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So I like this guy and he is always there for me. He is also sweet and genuinely cares about me. (Not to mention he is cute!) But there is one problem...I'm scared to get into another relationship. The ones I've had sucked major butt and the guys always seemed great at first, but they ended up the same. I don't know if he is any different. I mean I want to be with him, but the idea of a relationship terrifies me. I also don't want to lose him. As you can see, there are conflicted feelings. Please help me. (link)
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This kind of thing happens to a lot of people.
When you meet someone, they normally act better to keep you around. So you pretty much have to watch out for warning signs.
I mean obviously if you don't get back out there, you might miss a good guy.
I've had some really bad relationships before, they were nice in the beginning but then eventually they show who they really are. I'm dating a guy who was a really good friend before we even thought about dating, so I knew him pretty well.
I went out with one guy on a couple dates, he acted very nice and was really cute but when I went on a couple more dates with him, he started acting conceited and talking about his exes. Which were warning signs for me.
So my advice would be to take this slow with him. You don't have to rush into a relationship. Just start out with a few dates and see if you're ready to be in a relationship and if he's a good guy.
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So I'm a female and I am thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. I'm kind of shy and I can't really ask anyone I know but....on a scale from 1-10 how much does it hurt the first time? And what kind of hurt is it? If it's one of those questions that varies, then sorry for even asking, but I'm curious. Please and thank you! (link)
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This is a question that varies. It really depends on the person. I've known some girls that didn't have any pain the first time they had sex, while I know others who have experienced pain.
I did have pain my first time. It was tolerable, but it wasn't very enjoyable.
But a lot of other things can change how much it hurts. When you're younger, you'll probably experience more pain because your body is still developing. Then of course, if your boyfriend doesn't do it right, then it will hurt a lot.
If he goes too fast or too rough, it will probably hurt you.
So honestly, if you're old enough and trust your boyfriend, then go for it. But if you're nervous or don't feel ready, then wait.
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Straight to the point: 4 weeks ago we found out we are having another baby (yay!), that will be child #6. We had been saving a little to go on a couple's vacation (possibly a cruise) besides doing our annual family vacation (usually 4-5 days to a nearby beach) A very interesting opportunity presented itself, to take the whole family to Bermuda for 2 weeks. My best friend lives there and she finally has a place big enough to accommodate all of us. The trip would cost a little more than we had allocated for both trips (which would just be food and airfare, the rest is covered and we are very low maintenance, as in, we don't need fancy dinners or stuff to keep ourselves entertained) , but I think it would also be the vacation of a lifetime!!! for both the kids and us, the parents. I am torn and can't decide, part of me thinks we should jump on the opportunity, because once the new baby comes, things are gonna get A LOT more complicated. On the other side, I feel we would be doing something irresponsible. We have a small savings account, and we are comfortable financially, after surviving the recession, we came back stronger, thriftier and our priorities are now where they are suppossed to be. We've grown up a lot and learned from past mistakes.
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If you have the money and you are in a good financial state, then go for it. It's a great opportunity.
When I was younger, my family jumped at the opportunity to take me and my brother around the world. We had family in plenty different countries and it was a great experience.
As long as you don't go overboard on spending and still have money to keep yourselves on track when you get back, then you should be fine.
This is a great opportunity. I'd jump on it if you can.
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my boyfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago. The first week, I was in devastation. Being only 14, it was difficult for me to handle all of it, as I loved him alot. But then one day, I overheard his conversation with one of my friends ( she allowed me to be on confrence while I heard him talk about some other girl and totally random stuff.) When asked about me, he would answer with impatience in his voice. From that day on, till today I haven't picked up the phone to call him once. He told my bestfriend that "I couldn't sleep for a week, whatever anyone says I will always have a soft corner for you and that I am not myself." What is wrong with this guy? Why does each and every move of his hurt me so much? I am angry at him, really angry. I don't think he ever did love me for the four months that we dated, and usually I spend my time being happy. But there are still moments where I miss him. Why do I miss him if he doesn't miss me? What are his reasons for behaving like this? I know I haven't moved on but how long will it take for me to look at his face and not feel anything? (link)
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You are moving on, you're trying at least. Or at least you understand that you do need to move on and you're not trying to get him back.
He's probably doing these things because he didn't really care too much about the relationship. He wasn't as serious about it as you were. There aren't really any serious relationships at 14 because boys and girls are still looking for what they want and like.
You're angry because he didn't care as much as you did. And you do have every right to feel that way. You're going to miss him because you guys did have good times, you miss the memories you had with him.
It will take you a little while to move on. It really depends though. For some girls it takes years, and that's because they are holding on and don't really want to move on. Usually it'll take a couple months, especially if you cared about them. So give yourself some time. Don't call him, don't text him or message him and don't have him on your friends list on Facebook. Also, don't have your friends tell you what he's talking about. It won't help you at all.
So just do your best to move on. Go hang out with friends and enjoy being single for the time being. Eventually you'll meet another guy who will be ten times better.
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Hi everyone so my friend wants me to get a fake ID so I can go out with her and her friends. Her friends are single and her and I have boyfriends and her friends always ditch her for guys so she wants me to come and hangout with her. My boyfriend is not okay with me going out with my friends ever! Which I don't do often because my life revolves around him... Which I'm trying to change and hangout with my friends more instead of him. And I don't drink or smoke when I go out with my friends he just hates she I hangout with them. I hate when he hangdog with his friends too and I don't want him to get a fake ID and to out to bars and clubs without me and he doesnt want me to go to bars and clubs without him. But he always goes out with his friends as in always hangout with them and I never hangout with mine. My step mom totally understands why I want the fake ID but how do I make my boyfriend understand without sounding like a hypocrite? I know it's hypocritical but is there anyway I can explain to him that I needs my friends and I want to go out and have girl nights. I would never cheat on him or anything like that. I hope you all understand what I'm trying to say. (link)
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Well I understand your reasoning to why you want a fake ID. I'm sure you already know the trouble you can get into though so I won't ramble on that since it's already been done.
Does he go out to clubs? If he doesn't, then I can understand why he doesn't want you to. If he does, then he's being hypocritical.
You can hang out with your friends without going to clubs and bars though. At least see if he'll be ok with that. If he doesn't, then he's being too protective over you.
I don't know if he goes out to bars or clubs, but if he doesn't, he's just being a good boyfriend. If he's telling you that he doesn't want you ever hanging out with your friends, then it's a problem. If it's just the clubs, then I'm sure you understand why he feels that way because you feel the same way about him going to clubs.
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There is this guy I like I've been talking to for about 3 weeks now. We exchanged numbers. At first we would text everyday. He would text me all the time. Lately though we don't talk as much anymore. He doesn't call me or text me anymore but if I hit him up he responds back right away. I've asked him twice to hang out with me and he said yes but then the day of he flaked out on me. Then asked me to hang out and did the same thing. I'm confused. I dont know if hes interested or not. What do you think?
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A lot of guys are really interested in the beginning and will text you a lot. But then later they really don't care for texting and they slowly lose interest.
So since he's not texting anymore, he's probably losing interest. You can try again and see if he wants to hang out and maybe have him choose a day that is good for him. If he keeps flaking and doesn't ask you to hang out again, then he's probably not interested.
Since he still does respond back right away, he's still probably at least a little bit interested.
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hey, have you found out anything about how to pretend that you are a virgin? im in the same sutation i know lying is not a good start but i have no choice. i need help!! (link)
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Why do you have no choice?
If you're with someone, lying is just no good for any type of relationship.
Either way, you can't prove someone is a virgin and you can't prove that you aren't a virgin.
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15/f me and this guy have been talking for like a month or two on and off. we are friends and we hadn't talked for like a week or something and then he texted me like a week ago and then we started talking again like everyday until we went to bed. he started asking me to hangout with him and we always tried to make plans but something always came up. like he'd be like you wanna hangout soon? and i'd be like I cant right now and I actually couldn't I was dying my hair and i'd be like maybe later and then when we were talking later he'd be busy so then he'd be like im down tomorrow so then he'd ask me the next day and I was like I cant im going out right now and I actually was and I was like I'll text you later and I did and he was like you never texted me when we were supposed to hangout im out now I cant but tomorrow i'll see if I can . so the day after he was just saying he was bored just hanging out and I said the same thing but he never like "asked" me to hangout like he had before and then he stopped texting me out of nowhere the next day. and its been like 4 days since we talked and I wonder if I should just text him to hangout because I think he thinks I was blowing him off but I really wasn't I actually wanted to hangout with him. he also asked me If I wanted to hookup (makeout) awhile back and I said yeah I would and maybe he thinks now that if we hangout I wouldn't want to. he is a good guy and i'll be like lets hangout later at night and he wants to hangout during the day just me and him. I don't know what to do if I should just wait for him to text me or just text him and what do I say to not make it awkward even though we are good friends?! thankyou (link)
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He might be thinking you're blowing him off, so you should probably just text him and make sure you have a couple days in mind when you aren't doing anything and ask him if he wants to hang out.
Then he'll know that you are interested.
So yeah, definitely text him and let him know you still do want to hang out.
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My children and I had plans with a friend today. We made the arrangements ahead of time and decided we would eat lunch on our own and then meet up. Around the time we were supposed to meet, this friend let me know that someone else was joining us and the two of them would be getting lunch first. I didn't think it was a big deal, so I went along with it. Then, she was 30 minutes late. She didn't start eating for another 15 minutes. By this time, my children were tired of waiting. I decided to try to calm them down, but to no avail. An hour and 15 minutes after we were supposed to meet, we finally started to do what we were there for. But, my children were in such foul moods from waiting around that I had to leave. I felt that the whole thing was very inconsiderate since we had made plans the day before and she changed them last minute. I felt rude for leaving, but really didn't have a choice. Should I be upset for this person's lack of concern for my situation or just chalk it up life and not think twice about it. (link)
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You're not in the wrong. You have every right to feel upset that she didn't have much concern over your situation and it wasn't rude for you to leave considering your circumstances.
If I were you, I wouldn't be angry about it or anything. Just make sure she knows that you can't have that happen again because of your children and such.
If it happens again, then there is a problem. Hopefully this is just a one time thing and she didn't realize what kind of issue it caused.
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Ways not to get preganet
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Obviously, the easiest way to not get pregnant is to not have sex.
Other than that, if you do have sex. It's not all 100% preventable so be careful.
Make sure you have all the right protection like condoms and birth control.
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My friend and me used to have a blog together but that didn't work out. So now I tried to be an instagram admin because I want to talk to random strangers and hod what I see other people do on my personal account. So I asked my friend if she wanted to join, because we are best friend and she's wanted to do stuff like this too. But them a week later she texting me and telling me that she made one. I was like ok cool!! But then I see that she has way more followers than me. I mean it's fine but this always happens. She always takes my ideas and does it better than me. What should I do?
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It really sucks that your friend is using your work to get the glory.
At least you know that in the end, your the one who actually did the work.
Jealousy sucks. It can also ruin your friendship. I really like the advise below about trying to make the best of it by asking how she does it. At least being friendly about it.
Then you can just improve yours from there. Hard work pays off.
It wouldn't be a good idea to confront her about it because she probably won't stop the blog, she'll just make it worse and it'll become a competition.
So try talking to her and seeing what little things she does to get so many followers and then improve on what she says.
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Hi there,
I am a 13 year old male and i reaaaallllyyyy want to have sex but i don't have a way to buy condoms or lube because i barely have any money and i cant ask my mom or dad to take me to the store to get them because if i do they will lecture me and they will forbid me from having sex until at least 20 because they are mean parents and they will not let me date until 18 so how should i fill my sexual desires? (link)
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It's hard being a teenage boys with raging hormones. You have such a strong urge to have sex and you already know that you need protection.
So you'll probably have to stick with masturbation until you are ready and prepared to have sex.
I'm sure you know why your parents don't want you having sex. They don't want you to be a father at a young age. So just be patient and try to settle for masturbation for now.
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