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he just stopped texting bc i think he thinks i blew him off
15/f me and this guy have been talking for like a month or two on and off. we are friends and we hadn't talked for like a week or something and then he texted me like a week ago and then we started talking again like everyday until we went to bed. he started asking me to hangout with him and we always tried to make plans but something always came up. like he'd be like you wanna hangout soon? and i'd be like I cant right now and I actually couldn't I was dying my hair and i'd be like maybe later and then when we were talking later he'd be busy so then he'd be like im down tomorrow so then he'd ask me the next day and I was like I cant im going out right now and I actually was and I was like I'll text you later and I did and he was like you never texted me when we were supposed to hangout im out now I cant but tomorrow i'll see if I can . so the day after he was just saying he was bored just hanging out and I said the same thing but he never like "asked" me to hangout like he had before and then he stopped texting me out of nowhere the next day. and its been like 4 days since we talked and I wonder if I should just text him to hangout because I think he thinks I was blowing him off but I really wasn't I actually wanted to hangout with him. he also asked me If I wanted to hookup (makeout) awhile back and I said yeah I would and maybe he thinks now that if we hangout I wouldn't want to. he is a good guy and i'll be like lets hangout later at night and he wants to hangout during the day just me and him. I don't know what to do if I should just wait for him to text me or just text him and what do I say to not make it awkward even though we are good friends?! thankyou
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He might be thinking you're blowing him off, so you should probably just text him and make sure you have a couple days in mind when you aren't doing anything and ask him if he wants to hang out.
Then he'll know that you are interested.
So yeah, definitely text him and let him know you still do want to hang out.
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It's natural for people to lose interest when things just don't seem to come together. If none of your "talking" was actual verbal communication and just texting, there's already much missing from the conversation...like the nuances of your voice...how excited you sound to hear from him, the sadness in your voice if you can't. Plus its easier to put in the details of why you can't. texting only allows for the basics of communicating and giving more than the basic, I am busy now, becomes very tedious.
So he probably thinks you were blowing him off.
Your only 15 so probably self conscious around guys yet and not comfortable with everything.
But if it was someone I was crazy about, i would try to find a way to see him anyways, no matter what the circumstances. Here's some examples of what I mean: "I can't come over to see you cus I am busy dying my hair but if you come over right now, you can be the first person to see how it turns out." If your first thought is, I can't let him see me that way...then think again. The message this sends to a guy is that you like him so much that you are comfortable with him seeing you not at your dolled up state, if he's the right guy, he will find that to be precious and it confirms how much you like him. Or when he asked again and you said I cant. Make sure you do not say I'm busy or I cant anymore. Instead, tell him what is going on and give him the chance to decide if he's still interested in joining you or not. "So you wanna hang out right now?" "Well, I was about to leave the house, I am actually going shopping with my mom and grandma but if you don't mind hanging out with a couple of older ladies along, I'll ask quick if they don't mind.
In both instances, if you made the invite open, most guys would likely turn down the invite. A few might accept but generally no. However they will feel touched in their minds and hearts that you wanted him to be along. It conveys to him that you are still interested.
So a little explanation is a good thing. It can be done in text. Try calling and explaining what happened those two times and how you feel badly that you didn't feel comfortable enough to tell him why. You truly are interested in him and hope he doesnt think you were blowing him off.
Best to say this in person. 2nd choice, call and talk to him if he's willing to answer the call. Last choice should be texting all of this in detail. Hope all goes well.
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Sounds like he does think you're blowing him off. I had the same problem before with this guy. He always wanted to chill when I was busy so eventually he stopped texting. I think you should text him first because if you both wait for the other person to text, no conversation will happen. Just text him and say: You may think I'm always blowing you off but I just wanted tell you I'm not, I'm just busy whenever you want to. Something along those lines and then ask him to hangout a time when you're not busy. If you guys are good friends, it shouldn't be awkward.
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