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Me going out and my boyfriend not liking it(i want a fake ID to go to bars, but I don't want him to have one)
Hi everyone so my friend wants me to get a fake ID so I can go out with her and her friends. Her friends are single and her and I have boyfriends and her friends always ditch her for guys so she wants me to come and hangout with her. My boyfriend is not okay with me going out with my friends ever! Which I don't do often because my life revolves around him... Which I'm trying to change and hangout with my friends more instead of him. And I don't drink or smoke when I go out with my friends he just hates she I hangout with them. I hate when he hangdog with his friends too and I don't want him to get a fake ID and to out to bars and clubs without me and he doesnt want me to go to bars and clubs without him. But he always goes out with his friends as in always hangout with them and I never hangout with mine. My step mom totally understands why I want the fake ID but how do I make my boyfriend understand without sounding like a hypocrite? I know it's hypocritical but is there anyway I can explain to him that I needs my friends and I want to go out and have girl nights. I would never cheat on him or anything like that. I hope you all understand what I'm trying to say.
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I really don't know how to answer this question. I got to 21 without a fake ID and I had a ton of fun, so I don't see why you guys are so set on going to clubs. You'll be sick of them before you're drinking age at this rate, it's really not all that thrilling once you've done it a few dozen times and that's coming from an adult who can go drink and take someone home and all of the things adults usually use clubs for.
Your boyfriend isolating you from your friends is bad. You saying your life revolves around him is bad. You not being able to trust him while expecting trust is bad. This relationship is toxic. I think you should break up.
Girl nights are fine, do whatever you want, but this relationship seems like something you'd be better off without no matter what else you decide to do.
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Well I understand your reasoning to why you want a fake ID. I'm sure you already know the trouble you can get into though so I won't ramble on that since it's already been done.
Does he go out to clubs? If he doesn't, then I can understand why he doesn't want you to. If he does, then he's being hypocritical.
You can hang out with your friends without going to clubs and bars though. At least see if he'll be ok with that. If he doesn't, then he's being too protective over you.
I don't know if he goes out to bars or clubs, but if he doesn't, he's just being a good boyfriend. If he's telling you that he doesn't want you ever hanging out with your friends, then it's a problem. If it's just the clubs, then I'm sure you understand why he feels that way because you feel the same way about him going to clubs.
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Your stepmother may be understanding of your desire to have a fake ID. Does she also understand that having a fake ID card lead to a felony arrest if you were to present that ID to a police officer as proof you belong in whatever bar you might be in.
It is a felony to present fake identification to a police officer. It has been and is more stringently enforced since 9/11. As an example of how much trouble you could get into.
A friend of my sons is a Port Authority Police Officer. If you were to be flying out of any airport and be in a bar and presented her, or any police officer, with that fake ID. Not only would you be arrested and charged for presenting a fake identification. They can and have charged people under terrorist statues as well. As it is also illegal to travel under a false name.
Your ticket may be in your legal name. Just having the fake ID can put in question just who you are. In that case they are going to error on the side of caution and arrest you. Most likely under the Patriot act for being a potential terrorist.
Now most likely these charges will be reduced or dropped before or at trial. You will have to spend tens of thousands of dollars to defend yourself to get them reduced or dropped.
So my question is: IS the this fake ID really all that necessary given the trouble it can get you into? Don't say it won't. For it can and has to many a teenager. The worst part is rather than the older you are the more trouble you're in. In this case it is generally the younger you are the more trouble you can be in. Especially if you're still in High School or College. There is no double Jeopardy against your school punishing you as well as the legal system. Many schools do just that not only to teach you a lesson but to teach others in school not to try what you have done.
Frankly given the world situation as it is today, I don't think carrying a fake ID is worth it.
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I really can't say why he isn't okay with it. I understand your reasons for wanting the fake ID. Myself, its not something i would ever do. I never pretended anything or faked anything. Girls find it safer to go to bars together. It sounds like the reason your girlfriends friends are going is to meet and date guys. So why is she going? Just to be helpful to them? What does she get out of going? Is it the atmosphere she likes? That is what I don't get. The whole problem would not exist if your girlfriend did not go to a bar with other women who are trying to snag a guy. You said she already has a boyfriend. I am not saying don't have time with girlfriends away from the guys...but who says the only place that can happen is in a bar. Think seriously about having a fake id. Because doing that puts you out of integrity. How would you feel if something went sideways while at a bar and someone elses life got F@%$ked up over having you there knowingly with fake ID. Someone could end up with an arrest record. All for what? You and your girlfriend need to talk and figure out other things to do to hang out together. Do you guys have any hobbies, go bowling together...biking together, hanging at the mall together, renting a bunch of chick flicks and watching em together. There's so much quality time you can spend together and if alcohol is a draw for either of you, do it at home.
As for the boyfriend, maybe he cares enough that he doesn't want you to get in trouble. Maybe he just doesn't like the idea of you there when he can't be around to protect you in case some guy starts hassling you. When someone says, I don't want you to go but you don't know really why you can't make a judgement that he is being unreasonable or hypocritical. Now if I have this all wrong, perhaps there is some info missing or what you wrote was misleading me. I hope I have helped a bit. If you need to relay more to me, write to my inbox
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