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She always does it better than me! :(
Me and my best friend started this blog last year. Then we had this big drama so we ended it and made our own seperate blogs. But she used all the stuff from OUR blog and put it on hers and she got more followers than mine and our old blog. Well now I tried to make one of those instagram admin things and I asked her if she wanted to partner up like before. She said no and then 3 days later she telling me to follow her new account. And then I kinda got mad because she had just made hers and she already had more than me. Them she started texting me saying " YAY I have 50 followers already" which wasn't fair cause she had hers for 1 day and I had mine for weeks! It feels like everytime I do stuff like this she always turns out better than me. I don't kno what to do :(
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Think about how serious this problem is. If it's important enough to screw up a friendship. It's an absolutely childish argument... Stop caring about what she does, don't compare yourself to her. You are you, you have your blog, your buisiness, her blog is her buisiness.
Think about all the children starving to death in Africa, they will never have internetacces and they'll not want it, because it doesnt help 'em to survive. Think about how important this 50 followers are to you.
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You may not think this is so, but from what you wrote, the first thing that came to me is that you are entering all these projects from the angle of competition. Your subconscious mind at least wants to compete with your friend and feels you must be as good or better than her to feel good about your self. I think you may have a fear of going it alone and thats why you get her to join you on some project so you can borrow her self confidence. Honey, you've got to have your own. The fact that you wanted to start something new...instagram but went immediately to ask her to be your partner means that deep down inside you think you cannot do it alone. So then you get upset with her when she has success and you don't. She is not doing anything wrong. She is doing what you need to learn how to do...come up with an idea, launch it and do it All By Yourself...not even any suggestions from her.
Maybe doing something on the computer is not where your skills lay. Maybe you are better at some kind of crafts you could sell, what about music, singing. If lets say you like to create your own music, you organize a group where kids who create their own music can meet each other and listen to and critique each others music. But pick out first the thing that you are really crazy about and go with that. If you get some ideas and want to bounce them off me, I'd be willing to read that. But you have to write to my inbox, not where you put notes by ratings. Good lluck dear.
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