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what's the freshman year is like? because im going
to high school next year and im scared and yeah

It's really not that bad. For me it was challenging because I went from a super easy school to a school with endless homework haha. For some the transition was a lot easier but also for some it was hard. it all depends on how well you can adjust and how open you are to new things and friends. Don't be scared...go into it with an open mind. the first couple of days might be long and kinda boring but once everyone gets to know each other and stuff, it gets to be a lot more fun!

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well my boyfriend is having a birthday party in a while and there will be a ton of people there. But its at his house so his mom and dad will be there. I want to look good but i also dont want to look all slutty so any ideas of what to wear?
thanks,
Katie
[by the way im 13/f]

If its a party, don't try way too hard to look too much like a good girl just to please his parents. i'm not saying look like a slut but if you wear a long skirt and a long sleeve shirt... they'll think you are trying too hard.
i say go with a cute khaki shorts and a cute tshirt or a jean mini with a polo. if it's cold out wear jeans and a shitr with a jacket over it.
just make sure nothing is too short or skin tight and you should be fine.

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Well, I have this friend. He's not super close, but he is a good friend of mine. We have had a lot of talks about smoking pot when several of my friends started and I said "no one thinks it's a big deal anymore and I don't get it." He said "I still think it's a big deal and I think it's pointless and would never try because I would be too scared." Then, he showed up to my friend's party high and I don't get it. I thought he meant that and I haven't had the chance to talk to him yet. I'm really upset about it, and I don't know what to say to him. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with something like this? Like what to say to him?

[keep in mind we're only in 8th grade]
thanks soo much for any help I get !

You know, he could have just been saying that he would be too scared to hide the fact that he wanted to try it sometime. most people that smoke don't go out and tell people that they want to especially if you're not super close.
so is this the end of your 8th grade year or are you going into 8th grade? most people start around freshman year so you're not super young. I know how upsetting it is... I too was in this situation with several people.. there's not much you can do... don't try to get him to quit. he will on his own when he gets bored with it. you never know, it might just be a one time thing. (you don't get addicted to pot, btw) don;t freak out on him about it, just see how much it happens and that he's safe and stuff. you could try giving him better things to do on the weekend but don't go telling people that he does or like ditching him... that's another reason for him to keep doing it. if ou need anything else, i'm here for you.

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i need a quik answer as it is time for me to take it. if it is not suitable then i cant take it

i honestly do not know... sorry!

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Theres this girl I knowen ever since we were about 11. Im nearly 16 now. I want to ask her out on a date. What words do you suggest I could say to really woo her and melt her heart like ice cream. What body language should I use to let her know that Im interested. Thanks. I rate 5's for great advice. Im English.

"i'd really like to go on a date with you sometime... i know we could have a great time together..."
something along those lines..
put your arm around her, little things like that

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So im 15/f and i so far have never took any chances! Ive never even kisseda boy for crying out loud becuase i am scared. I think my parentals made me this way. Anyways All my friends ONCE in awhile get together and drink. Now i dont want any rude comments but would it be all that bad to try it once? I am sick of being called the good girl, or princess! I meen i wouldnt get attatched to it would i? Is it as bad as grown ups make it seem?

hey i'm willing to talk to you about this but not on here so if you are interested, leave me one in my inbox & i'll give you my sn.

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someone i noe and care about deeply is doing pot. i want to stop him. i noe he's not like that but that it's probably pure pressure or something. it's really hurting me that all of these people are commenting on his myspace about how he's such a good drinking buddy and he prolly has to drive home after. and i saw pictures of him doing pot. i love him more than you could ever imagine! can someone please tell me a way that i could get to his head and have him stop all of this? please help me. i don't want someone i love in danger!

ok so i was in this position about 6 months ago...i know how scary it can be but really (not to encourage anyone to do it) but pot can't kill you. it does make you stupid after you use it for a long time and your lungs get gross but other than that, there's no addiction factor and once he gets sick of it, he'll quit on his own. I think you should read up on marijuana and that for your own information... not the teen books that tell you to never do it, i mean like actual literature on it (about.com has some good stuff). as for the drinking, most people stay at the person's house... most don't drive actually. that's the main concern... my friend's mom flat out told him that she'd rather him come home high than drunk because it's easier to drive high (as opposed to drunk). she had 4 bros that all smoked pot back in the day so she knows.
to get him to stop... don't give him a big old lecture. give him better things to do... invite him to do things on the weekend, etc. if he says no, try later on... don't freak out on him and don't completely ditch him.. if you do that's another reason for him to keep doing it.
if you need anything else just let me know.

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ok me and my boyfriend were saying like good by kinda thing like a makeout sesion because he is leaveing for turky for 2 months in a couple of days. and i was wondering cus he started fingering me and i started to bleed is it posible i lost my virginity or something els? it wasn't alot just annof to make a difference.

just because he popped your cherry doesnt mean you're not a virgin. girls can tear it from random everyday activities and they don't "lose their virginity" to horseriding or gymnastics.

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I asked a question before about my mother and how she's divorcing her 3rd husband--// Actually, they're separated but you KNOW it's leading to a divorce.


Well, my wonderful mother wants me to see a freaking therapist for the way I've been acting towards her and number 3 (irresponsible, disrespectful, ungrateful, demanding, blah blah blah).


SHES THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO GO SEE A DAMN THERAPIST NOT ME!! I KNOW why I act the way I do and I don't need some fag bag shrink to tell me. She's my problem. Who gets married AND divorced 3 different times by the time they're 36?? She should be seeing someone about that.


Plus I know the only reason she wants me to go see one is because I told her I wanted to move in with my dad (number 1) at least until number 3 is gone. Which he will be, soon. Then she'll move on to number 4.


So how do I get out of this??

you seem to have a lot of anger towards your mom.. maybe it wouldnt be so bad? i know how bad it is that your mom has 3 husbands but you can only change your behavior...not hers. i think she knows thats she's put you through a lot with all these people so maybe she wants someone to guide you so you don't make those mistakes. some therapists like try to work out problems with your parents in a healthy way so she would be seeing a therapist too. i think you should give it a try and if it doesnt work then fine, at least you tried and you can go on and live with number 1.

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are you one? where do you go to hang out most often? please be more specific than "the mall" or "the movies". (I am conducting a survey a magazine)

i have a lot of guy friends like that and we usually meet up at neighborhood parks we can walk/ride to, outdoor malls, & outside movie theaters.

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My dad doesn't let me straighten my hair. Like there's nothing in this world that will let him let me straighten it, but I straighten my hair! I'm going to camp soon so I safely snuck it into my bag. One problem how do I straighten it at home? I have to pack my suitcase a week early and mail it in which has my straightner. I can't borrow my friends straightner because they don't straighten their hair. I'm going on a plane... I can't bring it as carry on because if they inspect my bag my dad will see it and kill me!! I'm not checking any bags, so what do I do??


I'll rate 5s

you can blow dry it staight...
i think you should put it in your suitcase and not use it for a week... you should be ok.
usually airport security doesnt like search your bag or take things out of it... they put it through the machine and if something seems wrong then they check it like facing a wall or something not right in front of your face. If he does for some reason end up seeing it... you are leaving anyway.
ok to keep hair manageable... put it up right after you wash it... that usually helps me a lot so i dont have to straighten it unless im wearing it down.
if your friends have a curling iron, you that. i swear it works magic! just run it through your hair like you would a straightner and it does the same thing.

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What are the temp settings for on a hair dryer?
like warm cold and hot?
its it like better for your hair to dry it cold?
or warm?
or hot?

or does it matter??

thanks:)

i use the inbetween setting (low heat, medium, warm) to dry then cool to get it to stay...for some reason after its dry, it helps to blow cool on it so it stays straight.

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OK...i'm not that fat i'm 5'8 and i weigh 120 size 4 but for some reason i wanna be anorexic!! i know it's a bad idea and i can't figure out with i want to be can somebody like tell me if other ways to lose weight!

wow you are thin!
anorexic is not pretty.
you want to be healthy, strong and fit... not unhealthy, weak and grossly thin.
i don't know why you want to lose anyweight... if you do...work out. your weight will go up but you will look better. make better food choices but eat some of everything.

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i always see hott guys around. like i dont personally know them or talk to them but i see the same hott guys lately. ive been goin to this field called east twins and watching baseball (its a boys league) im 16/f and yeah my friend and i go there alot or are starting to. im jealous though because all these pretty girls go to watch these hott guys that they are friends with and i feel stupid going there becausue i just get jealous and upset because im not gonna go up and talk to them since i dont know them--i dont know! i get so jealous when pretty girls talk to guys i think are hott. im sucha a shy person and i would really like to have someone this summer or at least a couple good guy friends. what do you think i should do? my friend and i dont really talk to them that much and plus we arent gonna go talk to them with the "pretty popular" girls there since they are gonna talk to them! i have just been having boy trouble lately and i dont know whats with me! i just feel so ugly around these girls. can i get these boys attention without physically talking to them? is there anyway..because maybe i can get them to come up to me somehow haha i dont know i dont think it helps that i dont think im pretty at all..
i'll rate 5 if you help me with his! thank you so much.

here is a couple pictures of me if you want to see me


http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i268/chickiebby02/100_0923.jpg


http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i268/chickiebby02/100_0504.jpg

ok soo i put in the picture links and first of all, YOU ARE PRETTY! no, i'm not just saying that! buuuttt i do know what it's like... there'a always that one group of girls that should be freakin models/jessica simpson stunt doubles that are intimidating. I think you should talk to some of the guys online or via myspace before going to the game. it's hard to really meet guys or get to know them right after a game... i don't even go to my guyfriends games cuz god knows what kind of mood they'll be in! maybe you should go for guys that you talk to.. or have them bring friends when you go out (or to the game?) and meet them and then their friends. that way the hott ones aren't completely out of reach. also, hott guys aren't everything. a lot of them are jerks....really. so also go for the not so gorgeous ones... if they're nice and happen to be friends with a nice-hott guy... it's made. anything else just askk!

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Today i went to a meeting at school for anyone interested in being on the cross country team next year. a couple of my friends are on the team so i thought i'd go and be on the team next year. The coach said we need to be ready August 7th to run 7 miles. I came home and couldnt even run one! i'm determined to do it, but i need help thinking of a workout plan, any ideas?

oh geez! ok so at my school the team usually trains with running 10 minute miles... sooo one day run 20 minutes, next 30... and work up that way. if your friends are on the team too, get them all together and run together so you see what you need to work on and you can be challenged and encouraged at the same time.

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Ok, so I have too many hobbies that take up too much time and my mom said that I need to think about next year and what I want to do and what I have time for. My two main concerns are I won't have time for my horses and my grades will slip. I'll list the activities (not including hanging with friends, homework and, oh yeah, sleep!) and time they take...

Riding: I try to make it out 4 or 5 times a week when I have my pony. Shows are all day either Saturday or Sunday.
Cross Country & Track: Every day for a few hours a day. Some meets during the week but others are all day Saturday or Sunday (already see a problem?)
Marching Band: Monday and Friday nights.
Girl Scouts: Every other Friday
Band and Chorus: In school except for a couple mandatory rehearsals right after school.
Private drum set lessons: Every Thursday night.
Spanish Club: One day after school each week for an hour.

Sorry that was so long but I guess my questions are how much can I do and how do I decide what to do? (I know only I can make the final decision but strategies would be helpful)

it seems like the main issue is xc/track & riding. you're gonna have to pick one to take seriously and one to do for fun. the rest you can fit in or work out somehow b/c they;re not huge commitments.

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Does anyone know of any good websites for girls..

I already know-
myjellybean.com
seventeen.com
beinggirl.com

Thanks! I'll rate!

I agree with theteengirl- gurl.com is a good website. (it's more organized than beinggirl)
it depends what you really want in the website tho... let me know and i can get you a better selection.

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ok i am 13 years old and my breast are a 38C! they hurt and they hang too. one of my breasts is bigger than the other and it is kind of noticeable. my mom said that when i turn 18 i can get a reduction because by the looks of it now they are going to keep growing. i dont want really small breast i want then to be big but not heavy like they are now. and right now they are triagular shaped insted of round. i want then to be round but not really small. i dont want anything less than a BIG B cup. but no bigger than DD cup. so do you think i should get a reduction when im older or keep them big?

I think you should start by getting a better fitting and more supportive bra for the time being. try that and see how it goes. get underwire and maybe a thin padding to keep you in and give you shape. it can be bad for your health to be too big but maybe you will grow into them. my friend was 13-14 and a D cup... she's really thin but after a while she didnt look or feel as akward.

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How do I do the Charlie Brown dance mentioned in Electric Slide?

I think you mean the cha cha slide?
people around here put one foot in front and one in the back and alternate hopping from one to the other.

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i recently began shaving my bikini area. so im itchy, but there are no red marks. also now ive been discharging extra (i dont think that has anything to do with it, but maybe) and that only makes it more irritated down there.

why am i so itchy?

ok so i read an answer for this the other day and i have some tricks that work magic:
*trim before you shave
*be in the shower for 10 minutes before you shave
* put lotion on after
*put hydrocortisone (sp) cream on after
and for your bikini line, put on gel deoderant to prevent bumps.
i've tried this the last few times and it works!

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