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someone i noe doing drugs
someone i noe and care about deeply is doing pot. i want to stop him. i noe he's not like that but that it's probably pure pressure or something. it's really hurting me that all of these people are commenting on his myspace about how he's such a good drinking buddy and he prolly has to drive home after. and i saw pictures of him doing pot. i love him more than you could ever imagine! can someone please tell me a way that i could get to his head and have him stop all of this? please help me. i don't want someone i love in danger!
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First of all I disagree with the advice that pot is not harmful or addictive. Some people do not stop smoking pot until they are forced to, even then some will start again. For some people, pot is a gateway drug meaning that once they are high--they will try other drugs. Pot will alter someone's judgement, slow their reaction time, decrease their motivation, plus it costs a lot of money. In addition if alcohol use is a factor, then the problem goes even deeper.
Okay what you are talking about is "peer" pressure. So in essence you are saying if he had different friends, or if his friends didn't encourage him to smoke pot, he wouldn't. If that is the case you'd think some pressure from the other group of people that don't do drugs would help, but it usually doesn't.
You probably won't be able to help him, but you can help how you react to the situation. So if you encourage him to seek help for the problem and he refuses, you probably should move on and "like" someone who knows how to refrain from destructive behavior.
If you see that he has the potential to harm someone else, such as by driving while using alcohol or drugs then you are obligated to butt in. Call the police if you have to, maybe the legal intervention will have a positive effect.
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ok so i was in this position about 6 months ago...i know how scary it can be but really (not to encourage anyone to do it) but pot can't kill you. it does make you stupid after you use it for a long time and your lungs get gross but other than that, there's no addiction factor and once he gets sick of it, he'll quit on his own. I think you should read up on marijuana and that for your own information... not the teen books that tell you to never do it, i mean like actual literature on it (about.com has some good stuff). as for the drinking, most people stay at the person's house... most don't drive actually. that's the main concern... my friend's mom flat out told him that she'd rather him come home high than drunk because it's easier to drive high (as opposed to drunk). she had 4 bros that all smoked pot back in the day so she knows.
to get him to stop... don't give him a big old lecture. give him better things to do... invite him to do things on the weekend, etc. if he says no, try later on... don't freak out on him and don't completely ditch him.. if you do that's another reason for him to keep doing it.
if you need anything else just let me know. <3
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First off there is no way in hell you can just make him stop like at the drop of a hat. He started it and he will stop when he gets the picture that it's not all it's cracked up to be. My friends and I used to be like that, until we all got in trouble and had our lives straightened out, sometimes it takes a higher power than friendship to stop someone from doing what is wrong. Pure pressure usually is a part of it but if you really don't want to pure pressure cannot break you down unless you let it. So obviously this is the way your friend wants to be, he is going to experiment and do multiples of things you probably won't like so all I can say is just wait and let this ride itself out. He will see soon that he's hurting the people that really matter. Tell him that those people he's hanging out with and doing the drugs and drinking with aren't real friends, because they aren't. The moment you stop "being cool" they will ditch you like nobody's business. Sorry to say it but I think you will have to wait a while for him to figure it out.
Hope I helped.
Nikki
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I'm sorry, but I don't really know what you can do. You just have to keep reminding him that he can't poison himself like that. You can't really force the guy to 'stop'. It's his decision to do pot, he's the one that got himself into this mess. Just keep reminding him how life would be without pot and how he can save himself before its too late.
Hope I helped!
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