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She wants me to see a therapist!!
I asked a question before about my mother and how she's divorcing her 3rd husband--// Actually, they're separated but you KNOW it's leading to a divorce.
Well, my wonderful mother wants me to see a freaking therapist for the way I've been acting towards her and number 3 (irresponsible, disrespectful, ungrateful, demanding, blah blah blah).
SHES THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO GO SEE A DAMN THERAPIST NOT ME!! I KNOW why I act the way I do and I don't need some fag bag shrink to tell me. She's my problem. Who gets married AND divorced 3 different times by the time they're 36?? She should be seeing someone about that.
Plus I know the only reason she wants me to go see one is because I told her I wanted to move in with my dad (number 1) at least until number 3 is gone. Which he will be, soon. Then she'll move on to number 4.
So how do I get out of this??
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Judging by the things that you have said here, and the way to describe the people in your life and the situations in it, I think your mother is absolutely right. Yes, you could benefit highly from talking to someone. The irony is, usually those who need it most are the ones who sear up and down that it is the stupidest idea they ever heard. I'm sorry if it isn't want you want to hear, but I agree with your mother. You'll get alot out of it.
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you seem to have a lot of anger towards your mom.. maybe it wouldnt be so bad? i know how bad it is that your mom has 3 husbands but you can only change your behavior...not hers. i think she knows thats she's put you through a lot with all these people so maybe she wants someone to guide you so you don't make those mistakes. some therapists like try to work out problems with your parents in a healthy way so she would be seeing a therapist too. i think you should give it a try and if it doesnt work then fine, at least you tried and you can go on and live with number 1. <3
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keep an open mind and talk to the therapist. if you do, you might feel a whole lot better because you will be getting it off your chest =) xoxo cristy
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I wouldn't try to get out of it. Keep an open mind and listen to what the therapist has to say. Yes, your Mom apparently has a problem, but a good therapist will help you deal with your Mom even better than we can. So in otherwords, if your Mom is the problem...you still have a reason to go.
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Why don't you take a look at the other side of the coin to this situation.
My mom decided to have me see a therapist, and she'd always be telling my therapist about how she had been victimized and I was just flat out disrespectful all of the time which wasn't true.
So, basically my therapist was being brainwashed into two different stories, but later on I told my mom that I wanted to see her alone without her and ever since, I've felt like my therapist was always on my side and did whatever she could to help me talk to my mom or any of that. What I'm saying is that seeing a therapist isn't the worst thing in the world. Don't think of this as a way of your mom trying to make you get help. Be mature and let the therapist know what really goes on if she's not telling the truth and let your mom know that you'd like to see him or her alone.
Take it from someone whose been to a therapist, it's not that bad and it's like having someone who has no idea what really goes on and it's your job to let them know. It's not a family member or a friend that knows about your life. And that may seem a little scary, but I can promise you that it's way better than someone who might side with your mom because they know her. Think of this as a diary that you express to verbally, except this time someone is actually listening. A lot of people tend to make therapists like people who are rude and just uncool, but believe it or not, people actually be mature and try them instead of deciding what they are first.
The way I see it, theres no way to get out of this except to just go and tell the therapist your side of the situation and life.
-TheTeenGirl
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