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Everybody is different. You will get it when your body is ready. Don't wish this time away--enjoy it while you can because once you have it you will not want it.

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what are some effective ways to lose weight in a short amount of time? what are some fairly easy ways to lose weight? i'm really excited about my family's summer vacation, and i'd really love to get fit, and just drop a couple pounds.
tell me what would usually work for you, or just what you think would work.
thank you!

Since I answered a question like this earlier today, I'm just gonna give you the link:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=433505

-Lea

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i have heard different things and i could use some good strong opinions (not flames, dont leave me bruised and battered) on bisexuality from a christian standpoint. i fear i may actually have to read the WHOLE Bible (LONG!) to form my own opinion to be honest. i just know alot of ppl interpret the Bible differently.
thanks in advance

Yeah, it's not in the Bible. The Bible was written many, many years before there was a word for "homosexuality" or "bisexuality". Put it this way--you can choose your religion, but you can't choose your sexuality. If you don't like Christianity because you feel it infringes on who you are, that's fine. But there are some Christians I've met who have no problem with bisexuals, and are actually very vocal about how it's NOT a sin. Religion is pretty twisted actually, since all throughout history the political leaders changed it to suit their needs. I personally am not a Christian, but I do know the basics, and I'm pretty sure that Jesus wouldn't have cared if someone was bisexual. And I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to pray to a God who said I was going to hell for being the way that I am (which happens to be bisexual).

-Lea

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How much alcohol is too much? How do you know if you have been drinking too much (at one time) and if you are at serious risk of causing harm to yourself? And, what does vodka normally get mixed with?

Depends on your weight and height, and a bunch of other factors. Don't drink anything if you're under twenty-one. I would say have like, one glass of wine if you've never drank before. You will learn your limits with time, but go easy your first time. And vodka is normally mixed with Raspberry ginger ale. Well, actually, I don't know that for a fact, I just really like Raspberry ginger ale. Go to google.com and type in "vodka mix drinks".

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hey everyone... well ok i have a poblem with keeping up in school.. see the thing is that i forget what we learned in class so when it comes to doing homework i get stuck and end up running to the tv. you see i have a slighet attention problem like ADD and i end up staying late at night at like 12 doing homework!!! so wht shoud i do to prevent this when i go to 10th grade!

Motivation! You should probably make a schedule, like write it down and hang it up on the wall.

Give yourself an hour every day for TV. Doesn't matter if you do it before or after your homework, but after an hour you HAVE to turn it off. Get a planner and write down all your homework assignments in it. If you have to take a break from your homework, do it by stretching and drinking a glass of water--that will actually focus your mind.

It will be tough at first, but keep at it and it will start to come naturally.

-Lea

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I am a 16- years old, I got a event that takes place soon. I need to tone my stomach and mi chest. The event takes place in a month and two weeks. Can someone plz help me? Mi breast aren't saggy but I don't like em, they are to low, can someone help me to do something to help me. please help. thanks

You can buy a push up bra to temporarily solve that. But also do crunches to tone the abs, and there are a lot of different yoga poses that tone different parts of the body. I suggest renting a yoga work out tape. Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do about your breasts. Everybody is different, and sometimes we just have to accept our bodies.

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the volume on my computer wont work! the volumes up the highest it can go and it's NOT on mute! the volume just won't work! i did everything right and this is the 3rd time it happened. and i forgot how i did it the other times. my mom and dad tried and they can't get it to work either! how do i get the volume to work?

Do you have Windows? If so, go to Control Panel and click on Sounds Speech and Audio Settings. Click "Sounds and Audio Devices" and hit the Hardware tab on the very end. Find your speakers in the list. Then click "Troubleshoot". It will give you instructions from there. The same thing happened to me, and I just followed the instructions and everything was fine. If not, then it might be a virus like russianspy said.

-Lea

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hey i dont know if you know how to do this but ...

How do you make it so that in ur profile or comments or whatever you can bold & underline things? like what code do you use?

>b< for bold and end it with >/b<

Only switch the > and the < so that the b is inside of them.

Do the same thing with u for underlines, s for slash out, and i for italics.

-Lea

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yesterday at my basketball game, i twisted my ankle & couldn't play. it's swollen & a bit bruised, but i can limp. i can't put all my weight on it. my mom is going to go get me a wrap for it but i'm not quite sure which one. are there ace bandages that wrap around your whole ankle & the bottom of your foot?? it's like i can barely walk. any ideas??

thanks!!

I think you should go to the urgent care department of your doctor's office.

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What are some good exercises to do to lose the fat in your thighs and make your waist size go down? All good answers get 5's!

Dance Dance Revolution!

And yoga. The twisting positions will tone your waist.

And don't forget the classic two mile walk! ;-)

-Lea

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how do you flirt with random guys at the mall. Like, if you don't know them and you walk by them and you totally know they're looking at you. Please no advice saying talk to them unless you add more detail to it- like how to start a conversation. Also, how can I try to walk by them in the mall with out making it seem like I'm a stalker? Thanx tons.
I rate high!

Here are some great conversation starters that have worked for me in the past:

"So I notice you're looking at me. Is there any particular reason?"

"Vladimir! How's it been? Have you lost weight?"

"It sure is fun here at the mall, huh?"

"Do you like Avatar: The Last Airbender?"

"Hi."

"Have you ever played DDR?"

"Have you ever played Chinese Checkers?"

"Sup?"

Make sure to giggle and twirl your hair around your finger. And like, say like, like a lot. Don't stop smiling! And when you walk, wiggle your hips. Clothes make the woman, so wear a white shirt that doesn't cover your stomach, a black bra underneath, and a short leather skirt. And sneakers. That will get him to say, "What's with the sneakers?" and then you'll have a conversation going. Lots of make up and jewlery is also a good idea.

-Lea

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ok well im doing the seventeen workout in the june issue and it says its a 15 minute workout but it only takes me 4 minutes and it makes me really mad because i dont no what im doing wrong help me

oh and i do exactaly what it says in workout

i rate high

Keep doing it for fifteen minutes. Just do the exercises over as many times as it takes.

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im going away soon for vacation and i never been on a plane before this will be my first time. i dont know what to expect here are some questions i would like to get answered

should i be scared
alot of people say to chew gum should i?
willl i get sick?
what should i do to keep busy?

-No. Nothing good ever comes from being scared.
-Yeah.
-Maybe. If you're not one to get carsick, you probably won't get planesick.
-Bring a book or a gameboy.

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How many kg or pounds or whatever can you lose in 2 months and how many calories can do you need to lose each day i only need to lose 10 pounds or soo. Can it be done within 2 months???

I lost ten pounds within a a couple of weeks.

Here's how: A low-carb diet. I stopped eating anything with sugar in it. Pop tarts, crackers, cookies, chips, crap like that. The only junk food I didn't give up were popcorn and ice cream, because I eat sugarless ice cream and popcorn is not that bad if you don't have it every day. I stopped eating bread, too--only two slices a day, and it's low-carb bread. And my peanut butter and jelly was also sugarless. Pay attention to the nutrition facts! If something says 25 carbohydrates, but 24 are from fiber, that's still okay. But if only 1 is from fiber, put it back on the shelf and keep walking. You may think that things like corn and potatoes are okay, but they're not. Those are starches--not vegetables. If you went by the book, you would pretty much be eating just vegetables and meat. But just ditching the junk food and most of the bread will be a drastic enough change.

Ooh, I made a segue to the next part without even trying.

Walk! Two miles a day should do it. If you need motivation, do you have a portable CD player or an mp3 player? Because surprisingly, it really does help. Lately I haven't really felt like walking, though, so I play Dance Dance Revolution instead.

Keep in mind that if you stop the diet, it's going to all come back. So after you lose your ten pounds, you may want to stay on it, just for the sake of eating healthier. Don't stop exercising, and it also helps to drink a lot of water. You may not lose it as quickly as I did--the next ten I lost took longer. But if you stay motivated, you will easily lose it within two months.

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Hey today I asked my husband to fix me 2 pop-tarts you'd think all the work involved was poppin em' in the toaster but no he puts butter on the back of them. Have yall ever heard of this? 5's for all thoughts.

I've never heard of it. Was it good?

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hi, well when it says (1) next to the "your questions" section, i click it, and sometimes ther isnt an answer. just a bunch of adds and my question. why is this?

Somebody probably answered and then deleted their answer.

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(soory this is so long)Well me and my boyfriend where talking on the phone last night about "stuff" and i asked him if he ever looked at his ex-girlfriends boobs when they were going out and he said once or twice so then i asked him what was going through his head when he looked.he kept saying no your going to be mad at me(a while before i asked him if he thought my boobs where big and he said yes they were nice and i asked him has he ever looked at them and he said yes but just a peek so then i asked him what was going through his head and he said nothing was gouing through his head)okay well back to present times he finnaly answered me and said he was thinking damn!i asked him what that meant and he said it meant WOW.i dont know why but i started to cry not poring but red eyed.i didnt say anything but he kept saying its okay whitch i couldnt understand why he kept saying that but it was making me mad.he told me he never really liked her and he liked mine better.i dont know how to think about this.could he still like her even though he said he doesnt.could i be jelous.i need advice.please help.thanx

Well, why did you ask him? It sounds to me like you were sort of trying to get him to say what he did. He didn't want to answer because he knew it would upset you, and he was right.

Now, the fact that he likes his ex-girlfriend's breasts isn't a problem. Breasts are very attractive. You shouldn't be jealous of her, because she's his EX-girlfriend. He could fantasize about your breasts or hers, but in the end, he's with you. The reason he said that nothing was going through his head was so that you wouldn't get upset, but the truth is that he probably thinks about sex several times each day. There's nothing wrong with that--it's completely natural!

You were crying. He was trying to comfort you. And this made you angry? Girls sometimes cry when there's really nothing, when we just need to vent our frustrations. Guys don't get that. He thought that you were seriously hurt by something, so he was trying to make it better, when really you were just frustrated. There's no reason to be angry at him for being nice.

You need to stop concerning yourself with his ex-girlfriend. Like I said, she's his EX, and you're his girlfriend. Don't play mind games with him--asking him a question and leading him to believe that it won't make you upset, even though it will, is just that: a mind game. In the future, don't ask things if you can't handle the answer.

Don't worry about it! Your boyfriend cares about you. You both just need to work on communication is all. It's not a big problem. =)

-Lea

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I'm sixteen years old, I'm a virgin, I've never kissed a guy, and I've never had a boyfriend.

I feel like if I don't do these things soon, I'm never going to do them. I feel like everyone around me is so experienced in all those things and I'm still just a kid. I've gotten really depressed about it because I feel like no one wants me.

Am I alone in this?

Nope. I went through it. I got my first kiss at sixteen, but I'm almost eighteen now and haven't had any since then. Never had a serious relationship, either. It's fine. Go at your own pace. Here's a tip--we act like we're not worth anything if we haven't had a relationship or kissed somebody or what have you. Try your hardest to stop thinking that way! Is there a little child that looks up to you? Have your parents ever said, "Our child is so smart and responsible!"? Has a friend ever said, "I can really count on you."? Those are the types of things that you should be focusing on. Trust me, it will get your mind off "What if I never have a boyfriend?" And it will make a big difference in your attitude, which people do notice! A nice guy will probably take notice of it, and you could get a boyfriend without really trying!

Don't stress it. =)

-Lea

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Okay I got this friend and she's a girl, and she so calls me her bestfriend but I don't too much see the benefits of the friendship. The only thing I know is that she says she loves me(I dont know it she means it) and she jealous of me when around other girls. The other night she says we don't have a normal friendship but a complicated one. And if it can't be a normal friendship then what is a complicated one? I don't even think she cares about me when I'm not around! So should I leave her alone, pay her less attention, or work on the relationship?

You should ask her what she's talking about. Girls give hints to make themselves seem mysterious and attractive to guys, but usually we don't realize that guys (no offense) are kind of thick. That confuses even me, and I'm a girl! Tell her that if she wants you to know how she feels, she needs to straight up tell you what she means. Then go from there.

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