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I'm Sarah
I cheer (it's my life)
I model
I will be attending Yale, Wharton, or Brown in 2010.
I'm not a bad kid.
But i'm definatly not perfect.
I've been through my fair share of delinquency.
so i know how to deal with it.
with that being said...
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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. early in our relationship he cheated on me with one of my friends (it was like a one-time thing) but we got past that and i know hes been faithful since then. well he just got back from vacation and the first thing he tells me is that he had hooked up with this girl he met at the beach. he was like sobbing and saying that he felt so bad about it but he had to tell me cuz he didnt want to keep anything from me, and that it didnt mean anything and that he hates himself for being so stupid, and how much he loves me, and please forgive him.

well i know your gonna say dump the jerk. and maybe i should. but then i think, maybe i should forgive him? i mean, at least he was honest about it. he didnt have to tell me and i never wouldve found out. and we have been going out for so long, im the only girlfriend hes ever had, so maybe its natural that he'd be curious about other girls, even though he really does love me? or am i just making excuses for him because i love him and dont want to lose him? but if i stay with him, is that sending the message that its okay to cheat on me? is he really just a cheater and always will be? or was it really just a mistake? i dont know what to do!

Three years is a long time, so I doubt your really wanting to totally get rid of him. Let him know that what he did was not okay and that you are hurt by it, but that you are glad that he told you. Tell him that you need to take some time alone. Don't be particuarly friendly about it but don't totally bless him out either. Just kind of hive him the cold shoulder. Take maybe a week of not seeing him. You should still answer his calls bit if he asks to see you, just tell him that you are'nt ready to see him yet. He's obviously sorry for what he did, maybe he should get another chance. But keep in mind, this IS the second time he's done this. If he was truely sorry the first time, he wouldn't have made the same mistake. Brush him off for a little while and then slowly work your way into getting things back to normal. Make him WORK for it though.

I hope everything works out.
Sarah

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Is a girl considered a "virgin" is she has had oral or anal sex but not intercorse?

Most would say yes, but there is no clear cut line for what is and isn't a virgin. If you believe that losing your virginity is when you recieve or give oral sex, then your not a virgin. Some consider themselves virgins until a guy has actually cummed inside of them. It's all about how you look at it.

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how would you go about doing these hairstyles?

http://hairstyles.hairboutique.com/details.php?ID=6534


or


http://www.ashleytisdale.com/galleryn.asp


thank you

Firstly, your going to need a good volumizing hairspray. Pantene works really well for this.

Make sure your hair is straight or wavy, just not curly or frizzy. Flip your hair a few times and spray it down with the hairspray. Spray a fair amount. Comb the knots out, but leave it kind of stiff.

Take about half of your hair, leaving some side pieces looks really cute and tease it. This link will show you how to do that.

http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip100066.htm

Loosely bobbypin the teased hair back and sweep the rest of your hair back into a loose ponytail.

Spray down your ponytail with a finishing coat of hairspray.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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hay... latly i have been feeling sad like i hate my life and i dont know why (its not bad or anything like that)i dont want to feel like this!.. i have noticed that im drifting apart from my friends cos they never want to talk to me or hang out with me out of school and i dont know why.. can you help me im confused! thanx

Hey (=

Well the reality of it is, we all go through times like these during our adolescent years. I used to feel like this sometimes too. I'm not emo or anything close to that though. It's perfectly normal. You just have to think positively and tough it our. It will get better if you want it to. Think positively and stay active. Focus on the things that you love about your life and how lucky you are to have people who care about you. Call up the friends that you are on good terms with and plan a get together. Pamper yourself one day. Or buy something new. Any number things can cheer you up if you think positively and look on the bright side.

Hope I Helped.
Sarah

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I don't know if it's the right category, but I tried >.> Anywhos, I'm 14/f and I don't know if that helps, but it seems that a lot of the times, it does...soo haha.

OKay, well, I'm having frequent headaches and they never seem to go away. It would for like 30min then always come back again, and I don't know why. I'm eating right and exercising in a healthy manner. What's causing my headache? What should I do? I don't really like to take medicine..

I have the exact same problem. I get migrane headaches all the time that won't go away. While theres always a chance that you have a tumor or something serious like that, I highly doubt it. What my doctor told me was that headaches like this are'nt uncommon in teenage girls. It's caused by the change in your hormone level at this age. I've had them all my life though, so don't freak out. It's probably fine. I would go to the doctor and tell them about the problem. They will prescribe you some painkillers to take right when you get the headache and it will make it feel A LOT better.

Hope I Helped.
Good Luck with your headaches.
Sarah

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how does to verizon LG VX9400 open? the screen on the top i mean. becuase in the pictures on verizon, one of them its open, and the other is closed. does it flip open like the t mobile sidekick?

thanks!

OO I have this phone!

It's really cool. It kind of like twists open. When its closed it looks like a regular candybar phone. Then you kind of slide it, but you push it to the side and it slides into the picture that you've seen of it.

It's a cool phone. It has t.v. on it. But only in some networks. I highly reccomend (=

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i'm 17, i'm a guy, i've never been kissed, i've never had a girlfriend, i really don't have any kind of friends, i have speech problems, i've got social disorders, my face is a wreck, i don't leave my room because my face is a wreck, i hate 95% of the people in my school, i hate society and the nature of human beings, my life is trash and i'm completely nonexistent in the world. thats not the worst part though. the truth is, i really am one of the nicest kids you will ever meet when i'm not having to battle with my social problems and i'm a good looking kid too when i don't have acne. when i was acne free girls that i never met before told me that i look like johnny depp's twin but the acne won't go away and it has alot to do with me wasting away my high school years. over the last few months i had been talking to amazing girl and getting kind of close with her. seriously, she's better than anything i could have drawn up. she loves metal, in fact metallica, pantera, and tool are some of her favorite bands, she's got dyed black hair, wears black all the time, she's quiet like me, absolutely perfect but recently i messed that up completely. any color i had in my life has faded away and gone and i find it hard to believe that i can get it back. does anybody have any answers for me? i don't know where you would possibly start butany advice would be helpful.

I know that it seems like everything is going against you right now, but it can get better. High school is tough (trust me I know) but you have to make the best of it.

It all starts with the attitude that you have (yes, it sounds corny, but its true.) Try to view everything optimistically. Find the good in bad situations. It will make you an overall happier person. It sounds like a waste of time, but i promise it will help. Try it.

I also think it would help to be more active. Find a hobbie that you are interested in. It doesn't have to be a sport or something that you have to devote your life to, just something you enjoy doing with your spare time. Like a school club? Pick something and actually stick with it. You will meet lots of people like this and won't feel like your wasting your time.

You could also try volunteer work. You will feel great about helping other people and will meet nice people in the proccess. Wake up early and go feed the homeless. (it's way more fun than it sounds, surprisingly)

You can get involved in more events going on in your community, like walks for certain causes. These are always a good use of your time. I don't know if you already haev one, but if you don't, get a job.

Try to spend as little time as possible locked up in your room watching t.v. If you have some downtime and have absolutely nothing else to do, go for a walk or a light jog. The excercise will make you feel better.

Something really important to keep in mind is to always be nice to EVERYONE! Even those people who you hate at your school. Even if you don't want to pursue a friendship with them, being nice to them might come in handy at some point. Be outgoing. Stop caring what people think. Talk to people. It might be hard to do at first, but what do you have to lose? So what if a few people say mean stuff to you, brush it off. Eventually you will find people that you are compatible with that don't judge you.

Always look on the brightside, and remember that things could be worse. As for the girl, even if you can't have a relationship with her, try to mend your friendship. Apologize for whatever you did and I'm sure she will come around at some point or another.

And if you need anyone to talk to, or if you have anymore questions, I consider high school my specialty =)

Feel free to drop something in my inbox whenever you want.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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im kind of confused by the way my boyfriend acts. most of the time it seems like he really likes me. at school, we ate lunch together every day and he always walked with me to class. now that its summer, he calls me every day and always wants to hang out. he's super affectionate when we're alone together, and also when we're around a few of his guy friends, or with another couple. but the weird thing is... whenever we're at a big party or with a whole bunch of people, he kind of ignores me. he leaves me by myself while he runs around and flirts with other girls. its like, when other girls are around, he doesnt want to act like he likes me. what do you think this means?? btw we're both 13 and have been going out for 1 1/2 years.

A year in a half is a long time for that age. I think that your boyfriend just wants to know that he can have fun and enjoy his middle/highschool years without being to attatched to one person. He may feel like when he's at a party, he wants to talk to talk to other people and have a good time and not be the guy that is only with his girlfriend the entire time. This is something that your going to have to deal with when it comes to guys for the rest of your life. They are very self-consious when it comes to you and other people. He's just showing off in front of his friends. It's the whole "I'm a guy and I'm not gonna let my girlfriend control me at a party. WOW, I'm cool." It sounds like you have a pretty strong relationship other than that, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. Boys just don't have the same brainpower as we do (jk) so throw him a bone. He sounds like a good boyfriend when it comes down to it.

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what are some good things to keep a convo going with a guy? just some easy topics i guess. not like stupid ones just ones you'd normally talk to with a guy. thanks!

Well I don't know how old the guy in question is, but talking about cars will almost ALWAYS get a conversation going. Ask about his, what kind of engine it has in it, what year, ect. Act interested and let him explain to you the different parts and blah blah blah...

If he's not into that, ask him about the sports he plays (if any). Ask what got him into those sports. While your on the subject, tell him about sports you play. Try to find people that you both know if you go to different schools. If you go to the same school, talk about people that you both know at your school. Don't talk about them negatively though. Just be like, "So who do you hang out with? Oh yea, they're funny, blah blah blah" Tell stories if its relevant to the conversation, but don't make them too long.

If all else fails, ask him about his family and his heritage (sounds lame, but it's not)

Just bring up different things and something's sure to spark up a conversation.

Hope i helped.
Good Luck!
Sarah

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boyfriends dad caught us together (not the first time), well we were in his room with the door locked. when his dad opened it, he told my boyfriend to leave.. with me. Basically, hes not allowed to see me for two months. I dont know what to do, i fucking love this boy so much, we've been together for over a year. But we cant sneak around to see eachother, thats how we got caught. I can either break up with him or just not see him for the whole summer. I'm really upset by this, and his father doesn't speak english so talking to him is out of the question. But i cant go two months without seeing him.. i love it when he hugs me or sends me cute little textmessages. My parents dont care about me, only he does. I dont know what to do. Help or advice or opinions please :(

Call your boyfriend and ask him if you can sit down with him and his dad and talk. He can act as a translator. Explain to his dad that you have been going through a lot lately and that your boyfriend is really important to you and you really want to be able to see him. Tell him that you are sorry about what happened and ask him if maybe you guys could arrange to go out in a public place one a week or if you could hang out at one of your houses while parents are home. I'm sure that if you explain the situation and act responsibly and respectfully, his dad will be willing to compromise.


Good Luck!
Sarah



Alright... what are you expecting here? I gave you a reasonable solution to your problem and you rated me a 2? That really hurts my rating. If your not gonna appreciate the advice that people give you then work your own problems out.

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Okay there's this guy and he's 17 and he likes a girl thats 15 and he doesnt like me because im 14! I dont really understand! Why do people think there is such a BIG difference between them? It really makes me mad. Everyone always says im too young and when they see a 15 year old thats only a year older than me well they say no shes not that young but you oh no you, you are a year younger and thats way too young for sex or even making out! Oh my god you do not know how much this makes me mad! I've been waiting forever to grow up and nobody respects me because Im so little and i have sorta a baby face so they just all think im young and they think my cuz thats 15 is sooooooo much older than me and she's not she's a year and like 3 months!

People might think that your younger than you are because of the way that you look or the way that you act. Also, I'm guessing that your a freshman? People look at freshman differently than sophmores. I think it's just the year of highschool experience. But you can usually tell a difference. You mature a lot within that year. I had the same problem with a lot of people because I have always hung out with older guys and older girls always tended to give me a hard time. As ridiculous as it sounds right now, it'll make sense when your older. For right now just hang in there.

Sorry =(

Hope I helped.
Sarah

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Okay so I did some things with this guy and everything was fine after we got done. I mean I knew that he didnt love me and he was just getting him some but still I felt like he liked me a lil' bit. Anyways when we were making out he started to cum and me being only 14 well I didnt know that it was THAT bad. But I told one of his best friends that he cums really fast and yeah his friend made fun of him and he called him a "premature ejaculator". ha ha . I dont really know how to spell it. Well of course that pissed him off and so then he called me last night and made fun of me and told me that I was only 14 and hes only 17 but still. He also said that Im only mad at him because he wouldnt have sex with me. He yelled at me the whole time and then he claims that I was trying to mess with all his friends and screw all of them over! I didnt say anything but "ok" while he was talking to me but he seems like he hates me all because he thinks im spreading rumors about his penis. Which is not true I told his friend because I was just wondering why he cums so fast and didnt keep going. Anyways I dont know what I should do about him I mean he hates me for a false reason and I was wondering what I should say to him or if I should just let him be. Because I really like him and I know he doesnt like me but I just wanted to know If I should tell him how I feel about all this? He has Myspace and of course a phone.

You should just call him. Be really sweet and tell him that your sorry for all the drama that came out of the situation. Tell him that you didn't start any rumors and that you will gladly set the record straight with his friends. Then ask him if you can forget about it and move on. If he seems okay with it, ask him to hang out. Good Luck!


Sarah

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okay. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a year now. and i really really love him. infact we talk about getting married one day. heres the problem, im young. 15. same for him. is it odd for us to be thinking that far ahead even when we are so young? i mean i can't doubt us being in love, and we just feel that connection. and its been there from the start. there are no dull moments. yes we have been through alot, but it was my fault(i was diagnosed with a brain disorder about halfway though everything and had to spend alot of time in the hospital). but i honestly think that we have a future together. does anyone think this is odd?

No, thats not odd at all.

It's wonderful that you guys found each other and like each other so much. I've heard plenty of stories about how people end up marrying people they have known there whole life.

Don't think that it isn't normal because none of your friends are like that with guys. It's rare, but your really lucky to have someone like that at such a young age.

Good luck to you both!
Sarah

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last time i gave a blow job after having sex he took the condom off and the taste made me have to. stop do flavored condoms make it taste better after the condom is off or the condom taste better?

A flavored condom will make the actual condom taste better, but won't do much to help when the condom is off.

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Okay. So I cheated on my boyfriend 2 months ago with one of my ex's, which i have not talked to since. And I told my boyfriend the next day. And I feel horrible about what I did, every time I think about it or he brings it up I end up crying and hating myself more and more. For about 2 weeks after it happend I cried myself to sleep every night and seriously could hardly live with what I had done. And now, 2 months later, he still has not forgoten it, well i dont expect him to forget it, but he still always brings it up and I want to hang out with one of my guy friends.... and my boyfriend got all mad that I wanted too and was like fine go be with him then and he is just worryed i will cheat on him again.... but I would never do that again, i can not risk loosing him one more time. So I guess my question is,
Is it wrong of me to want to hang out with my guy friends and expect him to let me after what I did?
Or is he being to uptight about it and is it wrong of him to tell me not to hang out with other guys and get all pissed when i even think about hanging out with another guy?

One thig I do know is, If I want to hang out with a guy, I am going to. And I AM GOING to PROOVE to him that someday he can trust me again with another guy.

SO yeah... any advise would help.

Be understanding of his situation. He has a right to be mad at you for wanting to hang out with other guys. But it was two months ago. My advise would be not to hang out with your guy friend, because that would not be good for gaining back his trust. But i know it's not that easy. Maybe you should ask your guy friend if your boyfriend and some of your other friends (girls included) come along. That way your not ruining the friendships you had before you started dating him, but your not spending alone time with a guy. Think about how you would feel if you were in his position. If you really don't want him coming with you, just explain to him that your going to hang out with some old friends. Tell him that you feel terrible for what you did to him and you wouldn't do it again for anything in the world. It will take time, but eventually you will gain his trust back. You just have to prove that you're crazy about HIM and no other guys.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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(shes a 15 year old girl) So my friend has a pretty complicated situation.She used to go out with this guy who was a complete jerk off.He used to control everything she need,and got mad at her for everything.I kept telling her to break it off,and finally she did.(after going under serious depression and dealing with alot of problems)Now,shes been with this other guy for 2 months.He is really cool,and he never usually disrespects her.Now,out of nowhere he says that he likes one of his girl friends! But he also says it doesnt mean anything and that he still loves her and wants to be with her.The only problem is that hes constantly hanging out with this other girl alone and never wants anyone to be there when they hang out.(he says nothings happening,theyre just "good friends")But shes so bothered by it and shes constantly crying because she really loves him,its just that she always pictures them together and stuff.She doesnt want to break up with him, and i feel horrible everytime i look at her because i feel like theres nothing i could do =[
any advice on what she should do? Sorry for length

Her boyfriend has feelings for a girl that he just happens to spend a lot of alone time with... I'm sensing a red flag here.

Don't let her put up with that. While the best thing to do would be to break up with him, I understand that it's usually more complicated than that when you have emotions involved. She needs to start by talking to him. She needs to tell him that it upsets her that he's hanging out with this girl so much that he obviously has feelings for. If she tells him that he can't hang out with her at all, she's going to push him away. She should suggest that he maybe only hang out with her in groups or when shes there. Afterall, SHE is his girlfriend, not the other girl. It sucks sometimes to have to sacrifice things for another person, but thats what relationships are all about. If he wasn't ready to commit to it, then he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship.

If he doesn't understand and respect her wishes, then she seriously needs to consider moving on. She's obviously been through a lot with her ex-boyfriend and she deserves to be treated better by a guy. Let her know that she shouldn't settle for being treated like that, and eventually, she will find a guy that deserves her.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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so this is the same person who gave a guy head like a year and a half ago and got a sore throat the next day. i recently talked to him and he said he just got std tested for the first time and he was 100 percent clean. do you think i should still be worried about having an std? like do these things go away on their own? (btw i haven't done that since)

No, don't worry. If he's clean, your clean. That is unless you hooked up with someone else. The soar throat most likely came from the oral sex. It's not uncommon.

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This is my third day of having 1200 calories or less. My basal metabolic rate (according to an online calculator) says that I need around 1475 calories for my body to perform normal functions.

How can I tell if i'm in starvation mode right now?

And if I'm not already now, how long will it take before I do go into it?

It usually takes a few days for your body to adjust to the change in calories. I guess "starvation mode" refers to that change. So, yes, your body has probably already made that change. Cutting down calories isn't an efficient way to lose weight. When you cut your calories like that, your metabolism adusts to only burn that many calories. If you normally ate 2500 calories a day, your metabolism is set to burn about that many calories in a day. After your body realizes that you have taken a cut in calories, it will start to only burn that many in a day. You are much better off eating the right kind of foods and eating the normal amount than to cut your calories back so far. Trust me, I've done it and it doesn't work as well as you would think.

I'm probably going to get a bad rating for this, but you really need to know that this is not healthy, and in the long run, you will regret it because your body will hold on to anything it gets, and when you do start eating normally again, you will gain the weight back much faster. I know you've probably heard this a million times, but its true.


Hope that helped.
Sarah

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Today when I went to the doctors, he told me I need to get an MRI done on my spine to make sure everything's okay with it. But my question is for people who have had MRI's before. Do they hurt? Are they boring? Are they long? Etc.

Basically, what was your experience like?

Thank youu. :]

Hey =)

I had a MRI done last year. They really aren't bad at all. They're just kinda boring. They can be for any length of time. Mine lasted for about an hour. The only semi-bad part (well for me because i hate needles) is the IV they give you before you get the x-ray. It doesn't really hurt, its just kind of icky. Its about like the ones they give you to get blood drawn. Basically they put the IV in you and you go inside a machiene and hold still for a long time. It makes loud noises sometimes, so you can't really sleep. They aren't particularly fun, but it really isn't anything to be worried about. I hope your spine turns out okay.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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Ok i date this kid franklin and i really like him and the other day we were hugging and he really wanted to kiss me.he was looking at my lips waiting for me to get closer to him to kiss him but instead i backed up and smiled im scared if dont kiss him he wont like me anymore. help me please.

guys like a little bit of a challenge, but dont wait too long. if your already dating, then its obvious that you like each other, and you should kiss him. dont jump into things too soon but giving him a kiss (you dont have to make out with him the first time) would be a good sign to give him. so dont be nervous. he wants to kiss you. go for it =)

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