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i hate my life
i'm 17, i'm a guy, i've never been kissed, i've never had a girlfriend, i really don't have any kind of friends, i have speech problems, i've got social disorders, my face is a wreck, i don't leave my room because my face is a wreck, i hate 95% of the people in my school, i hate society and the nature of human beings, my life is trash and i'm completely nonexistent in the world. thats not the worst part though. the truth is, i really am one of the nicest kids you will ever meet when i'm not having to battle with my social problems and i'm a good looking kid too when i don't have acne. when i was acne free girls that i never met before told me that i look like johnny depp's twin but the acne won't go away and it has alot to do with me wasting away my high school years. over the last few months i had been talking to amazing girl and getting kind of close with her. seriously, she's better than anything i could have drawn up. she loves metal, in fact metallica, pantera, and tool are some of her favorite bands, she's got dyed black hair, wears black all the time, she's quiet like me, absolutely perfect but recently i messed that up completely. any color i had in my life has faded away and gone and i find it hard to believe that i can get it back. does anybody have any answers for me? i don't know where you would possibly start butany advice would be helpful.
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well i help you on teh acne part first !
theres this soap called "Neutrogena Cleansing Bar for Acne-Prone Skin" its sold at CVS or walmart in the skin care sectiOns. trust me after a mOnth or so yOur face will be 70% cleared up ! just please try it & let me know hOw its been. & about the girl tell her how you really feep and apologize for wat ever you did tell her you need her.
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Instead of waiting for things to get better before you start to think positive, you need to start thinking positive in order for things to get better. For some reason our society is under the misconception that the results we all hope for should come before we put any effort into making a change in our lives. It's like when people say they'll exercise when they feel better, when if they exercised they would feel better.
It's a vicious circle of negative thinking, procrastination, and setting yourself up for failure. Sure you have flaws - we all do, but it's up to you how big of a deal you make out of those flaws. Do you want them to be something insignificant that you'll work towards making better, or do you want them to be obstacles that you can't overcome and can't deal with? They only have as much power as you give them.
I suggest you get our of your world more often - you're drowning yourself in it. You're dwelling too much on your problems. Once you start to see things for how they truly are instead of how you've made them out to be, you'll see how lucky you are and how good you have it. Go volunteer - helping others will make you feel a lot better about yourself and show you that your life isn't as bad as you think it is right now.
There are times when life gets really dark and horrific for everyone. The old saying "when it rains it pours" is very true. Sometimes things seem hopeless and overwhelming, but it's just an illusion. There's nothing that the human spirit can't endure. You will make it through and these times always pass. You just have to be patient and put in the effort to make the change because you're causing your own problem. Once you can accept that you can begin to heal.
Ironically, the problem is never the problem - it's how we view the problem and make it larger than life - that's the problem. You gotta change how you're seeing things. It isn't true and you're only hurting yourself. You gotta be the one who lifts yourself up and takes care of yourself. Life doesn't guarantee us a caretaker. So you have to learn to play that part. I'm in the process of learning that now. You'll feel much better about things when you learn to be the one you turn to for support.
I suggest researching Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It's a beautiful form of therapy that's proven to help people who are in situations just like the one you're in. Also, gradually open up and let others in. When we shut others out, it's easy to think that our problems are the worst problems ever because we have no one else's problems to compare them too. Once you begin to make friends, you'll see that everyone has fears and concerns just like you do. Good luck. :)
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first and foremost you sound suicidal and please do not take your life its not worth it and you have family and people who love you and its just four years of your life you have to deal with then you have your whole life ahead of you.... anyways i have a social disorder has well and i know how much it sucks and i suggest counseling helps and just facing your fears and telling that voice in your head that brings you down and prevents you from meeting new people to shut up. try to be more open minded and instead of having the impression of hating everyone at your school try to focus on meeting/talking to the nice people...people can actually be a lot nicer when you get to know them then the vibe they first give off. unfortunately there are mean people and nice people at school and try to focus on the nice people with similar interests to yours and will not be mean to you because of your personality/speech disorders if they are mean they are asswholes who do not deserve your time. For your acne i would suggest visiting a dermatologist and getting a prescription to help your face like a topical or oral solution. If you want to exist and be noticed you are the one who has to take initiative it wont just come to you. For your girl try to resolve things with her if not shes not worth your effort if she really liked you she will forgive you if she dose not F*** her there are plenty of other fish in the sea... don't loose faith things get better it scares me because you seem like one of those nice boys who everyone thinks is fine but is actually not and dont hide it from everyone let those who know you best know so they can help you get through this. Your attitude/actions shape your life and how you want to live your life is all up to you to make it happen!
don't loose hope reach out to those who will support you for help!
ok ive written a lot hope i helped
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i never been kissed never had a boyfriend dont have much friends i have mood disorder i hate about 95%of my school im real nice. some people do not understand you if your having trouble like that. but all you say is not real bad at all you have acne so you stay inside? i had acne i cleaned it then sealed it then put coverup over it although i dont think you should wear makeup. you dont have friends because you dont make them you sit inside. go talk to people. im quiet too. someone does somthing to you do worse back or just tell them to fuck off. a guy became my bestfriend, then we liked eachother, then loved, then his other reall close friend and i got real mad then we were pretty much forced to stay away. i lost my bestfriend to love. and your amazing girl is hard rock HC like me, id want my best friend back then patch things up then i want him not to shy off if someone says something bad about either of us hed leave, id want him to know something about what i like, and act a little like me just A LITTLE for me to notice. chances are shes wondering how to fix things also. you sound like a good guy. not like most guys. i might add later g2g fix my life
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You're 17 and you have the rest of your life to worry about girlfriends and kissing. High school might seem like the appropriate time, but honestly, most kids your age are too immature to engage in appropriate relationships at that age. And, if you're being honest about the social disorders you have, you should focus on yourself and stabilizing those rather than worrying about girls.
The acne happens the almost everyone your age and gets worse with stress. As you get into your 20s it will probably start to go away with fewer break- outs. Try washing your face 2 to 3 times a day with a good face wash- that will help with the basic problem.
"i hate 95% of the people in my school, i hate society and the nature of human beings, my life is trash and i'm completely nonexistent in the world."- This is the bane of many a teen's existence. In a few years you will probably figure out that you didn't like the kids at your school just because you didn't want to have to bother with socializing. Hopefully you will come up with a few worthwhile reasons for not liking society and the nature of human beings, otherwise you're just copying off the masses. And, well, your life doesn't have to be trash. Take control, do what it is you need to do and get on with life. You're not non- existent to the world, you probably just wish you were.
And this girl? She's not the last girl who will ever amaze you, and it's probably not the last time you will screw up things with a girl. The color isn't gone, you just won't allow yourself to see it. There are other things in life than girls, time to wake up and pay attention. As soon as you realize that you're wasting your life because of some teenage mistake, you will see the color again.
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Hey buddy,
I dont know how much I can help, but Ill try my best :).
First of all I want to tell you that I understand where you are coming from. Im 16, and I have alot of similar problems. I especially understand where you coming from in regards to society these days. I absolutely hate my school. The people there have no values or concern for others. They are so conceited and totally superficial.
People in highschool now, in my opinion have become really mean, and unaccepting of others.
Im glad that you have some confidence in yourself, because the truth is alot of your problems arent within in yourself but having to do with the people around you.
But I promise you there are some people in this world who are good and will love you for you.
I know it's hard to believe but my dad always tells me that things will get better. College will be a completely different experience. You will find a group that will accept you, and girls that will love you for you. ;)
Dont rush into sex and all the stupid things kids are age are doing. It really doesnt have to do with love with most of them.
You will find your time, and the right person.
Until then try making friends out of your school. Joing some clubs or get involved with youth groups.
And that in regards to that girl. Dont be so hard on yourself, tell her how you feel. (dont come on too strong though) And if things dont work, you will eventually find someone.
Also try therepy it helps :)
Now im just rambling haha I hope I helped really :)
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I know that it seems like everything is going against you right now, but it can get better. High school is tough (trust me I know) but you have to make the best of it.
It all starts with the attitude that you have (yes, it sounds corny, but its true.) Try to view everything optimistically. Find the good in bad situations. It will make you an overall happier person. It sounds like a waste of time, but i promise it will help. Try it.
I also think it would help to be more active. Find a hobbie that you are interested in. It doesn't have to be a sport or something that you have to devote your life to, just something you enjoy doing with your spare time. Like a school club? Pick something and actually stick with it. You will meet lots of people like this and won't feel like your wasting your time.
You could also try volunteer work. You will feel great about helping other people and will meet nice people in the proccess. Wake up early and go feed the homeless. (it's way more fun than it sounds, surprisingly)
You can get involved in more events going on in your community, like walks for certain causes. These are always a good use of your time. I don't know if you already haev one, but if you don't, get a job.
Try to spend as little time as possible locked up in your room watching t.v. If you have some downtime and have absolutely nothing else to do, go for a walk or a light jog. The excercise will make you feel better.
Something really important to keep in mind is to always be nice to EVERYONE! Even those people who you hate at your school. Even if you don't want to pursue a friendship with them, being nice to them might come in handy at some point. Be outgoing. Stop caring what people think. Talk to people. It might be hard to do at first, but what do you have to lose? So what if a few people say mean stuff to you, brush it off. Eventually you will find people that you are compatible with that don't judge you.
Always look on the brightside, and remember that things could be worse. As for the girl, even if you can't have a relationship with her, try to mend your friendship. Apologize for whatever you did and I'm sure she will come around at some point or another.
And if you need anyone to talk to, or if you have anymore questions, I consider high school my specialty =)
Feel free to drop something in my inbox whenever you want.
Good Luck!
Sarah
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ok first things first God is really the only way to get out of this rut so plz read this: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
seriously its a good thing to have waited for all that interaction stuff it will make your marriage or whatever better, i have a bunch of acne and stuff it sucks but just remember it'll go away and then you'll get a bunch of chicks i can tell.
And this girl sounds interesting go ahead dare to get emotionally close to her she sounds worth it
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