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my friend needs advice about her relationship
(shes a 15 year old girl) So my friend has a pretty complicated situation.She used to go out with this guy who was a complete jerk off.He used to control everything she need,and got mad at her for everything.I kept telling her to break it off,and finally she did.(after going under serious depression and dealing with alot of problems)Now,shes been with this other guy for 2 months.He is really cool,and he never usually disrespects her.Now,out of nowhere he says that he likes one of his girl friends! But he also says it doesnt mean anything and that he still loves her and wants to be with her.The only problem is that hes constantly hanging out with this other girl alone and never wants anyone to be there when they hang out.(he says nothings happening,theyre just "good friends")But shes so bothered by it and shes constantly crying because she really loves him,its just that she always pictures them together and stuff.She doesnt want to break up with him, and i feel horrible everytime i look at her because i feel like theres nothing i could do =[
any advice on what she should do? Sorry for length
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Her boyfriend has feelings for a girl that he just happens to spend a lot of alone time with... I'm sensing a red flag here.
Don't let her put up with that. While the best thing to do would be to break up with him, I understand that it's usually more complicated than that when you have emotions involved. She needs to start by talking to him. She needs to tell him that it upsets her that he's hanging out with this girl so much that he obviously has feelings for. If she tells him that he can't hang out with her at all, she's going to push him away. She should suggest that he maybe only hang out with her in groups or when shes there. Afterall, SHE is his girlfriend, not the other girl. It sucks sometimes to have to sacrifice things for another person, but thats what relationships are all about. If he wasn't ready to commit to it, then he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship.
If he doesn't understand and respect her wishes, then she seriously needs to consider moving on. She's obviously been through a lot with her ex-boyfriend and she deserves to be treated better by a guy. Let her know that she shouldn't settle for being treated like that, and eventually, she will find a guy that deserves her.
Good Luck!
Sarah
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i think she should talk to him about it. and if he keeps saying nothings going on she should say well then let me hangout with you guys and if he says no thats fuckit.she should breakup with him that obviuosly means there somthing more then friends if he dosent want his girlfriend there
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