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I am a 17/m and i really like this girl. I have a plan to ask her out. The only problem is that it involves two weeks and Valentines day. The plan is to leave notes in her locker with no name just ending it the same way. Should i go for the two week plan or should i just ask her?

if your 2 week plan is surefire and you're sure she'll love it, then go ahead.
but if you're not so sure, then you should just ask her.
*Another thing: if you don't hurry, someone else may grab her attention!*
Hope i helped some:)
~Diamyn~

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Ever since I was 13 years old, my cousin has been going out with this girl who has always been the same age as me. Also ever since I've never ever liked her that much. I know my cousin loves this girl and all but I dunno what to do about how I feel about her. Most other family members I have know I don't like her but then I dunno what to do anyway. Any suggestions? I'd like to have more prospectives with this situation.
signed,
Lost

hmmm...
are there certain reasons why you don't like her?
if there are, are they good reasons?
I think you should be happy for your cousin AND for her since she's lucky to have your cousin(since he loves her)
But I believe you should try and get along w/her.
If that's just plain impossible, that's okay. Not everyone in the family gets along.
She should get the hint that you don't really like her. Just keep your distance and comments to yourself. She shouldn't bother you.
Hope I helped you out any:)
~Diamyn~

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sorry this is long.
okay. this girl, tegan, lives with my family. she's only been here 3 weeks and she's already like a sister to me. problem: she likes my boyfriend josh. she is always saying how awesome he is and how he is realy good looking and stuff. and today she was going on about how jealous she is. she keeps saying she wants a guy just like josh! i really really like him. i am not giving him up! i tried setting her up with another guy and for 3 days she was all 'dan this, dan that' and saying how much she likes him. but then she dumped him and is going on about josh again. i tried talking to her but she is all like 'i'm just mucking around' but i can tell she isn't.

HELP!

:( Liking your best friend's b/f is not cool.
I would definitely watch her becuz the moment you and your guy split, she'll be all over him like grass on the ground. but since you already tried hooking her up w/another guy, and that didn't work, I think you and her need to have a heart-to-heart talk. I think you really need to straighten this out b4 something bad happens. Hope I helped some.
~Diamyn~

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my good friend, ill call her jenny, has this boyfriend, ill call him scott, and they were going out for about 6 months. Jenny told scott she was not loving him as much and Scott broke up with her. Jenny was so upset and wouldnt stop crying. They got back together and a few times he has made her cry again. I tell her to dump him now before she gets hurt agian but she says "i thought if i was happy, you would be happy for me, but i guess thats too much to ask" so i tell her "i want to see you happy and every time he makes you cry, your not happy and you just need to end it with him" she wont though and im afraid of how something bad happened to her. The first time they broke up she wouldnt eat for about 4 days and she got a bad rash all over her body. HELP!!

:( i know you wanna help, but it seems like she needs someone else in this. Maybe her mom, or a school counselor. It was normal heartbreak until she started harming herself. Then that means they've both gone too far. She definitely needs help. Keep supporting her, and get someone else to help. Hope everything works out okay. Feel free to come back if you need anything.
~Diamyn~

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what do you do when ur a freshman dating a sophomores (14/f) and all the sophomore girls hate you bc ur dating a sophomore? all these sophomores are getting all these other people to be against you, what do you do?

I wouldn't really worry about them because all they CAN do is hate, and all those people that listen to them, they're probably not very good people if they are following those girls. As long as they don't touch you, don't worry about it. You can date whoever you feel, and they're just jealous. Hope I helped any:)
~Diamyn~

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ok well ive been goin out wit this guy 4 about 2/3 months and we still didnt kiss he alwayz sayz he is gonna kiss me and wen he is wit me he he dont stay by me at all he alwayz makes ^ exuses about y he didnt tak 2 me n stuf i realy like this guy & he tells me he luvs me & he tells his friendz he loves me but i dont this he realy likez me ! he also dont like some of mi friendz i think & he says they r the reason y he dont tak to me and i think it is wrong i am not alowed to have a boyfrend cuz i am only 12 and he alwayz says he wanna hang out n stuff but when we do hang out his frendz alwayz come before me and he ignores me n wen i talk to him about it he says he tried n stuff and im getting tired of it ! i really like him ! so wat do i do !please help mee
is he shy , scared of me or wat?

hmmm.... it sounds like he really does like you, because he told his friends that he LOVES you. But it doesn't sound like he's too mature, because he always puts his friends before you.

It sounds like he doesn't realize what he has most of the time:( But I always tell people, if you're unhappy in a relationship, leave. And since you're young, you have plenty of time for all that heartbreak. You can find someone who will give you the attention you deserve.

I think you should give him one last chance to straighten up by talking to him, and if that doesn't work, leave, even though it might hurt.
If you have ANY other questions, you can always come back:) Hope I helped, and hoped it works out for you.

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My boyfriend is in rehab and could be there for up to six months, most likely four months and three weeks. I hang out with his friends and write him letters every day (it's been a little over a week) to help miss him less. My question is, is there anything else I can do to miss him less? What are the chances of me cheating on him? (We were going out for one month when he left he's 17 I'm 14) Has anyone been through this same situation? Please help I'll rate.

I'm in a worse situation. I could never see my "b/f" until next year. Well, I missed him a lot, but I cried and cried and cried until I got it all out. I still feel sad whenever I think of him, but I don't cry EVERY night like I used to. I don't even cry anymore.It only took a month and a half for that to work.
If you really love him, then you won't cheat. Trust me. Hope everything works out! :)
~Diamyn~

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Hey my name is J.B. I am 17 year old male and I really like these two girls at my school. I have asked one out several times but she is always busy. The other girl is not dating anyone else and is also (in my oppinion) the most beautiful girl in school. Im not sure she even notices me. I need some help.
P.S. I love to write poetry and i have used her as inspiration a time or two.

I think you should definitely try and talk to the not-busy one. Go up to her and just start a casual convo or something. And if things work out alright, you could write her a poem or two! Hope I helped some:)

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hey first of all thanx to advicenators for helping people in their problems...i have a problem of my own..my bestfriend and this guy love each other to death and the guy LOVES HER TO DEATH but the thing here in egypt is that not alot of ppl prefer to date now so they dont date but they see each other in school and they talk on the phone and they go out and all but the girl feels that she needs to be loved she perfectly knows that but she needs to feel that he cares for her and he's too shy to make a move and now after 3 years together she finally decided to leave him and i dont want her to do that so i wanna help them...can u help me to help them??? thnx

:) After 3 years and they still love each other, I wouldn't want them to split either!
But I believe you should talk to her one day and ask her to tell you exactly why she wants to do this. Then show her all the reasons why you think she shouldn't. Get her to really rethink this. Hope I helped any:)

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Ok so i've asked questions about this one boy before and well i'm asking some more. I'm talking to my ex again and he said that he's missed hanging out with me and that he regrets ever breaking up with me and stuff but when I ask him if he would ever go back out with me if given a chance he said he doesn't know. And he like hits on me and flirts with me and is getting me to talk to him more and open up again. Does this mean anything? Can anyone analyze it all? Please, I just need some help. Thanx!

It sounds like he misses you but doesn't wanna be in a relationship right now. He DID say he missed hanging around you, and he flirts with you all the time, so thats what it sounds like to me.
So...it means he definitely interested, but just doesn't wanna be in a relationship at the moment.
Hope i helped any!

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My best friend never beleives me she always beleives her mom or ... ANYONE exept me, then i yelled at her because she is my best friend and is sopposed to beleive me, so she got really sad and i feel bad for me making her sad and her not beleiving me. what should i do i need to know now

let her know you're sorry but explain that you didn't feel it was right for her not to trust you. if I were her, i would feel bad too:(
but i hope i helped you any.

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ok so i have a friend and shes been dating this guy for a couple months. well first problem is that her parents hate him. they go to church together and shes not even allowed to sit by him. the thing is they have been dating behind her parents back and the parents keep finding out and she gets in trouble and they hate him more. well the thing is.. they always find ways to get together behind everyones back and first they made out and thats ok but then he fingered her on a church van. he keeps wanting her to go farther and shes a Christian and this whole thing is pulling her away from God, i dont think she even cares. he keeps hurting her (emotionally) and i dont want to see her go through this. ive tried talking to her but i really cant get through to her. i dont want her to go too far but he is pressuring her. sorry its long but i need advice.

When you talked to her, did you tell her everything that was on your mind? If you don't want your best friend to fall into a bad lifestyle, which he is definitely leading her into, then you have to get your point across. But sometimes, all you can do is watch, try to help, and be there for her when he lets her go and she falls. Hope it works out.

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Ok, im 13 year old female and just broke up with my boiifriend!! the main reason i did this is because i like another boii!! lets just call him "bob"! all of my friends think that i shouldn't go out with bob cuz he is a player!! but one of the security gaurds at skool told me that i can be the one girl to set him straight and that my friends should beleive in me. they should beleive in the fact that i could change him. but they still don't they say it's because they don't want me to get hurt!! sooooo..... wat should i do?

Hmmm... it sounds convincing to listen to the guard guy, but in this case, i think you should listen to your friends.
I once tried to change a guy, and trying to change him, changed me, while he stayed the same.
But I wouldn't want you to get hurt or anything by a guy, so watch out for yourself too:D hope i helped you out any.

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Me and my ex have been apart for about a month now and i miss him liks soo much its crazy, i play love songs all the time and its so stressful.. he said we would get back together but i wanna know when but he said he didnt kno he needs some time.. but i havent talked tohim about it n a while and i wanna know if he still feels the same way i do... I juss.. Miss him alot :*( what do i do

:( I feel your pain.
But if you really wanna know if he feels the same way as you, ask him! It couldnt hurt. Tell him to be honest with you. Hope I helped:)

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my friend's boyfriend flirts with like every girl he sees. i always tell her and she was like "oh, it's ok. he's not sesrious." and i'm like yeah he is! he ALWAYS does it! Not just that, but she ruined her relationshp with her best friend to go out with him. none of her friends like him and they totally dont approve of them "dating" he's always hanging on her in school and he wont leave her alone sometimes, and then other times he refuses to talk to her because he is busy flirting with other girls. she's making a mess and i don't want her to. i'm trying to help her, what should i do?

hmmm.. i had a b/f who flirted, but stopped when we hooked up. Flirters are supposed to stop when they're in a relationship. But if he's ruining things and all that, i think you should help her out and find her another b/f. It might hurt, but he's toxic, and poisioning their relationship and friendship.Hope i helped some:D

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okay, i've written before about this kid brendan who i'm still in love with. (really bad) but it doesn't really look like he's interested at all. so i started going out with the kid steve who i've gone out with a million of times before. i don't like him but my best friend lucas said he's really diggin me and i should go out with him kinda to get him off his back. lol.. i know it's mean but i'd do it for him. and as you all know valentine's day is coming up and i don't know if i should break up with him now and get it done with or if i should wait a lil while after valentine's day. or would that look like i was using him. oh ya and steve is planning something really cute for valentine's day along with a couple of my girls boyfriends for all of us. so i don't know if that would be mean to dump them eaither. oh ya and im 16! (please help) xOox elise*

I believe you should break up with him before V-day. It wouldn't be mean, becuz no one likes to be in a relationship they don't wanna be in. I know it sucks, but if you're not happy, do it. Just let him down gently... hope i helped.:D

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Alright, 4 months ago my boyfriend dumped me because he had some issues of his own to work out. In those 4 months I developed a crush on his younger brother, who is my age (15). My ex is 17. I asked his brother out and he said no cuz he can't date until he's 16, which is in a year. I know that the brother has feelings for me (his sister told me). Now, my ex-boyfriend has feelings for me, but I like his brother more than him right now. And one of my friends has a crush on him. What do I do? I have some feelings for my ex, but they aren't as strong as the ones for his brother.

whoa.. you're in a jam! it would basically not be a good thing to go out w/your ex's brother.
he'll never forgive you. but if you are positive that you and his brother will last, then go for it. but if you do go out w/him and you and his bro break up, then u wont be able to go out with your ex anymore. so, the choice is yours, but be careful.hope i helped some.

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I just broke up with my boy friend and I feel miserable. I feel as if the world i going to end. I thought he was the one you knkow? But he did the same thing to me just like the others. No relationship has gone good for me. Every one was a jerk and used me, or just wanted to sleep with me. I don't think that I can get over this and feel as if the only way to stop the pain i to go in eternal sleep six feet under. Please someone help. And don't tell me to get over it b/c I've tried that to many and I'm afraid that's not going to work in this case. Please will someone HELP???!!!!!

this may not help, and i dont mean to sound rude or anything, but no matter how much it hurts, and i know it will be hard, but you can't let a boy make you feel so bad like this. no girl needs a guy in her life all the time. i'm single, and i'm happy. if i see a guy just wants to use me, i just leave them alone, and if i'm still attached, i stay friends. but think outside the box, honey. you can't let no one bring down your joy and everything. please rethink this and all. hope i helped at all.

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I don't know whether its the fact that Detroit has no jobs, or I'm not looking hard enough, but I can't seem to find any. I've already gone to teens4hire.com and theres nothing in my area. I'm only 16 and I think its important that I get a job while I have the safety net of my mom and my brother. so if you can give me any websites for teens that have updates on jobs, I would really appreciate it.
MAd Love,
Victoria (jokerzgrl)

well, i went to google and i looked at the 1st site: http://www.groovejob.com/browse/jobs/in/MI/Michigan/Detroit

it has jobs at KFC, and other places. But if you haven't, google it. i saw lots more.
hope i helped!

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Please don't delete this question, because I am actually very curious about this. Why do people join this website who aren't even serious about helping people or receiving help? People who need help come here and some ignorant people joke around and even insult these people in need. Don't you think it's time we suspend or expel these rude people? I'm sick of it myself.

well, i dont mean to sound rude(really!) but it doesn't help to post questions like this because you are just giving them the attention they want.
but i don't know why they do it... they don't seem to have a heart or a life.?????:P

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