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Q: hi..okay i had asked this guy i liked out to do something with me..before this we hadnt' rally talked too much but he sorta followed me a little at lunch and i cud tell and it was pretty cute..ppl told me that he prolly likes m n stuff so wen i asked him he sed he didnt know if he cud make it to where we were going..then on monday (i has asked on friday)he completely ignored me and on tuestday too..What do u think this means? I was getting a good vibe from him before and now he just randomly started to ignore me..cud he b nervous, or maybe he just stopped liking me..thanks a bunch you guys.

The best answer for this is that he is nervous. He's probably afraid of a relationship with anyone. Maybe he's had bad realationships before. Just give him some time, he'll come around.

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Q: Okay well i was walken downtown with my 2 friends today and this druggie/badass was down there and he called over this geeky guy called Josh and all of a sudden he starts beating him up! i was so scared i didnt know what to do.. he almost started to cry and before he left he said im callen aaron (the cop in our town) and my friends r like dont tell him we were here. im afraid hes gunna tell the cop and he'll ask me and somehow it'll get back to the badass and he'll beat the shit outta me .. im a gurl btw and he hits girls and stuff and he like knows how to set up bombs n shit cuz he put a bomb in our school one year.. if the cop does ask me shoudl i say i witnessed it?

It may be hard for you but, yes. Say yes so he can be locked up and he won't hurt anyone else. If you don't tell your only hurting yourself, and probably more people to come. So no matter how scary it is, tell because you'll know you saved yourself, that boy, and many other people, who have been or will be hurt from that horrible person.

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Q: Last night I found out my bf did drugs. He never told me or anything but they were talking about it and my friend told me. I also found out that he was ganna dump me because he did it. It really made me mad. Like its not the fact that he does it, but the fact that he never told me about it. He knows i dont agree with that stuff so what should i do because i dont want him keeping stuff from me.

Personally, this guy doesn't seem that great. If he keeps something so important from you, then how can you trust him when things could get worse. I mean honesty is the base of a serious relationship. Maybe you two should take a break form each other, see other people. When he is clean and ready to tell the truth, talk to him and tell him how you feel. Then maybe your relationship will be ok.

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Q: ok well there is this boy i went out with in 3rd grade and it didnt really mean anything...but i havent seen him since because he moved. Well just recently he came back and i saw him for the 1st time in 4 years! he sits behind me at lunch and looks at me occasionally and doesnt say a thing..do you think he remembers me? i dont know if he still has feelings for me or even remembers me but i would really like him to. Im a little embarassed to go to him face to face just incase he doesnt remember me..what should i do?

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Confussed!

Maybe, just maybe he does! I mean the only way you'l find out is by asking him. If he stares at you then either he does remember you, or he thikns your pretty. Just talk to him, see what happens.

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Q: i'm thinking about becoming wiccan. does anyone know of any good websites or books i can look at?

thank you in advance. :)

Hye. check out the book Teen Wicca by Silver Ravenwolf. It's a great book with basic spells!

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Q: Today I was sitting in class and I just picked up this needle thing and started running it up and down my arm. I don't know why but then I started scratching myself with it really badly so that I had marks all over my arm. After school, my boyfriend saw but he made a joke of it. I think I did it because I want attention because my parents don't really give me any. I was really upset that my boyfriend didn't care, does it show that he doesn't care about me? Everybody that saw what I had done just ignored me.

Maybe they don't know how to react, or maybe they don't understand why you would do that to yourself. Try to talk about your feelings instead of hurting yourself. There are better ways of getting attention from your parents. Just please don't hurt yourself anymore.

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Q: Hi, I'm 14 and a freshman in highschool. As you know I would have to start thinking about a future job and what I would like. I have 3 things chose. 1) A crime scene investigator 2) a teacher or 3) an interior designer ... now with # 1 I can't stand blood thats coming out of the body in large amounts, would I usually see this if i was a CSI??

Yes unfortunately you would. Crime Scene Investigators look and take pictures of the dead bodies. But that doesn't mean all of them died from severe bleeding. I suggest that you don't become one though because there is a lot of blood involved. Take your other two choices into consideration.

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Q: Hey I've got this faker stealing my pictures and pretending to be me, and its really getting on my nerves. How do I go about telling her about it without lashing out too much?

Do something about it. It's illegal and it could only get worse. It's called identity thefet. And if that person doesn't agree to stop you have to take legal action.

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Q: Ok... I am 14/f and I weigh 100 lbs. My friends think I am anarexic and last year my teacher turned me in for anarexia. I eat, alot, do you think I should she a doctor about my weight.

Ok. First of all if you were anerexic, you wouldn't eat a thing so that right there tells you that you can't be. Another reason is that if you are really short, that is probably the cause of your weight. If you feel that you should see a doctoer, go right ahead and do so. Well maybe this helped a little bit. I hope so!

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Q: does anyone have any advice for me. i have asked out about 20 people and have gotten a no from all of them. i dont know what i am doing that is wrong. can someone help me? please.....

Well maybe it's not you or maybe it is. Most guys like confidnet and independent girls. Now I hate to burst your bubble but if you say that you asked at least twenty people out then you seem kind of on the desperate side. Just play it cool and maybe just maybe..the right guy will come along.

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Q: I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way.

I know how feel. I'm going through the EXACT same thing as you. You really do have depression. I reccommend you go to your doctor and get some medicaton. It may sound like such a bad thing and your probably thinking "i feel like a psycho" because that's how most people in this situation feel. Don't feel that way you just have something wrong with your brain. It's just another body part so don't feel guilty. I mean do you feel guilty if you go to the doctor's for a sore throat? So yes definately get medication and/or try counciling. It's good to talk all of your problems out. Well hope I helped!!

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Q: okay i was on a antiobitioic for a sinus infection, and its a form of penecilin, and i had these HUGE absolutley huge hives all over me, they were disgusting, i was wondering what exactly are hives?

Hives are a rash. You usually get them if you have an allergic reaction to something.

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Q: Hey sorry its long but I dont kno what to do. I love my boyfriend with all my heart n I could never love anyone this much. He is my whole world, he means everything n more to me. He has cheated on me a few times n I've cheated on him. But anyways this last time he cheated on me, he promised n swore on my life that he would never do it again, n said he loved me more then anything n he couldnt live without me. But now this girl is telling me that he tells her he misses her n wishes he could turn back tha hands of time, but he says tha same thing to me. We've been together 3 years, n we've broken up before n I just cant even live..I cant go on without him, I go crazy, we've been through so much, n I hurt myself whenever we fight...What do I do :(

hey i am so sorry about this situation. it looks like both of you guys really messed up. you really shouldn't hurt yourself over him. no guy is worth the damage of your mental health. if i were you i would end the relationship or try to work it out. but if he keeps doing this to you dump the bastard. i know 3 years seems like an eternity but u can do so much better. Good Luck!!

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Q: How could i overcome my fear on stage?

You could do and activity that relaxes you before you perform. Try it to see if it works, although it usually calms the nerves. Good Luck!!

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Q: okay i have a problem.... i cut myself... and i dont know how to stop.. its just that i get all jittery and the room spins but as soon as i cut myself i feel normal again and i get a major high off of it.... i want to stop because i know that someone is going to find out and than my life wil be over... so i guess my question is how do i stop without my friends or family ever finding out???

There is no way you can stop without confronting your parents first because if u talk to a counselor they will tell your parents believe me. So fess up to your parents and tell them so they can get you good help. Good Luck!!

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Q: I've been suffering from clinical depression for a few years, and recently started having panic attacks and mild hallucinations. The hallucinations are morbid (pools of blood, reaching hands, ect.) but clearly recognizable as they're so out of place. I don't want to see a psychologist or take medication. Is there a way to make your mind stay away from depressing thoughts or just clear it if things start getting hazy/weird?

no there is no way to just avoid it without prefessional help. sometimes certain medications can make u hallucinate. and if u are on medication then switch. that could be a problem. and another thing it would probably be best to talk to a special doctor for some reasons:

1. They could give you medication
2. It's healthy to talk to someone and not bottle up ur problems

and by the sounds of ur morbid hallucinations it sounds to me like you have death on ur mind. its ok though. if u need to talk to me at all my advice column is c assi e x 12 feel free to ask me anything!! well i hoped this helped a little

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Q: Hey, well im going out with this guy lets call him *H* and just about all my girl friends like him or did like him and are mad at me or think im mad at them. Everything I do i can never be happy i have enough problems as it is.I really really like this guy what should i do.And plz dont say talk to them i've tried there too dence to understand. thx

heyy. this is such a common problem. just think..if he liked those other girls then he wouldn't be goin out with YOU. so im sure you have nothing to worry about.

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Q: see i dated this guy that we'll call david and it didnt work out.... but now he always smiles at me in the hallways and i always get chills in my stomach and i like run out of breath should i tell him how i feel?

hey hunn aww that is o0o0 sweet maybe that is a sign that he MIGHT like u again now im just saying maybe. but yes i think you should be as open with him as possible. maybe things could change good luck

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Q: Why is it that all teenage boys only want sex, sex and sex? Are there any teenage boys, anywhere, that want a serious relationship? It's so hard to even find a half decent guy anymore. Don't guys just ever want to take things slow and want a girl for more than just sex?

I have the perfect answer to that....raging hormones. It sux to date at our age but not all teenage boys are hornballs.

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Q: How, after several years, does someone go about dealing with the grief over the death of a loved one?

Ok, I know exactly what you are going through u could most definately pray. Praying is the best medicine for the death of someone. You could also view photos of the deceased love one or recall good times with that person it helps to remember the good things..

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