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HEY GUYS. I figure i know a lot about advice. I have been threw a lot from family violence and growing up in environments with a lot of stress and stuff to relationships and sex questions. i have had my best friends move away, feel the pain of a lost love one, feel the hurt of loving some one so much it kills, and many different levels of love, pain, sorrow, and CONFUSION! so just ask away ill try to helps ya out ;D later

Hey so Its been a while since I have been on here just wanted to update a little.
I have had a few more life experiences. I have a best friend new to my life as of a few years ago now and she is amazing. I couldn't ask for some one better.I lost my first love from stupid choices i made and now am trying things a little differently i won't do the same stupid stuff as before. Hit me up ID LOVE TO HELP!!
Oh and I started college :)

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13/m
I have this friend, who I love terrably, and were close, but we always seem to have fights between every 3 days and every other week, plus, there is something about her that is scary to me. She is satanic, and I have a fear of satanic peopkle ( i dont mean to sound prejudice, i mean, i would give them the respect i would give everyone else}. What should I do? Should I cease communication with her, o should I still talk to her?

i lost my best friend over her ex its so hard to deal listen never stop talking to a friend u care about it hurts worse than being mad or hurt by them its like die cus u feel alown trust me. hope i helped keep talking to her
Andie

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how can imake my breasts look bigger with out stuffing.

1 smaller shirts like tighter
2 padded bra
3 push up bra or
4tihgten your bra straps and buckle it one more time

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well i have never really done IT but im afraid too
i heard stuff like you bleed
it hurts
etc.


people think im lesbian because im to afraid to get sexual

and guys scare because there whores
at least around here
i mean once iget a boyfreind and trust him
sure
but im really scared



because when i do get one
im afraid because i have never really done any hardcore sexual things






WHAT DO I DO
this is really gross
but i have no one to turn for advice
its to embarrassing to ask someone in person

WELL YA u may bleed because you would be loseing your virginity and that is an actuly thing like that comes out so it bleeds. and the hurting part i am not completly sure but i would have to say it kinda hurts but it is like a sensation . kinda thing. kinda. any way hope i helped
Andie

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These is for all you girls :) How would you like to be aproched to,loke if a guy wants to hit on you on the street what would youlike him to say?

honostly some thing like HEY there.and it depends is it like a walk by hit on or a stop and chat hit on.so like be sudly kind of o hey wow ya know. like drop glances but make sure she sees some of them . ya know. be like hey and introduce yourself. be like i couldn't help but notices and then something about her like her eyes or smile . ya know something like that. hope i helped.
Andie

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Hey folks :D
I bet y'all are getting pretty excited since summer's soon, huh?
Hope you have time to answer this question in the midst of all your excitement though :)
haha

Here it goes; I'm in charge of this game we're gonna be playing tomorrow, so I figured I'd do some research for it, you know, fins out the best way of making it fun to play..

BUT, I'm having a blackout! I just forgot what the game is called xD so I can't search for it!

Haha, stupid, I know -- but will you help me figure out what the words is?

Alright the game is like, I think, I write a word or a situation, on two pieces of paper, because there are two teams..one person from each team goes up to the whiteboeard and tries to draw out what I've written, and the other team members try to guess it! What is that game called? I THOUGHT it was pictionary, but I searched it, and it was wrong..

so either way, know the game name, or not..have any tips? What can I rwite up that is easy, but not too easy..not to hard to draw, and still fun!

Any suggestion?
Thaaank you :)

CHerades(spelling)????
or chatagories maby?? ummm lets see
ummm charactry?

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Instead of Connie, what other nicknames could be used for Constance? That would be appealing to 15/f?

use your middle name or a nick name for you r middle name or, C, .... sry i am not much help

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Okey, here's the thing. I can't sing.
No really, not that I don't sing GOOD, it's just that I sing...really bad. Like, really.
It sounds awful. Not that I think anyone would make fun of me..but still, I need to ask this question.
I've always been the shy quiete girl. And I don't want to be anymore. I want to be seen as a happy & loud person! So my class is doing this kareoke thing, and I want to be happy 6 up for anything 6 justa fun loving girl..but I can't sing!
So is there any fun or cool way of saying no to singing in front of the class? If I just say no everyones going to be all "c'mon, don't be like that.." not that they're gonna pressure me, but I'm going to feel like the boring girl who doesn't know how to have fun.
So can I say it in a fun way and turn this to my advantage?
Or atleast in a cool way so people will keep talking to me,. or atleats find me interesting??
Thank you.

ya definitly make a joke out of it have fun with it people would not stop talking to you because of that thought . its just kareoke. any way hope i kinda helped
Andie

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A couple days ago, on myspace, I was on my friends page, and I saw this guy [one of his skater friends] and I thought he was hott and he lives in my town, and he's my age, so I figured I'd add him as a friend because there are good chances of us already knowing each other. Well it turned out to be one of my ex-boyfriends from a few years ago. You know. We dated when we were young. I was like 13-14 or something. Now I am 17 & He's 18. Well when we were together he liked me a lot and he was really sweet and everything. Like a perfect boyfriend, but we were young, so it really didn't matter. Well now we found out who each other is, and we can't believe we are talking again after these years have gone by. Well the problem is, I have been talking to him again for a couple of days and we talk on the phone and stuff, but he tells me how cute I am, and he brags about me, and he TELLS ME HE LOVES ME. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ignore him anymore, I just want to be friends because I have my most recent ex boyfriend whom I love very much and he just got a job for me and everything.

TELL HIM THAT tell him you wana be friends and you are glad yall meet back up and stuff and hope yall can be great friends and tell him like your situation it helps most of the time . ok hope i helped
Andie

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13/f
Ive noticed that in the past few days ive been crying all the time, and i dont know why, cos im happy, yesterday was great and its the half term so things are fun. But yesterday i was reading this book about two people in love and then they had this big emotional row and just because of that i started crying.
Then this morning i checked my email and there was this chain mail about how you dont realise how much you love your parents until theyre gone, which made a few tears come from my eyes. Then, i was just watching the streets new music video (where he sings about how he misses his father) and i almost cried.
I dont know why, as i hardly ever cry, why do i keep crying at all these little things?

lots of peopeldo its not that big a deal its just maby ifs been so longs since you have really cryed your body finds it good to cry ya know it helps with emotions so maby little things are letting off any stress you may have. hope i helped.
Andie

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My boyfriend and i were talking about him fingering me and me giving him a handjob...are we too young? i'm 13 and he's 14 and a lot of girls in my school have been fingered and have given handjobs..help!

well i know your gona want to her no but we kinda are but ya see i have done that the fingering thing not the hand job but other stuff so ya i guess if you ok with it and you are ready to do taht you can but think it threw first make shour you are ready

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ok this shirt i bought off of ebay arrived a few days ago but likee .. its smaller than the description said. and im really tall so when i move my hands anywhere above my waist it comes up. and theres a strict dress code in my school.

is there any possible way on the face of this earth i can stretch it or make it longer?

pin it to your pants or hmmm ok if you hanging it up on 2 things like atach each side to something els for a while it may strech

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=====THIS IS NOT SAS LONG AS IT SEEMS PLEASE READ!!!!!! I WILL RATE HIGH============

*names have been changed for damadge control by the advice seeker
note- ages of ALL girls is 14 and Bobby is also 14

. . .named *bobby*. He is best friends with Alyson ALSO MY best friend. We hated each other!! For the longest time. So Bobby goes out with jenny. Jenny befriends me and Alyson. So now we are all "friends" The whole school says they are "the cutest couple" and they LOVE each other. ALOT. they are perfect for each other. In the middle of their relationship Bobby goes too far with me, too much flirting goes on, but nothing happens further sicne he is going out w/ jenny. BAM! 5 monthes later they break up because jenny doesn't feel as strongly for bobby as she does before. more doors open. He flirts with me for like 3 weeks. ME and him ARE SO ALiKE. we always say things at the same time && think the same things.I can tell he likes me but SOMEONE OF COURSE HAS TO GET INT HE WAY . One of my friends Tyler (which EVEYRBODY thiNks is GAY) including Bobby, tells The girl BobbY Kissed @ the fair that Bobby doesn't remember kissing her. Bobby is furious. Bobby flirted w/ ME @ the fair but didnt kiss me because he thinks i want a kiss to mean soemthing BiG. Bobby doesn't kno who told Tyler. Two days later he finds out. BAM! what happens? Bobby's likeness for me decreases as rapidly as it started. I go over Bobby's hosue to hang out and Bobby says he LOVES this girl that he kissed @ the fair but people also think he is getting feelings for Jenny again. MEanwhile, this whole time, Alyson likes him too, MY BEST FRIWND. but he sure as heck doesnt like her (i kno this for a fact) I feel bad enough liking him too. but she said shes over him. Now, evrybody is confused and nobody knows who Bobby likes. I want him to like me. But
-Me
-Alyson
-Jenny
-the girl he kissed at the fair
like him. He said he doesnt give 2nd chances so automatically i am crossed out. So is jenny. He doesnt like anlyson./ Who is left? The girl from the fair! is this fair? ironically, i think NOT! Is there anything i can do to solve this situation? to help anybody! any gurl, just. . Help!

* i'll RAte High
sorry bout the spelling,

ok lets see. i dout he will date the jenny girl again and if your sure he doesn't like alyson and you want him to just put a good word or to in ever now and then abou ther when your talking to him and also you just drop somehints flirt, dress up a little more go placed a little with him maby he will become intersted the girl at the fair well if ya don't know her then ya can't do anything about it. thats his call
hope i helped
ANDIE

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i have a wart on my leg. i have heard that putting duct tape on it helps or something. is this true? by the way, i am 15/f and i already have a doctor's appointment for this so don't tell me to go to the doctor.

i don't nkow about the ducktape i have heared that 2 but i had worts all over my hands any way i went to cvs and hot the at home freez off thing and the are all gone but one that is coming back well actualy new but it works great and doesn't hurt i did not even use it the correct way so tryit i am sure it will work . hope i helped.
Andie

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13/m ok well my gf was at this party and she was cold and went to sit next to this guy who she has known since she was born (btw i wasnt at party with her) anyways she was cold and he said come sit next to me ill warm you up and so she did and she went over sat next to him and he asked do u wanna kiss and she said ok not thinking and they madeout....and me and her only madeout 1 time and she makeout with him 5 times in a row like stopped and did it again 5 times then they stopped then he grabbed her hand and like made her give him a handjob....well....she felt REALLY bad after it remembering me and everything and she told me and told me she was REALLY sry and she thinks shes a whore and i should break up with her but i love her to much and i made her swear never to do it again as long as we were going out and she agreed and so now i dont know what to do!!!
should i break up with the love of my life cause she made a HUGE mistake?
but she told me instead of keeping it a secrete and i donno!!!
HELP PLEASE!!!!

ok listen i am 14 a girl and here is the deal she told you she aparently cares about you and respecst you in a way that most girls don't respect guys. she wants you to know that she is sorry and it like was a spirt of the moment thing. she cares about you or she would not have toldyou and i know how she fells about the slut thing she really does if she calles her selfthat then that is what she thinks of herself baskicly puttingherslef down for you showing you have like her hart and stuff i would forgive her and just make things better helpher trust herself again.
hope i helped
Andie

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are there significant meanings in the way a guys honds your hands.. like if he always wants to have interlacing fingers ...doesn that mean something ?

and is there amy sites that cant tell you the meanings of this stuff...like he always kisses my neck..what does that mean ?

thanks !!

by the way im 16 female
thanks
ill rate for good answers!

here is a site with different type of kisses
http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/kisstypes.shtml


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Hey everyone. Just a heads up, this might be somewhat long! Ok, well me and my ex-boyfriend (first love) started going out on 10/12/04. Well, on 8/11/05 he broke up with me. Didn't give me reasons, out of the blue, and i said w/e and went on with my life. I had feeligns for him still and we stopeed talking. He went out with this girl named Linden, i got mad and went with a boy named Tyler, and both couples broke up in about a month. Well, near the end of October, me and my ex-boyfriend started getting cool again and we became more of friends with benefits. Suddenly, my 1st friend decided to stab me in the back and go and flirt with him and make out with him in my face, so me and my ex stopped talking again. Well, then we started talking again around the end of December and go real good again, friends with benefits and all that stuff, then a second friend did the same thing pretty much the first one did. Now shes telling me, he never liked me, he wants to get with her, and we broke upa while ago so get over him, and yea... so now i dont talk 2 her and my ex is mad at me for not talking to her. Well, i guess my question is, what should i say to him or how should i handle this situation? it really is none of his business, but i still have strong feelings for him. The second question i have is that I get mad when he flirts with other girls, and he gets mad at me when i flirt with other guys. So, that means he still has feelings for me to right?!? Some of this may be obvious to you, but my ex doesnt like to share feelings, thats why i am not sure. thanks a lot, 1 for answering, and 2 for reading it all!!!

like i think you shoiuld sit down with your girls and talk to them and be like if yall like him tell me but don't do what you did its not right like its selfish and rude and i love ya as friend of corce but like i don't want a guy getting between us we are friends rember stuff liek that and for the guy talk to him be like you are mad at me for being mad at my friend for flirt ing with you and stuff but you do the same thing bla bla bla but say it in a nice way or he will not want to talk hope i helped.
Andie

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OK im a 14 year old girl. I November my gramma died, and a week later my parents got a divorce. I have an older sister who is perfect and gets awesome grades and is really pretty and popular. Like it isnt hard enough just being a freshman in high school, i have all of this to deal with. I have always felt like im stuck in the shadow of my sister. I was especially close to my gramma, and i still am afraid to accept the fact that shes gone. My parents getting a divorce has been really hard, because i was really close to my dad, and now he doesnt live with me. It just seems like this is all building up, so im really moody. Everyone tells me i need to talk to someone, because hiding isnt good. But i dont feel like there is anyone in the world who can understand what I'm going through. It seems like i cant relate to anybody. What should I do? Do i really need to talk to someone?

PS-I am a very good Catholic, so i believe in God and pray to him, and i am at church all the time. But i dont even feel close to God anymore.

ya defenintaly talk to some one that always helps well most of the time my papa past away last year
on the last day of school when i gave a presintaion about him for spanish i still started to cry this year it never goes away just get some what better just have atleast one person you can talk to hope i helped
Andie

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so my boyfriend who is really afectionate never calls. he used to call, but ever since we started going out he has stoped. i no he stil likes me but i feel liek i dont ahve a boyfriend because he never makes much of an effort to contact me. so anyadvice on what i shoudl do or why he is doing this.
and yes i no hes buisy, but it doesnt take much time to quickly check p on someone if u really care for them

ok you see i know guys i have lots of guy friends and a boyfriend and i know exactly how you feel. you see most guys are scared to call if there you boyfriend like they want to but they don't know what to say . here are some of the things that run threw a guys phone before you answer before the even dial. what if i dial the wrong # should i try again and cheack the # what if her mom answers as he is looking for your # what if she askes me if i have her # memorized should i say yes or the truth he finds your # i reallly want to call her but what do i say hello hi what ^ hey baby what what if i say hey baby and its her mom or her sister what if she is not home do i leave a message ok well i will juust cal and see what happens he dials the number it ring and rings i don't think she is home but what if i hang up rigth when she picks up what if she is out of town it ring it rings finaly it stops ringin they say the first thing that comes to mind eather HELLO or hello softly or hey or is ____ there. its you they are relieved for a second what do i say what do we talk about. you see they wory about the same things we do just somtimes not as much some times more try callin him a couple of days in a row then say hey call me tomorrow or later tonight ok then ask if he knows your # if he does or doesn't still give it to him and then go from ther ehope i helped.
Andie sry its so long

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I have had this boyfriend for a little ovr two months. He is really very obsessive with me and I haven't liked him as more than friends for about a month. Our school dance is coming up soon and he has told me that he wants to kiss me. It would be not only my first kiss but his first kiss also. He is not that great looking but he is really nice and really sweet. i want to stay friends so i can still talk to him on the phone and stuff and have a fun time when hanging out with him but I don't want to be boyfriend gilfriend anymore. He is so obsessive about me that he has even talked about marriage eventually! I'm in midddle school! When he said things like "I can't live without you" I said "Oh I seriously doubt that." Should I break up with ihm or give him yet another chance. If I give him another chance what should I do and should I tell him what i'm feeling? If so, hwo do I tell him that i like him as just a friend and I don't want to be anything more than that for now. Though I might want to get back together in the future. Thanks a bunch!

ok if you really don't like him like that anymore i would let him down slowly like little by little but first tell him what you are feelin like i don't want to kiss yet i am not comfortable with you sayin i love you so much and stuff or you can have a close friend helpo you out with doing this maby even another guy friend like hey dude she seems a little liek distent when you do some of that stuff it looks like to me she wants you to back off a little or what everbut some how you hneed to get that to him and into his head and get it to stay there. also like tell him if he still is not meating the standers or whatever tell him that like youjust want to be friends but with semi benifits. like really close friend best friend kinda thing like to dance talk on the phone hang out outside of school and stuff. hope i helped if you need any thing els you know were to fine me.
Andie

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16/f


i really want a baby really bad. like i dont want one for "love" like most of those other girls out there but i think i can really do it and raise a child. ive been having dreams for monthes and ive wanted a baby since i was little but down its been driving over the edge. every night i dream about being pregnant and i want it to be real so badly! im not worried about the money or anything like that but mostly how my parents will react. i think i can haddle it and my parents say i am always great with children and i really feel like god wants me to do this or something.

what should i do?


ps i have no man and the father just wont be anyone so im def gonna wait till i atleast find someone but i have to have a baby in hs

well just wait sooner or later you will find the right guy the guy of your dreams and some one you love. then when yall are ready both of yall. then you can try for a baby. and get married. hope i helped. sry i can't do any better.
Andie

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