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im scared to get sexual
well i have never really done IT but im afraid too
i heard stuff like you bleed
it hurts
etc.
people think im lesbian because im to afraid to get sexual
and guys scare because there whores
at least around here
i mean once iget a boyfreind and trust him
sure
but im really scared
because when i do get one
im afraid because i have never really done any hardcore sexual things
WHAT DO I DO
this is really gross
but i have no one to turn for advice
its to embarrassing to ask someone in person
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Well it hurts and you bleed depending on your body. If you are sensitive to pain you probably are more likely to think it hurts, and it also depends on the guys size. I didnt bleed that much, and it was just a little, after the fact.
IF the guys scare you b.c there whores, then dont have sex with the whores, theyll just make you feel like crap. I know, cause the guys in my town are the same way. Find someone you truely trust and he'll accept you and you;l feel comfortable with him and you;ll know when its "right".
When you eventually do get to "do it" just go with the flow. I didnt know much of anything really before i lost my virginity but then i just went with the flow and it was okay, and now i'm "better" at it i guess you can say..You are just starting out so noone expects you to be a pro...."just go with the flow and thats all you need to know".......good luck!!
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you do not have to do anything you don't want to do because sex is a very serious thing.
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WELL YA u may bleed because you would be loseing your virginity and that is an actuly thing like that comes out so it bleeds. and the hurting part i am not completly sure but i would have to say it kinda hurts but it is like a sensation . kinda thing. kinda. any way hope i helped
Andie
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listen i know ll these things your thinking in your head....wel it all depends on if your ready....first off dont worry about it hurting becuse it hurts but feels good too....and whether you go alll the way tomorow or in 10 years its gonna feel how its gonna feel....i never bled but when he first put it in it did hurt....but its okay and it feels good...just use a condom!!@! let me guess your worrying about the sounds to make the faces blah blah blah well heres some GREAT advice GO WITH THE FLOW!!! if a noise comes out let it!!! if u make a face MAKE IT!! dont worry mayne boys want the feeling and trust me theyll get it whether you make faces,noises, or not! anyways in the position category man let him handle that!!!! your a ROOKIE at sex no offense so am i i mean im a starter and wen u have it ull be too!!! if he moves you in a position OK watever floats his boat right?! well watair hope i helped and man dont even worry bout nothing like i said GO WITH THE FLOW god bless you
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First off, all of your worries & questions are going to be put in the order that they were asked. :]
1. "Well I have never really done IT but i'm afraid to. I heard stuff like you bleed, it hurts, etc."
I hate to break it to you darling, but it hurts like hell! And yes, some people bleed, but not all of them. It depends on your size & how you react to pain really. But if you are in the least bit scared, do not rush into it. Wait! Because obviousl you aren't ready.
2. "People think i'm a lesbian because i'm to afraid to get sexual."
This is bullshit! No one should judge you like this, just because you aren't ready to have sex. It's just so stupid. Do not listen to them, please. Do not let immature idiots get to you. I'm not sure how old you are, but you know? Age isn't even an issue here. If you aren't ready to have sex, tell them to back the hell off. I'm sorry, but this just really bothers me. I hate retards. :p
3. "And guys scare me because they're whores. At least around here. I mean, once I get a boyfreind and trust him, sure. But i'm really scared. Because when I do get one, i'm afraid. Because I have never really done any hardcore sexual things."
If you are scared, do not do it. If you get a boyfriend & feel you are ready, then go for it ;) But seriously, if you are having even the slightest little doubts, & you are scared, then just don't do it. You will end up regretting it.
Ahh. Good luck
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You're sweating over thoughts that shouldn't be crossing your mind yet. You've implied that you don't have a boyfriend, so I think you should rest easy until the time actually comes when you're ready to have sex.
I know these thoughts you're having and the fear you have can't really be stopped because of the constant thoughts of others around you, but sex is a huge part of life that can easy change your life in the biggest ways possible. It's so huge that you can't afford to care what other people think of your sex life or lack there of. If you have sex just because everyone thinks you're a lesbian, then you might be doing more than just proving that you aren't, you can get pregnant or contract a sexually transmitted disease.
My point is that you should worry about sex when you actually have a boyfriend and you begin thinking about having it. Besides, if you have a great boyfriend that will listen to your fears and slow down with you at your pace when it comes to sex, then those fears won't be as bad for you. But never try to rush yourself into getting a boyfriend and having sex to prove your sexuality or prove anything for that matter. You can be smart and have sex for the right reasons unlike everyone else that even cares to look into your personal life and judge you.
If your fear is bad enough, then before you have sex you should get tested for any diseases and let them know your concerns of the pain involved or bleeding. If anyone wants to answer your questions and keep you safe, it's probably a doctor.
-TheTeenGirl
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alright, my advice to you is, do it when YOUR ready. the first time for a girl will her like holy hell and it is common to bleed some after you do it the first time after the first time itll get easier.if you dont want to do anything hardcore sexual then dont,if a guy really cares about you he wont presure you.just ease into things try not to let them rush jus some touching and what not.hope i helped. laters
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hey i think you just answered your own question.
When a a girl trusts a guy and is sure that he is the one you want your first sex to be with and you have no doubts then HE IS THE ONE but if you want to do it just cause some people or even your friends think you are a lessbian or just to prove something then dont do it cause you will surly regret it. Remember it doesnt matter what anyone thinks you know you are not a lessbian (not that its a bad thing) and if you feel that you are not ready and you want to wait then isnt it better to wait and do it when you are sure and have no doubts that he is the one. Dont worry listen to your heart if its doubting then dont do it but the decission is yours and your only.
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People think you're a lesbian because you don't have sex? How lame is that. Seriously, don't think it's uncommon for girls to be scared to have sex. I'm not "scared" or such, but I'm still a virgin & I'm waiting until marriage.
A lot of girls are scared their first time, especially because it hurts. But, usually you'll do something like oral beforehand, so it won't hurt AS much. Plus, you'll be doing it with a guy who really cares about you and he'll do anything to make you feel completely comfortable. If it hurts soo much then he'll stop & you can try it again another time. That's what happens most of the time when it comes to having sex for the first time. :]
-aMy.
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Don't be embarrassed to talk to anyone about this. That is absolutely bull crap that people think your a lesbian because your afraid to get sexual. If you don't want to get sexual with anyone, then you absolutely do not have to! How old are you? 15- 19? When you get a boyfriend, you don't need to have sex with him. Because others are does not mean you have to. I'm not an expert when it comes to sex. Considering, i've never had sex before, but, from other advicenators, and looking up advice for people who ask about sex, you don't always bleed, and it doesn't always hurt. You need to make sure you find the guy for you before you go off and have sex. Seems like theres a lot of assholes in your school. So, better make sure who you can trust. Your better off waiting till your older. The people in your school who are all having sex are just plain stupid. They probably think that having sex is mature, when its not, exspecially at there age. Your the mature one because your worried about it, and not just going off doing it.Good Luck hun. Hope I helped. And, dont do anything your not comfortable with.
-Brina
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