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feelings building up inside
OK im a 14 year old girl. I November my gramma died, and a week later my parents got a divorce. I have an older sister who is perfect and gets awesome grades and is really pretty and popular. Like it isnt hard enough just being a freshman in high school, i have all of this to deal with. I have always felt like im stuck in the shadow of my sister. I was especially close to my gramma, and i still am afraid to accept the fact that shes gone. My parents getting a divorce has been really hard, because i was really close to my dad, and now he doesnt live with me. It just seems like this is all building up, so im really moody. Everyone tells me i need to talk to someone, because hiding isnt good. But i dont feel like there is anyone in the world who can understand what I'm going through. It seems like i cant relate to anybody. What should I do? Do i really need to talk to someone?
PS-I am a very good Catholic, so i believe in God and pray to him, and i am at church all the time. But i dont even feel close to God anymore.
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hey, i can't really say anything more than what other people have answered already, but you really will feel better if you had a good talk with someone about it. Find a friend, couselor, or someone at your church you can talk to. or maybe you can phone you dad and let him listen to how you feel. you have a strong belief, so you know you can pray for help and strength. You can see from people that answered and people in your life that theres those that can understand what youre going through, and care about how you feel. remember, you're never alone.
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sometimes relating with someone does not make you feel better. what you need is to start doing more activities and making a lot of friends. go out with your friends and try new things. its hard to get accustomed to change, so it might be tough at first. after a while you will be so interested in your friends and other activities that it wont bother you as much anymore. just no that you are not alone. and even though your sister is "perfect" in your eyes, you should find a new sport or activity that you are especially good at and im sure u will get to be better at that than her.. then you already have one thing that you can call yours and ppl are proud of you for it.
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I am a Methodist Christian and I understand how you don't feel close to God anymore. However, when times get tough, it's important to intrust God more than ever.
High School goes by really fast. It just got faster every year. It also got easier every year too.
Think about it this way, when you go off to college, it won't matter if they're together or apart.
It might sound strange now, but college is closer than you think. You'll be ready for it sooner than you might believe. Even though High School goes by quickly, you do a lot of changing.
As far as being stuck in the shadow of your sister, try to find something you like that doesn't involve her. Photography, diving, Karate, ect. There are many things to accel at and you just need to find your strength.
I know what it's like to lose a Grandma and I hope everything goes OK. Message me if you need anything.
Oh yeah, don't forget not to kill yourself. ;) Suicide is a sin and you shouldn't play god. :)
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yes you need to talk to someone, but not just anyone. You need someone who you confide it and you feel comfortable to be around, or you`ll never get the feedback you want. I`m sorry about your grandmother, but thats the way life is we grow to love people and they hold speical places in our hearts, and when they pass on we go through a series of emotions, first shock, anger because there not comming back, and then acceptance because you realize god needer her and now shes in a better place, looking down and watching over you. Divorice is always a tough aspect of life that affects many people. I wouldnt be able to relate to what your going through, but just know that things will eventually work out for the better. Try and talk to your dad and spend more time with him, that speical bond will come back in time. And about your sister, we will always envy people thats what we do, believe it or not everyone in this world envys someone. Your sister may be popular and pretty and seem to have the best of everything, but remember shes your sister, not your enemy. Try to talk and hang out with her, be sisters. There will be times when you feel like your not good enough, but every single person in this world feels that at some point or another. There are people in this world that love and care about you, let them help you. you shouldnt have to suffer alone.
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ya defenintaly talk to some one that always helps well most of the time my papa past away last year
on the last day of school when i gave a presintaion about him for spanish i still started to cry this year it never goes away just get some what better just have atleast one person you can talk to hope i helped
Andie
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Believe me, I'm pretty much going through the exact same thing, except with the whole divorce thing. My great grandma recently died, i'm doing crappy in school and everyone is just nagging me to do better. They tell me to talk to someone. But, back to you. It is always good to get your feelings out to someone. If you dont feel comfortable talking to someone then dont. Maybe you have a friend that you could talk to or a guidence counselor. I think it would be best to talk to someone, without your parents knowing, so that they dont have to make a big deal about it. Good Luck.
-Brina
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I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this right now. Like the others, I would suggest talking to someone about it. Have you considered talking to your spiritual leader or a school counselor? If you don't feel comfortable talking to someone, I would recommend getting a journal and writing down your feelings. It helps to get the feelings out, whether you're talking or writing.
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