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betraying friends and an ex-boyfriend
Hey everyone. Just a heads up, this might be somewhat long! Ok, well me and my ex-boyfriend (first love) started going out on 10/12/04. Well, on 8/11/05 he broke up with me. Didn't give me reasons, out of the blue, and i said w/e and went on with my life. I had feeligns for him still and we stopeed talking. He went out with this girl named Linden, i got mad and went with a boy named Tyler, and both couples broke up in about a month. Well, near the end of October, me and my ex-boyfriend started getting cool again and we became more of friends with benefits. Suddenly, my 1st friend decided to stab me in the back and go and flirt with him and make out with him in my face, so me and my ex stopped talking again. Well, then we started talking again around the end of December and go real good again, friends with benefits and all that stuff, then a second friend did the same thing pretty much the first one did. Now shes telling me, he never liked me, he wants to get with her, and we broke upa while ago so get over him, and yea... so now i dont talk 2 her and my ex is mad at me for not talking to her. Well, i guess my question is, what should i say to him or how should i handle this situation? it really is none of his business, but i still have strong feelings for him. The second question i have is that I get mad when he flirts with other girls, and he gets mad at me when i flirt with other guys. So, that means he still has feelings for me to right?!? Some of this may be obvious to you, but my ex doesnt like to share feelings, thats why i am not sure. thanks a lot, 1 for answering, and 2 for reading it all!!!
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The girls aren't good friends.
You need to talk to your ex. He needs to either start dating you again or forget the benefits.
He will not date you exclusively if he gets plenty of benefits for nothing. As it stands right now he is free (and so are you) to go out with any other girl he wants. If he doesn't want to be exclusive, then don't give him the benefits that go along with an exclusive relationship.
He may get mad only because if you get yourself a new guy he is out benefits. Sorry to harp on it but the friends with benefits thing causes so many problems.
You have to make him talk to you about what he is really feeling for you. You may just have to tell him if he won't talk to you then its over. He will either share or be alone.
I hope you can get him to talk and that it all works out in your favor. :)
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The way I see it,neither of them are your friends. Your boyfriend is a jerk and ur friend is a ...not really ur friend. he probably broke up with you to leave her but neither of them wnated to seem like backstabbers. at this point they're basically saying 'fuck her, we wanna be with each other. fuck her feelings" that's basically what they're saying. So i think you should just loose their numbers and forget about them before they hurt you again.
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well first of all if they were your real friends they wouldnt be trying to get with you exboyfriend. especially if they know how you feel about him. your ex is probably mad that your not talking to her cause he knows that you were friends and if he does still have feelings for you, which looks like he does, then he probably just wants you to be happy and stuff. he gets mad when you flirt with other guys because he still has feelings for you and its the same thing for you. but there is also a chance that he might still have feelings for you and not want to go back out with you. alot of guys dont know what they want, and if he truly did love you when you were going out and didnt give you a reason when you broke up, he was probably just scared and is probably just dating other girls to get over you. ive been in a similar situation as you, and waiting for the guy will be one of the biggest mistakes.. and youll learn that later if things dont go your way. i think what you need to do, is sit him down somewhere or get him on the phone or something and talk to him about it. tell him how you feel, and tell him that you dont appreciate him doing stuff with you and then dating your friends, and flat out tell him that if he wants you he needs to do something about it now and that if he doesnt your gone. and if you doesnt chose you then hes just a stupid guy and he'll have to live with that for the rest of his life..
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if he gets jealous just like you then he must like you. thats the good thing, and your friends obviously were bitches, plain and simple, if they would do that to you. i think you should tell him how you feel. you have nothing to lose, because you seem to stop talking and then talk again so you dont have to worry about never talking again. if he keeps coming back to you then there must be a connection. hope i helped
ps. it wasnt too long to read =P haha
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What you have to do is be honest with your ex bf.Tell him that you still have those little feelings for him and you hate it when he does that stuff with other girls.And for the girl who stabbed you in the back she is a bitch I don't know any other way to say it.Your in love with this guy and she just buts in..umm hello she is dumb.Don't worry I know if you talk to him everything will be better.♥
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You should tell you ex bf that you still have feeling for him, it seems he feels the same way for you. You need to talk to your friends and ask them why they did what they did. Tell your ex bf that you don't like it when he kisses other girls expically right in front of you. You just really need to let it all out. Good luck write to my inbox for more advice. xoBrowneyes
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like i think you shoiuld sit down with your girls and talk to them and be like if yall like him tell me but don't do what you did its not right like its selfish and rude and i love ya as friend of corce but like i don't want a guy getting between us we are friends rember stuff liek that and for the guy talk to him be like you are mad at me for being mad at my friend for flirt ing with you and stuff but you do the same thing bla bla bla but say it in a nice way or he will not want to talk hope i helped.
Andie
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