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Ex Boyfriend
A couple days ago, on myspace, I was on my friends page, and I saw this guy [one of his skater friends] and I thought he was hott and he lives in my town, and he's my age, so I figured I'd add him as a friend because there are good chances of us already knowing each other. Well it turned out to be one of my ex-boyfriends from a few years ago. You know. We dated when we were young. I was like 13-14 or something. Now I am 17 & He's 18. Well when we were together he liked me a lot and he was really sweet and everything. Like a perfect boyfriend, but we were young, so it really didn't matter. Well now we found out who each other is, and we can't believe we are talking again after these years have gone by. Well the problem is, I have been talking to him again for a couple of days and we talk on the phone and stuff, but he tells me how cute I am, and he brags about me, and he TELLS ME HE LOVES ME. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ignore him anymore, I just want to be friends because I have my most recent ex boyfriend whom I love very much and he just got a job for me and everything.
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tell him that that was a long time ago and that youre in love with someone eles and that you just want to stay freinds...you have to tell him if you dont then itll get bigger and youll be running away from a problem thatll lead you to a dead end in the end.
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well. if you just want to be friends with him just tell him. i mean don't be like "i dont' like you anymore i just want to be friends" because that would be very rude. but i advice you to say it in a way he would understand and not have a nervous break down. be like "i had feelings about you back then but i don't have them now. i just wanna be close friends" something like that.but don't use my exact words. ok..good luck! hope he understands
-.christina*
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If you want this guy to realize that you only want to be friends, then first of let him know verbally. Tell up up front that you are still in love with another guy from the past so you aren't ready to be in a relationship with anyone due to these feelings.
Secondly, have bounderies. Don't lead him on when you both talk on the phone. Don't say anything that will make him think you want more. Now, seeing as you've just been out of a relationship, you probably are feeling vulnerable. Usually when you feel vulnerable, you tend to take any guy who is willing to talk to you or take care of you. You might even convince yourself that you like this guy when really it's just you feeling lonely.
Besides, this guy isn't in love with you. I promise. He might have strong feelings for you, but it's not love and he may think it's all love or fate because you both were once in a relationship young. Which can feel special when you have a past together so he's probably feeling overwhelmed with the history and being reunited, so don't let him stop you from letting him know that you don't want anything more with him.
-TheTeenGirl
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let everything off your chest. tell him how you feel. that's really all i can say. he'll understand. i promise. you have my word.
♥ hope i helped
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TELL HIM THAT tell him you wana be friends and you are glad yall meet back up and stuff and hope yall can be great friends and tell him like your situation it helps most of the time . ok hope i helped
Andie
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Tell this guy how you feel and im sure hell understand
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If there are no feelings for this guy on your end, then you shouldn't feel bound to return any feelings that he may have. Simply tell him that you just want to be his friend. There are two ways that he'll take it: the good way where he respects you and the bad way where he gets mad because it was a blow to his ego. Don't mean to be rude, but those are pretty much the only ways guys take news like that.
But what's this about you still loving your "ex"? Perhaps this guy is going for you because he thinks tht you're not attached to anyone at the moment?
Be strong, and don't fear being frank with a guy.
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