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gf cheated should i break up?
13/m ok well my gf was at this party and she was cold and went to sit next to this guy who she has known since she was born (btw i wasnt at party with her) anyways she was cold and he said come sit next to me ill warm you up and so she did and she went over sat next to him and he asked do u wanna kiss and she said ok not thinking and they madeout....and me and her only madeout 1 time and she makeout with him 5 times in a row like stopped and did it again 5 times then they stopped then he grabbed her hand and like made her give him a handjob....well....she felt REALLY bad after it remembering me and everything and she told me and told me she was REALLY sry and she thinks shes a whore and i should break up with her but i love her to much and i made her swear never to do it again as long as we were going out and she agreed and so now i dont know what to do!!!
should i break up with the love of my life cause she made a HUGE mistake?
but she told me instead of keeping it a secrete and i donno!!!
HELP PLEASE!!!!
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You say she felt bad and remembered you aftewards. Uh, hello? She shouldn't have done it in the first place!! How could she just forget about you like that?
You say she did it 5 times AND gave him a handjob. If she had only kissed him once, maybe that'd be forgiveable. But 5 times?!
What she did was wrong, plain and simple. Yeah, it's good she told you, but maybe she just told you so you didn't find out from anybody else (which you probably would've) I personally wouldn't stand for this. She KNEW what she was doing and wanted to do it at the time. She should've stopped after the first time.
You're 13, there'll be plenty more girls in your life. She won't be the "love of your life" I can guarantee you that.
Ultimately it's up to you. If it were me, I wouldn't give them another chance. I take cheating very seriously. I reckon that if someone cheats on you, it means they're not dedicated to you at all. If they have the potential to do it once, what's to say they wouldn't do it again?
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I know you love her, but that is bullshit, she should of pulled back from the first kiss. She doesn't seam to feel as strongly for you as you do for her. I would move on, save yourself from a heartache. I am extremely sorry buddy!
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Hello there,
I thought you might want a male perspective on this since all the other answers were female.
First: Doing something 5 times in the same evening is NOT an accident.
She did it because she wanted to. When she feels horny again, she will cheat on you again.
Secondly, if this happened at a party... the odds are he did NOT MAKE her give him a hand-job.
Any kind of sexual contact that is against her will is RAPE.
You really want the truth? Do this:
Tell her that you want to see the guy in jail for raping her at the party. Since she told you that he MADE her.
If she says that she doesn't want to see him get in trouble... she lied to you about what they did.
If she gets all weird and nervous when you do this, the odds are she is lying to you.
Now, there is one thing that you might not have considered:
Perhaps she wants to be with this other guy, but doesn't want to be the one to break up with you. So she has sex with this guy, HOPING you will dump her when she tells you about it.
Most guys would dump her. 5 times in one night and then says:
"Oops! I forgot about you and only remembered after I did this other guy FIVE TIMES."
... I would definitely dump her.
If you don't... you will pay for it again later.
Once a cheater, always a cheater is a common saying.
While I believe that it is possible for someone to change their ways... someone who acts like this at 13 is in no way someone you will be able to count on for the rest of your life.
Imagine later in life... how much more will it hurt when she pulls this "Ooops!" crap at 35, when you have children?
Children that you will have to explain to about their mother being a whore.
Imagine having to explain to your children, that you knew she was a whore since you were 13 years old, but still put up with her.
You are 13 years old. At 13 it is hard to look into the future and see the results of what you do today. I know that. Been there.
Take it from someone who has already seen this:
Either dump her right away, or tell her you want to take time apart.
If you take time apart... see how you feel about her in a year.
I know a year seems like a long time, but it is better than finding out later that you are dying from a disease she picked up while cheating on you. :-(
One more thing to consider:
Girls have a game they play. They will do something REALLY terrible... then tell you they did something not quite as bad, just to see how you react.
Depending on how you react, you may hear more, or not.
If she admitted to doing this guy 5 times in a night, I would be scared to death to find out what really happened.
Just a thought.
Good luck.
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i think she did the rite desision of telling the truth and i think you should stay together a while longer and if she does it again then break up!! AbBeY!!
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i know it might not be what you want to hear, but if she forgot about you while she was at the party, i doubt she thinks of you as "THE LOVE OF YUOR LIFE". how could she just remember about you after she did all that? she knew what she was doing the whole time. and i bet she just waznted to have fun at the party. you can either forgive her, and dont break up, but never fully gain your trust back with her. or take a break, and see if she keeps liking you after that. because you cant fall out of love, you were just never in it.
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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You're 13.
If she really liked you. She wouldn't have done such a thing. But since she has told you... it's a nice thing to do but you don't have to trust her or anything until she proves it to you.
But once she does it again, I say break up.
Don't let someone hurt you.
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okay honestly your 13.
And your guys shouldnt be off making out, giving hand jobs, that is whorish on her behalf.
You should break up with her, I think you both are far too young to be doing anything like that anyways, she cant possibly be the love of your life at age 13. I'm almost positive.
I would just chill out though.
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ok listen i am 14 a girl and here is the deal she told you she aparently cares about you and respecst you in a way that most girls don't respect guys. she wants you to know that she is sorry and it like was a spirt of the moment thing. she cares about you or she would not have toldyou and i know how she fells about the slut thing she really does if she calles her selfthat then that is what she thinks of herself baskicly puttingherslef down for you showing you have like her hart and stuff i would forgive her and just make things better helpher trust herself again.
hope i helped
Andie
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