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Does taking pills and getting really drunk, while over a bridge sounds like a good idea to kill myself? I have two options drown or die from the drug over does. I know that I have a mental health issue (depression. I have asked for help and have been take antidepressents. They somewat help. I also learned that I have another mental health issue that came with the depression.....Socail axiety. Everyday I feel like their is no point to my life. I have a good job, good family, but I have no meaning/nothing.

Don't settle for a meaningless life, get help for your depression (and make sure that they're really helping.) Jess pointed out some great things about life, and the way you live right now is not what I call a "life".
If you give it the chance, and work hard to combat your awful depression, one day you're going to be really happy again. I am talking from experience. I used to feel like you a few months ago, only I couldn't decide between overdosing and jumping off from a building. Today it makes me cry to think that I wanted to kill myself, because slowly but surely, my life is turning out awesome. You do not deserve to die! You deserve to have the most meaningful, incredible life possible. Do you really want to cut your life short, or do you want everything to work out for you?
Both overdosing and drowning are extremely painful deaths, and every single one of my friends who've overdosed have really regretted it. It's not you that wants to commit suicide, it's the wish of the animal that has taken you captive. Don't surrender! Dig deep in your heart, and tell yourself that there's hope. There are lots of people out there who really care about you, including me.
You can visit my website www.survivethesuicideurge.org for more great tips on how to survive the urge, or call 1800 SUICIDE (784 2477) or 1800 273 TALK (8255), and let us help you. You do not deserve to live with this pain, and it's impossible to deal with it alone.
With the RIGHT help, it is possible to survive this and be happy again.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to e-mail me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com if you have any further questions.

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i'm 13 and i was with this guy around 3 months, the first month at a party we went off together and he fingered me and i gave him a hand job, then after than night mostly everytime we met up we done something. is this bad? he did ask me to have sex with him but i said no. everyone found out about what we done and now people call me a slag-_- am i really that bad??

The people that call you that are cheap lowlifes. It's good that you stood up for yourself and didn't have sex. You are too young for that. Good luck :)

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I am 16 and I have many issues but I think I am a slut I have had sex with 4 guys but they were only one night stands I suck dick all the time and have had 2 pregnancy scares. I go out with a new guy every night and they are always much older than me(18, 19, and 20) I dress in revealing clothes, send a lot of dirty pictures and sext, I party and get high with multiple guys.Currently Im talking to 11 guys and 4 of them are my "boyfriends"...... I am a player and I've had some StDs also I have belly button piercing and a tattoo on my hip leading down to my vaginal area.... am I slut?????????????????

You are definitely a slut, but it looks like you're trying to change that, so that's good. It's very dangerous what you're doing, so I hope you get checked out by a doctor. Good luck, I hope you work things out ;)

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Hi i recently had sex with my bf but we used protection n were very careful ... but the thing is .. we had sex when my periods were due ... but they have come yet ... which freaked me out so i started doing aggressive exercise ... like running and with a personal trainer n still the periods r not here yet .. i dont have any breast pain nor do i feel sick ... we talked bout it but he said that nothing happened ... n i know the more stress i take the likely it will get postpones and hence m trying to stay cool bout it .. but i still need ur advice .. wat do u think? it has been about 10 days since the last time i had sex .. pls help

Periods are late sometimes, it's normal. Relax; you most probably aren't pregnant. If you're freaked out, take a pregnancy test. Good luck :)

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Hello

I am in a very scary situation right now. And I'm just trying to reach out. I met this guy on mubi.com which is a social networking site for people who likes movies.

He seemed super cool and I really liked him at first but then slowly he started getting more weird. I found out he was doing drugs, and the more i distanced myself from him the crazier he started to act.

(I also need to mention that he is from the states and I live in Canada)

I stopped talking to him completely in January. I blocked him on all social networking sites. He would make new fake profiles and send me these scary crazy messages saying how much he was in love with me and that he was coming for me. That he was hearing voices telling him I was his soulmate and how we're gonna have a kid together and he just knows it. Despite me telling him over and over again to leave me alone and that I wasn't interested he kept on harrassing me.

He is a complete psycho. I think he might be psychiztophrenic.

On wednesday at 4:30 pm I recieved an e-mail from him saying that he had driven to vancouver from the newyork to come and surprise and they didn't allow him to enter (for reasons I don't know yet). He said he was gonna come to my house and surprise me. He asked me how I felt about that, and that he was gonna try again the next day.

It was one of the most surreal and scary moments of my life. Knowing he knows where i live and he was coming to 'surprise' me.

I was kind of paranoid that this would happen before it did because he had made a blog just for me. Directing everything at me. Sometimes threatening.

I e-mailed him back and said that I was calling the police.

I called the police and I went down to the station and filled out a police report and talked to the officer for 40 minutes.

I didn't have enough proof to make him understand how crazy he really was. I just took a copy of the e-mail he had sent me.

The officer said he would call them at the border to let them know whats going on. and he said he would e-mail him to hear 'his side of the story' which was kind of disheartening.

I went to stay at my aunt's that night because I was terrified. He kept on e-mailing me that night saying things like 'come on you fraidy cat, what am I gonna bite you?'

I was having severely anxiety that night and couldn't stop shaking. I e-mailed him again and told him that I wanted to nothing to do with him again and he emailed me back and said hat he was gonna go back and to tell the police officer to back off...

The next day I got a call from the border saying that he was there again with a new story. And they asked me if I wanted him there and that he had told them I was his gf and he was going to suprise me.

They said he's been flagged and he won't be allowed in again. Even if he tries to fly in he would get in trouble.

I told them about the drugs and said he might even be hiding drugs. They said there was something strange about his demeanor.

I'm sorry this is so long but he emailed me again saying he was gonna go and that i should wouldn't 'he thought'

I came home today after staying at my aunt's since wednesday. Despite the officer and the border officer telling me he is flagged and wont be allowed in again I am still scared. I can't help it. My mind is getting the best of me. I live by myself and I am scared to go to sleep. I keep thinking what if he tried to come again and they let him in this time

I need advice on how to cope with this. It's one of the worst thinsg I've ever experienced in my life.

I really appreciate you taking the time to read this.

This is a really crazy situation, and despite of what you think, I believe you are very brave. I would go totally insane if this happened to me, and you're really courageous. I was sexually abused a few months ago, and I used to have terrible nightmares. Today, whenever I feel threatened, I put my feet down on the ground, and I feel secure.
I believe that you should talk this over with an adult you trust, and listen to their comforting words. Tell yourself that no one is gonna hurt you, and you're going to be okay. You can visit RAINN's website, and have a live chat with a professional. I know they've really helped me. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You really don't deserve this.

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This world is wearing me down. I feel like I keep finding out about more and more shit that's making me hate this planet. In my eyes, all humans are capable of everything. I'm tired of being associated with children that murder children, men that chew off the faces of other men, mothers killing or eating their newborns, men raping their daughters and nieces, people purposely making synthetic drugs that causes suicide, death and violence, etc.. I realize that this isn't all people, and that there are good people out there, but I don't care. What someone says and what they think can be two completely different things. I work at a fast food place, and all my coworkers do is talk shit about customers. But then to the customer's face they are polite and helpful. I've come to the conclusion that everyone is two faced, selfish, greedy, and capable of going from happy to angry in two seconds. On top of that, I believe this government is corrupt and full of absolute shit. I don't see why living should cost so much money. None of us had a say in whether we wanted to be born or not, so why do we have to work our asses off forever? And things like food and water, we NEED, so I don't see why we should have to buy it. Policemen and women don't give a fuck about anyone but themselves, I'm positive. And no one can change my mind about that. I had one headlight out and I have to pay over $150? Everything has become beyond ridiculous, people are a lot more rude than they used to be, and I can't sit by and be okay with any of this. Nothing will change and we've all been fucked up beyond repair. I want to kill myself. I don't want to be associated with this psychotic world. The way I see it, I either kill myself or everyone else.

If you kill yourself, you are admitting defeat. It's not true that the whole world is corrupt. Yes, there are many evil people, but there are also great people on this planet. Don't run away from your problems, fight them. If you think the whole world is crazy, you are associating with the wrong crowd. I believe you need to get help, so that you see the goodness in the world and yourself. If you are here, then there must be a reason why. Maybe you were put here so that you can help others. Don't chicken out, be brave! Good luck and I hope you feel better soon :)

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How can i get the girl i want, when i freeze up every time i see her

First of all you need to relax, and like Jess said, remember that she's human too. Secondly, try to practice in front of the mirror. It really helps. Put on a confident smile, and square your shoulders. To get her warmed up to you, be kind and do her favors. Remember that you are brave and you are going to do this! You're not gonna chicken out!
Ask yourself: "what's the worst that could happen?"

I used to be really shy, and I would freeze up when I only thought of approaching someone. I did it anyway, cuz I knew I didn't want to live like that. Today I have no problem saying what I want, and approaching all kinds of different people. It takes a lot of hard work, but it really pays off. Your brain is trying to protect you from getting hurt, but tell it that you appreciate it's concern, but you don't need it's protection, and you're gonna pull it off. Good luck :)

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Hi,

I have been reflecting on a few times in my past of which I don't really understand my behavior.

I went through major depression when I was a teenager - maybe that has something to do with how crazy I got?

Anyway, I recall times where I went to parties and I acted really crazy. I remember getting really excited whenever I arrived to a party and I remember always having the idea that I'm going to have a lot of fun tonight. Most of the time I related fun to acting absolutely crazy. I feel embarrassed by how off the wall I would get. I don't think many people would invite me a second time to their party no matter how close we were. I don't understand why I would act the way I did. I just know I had adrenaline inside of me bursting at the seams. I feel that same sort of speed whenever I get really upset. Even now, I struggle controlling myself. Sometimes I get so heated, I do something really stupid and at times, I throw tantrums. I have gotten better at restraining myself - I can stay absolutely calm whenever another person is trash-talking me. Although calm, I still feel the pressure building up inside of me. I know at moments I can appear insanely crazy to people. Other than those once out of a blue moon times, I am a very relaxed normal person. I wanted to know if there's a diagnosis for my behavior or is it just bad nerves?

I'm bipolar, and I get a lot of highs, so I can relate to what you're describing. I don't believe those feelings will go away on its own. You need to get professional help. You do not deserve to live like this, so do yourself the biggest favor you can, and discuss this with your doctor. It is possible for you to have a successful life, but you need to get help first. Good luck :)

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13/f
I know I have a good life. I have a family that loves me, I have a lot of good friends, I get good grades in school,etc. but for some reason, I still get depressed a lot. A couple years ago, I was having extreme self esteem issues (which led to an eating disorder) and problems with my relationship with my parents and I started cutting myself. And the only people I could talk to about it weren't helping me in the way I needed. My parents don't understand what I went through then. They thought I was overreacting when I tried getting help from them.

It was hard, but I finally started to pull myself out of that state. The thing that helped the most was distracting myself with school and extracurricular activities. I've finally realized that I don't want to that anymore, but I still get depressed a lot and I get really moody around everybody. My relationship with my parents has gotten better in some ways, but I get in fights with them a lot. I can't help it sometimes.

I was doing a lot better this year because I started my freshman year (I'm year ahead in school) and I was busy with band too. I met a ton of new people and I started becoming friends with a senior. We got really close and we flirted a lot too. He made it seem like he really cared about me. And then, out of the blue, he stopped talking to me. I thought he needed a little space and that he would talk to me when he was ready. Days turned into weeks which turned into months. And I got no answer. I spent 6 months thinking that I did something wrong. I recently found out that he did something similar to my best friend too. But even knowing that he is a jerk hasn't made me feel any better.

Maybe I just set myself up for failure. I try to have confidence, but I get my hopes up and as much as I try, I am never as good or can compare to the people around me. I just got through applying for an student engineering camp through a university. I got this idea in my head that I could actually get in. I worked so hard, but I know it's going to be good enough. I don't know how I would deal with not making it in. I don't want to be the person I was 2 years ago. I guess I just need somebody to tell me everything's gonna be okay.

First of all, sweetie, you should know that it's not your fault that you're depressed, but you seem to be working very hard to combat it. That's good. It's not fair that you should have to deal with all that, you are so young, and have your whole life ahead of you. If getting help before didn't help you, then those people aren't right for you. Finding the right therapist will change your life. You can take out a book about DBT from your local library. DBT has wonderful tips on how to deal with depression without cutting. I'm bipolar, so I get depressed a lot, but I've discovered two tips that really help me overcome it. 1:Keeping to a healthy diet and exercising. It is crucial to your mental health, in ways that you can't imagine. It boosts your self esteem, and makes you feel glad to be alive. 2: laughter; laughing is a great way to combat depression. It's like a temporary medicine.
Always remember that if you fight to reclaim your special place in this world, and fight for things you really want, you will be happy again, and things won't just be "okay", they'll be great! Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon :)

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Hi my name is Janie and I am almost 18 years old and going into my senior year of high school. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now and everything has been fine. Since I started high school some of my friends have been going further and further with their boyfriends (sexually) and I made a promise to myself and God that I would never go that far. I never had a problem with making out but before I knew it my shirt was up and my boyfriend went further than I wanted him to go. I still have my virginity but I can't shake this feeling like I'm dirty. I didn't know how to stop him and now whenever I think about him or see him I just feel uncomfortable, upset and well, for lack of a better word, like a slut. I know he enjoyed it and I'm positive he will be upset when I tell him to slow it down. How should I approach a conversation with him that I don't want anything similar to happen again and that it was too far for me? I know he isn't like me and hasn't made a promise to chastity and waiting until marriage. Should I break up with him if he doesn't agree with my boundaries?

It is your body, and only you decide what is done to it. Tell your boyfriend how you feel, it's never good to hide these things. Remember sex is not the answer. Sex is the question, and yes is the answer. You should always feel 100% okay about what is done to your body. He'll be upset, but if he really loves you, he's understand and respect that. Good luck :)

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i am from india
My life is hell now...i m failed in class 11th
Everyone thinks i am a player bt i dint even want someone to be in a bad situation....my friends hate me now...,my parents are always shouting on me, my boyfriend always talk very rudely...everyone think i m selfish, i m mean..n no one love me thats why i dont want to live.

You have to start loving yourself; that way you make people love you and be attracted to you. Always believe in yourself, and don't let anyone bring you down. It's easier said than done, but it's something that's crucial in order to survive. If you let every loser get to you, how will you ever be happy? You are a wonderful person, and deserve to be loved. You do not deserve to die! You can visit my website www.survivethesuicideurge.org for lots of helpful tips on how to fight the urge to end your life. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon :)

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I am 18 and female and am never going to have sex, is that such a problem? I think sex is gross!
I also think losing my virginity will hurt really bad and I don't want to ever have sex

But I think that no guy is ever going to want to be with me once I tell them that I never want to have sex

Do you think that a guy will leave if I tell them I don't want to have sex?

It's normal to think you don't want sex, and sex is gross. But once you're in a situation where you have really strong feelings for someone, those feelings will disappear. First be aroused, then tell me if you still don't want sex ;)

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My boyfriend hand a baby by someone else during the time we are together he attended all her classes, doc visit and birth i found out when the baby was 3 months

This is a despicable crime. I would never forgive such a betrayal. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. Leave him, if he was so low as to do that, he doesn't deserve you. You deserve the best man out there. Don't let him get away with it! Good luck :)

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my friend just got a new boyfriend and he lives close to me ,so my friend wants to come to my house and go for a walk so she can meet up with him. But my mom always tells me before we go on walks to not run into any boys (I'm 13). So if we do go on the walk and my mom figures out what happened my mom will probably not trust me any more. but if I tell her before the walk she could say anything (she could maybe allow us to go but i don't know). So do you think i should tell my mom or keep it a secret.

Be honest with her. The consequenses of hiding this from your mother will be bad, and you won't feel good about yourself. Maybe you two can have a frank talk about the subject, and you will tell each other your reasoning. Your mother is probably worried about you, and doesn't want you to get hurt. If you don't agree with her, tell it to her in a nice way, and explain why you feel the way you feel. Good luck :)

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Ok so I just turned 13 and Im a girl... I reccently had my 1st kiss with this guy and I broke up with him because he was a jerk. I have a question...
1.Is materbating like fingering yourself for pleasure?
So, obviously by my question I want to masterbate for my own pleasure. I have almost done it (I think) in the shower because no one was home except me and I slipped and fell and while I was on the floor of the shower I leaned against the wall and I think I found my vagina but I dont know because I felt my butt (dont ask I can be strange) and I felt along my crotch and as I was feeling with my 2 fingers they went in a teeny tiny bit and I think it was my vagina. Is it wrong for me to masterbate at this age? Is it also wrong that I watch porn a bit sometimes because it makes me feel good? Should I actually masterbate? Will it hurt? Give me all info about masterbation and please only answer if you have done it... P.s. when I think I masterbated, my vagina kind of hurts (even though I barely put my fingers in) advice?

I've never masturbated, so I can't answer your question. But yes, masturbation and fingering are the same thing. I think you should discuss sex and masturbation with an adult you trust.
Breaking up with jerks can be painful, but it's the right thing to do. Congratulations on that. Good luck! Thanks for asking alexisgirlie ;)

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Whats the most quick and painless way to commit suicide

There is absolutely no painless way to commit suicide. I understand your despair, I've been there a few months ago, and today, because I chose life, I'm so happy and successful. Please visit my website: survivethesuicideurge.org, so that we can help you overcome this urge. Here's a question you should ask yourself: do you want to end your life, or do you want everything to work out? Believe me, the second option outweighs the other. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Don't end your life here, be a fighter! No one can deal with this alone, so please go get help for your pain. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You deserve to be happy, you do not deserve to die.

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Whenever I feel horny or just plain bored, I'll randomly choose someone in my contacts (a guy) and meet up with them, whether its at a party or at their house, and I'll have sex with them. Sometimes, I can't control myself. The worst time was when I had my scholarship test. I was so stressed that sex was my escape. I had three different guys the night before. I'm only 15 and nearly every guy I know at school has slept with me. I'm getting known as the slut, and even the girls know about me. I dont like it. How can I stop?

It's great that you realize you have a problem, and are looking to change the situation. I believe you need professional help for your sex addiction. They will teach you great methods of overcoming stress without sex. Good luck :)

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I'm 16/f and my first time was when i was 13. I still have the same guy and we had sex recently. He used a condom but when he pulled out, we saw that it had broke. Since then, I haven't had my period (4 months). When I had a pregnancy test, it came up as positive. I'm so scared. If he finds out, he'll flip out. My parents will be so angry. Should I get an abortion? How do I get one without anyone knowing?

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this. It'll be really hard to tell your boyfriend and parents, but imagine how angry they will be when they find out you hid it from them. You need to be supported, and shouldn't be dealing with this alone. As for having an abortion, I personally don't believe you should kill the baby, but it'll be your decision. Good luck, I hope all ends well :)

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About two weeks ago my bfwent too far and we were kissing and her fingered me and then like 15 minutes later before he left I gave him a handjob but he didn't come and I wiped my hand on the sheet and went downstairs after her left and drank water and washed out the glass and went back upstairs and went on the computer and after a while I went to the bathroom and touched my vagina. Is it possible I'm pregant? I've never done something like this before and I'm so so worried. My period was to come 2 days ago and didn't come yet. Please answer me, thanks!

If he didn't cum, you can't become pregnant. Relax, periods aren't always punctual. If you feel he went too far, tell him. It is your body, and only you decide what is done to it. Remember that sex is not the answer. Sex is the question, and yes is the answer... Good luck :)

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I've been going out with my bofriend for 1month now and he lives 2.7 miles away from me and when he comes down to see me him and my best friend always flirts and when I ask them something,they completely ignore me:-( then after my boyfriend goes home they text eachother:-( help? Please:-( it gets me down so much:'(

This situation is not acceptable. Your boyfriend shouldn't be ignoring you and flirting with your best friend like that. He probably doesn't realize that he's hurting you, I don't believe that's his intention. Have a frank talk with him about this, and let him know how much he hurts you. If he truly loves you, he will understand, and refrain from doing this again. Good luck sweetie :)

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