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Teen Relationships- Telling my boyfriend it is too far
Hi my name is Janie and I am almost 18 years old and going into my senior year of high school. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now and everything has been fine. Since I started high school some of my friends have been going further and further with their boyfriends (sexually) and I made a promise to myself and God that I would never go that far. I never had a problem with making out but before I knew it my shirt was up and my boyfriend went further than I wanted him to go. I still have my virginity but I can't shake this feeling like I'm dirty. I didn't know how to stop him and now whenever I think about him or see him I just feel uncomfortable, upset and well, for lack of a better word, like a slut. I know he enjoyed it and I'm positive he will be upset when I tell him to slow it down. How should I approach a conversation with him that I don't want anything similar to happen again and that it was too far for me? I know he isn't like me and hasn't made a promise to chastity and waiting until marriage. Should I break up with him if he doesn't agree with my boundaries?
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Your boyfriend cares about you right?
Is he only using you for sex? NO.
If you answered yes to the second question, then break up with the boy. But if you guys have been together because you care for each other he WILL honor you in keeping your promise. Tell him even if it's hard. Tell him.
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It is your body, and only you decide what is done to it. Tell your boyfriend how you feel, it's never good to hide these things. Remember sex is not the answer. Sex is the question, and yes is the answer. You should always feel 100% okay about what is done to your body. He'll be upset, but if he really loves you, he's understand and respect that. Good luck :)
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First, I am happy that you have self respect.
You talk to him and explain that you want to take things slow in the sexual department. If he gets mad guess what? Too bad. It is a growing problem these days that the younger generation fall under peer pressure all to often. You have morals, Stick to them. If your boyfriend cares about you the he should care about your feelings. If he doesnt respect that then find someone who will apprechiate you for you and not your body. You are not an object, You are not a thing. If he gets pissed off then you know that's all he wanted and I hope you find better!
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Hey there, Okay firstly let me say well done for not doing something just because your friends are. So many teens give into peer pressure these days. If your boyfriend went further than you wanted him to,then you should have spoke up. I know its scary but its your body and you werent comfortable. You shouldnt feel like a slut however. There is nothing actually wrong with what you did but I can understand why ypu feel that way when.you didnt want it to happen. Ypu need to speak with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Explain that you are simply not ready to have sex or engage in any other sexual activity. If he truly cates about you and loves you,then he will understand that sex isnt everything and be patient and wait until you are ready. He should respect your wishes. If he doesnt understand then yes,absolutely you should break up with him immediately! You shouldnt be with someone who is selfish enough to force you into doing something you do not want to do. Ne ver let anyone do that to you. You have free will for a reason.stay true to yourself and your beliefs. Dont abandon them for someone who is only interested in you for sex. good luck and much <3 Jess 18/f
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