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Crazy internet stalker found my address
Hello
I am in a very scary situation right now. And I'm just trying to reach out. I met this guy on mubi.com which is a social networking site for people who likes movies.
He seemed super cool and I really liked him at first but then slowly he started getting more weird. I found out he was doing drugs, and the more i distanced myself from him the crazier he started to act.
(I also need to mention that he is from the states and I live in Canada)
I stopped talking to him completely in January. I blocked him on all social networking sites. He would make new fake profiles and send me these scary crazy messages saying how much he was in love with me and that he was coming for me. That he was hearing voices telling him I was his soulmate and how we're gonna have a kid together and he just knows it. Despite me telling him over and over again to leave me alone and that I wasn't interested he kept on harrassing me.
He is a complete psycho. I think he might be psychiztophrenic.
On wednesday at 4:30 pm I recieved an e-mail from him saying that he had driven to vancouver from the newyork to come and surprise and they didn't allow him to enter (for reasons I don't know yet). He said he was gonna come to my house and surprise me. He asked me how I felt about that, and that he was gonna try again the next day.
It was one of the most surreal and scary moments of my life. Knowing he knows where i live and he was coming to 'surprise' me.
I was kind of paranoid that this would happen before it did because he had made a blog just for me. Directing everything at me. Sometimes threatening.
I e-mailed him back and said that I was calling the police.
I called the police and I went down to the station and filled out a police report and talked to the officer for 40 minutes.
I didn't have enough proof to make him understand how crazy he really was. I just took a copy of the e-mail he had sent me.
The officer said he would call them at the border to let them know whats going on. and he said he would e-mail him to hear 'his side of the story' which was kind of disheartening.
I went to stay at my aunt's that night because I was terrified. He kept on e-mailing me that night saying things like 'come on you fraidy cat, what am I gonna bite you?'
I was having severely anxiety that night and couldn't stop shaking. I e-mailed him again and told him that I wanted to nothing to do with him again and he emailed me back and said hat he was gonna go back and to tell the police officer to back off...
The next day I got a call from the border saying that he was there again with a new story. And they asked me if I wanted him there and that he had told them I was his gf and he was going to suprise me.
They said he's been flagged and he won't be allowed in again. Even if he tries to fly in he would get in trouble.
I told them about the drugs and said he might even be hiding drugs. They said there was something strange about his demeanor.
I'm sorry this is so long but he emailed me again saying he was gonna go and that i should wouldn't 'he thought'
I came home today after staying at my aunt's since wednesday. Despite the officer and the border officer telling me he is flagged and wont be allowed in again I am still scared. I can't help it. My mind is getting the best of me. I live by myself and I am scared to go to sleep. I keep thinking what if he tried to come again and they let him in this time
I need advice on how to cope with this. It's one of the worst thinsg I've ever experienced in my life.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read this.
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are those internet sites have a report number report him if hes in the states and you are in canda thats a long ways away i would just report him and even to authorties so they no to
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Eep.
I know it's a bit disheartening for a police to call him for 'his side of the story' but honestly, that is basically the best thing that could have happened. Police have generally sound bullshit detectors, and more importantly, this creep now knows that you meant what you said, and you DID go get the police involved.
And they did the right thing, and stopped him, and will keep on stopping him. They get it and are on your side.
So take heart, as awful as this situation is, so far things are going text book 100% right as far as getting it addressed.
I'm not sure how to help you cope with this other than that. It's not the kind of thing a person really can cope with.
You may try calling the Canadian National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-363-9010 or the National Clearinghouse on Family Violence
at 1-800-267-1291 (that one might be better, they are connected to the RCMP) they might have some additional advice or guidance for you.
Other than that, the best thing you can do is speak up. Let your friends, neighbors, school or employer know a bit of what's going on. I know it feels embarrassing, but it shouldn't be. You haven't done anything wrong, you are being victimized by a crazy person, and the people around you can help to defend you. Them knowing to be suspicious of anyone asking about you or showing up around you place can help keep you safe.
You might also ask a friend to come and have a sleep over for a night or two. Buy them dinner and have some good breakfast foods about. It might help you sleep.
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This is a really crazy situation, and despite of what you think, I believe you are very brave. I would go totally insane if this happened to me, and you're really courageous. I was sexually abused a few months ago, and I used to have terrible nightmares. Today, whenever I feel threatened, I put my feet down on the ground, and I feel secure.
I believe that you should talk this over with an adult you trust, and listen to their comforting words. Tell yourself that no one is gonna hurt you, and you're going to be okay. You can visit RAINN's website, and have a live chat with a professional. I know they've really helped me. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You really don't deserve this.
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