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How come my rating doesn't show up on my column?

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=6

Really, Learn to use the Help every so often.
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Hey, this is rainbowcherrie. I notice that I am on your faviourites list. Is this because you are on mine or because my advice is actually worth listening to?

Your advice is totally worth listening to. Thats the reason I added you. I have never seen your column and I happened to look at it today and I really was surprised....You advice is good.
Keep it up! :P
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Everything is so depressing and messed up. My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday and now I just want to die. I used to cut myself and I just want to start doing it again, I feel like killing myself. My boyfriend was the last good thing and now he's gone, I'm trying to be positive but I can't. What should I do?
-Rainbowcherrie

Okay...just because your BF broke up with you, you want to die? I can understand feeling pretty low and stupid. Thinking that its your fault but just because he broke up with you?
You seriously need to get a energy boost.

Your BF was deffenitly not the last good thing you had if HE broke up with you. In my opinion he was crazy if he broke up with you. And thats what you should think also.
Listen bad things happen in life and they suck. You can feel pretty damn low and prehaps feel like dieing but there is no reason to cut or even think about it. Do keep trying to be postitive, thats the best thing for you to do.
Id'e suggest go out with friends have fun, (Even if you just want to stay home and feel sorry for yourself) go to the movies, read a book. You need to get mind off you ex BF for now. DO NOT think that you life is nothing with out him, You can survive and have a perfectly fine life without him.

You keep your self positive....you will get through this hard time. That I am sure of. Just don't cut if you feel the urge do something to get your mind off it.

Lots of luck to you and ask anytime if you need help.
AG

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hey does anyone know how to change your name on your column? How to change the capitilization of your name in your advice column so that it looks better?

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=39
Use the FAQ/Help every so often. Thats why its there.
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does anybody know where i can get music for free.. i really want to hear this song from like.. a year ago.. but i dont know where to find it?! i will rate 5s:)

WinMX...Tis the best.

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how do you become a moderator? and what does it do?

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=11

You may want to check out the Help and FAQ. You can learn pretty much everything about the site.
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hey
ok theres this guy and i really like him!!! but he dont like me... and like i wanna no how i can get him to like me. b/c we r like perfect for eachother its not even funny!!!! and he is just so cool and hot and perfect. i dont no why he dont like me though he told my friends that theres nothing wrong with me but obviously there is if he dont like me. can sum one please give me adivce on wat to do about him i like him ALOT!! thanks < i rate >

You are setting yourself up for some bigtime hurt at the moment. This I know. Just because he doesn't like you doesn't mean he doesn't like you as friend. He just may not see you the way as you see him. There is totally nothing wrong with you. Just let your crush be or you'll be sorry. This I can advise you. If you say you can't get him off your mind I would suggest that you keep yourself busy and don't focus on him. If you think of him ohwell but don't do it on purpose. Don't try to immpress him...be you. Ignore him if he looks at you strange. You are you. Don't change yourself....Its not a good idea. You might understand if you do do it.

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i am fat.. when i look in the mirror i look like a mini-sumowrestler.. i'm 13.. 5'1 and i weigh 110lbs.. please tell me how to lose the blubber on my abnormally huge thighs and my blubbery stomach.. it would be much appreciated! ps; i hate exercise and i'm too young to get lapo.. please give me good dieting info..

Hey look, from what you have said you don't sound that fat. I am 5'6 and about 120-130, somewhere around there. sometimes less that 120. I have huge thighs too, Its just me. Runs in the family. But if you feel like you need too lose weight I would suggest that you just watch what you eat. Don't eat too much candy, and sugary foods. Eat more healthy and take daily walks/ bikerides. Don't even consider lypo. That is seriously stupid. be yourself, we are all perfect in our own ways even if we don't think we are.

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Hey Im scared me n my boyfriend wanna move to the next level. I dont wanna lose my virginity. We wanna do it orally.. I need to no wat I should do to him and what toys I need and wat hill do to me and what toys he needs. were meeting tonight at his house n his bed, my parents and his parents are gunna be gone.. im like 18 and i need to now!! pleae help the date is in one hour!!

Don't let any guy take your virginity if you don't feel right. If you doubt doing something then you shouldn't. Tell him you don't want to lose your virginity and that you nervous and not sure. If he is a understanding BF then he will support you. Do not give into him if he says that you will be fine, and that if you really love him you should do it. That is not true. I would advice you that you shouldn't anything tonight because you do not sound like you really WANT to, just doing it because he wants to.

You have to make your own decision.
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this is kinda long but i seriously need help...my bf of 4 months now who i really love and things are going GREAT...well his ex is trying to talk to me now. she IMed me this morning and said hey you dont know me but i know derek, how are things going with him? and then we just started talking....she said he broke her heart and she loved him and he was her first kiss and all this shit. and she said he told her he loved her too. and shes like yea we hung out all summer..does he ever mention me? becuse it was a crazy summer! and shes asking me to talk to derek ( my boyfriend, her ex) and asking him to just be friends with her. because they dont talk at all now. shes really nice..but i KNOW she still has feelings for him...shes saying how she just wants to be his friend now and if i could please talk to him for her but im afraid if i do...shell try to take him away from me...what do i do about this? im getting really jealous and i told her i would talk to him abuot her and stuff..im trying not to be that jealous overprrotective girlfriend...HELP

♥ JaDe

I think you have the right to be a little protective because from all that you have writen I would say she is going to try take him back. She totally has some problems that she needs to work out. whew, thats for sure.

I say you should talk to him about everything that she told you and say that you don't want to lose him and you don't want to sound like a jealous over-protective girl friend but you can't help but feel a little threatened. Tell hime what you feel and be honest. Try to stay away from her, she doesn't sound stable. She could lash out at you. Block her from your messenger the next time. Don't listen to her, she is trying to make you jealous and make your relationship fail. Don't let her do that.

I hope all works out for you.
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I am 14 and a freshmen in high school. Most guys say I am wicked hot and it takes good looks to become popular. But if thats it then how come im not, i want to become friends with the popular girls becuase i have no close friends and they seem to share the same interests as I do. But it seems like they dont care about becoming frineds with me. How do i become frineds with the popular girls?

Sometimes it doesn't matter if you good looking its if the popular like you and don't feel threatened.
I will warn you though, I may not be the best person to ask since I am not that high on the social status and not that pretty.

I have to ask you, why must you be with the popular to be popular? Can't you be cool on your own? I know you said that you don't have anyfriends that don't have the same interests as you. What makes you think the popular will be perfect friends and will be just like you?

Just be yourself is all I can say. Be you and be open to anyones friendship no matter what they are labeled. Trust me its not cool to discriminate your own peers just because of their social status.
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i just met this boy and hes 18 and hes wicked gorgeous and nice and he let me borrow his cd and im gona be burning cds for him and possibly chillen with him sometime..but the thing is i like him, alot and i cant get him off my mind..but he has a girlfriend. and i dont wanna do anything with him even though i was gonna make a move on him the 1st time i met him..but then i thought, if i was his g.f and another girl macked up on my boy..and i found out, how i would be hurten so i didnt do anything..but i just cant forget about him aand how i didnt do anything to show him how i feel..yeah i told him but idk..do you think i did the right thing by controling my urges and just tlken to him?

It is perfectly okay to like a guy that has a girlfriend. Yes you made the perfect choice by not making a move on him. Just be friends with him. You have alot of sence to think about the GF alot of people just don't think of the consequence before they act. You did and you probably avoided a nice little mess.
So just keep controling those urges and who knows, perhaps his BFF will be even better. ;}

Luck
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I just moved back to my hometown, and I've seen all my old friends. One in particular, my "best" friend as she said, thinks that we're still "best" friends. She said to me before.." get on with your life...", and " you dont like rap". It seems like shes trying to mold me into the "perfect" best friend. I love any kinds of music. How can I stop her from controlling me? And to tell her we aren't friends anymore?? 15 F same as her.

Just be honest with her, tell her everything that you have stated in this question. She may get mad because she sounds like person that will but not all friendships last. Don't let her change you. You are you and no one has the right to try to make them perfect in their eyes. We are only perfect for us. I believe that to be true.
Luck and hope.
AG

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well is it wrong to like someone elses boyfriend? Well, i have this friend who is one of my best friends and she has a boyfriend who i think is wicked hott..and i sometimes have dreams about him but not always. I mean this best friend is wicked nice and i love her to death& i would take a bullet for her..but she has boyfriends all the time & i never had one boyfriend..and i wanna be happy& shes always happy.and im never happy. i mean its not like im gonna go steal him away from her cause im not that kind of friend or girl. but i dont know what to do or think.. should i just forget about this and just keep liken the boy ive been liken for a long time now or what? need some help..

Sounds more like infatuation and/or crush if you ask me. I think that you are going a bit over board with it too. You just are attracted to him.
Its okay to "Like" someone elses BF just not to the point where you are telling everyone. Let your dreams stay dreams in other words. Oh-well she has boyfriends all the time and you don't. big deal, life goes on. Your not dieing. Do not and I mean do not go after him they breakup. You will then be asking advicenators what to do since you went out with your BFF ex. Trust me it won't be a pretty day.

You are pefectly happy with a BF. You don't need some guy to make you happy. That is just stupid thinking.
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My best friends hang out in 1 group and always have but now 1 of my friends, Nicole hates One of my friends,Aimee and she is turning Megan against her and is so ubsessed with Ehris no one eltse can talk to her with out Nicole listening in, now I think lilly is going on there side to and when I ask people for advice they say its none of you buisness they arnt hearting me but they are because they are hert ing aimee and I'm the one she comes to when she needs a shoulder to cry on, and when she is hert so am I. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Groupies=Nicole D., Ehris U., Megan W., Lilly P., Aimee R., and me Lindsay W.

Alot of times friendships aren't made to last. I know this for a fact, something on this order happen to my group of friends.

I would advise you to stay friends with Aimee even if everyone else is hating her. Atleast whe will know that one of her friends is a real one. If this really bothers you I would say infront of everyone (Even Aimee) if you can't get Nicole alone, Tell them that Aimee is a great friend and they are hurting her with this stupid, childish behavior and You can't stand to say Aimee so hurt and alone. Tell them that if you have to you will end your friendship because it is not worth it if you start hating a friend.
Now that could get help or perhaps it wouldn't but you tell them what you said in this question about you being Aimee's shoulder to cry on and when Aimee is hurt so are you. I don't see much mending of this friendship really I don't.

Just stay nice friends with Aimee is no one else will.

Good Luck
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Okay , I like this guy, and he just told me that he likes me too, we have a problem. Me and him arent sure if we should start dating because Im friends with his sister, and his sister will NEVER buy the fact that me and him were dating...and we wouldnt be able to tell our parents because we wanna have sleep overs and stuff, but i mean we dont plan on doing anything at the sleep overs, we just wanna see each other because we live an hour away from each other, but anyways, my question is, should we date behind his sisters back or tell her with the fact we both know shes not gonna buy the whole thing...???

help :(

I rate everyone a 5

Just tell her. It will just be a huge mess if you don't. I can just imagine a million scenarios where everything goes wrong and you totally regret it. I don't care if you like the guy or not, its totally not worth the risk.
Thats my opinion and advice.
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I joined this modeling thing and my friends said before i left that i would act snotty and perfect when i come back. Finally a couple of weeks later i came back and i was even seeing or acting very carefully to try not to act snotty or perfect. But they told me i was anyways. I even lost my best friend! They really started hating me! Now they're trying to start fights with me and everything. I even went to a different school thats not far away from my hometown and they're still bothering me! How can i make them stop!

It sounds to me that they were already jealous of you when you told them and they were just looking for a fight. They probably couldn't find anything to hate you about so just made it up.
I really do think talking to them would be the best bet. Maybe including their parents, like going to their house and talking to them individual with their parents present. That just might help or make it worse.....Okay....Here is what I would do, If they came up to me again and tried to start fighting I would say "Look,I am me and sence I started modeling you guys have been jealous. You claimed I would come back like a snot well I didn't and you know that. You don't like me being a model too damn bad but its what I like to do. If you can't handle your feelings like a normal human being than go somewhere else and bitch but leave me alone. I haven't done anything to you so quit it alright. If one of you became a model I would stand by you and not be jealous. So lets just live our own lives and not bother eachother. K?"
Now I know you may not use the exact phrasing that I do but thats what I would say, You can go from there.

Luck to you.
AG

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ok, so i have a ton of guy friends, and i never have ne trouble talking to them or anything. but theres this one guy that i have a crush on, and i cant look @ him when i talk to him! i dont kno y, i can talk to him fine, but i avoid looking @ him, which makes me look stupid! what can i do to make myself look @ him? i can talk just fine, but the eyes are the problem... thanks!!

This is a 'Okay' question but please use the correct spelling. It does not look cool to use "@, y , kno. It just seems like you are lazy. Please use correct spelling from now on.

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hello,


in your bio, you said you are LDS? i'm at a loss on what that is. also, you said your very religous. out of curiosity, what is your religion? thank you.

note: i like the new colors, and i'm glad you took out that part about you thinking that your ugly.

Matt, Really...This is getting old.

LDS stands for "The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints", Latter Day Saints=LDS. Were also called Mormons because of "The Book Of Mormon" and so people call us Mormons. I perfer LDS. If you want all the info I would suggest you go to www.mormon.org

Why won't you just use your column and ask me these stupid questions? Either way I can see its you. I can check your IP address. Just do remember that I am a L2 Moderator and I can ban you. I am seriously considering it.

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Dear advice gurl,
I have a problem. I have told my class mate that I have a crush on a guy that is my so-called-friend.She is a big mouth, and i told her on purpose, because her and this guy have been wonderin for a while who likes him.I am happy to get it off my chest, but now I am startin to worry that he thinks I am a creep. What should I do? Oh, my name is Julia, and i am a female, btw. ALso, I have a non related question. I really want to gtive people advice too, so can you tell me how to make a website like yours??
- Tigerchik.
P.S E_mail me back, at Tigercats1112@aol.com

I apolgize. I know you asked me this and I took forever. I have been a bit sick so....I am finally feeling up to giving good advice.

Who cares if he thinks your a creep. You know your not so it shouldn't matter. Really. I mean your glad to get if off your chest and if he doesn't like you and thinks your weird, oh-well. I can't begin to tell you how many guys think I'm a weirdo and a creep.

The way I got my advice column is just by Registering and using all the options. Thats it. i choose the color, what I wanted to say, all that junk. If you at loss of how to start, the

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