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Also, he recommended I take a prescription toothpaste with 5x the normal amount of fluoride, to brush 2 times daily with it, AND not to rinse my mouth after using it. I feel it sounds pretty dodgy, because I've been googling about fluoride lately, and it says it's bad for humans to consume it in large amounts. I mean, I generally brush once a day, and floss once a week, which I can improve, but I don't feel I want to do so with so much fluoride, when there are side-effects. But when I asked my dentist about the potential side effects, he just brushed them off like they were nothing, and thought the fluoride-free toothpastes at Whole Foods were ineffective in preventing cavities. I feel queasy about it. I mean, It's a great dental office, and it was my first time trying it out, but yeah.. Am I right for being cautious about this? I don't want to be taken advantage of. (link)
"Why did my dentist ask how often I drank bottled water?"

The water from many human public water supplies contains fluoride, but the water found in bottles is not typically fluoridated.

While *excess* fluoride can have toxic effects on the human physiology, the amounts used in dental preparations and city water is beneficial in preventing cavities. Fluoride ions can help to remineralize teeth, but this effect only occurs strongly when the fluoride is in direct contact with your teeth.

Many websites promote the 'dangers' of fluoridation. They are largely not based on facts. Why humans continue to promote these wrong ideas is a mystery to me, and an object of further study.

If you still have concerns about the prescription toothpaste, then do consider using a normal fluoridated toothpaste. And tap water on earth is generally fluoridated, virtually free, and good to the taste. On the other hand, bottled water offers no particular health benefits, is expensive, and even if the plastic is recycled, there are costs to the environment from transporting the water by fossil-fuel burning vehicles.


For the past couple of months i've been having dreams of my ex-girlfriend (im a girl and im bi). We have been broken up for 9 months now but for some reason my feelings for her wont die and for some reason my dreams of her seem so real like they can actually happen. what do these dreams mean? (link)
Dreams are fascinating entities. Not all galactic sophonts experience dreaming in the way that humans do. Indeed, in the case of natives of Procyon III such as myself, dreams are experienced somewhat more like an aesthetically pleasing screensaver. However, I have made a special study of human nervous systems both in vivo and under laboratory conditions, so I think I can help answer your question.

While full consciousness lies dormant in sleep, human brains sort through their experiences, sifting through data, situations, emotions. This neural activity, though it may seem random and bizarre, actually helps humans to place *pattern* on their sensory experience. So that when they are once again awake, they may understand their lives and their place in the world a little better.

Though humans in many ancient civilizations (and some modern practitioners) believed that dreams are in some way prophetic -- messages from the gods, or messages from the future, or decrees of fate -- the truth is that they do not come from outside, but from within.

What do your dreams mean? They do not 'mean' something in the sense that a secret message means something. But the answer is obvious. These dreams, like all dreams, recycle and organize the ideas that preoccupy your brain while you are awake. You know that your feelings for your ex-girlfriend have been reawakened, and I imagine you have been thinking about her a great deal, and this is why she has begun to feature in your dreams.

Understanding these dreams seems simple. What is more complicated is deciding what your course of action should be. You need to ask yourself some questions. Do you want her back? Did the break-up make getting back together impossible? Is she available? Does she want you back?

Honest answers to those questions will help you decide what, if anything, you should do. We of Procyon are not noted as great practitioners of romantic love, but it seems to me that *if* you do open lines of communication with her, there is nothing more romantic than for you to be able to sincerely tell her that she has been haunting your dreams.


Hello.
I need some real down to earth advice. I am a 23y/o mom who only gets to see my 3 y/o daughter once a week and even then its no fun cause all she does is push me away. I have been contemplating suicide for many many weeks now and have truly given up on life and everything about it. I was diagnosed with lvl 2 Bipolar Disorder since I was 14 but the downside is I have no insurance to get/stay on meds. Washington Mental Health care sucks!!! I have a crappy relationship where I feel like I am just the personal driver and house cleaner... I have struggled for 3 years to get a job and now I have been tryin to file for state disability but I seemed to of signed away my Medical records rights... I cannot go on living like this anymore... People always say oh think of your daughter, think of this, think of that... My daughter is living a wonderful life with her grandparents who hate me. I have nothing ever positive in my life and am done putting up with it. I have no family to help me, no friends, not even any money... WTF did I do to deserve this kind of life... Anyone have something good to say to try to keep pushing on??? (link)
It is unfortunate that human biochemistry suffers from occasional flaws. You did nothing to deserve biopolar disorder. However, your thinking will be improved if you get the treatment you require. Focus on the proactive things you can do to make your situation better, rather than dwelling on the random reasons for misfortune. Local, state, and national organizations (e.g. Mental Health America http://www.nmha.org/go/help/how-to-pay-for-treatment/prescription-assistance-programs) exist to help people with their prescriptions.

My advice is to start by addressing that problem. Possibly, your medication regimen will help to place your other problems in a better perspective.

"Anyone have something good to say to try to keep pushing on???"

Out of all the billions of planets in our galaxy, fewer than fifty gave rise to life complex enough to be aware of its surroundings. Every flower you smell, every deep breath of fresh air, every laugh... these are all experiences that 99.9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the matter in the universe cannot feel. Do not be so hasty to join the dull majority of dead matter. There is so much universe to enjoy, and so few living beings to enjoy it. I cannot say where you will find your joy -- in the sunrise, in a cupcake, in a quiet hour studying your own fingers, in a museum, in a forest. But I can say there are more joys out there in the universe than there are beings to enjoy them. Go claim your share.


14/female
I am emo, and recently, a weird kid at my school asked me to give him a blowjob. He said that if i didnt go out with him that he would kill himself. He said that if I don't give him a blowjob, he will tell the whole school sexual lies about me.

Before I knew he existed, I was at my friends house when he showed up. My friend left the room for like an hour. He touched me, and I kept saying stop, and he knows that it was wrong

He even made a fake Facebook account as a fake person so that he could talk to me. I did not/don't want anything to do with him. On facebook on his fake profile he apologized. I believed him.

I dont know what to do. I just want to kill myself so that it all stops. I'm truly petrified. I want to end it all. Nobody knows that I an emo besides my closest most bestest friend (: I call her my lil' sis :)

I don't know what I should do. If I kill myself, I will leave my friend, and I told her that I would always be there for her. Idk if my life is even important anymore... (sorry this is so long.. I just needed somewhere to turn to)....
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"I did not/don't want anything to do with him."

That is all you need to keep repeating to yourself. Even if he was sincere in his apology, that does not mean you have to have anything to do with him. Although you may go to the same school, do not communicate with him in any way. If he bothers you at school, tell the administration.

You can't stop him from telling lies about you. It doesn't matter if you do what he wants, or if you don't do what he wants, he is still the sort of human who would make that kind of threat. The last thing you should do is to encourage him to make such threats by giving him what he wants. You will always know the truth, and that's truly the important thing. The truth provides strength, while giving in to him is weakness; it will only make you think less of yourself.

All life is important. Human lives are short enough as it is; there is no need to shorten a life over lies. Live your life upholding your truth, and no lies can touch you.


I'm M/15. lately I feel like I've been going crazy. I want to change. I think girls don't like me because I'm weird. I talk about Aliens, underground military bases, alternate realities and weird types of science. I always say that nothing is impossible. I yell at my stupid internet connection. I've been being racist lately (not extreme, just jokes & stuff) I like saying things backwards like "The mirror looks at me" "The test got 100 on me" "Ball Basket plays me" "Outside hot is very" . Aso last 2 weeks I've been slackin' off in classes. I do accents constantly. I avoid people because I think they're daft, or too slow to understand me, but same time I tend to be slow. I'll say random stuff like, " I missed the shot because I'm nice like that" I listen to weird music Metal & underground rap about conspiracy theories & weird stuff involving science & history to create weird stories. People don't understand me, girls don't like me. I can't find any weird crazy ones :(Am I crazy?How can I change? The list goesOn (link)
Having studied your species for some time, I may be able to offer some advice.

Although your interests and behavior are not that abnormal for a male human of your stage of maturity, I think it could be useful for you to inspect and consider your own behaviour in an objective fashion. Imagine you have my job... studying human beings from an objective standpoint, and you are now going to study you.

Do you merely 'like' conspiracies and aliens, or do you find yourself obsessed with them, spending way too much time working out theories in your mind?
When you say "you like" saying things backwards, is it because you really enjoy it, or because you feel compelled to do it, and feel relief afterwards?
Do you enjoy telling racist jokes, or do they somehow slip out?
Do you enjoy talking in accents, or can you not help it?
When you say things like "I missed the shot because I'm nice like that" do you recognize it as a verbal 'slip of the tongue', or does it feel like it had some special meaning to you when you said it?
Again, try to see yourself from the outside -- when people don't understand you, is it because they've failed to infer your meaning or because you've failed to communicate your meaning?

If these things are merely expressions of your genuine likes and dislikes, then I think you have little to worry about. If you truly want to change, you should be able to do so. Put down the conspiracy theories, and pick up some other hobby. It's like putting away toys that you've outgrown. Now that you're 15, there are many other more interesting things to do with your time, and many of these paths can lead to successful and safe gamete exchange with females of your species.

If, on the other hand, you feel helpless to control these thoughts, these outbursts, these other behaviors... If you feel helpless when you attempt to communicate your thoughts to other people... then you would be wise to consult with a professional. This does not mean that you necessarily have a serious problem, but a professional would be able to make an even better objective examination of your case, and make better recommendations.



Ok, I haven't told anybody this...
It's hard to even write on the net, even though I
don't know any of you.

Here gos.
When I was 7, my uncle molested me.
I didn't tell anybody because I was ashamed, scared,
embarrassed, the list gos on!

I want something to be done about it.
Now that I'm older, and I could take it if he beat
me up, I've had my share of fights...
Actually, many people's share of fights.
But that's beside that point...

I want him to go to jail or something.
How do I know he isn't out there fuckin' molesting
some other poor soul. I don't want anybody else
to go through what I did.

So, if I told somebody, would they do something
about it, even though it's been years since it
happened??

I need to know, because if it's too late, I don't
want to go to the cops and tell them if they can't
do anything about it.

Advice? (link)
I advise you to talk to the police or a trusted teacher or school psychologist. They will help you, and tell you whether they can do anything about it (I suspect they WILL be able to do something).


Can anyone find me a story on how love began?

Something like a myth on how love was created or the first people to love, or maybe even the origin of love?

Or maybe an urban legend? (link)
When I was vacationing incognito in Athens a few millenia ago, I was lucky enough to hear Aristophanes expounding upon this very topic. Plato was good enough to write down what Aristophanes had to say, and you can read it here:

http://www.anselm.edu/homepage/dbanach/sym.htm


did native americans know what marshmallows were? (link)
Your question is somewhat imprecise. I assume you are asking whether Native Americans knew about marshmallows before they encountered people from the Old World.

The word 'marshmallow' itself is somewhat imprecise. It could mean the plant or the confection.

Marshmallow the plant is native to the Old World, so it could not have been known to the Native Americans.

Marshmallow the confection was originally made using marshmallow the plant, so again it could not have been known to the Native Americans.

When cultures come into contact, the introduction of new foodstuffs often leads to great changes. As a rather small scale example, I am now very fond of kitten pie.


Aim: How impurites affect boiling point of a liquid.

problem: at a campsite, a group of student campers discovered that the three large containers of clear liquids were labelled. they knew that one of the liquids was distilled water, the other Salt solution and the third alcohol. the campers needed salt solution to cook their peas. how can they find out which one of the containers has salt solution without tasting the liquids?

among their cooking utensils they have pots and pans. their 'make-shift' laboratory equipment including matches and thermometer.

my question whats the first step i do to start this SBA? i desperatley need somebody's help. (link)
Since the aim of the thought experiment involves the boiling point of a liquid, your answer should probably refer to this property of materials.

Assuming this thought experiment takes place on the surface of the earth (i.e. at what human scientists refer to as standard temperature and pressure), and that the 'alcohol' is ethanol, then it is a simple matter of boiling all three liquids and measuring the temperature at which that happens for each one.

The boiling point of ethanol is 352 K.

To differentiate between distilled water and salt water, one must be familiar with the phenomenon of boiling point elevation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boiling-point_elevation


15 / F
With the first black president in office and all this stuff going on, my family started talking about this date.
My family has a very strong spiritual background as Christians, but mine isn't as strong. I have accepted the Lord as my savior, been baptised, yadda yadda, but still. I have doubts about religion. What if it all really DID just start out from dust and particles and stuff?
I'm almost sixteen and I'm worried that IF anything significant should happen on that date, I won't be ready. When the signs show, I'm scared that everyone will be raptured up to heaven and I'll be left behind :[

I lie, I lust, I *ahem* pleasure myself. And I feel TERRIBLE for it. I don't read any of the books on young girls and God that I get for Christmas. They all seem kinda boring. But I don't have the time to read the bible cover to cover, even though God doesn't care. He wants us to MAKE time for him!

I just don't know where to start. HELP! (link)
Although I would not quite say that the space-time continuum "started out from dust and particles and stuff," the scientists of the Galactic Sodality have determined that the nature of space-time requires no external cause for it to exist.
December 21, 2012 is just a day, as reckoned in one human calendar. Your globe will spin through 360 degrees during that period, as it has spun countless times before.
Honestly, it's a little insulting to the rest of the intelligent species in the universe when certain humans suggest that some particular rotation of their one planet will have enormous consequences for the rest of us. If I were to tell you that your sun will go out like a snuffed candle when my home planet of Procyon III rotates 100 more times, you'd rightly think I was mistaken.

Still, you desire to be 'ready' for this phantom day. True wisdom is to live each and every day as if it were your last; do nothing that would cause you to regret your actions or inactions. And if you should fail on some day (as we all do; no sophont is perfect), then set your eyes on tomorrow and try again.

Do not try to be 'good enough' on some random day in 2012. Try to be a little better, a little wiser, a little smarter each day.


I write a column for my school paper, and I was wondering if it would be offensive to anyone if I said the Mayan calendar looks like a Monopoly board on crack. Because it does... (link)
I have a fondness for the pre-Columbian cultures of Earth; I was sorry to see them go. Anyway, as an outsider, I really couldn't comment on whether that description would offend anyone; however, I do feel that in the interest of accuracy I should point out that the 'Mayan calendar' you speak of is not Mayan and not really a calendar.

That picture is a representation of the Aztec calendar stone:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aztec_calendar_stone

Although it does carry the signs for the twenty days of the Aztec calendar, it is not really a calendar at all. (Of course, the Maya calendar also had 18 months of twenty days, and the Aztecs borrowed that system from the Maya.)


why do people sound different from themselves on recordings? (link)
Having studied human anatomy at some length, I believe I can answer your question. When a recording device captures your voice, it receives only the sound waves that travel through the air from your vocal apparatus.
When you hear your own voice, sound waves travel through the air to your ears, but sound also travels directly through your solid head to your ears.
If you cover your ears firmly (so that no sound waves can get in from the air), you can still hear yourself humming or talking quite loudly. Those are the soundwaves travelling directly through your flesh and bones to the inner ear.


Ok so I need information on wine bottle sizes haha. I want to get sutter home white zinfandel, but i want to get one of those really huge bottles. if anybody knows what i mean, can you please tell me what oz. or ml or whatever that bottle is? thank you sooo much! (link)
The human fascination with ethanol is quite intriguing to me. Ethanol does not have any particular effect on the biochemistry of my species, but the effect on humans is, if you'll pardon me, quite amusing.
In any case, a standard wine bottle is 750 milliliters, but Sutter Home White Zinfandel is occasionally also available in a 1.5 liter bottle, equivalent to two regular bottles. Human oenologists seem to have a low opinion of wines that are sold in larger containers, but I have no opinion myself.


I live in a fairly large city and have always been wanting to see a real farm. I saw a program on television not long ago called 30 days (with Morgan Spurlock) where two city people stayed on an organic farm (Dancing Rabbit Ecovillage) for a month:

http://www.dancingrabbit.org/30Days.php

Now, I'm not famous and I surely cannot contact Morgan Spurlock, but I really am interested in going to an organic farm and living for awhile (not forever; just to test it for awhile out at first). Ideally, I am looking for a farm much like Dancing Rabbit Ecovillage since I am against the murder of animals for our nourishment.

Does anyone know how I can find a farm like this and how much it would take to live there for awhile? I have little money so I wouldn't be able to pay an outrageous fee for my stay on the organic farm. I also do not plan on living on the farm forever. I simply would like to stay for a few months to see how life in such a place is and then decide from there about my lifestyle.

Any information you can supply is highly appreciated. Thanks! (link)
My planet is quite highly urbanized, so I can well understand your desire to experience a more agrarian society. I find Earth quite refreshing in that respect, and I confess that I find cows quite fascinating.
But to answer your question, you might wish to look into the organizations called Worldwide Opportunities on Organic Farms (WWOOF). You did not mention your spatial coordinates, but WWOOF has branches in most countries. Links to the individual websites can be found here:

http://www.wwoofinternational.org/world.php


I found a picture to color the other day (which I find relaxing) which was a picture of a gecko, but inside the outline of the gecko were alot of other pictures such as a seashell, octopuss, flowers, etc. Is there a name for such pictures? I would love to find some more, but have no idea where to look. (link)
Probably this is not quite what you mean, but a photomosaic is composed of many smaller images:

http://images.google.com/images?um=1&hl=en&safe=off&rls=DMUS%2CDMUS%3A2006-47%2CDMUS%3Aen&q=photomosaic

An artist who had some brief popularity just after I arrived on this planet was Arcimboldo, whose art is probably closer to what you're thinking of:

http://images.google.com/images?um=1&hl=en&safe=off&rls=DMUS,DMUS:2006-47,DMUS:en&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1&q=arcimboldo&spell=1


help! I'm prejudiced about christians! I know this is stupid. What should I do? (link)
Your question doesn't offer a great deal of information, but I offer the following throughts.

Humans come in quite a variety of types. Tall and short, fat and thin, mean and nice, stupid and smart, ignorant and educated.

Since there are, at this moment, an astonishing 6,710,008,924 humans on earth, there are millions of every type of human imaginable. No doubt, there are millions of stupid, ignorant, mean, Christians. But there are also millions of smart, educated, nice Christians.

To be prejudiced against a certain type of people is to assume that they are all alike. This is not the case.

Try to remember that every human alive is confined to some patches of land on the surface of a planet that's a few thousand miles across, floating in an endless immensity. Humanity has existed a million years out of the billions of years of the universe's existence. No matter how despicable some particular Christian is, it really doesn't mean anything in the greater scheme of things. It's not worth getting upset about.


I have been going to a therapist for a while now and she always says that i show signs of someone who was molested and she really thinks that i was. I do not remember ever being molested, but i just finished reading The Perks of Being a Wallflower. AT the end the main character realizes that his aunt used to molest him, i know that it is only a fictional book but everything in this book was like exactly everything that i am going through. And i guess basically i am just asking if someone knew how to explain to me that someone could forget that they were molested, or if that happens in real life besides just books? or if there is some disorder that makes you like block out a painful memory or something. (link)
You have already received useful answers. You must be very cautious of a therapist suggesting things that you don't remember. Also, if your therapist has suggested hypnosis in order to 'recover' lost memories, I would certainly go to a different therapist with no connections to the old one. You may find more useful information here:

http://www.fmsfonline.org/


How do u no if you are bi,straight or lesbian?

Is it okay to be bi and have 1 gf and 1 bf? (link)
I am delighted to answer your very interesting question. My perspective may be a little unusual, since I come from the planet Procyon III. You may not be aware that my people are hermaphrodites, having both male and female reproductive organs. Thus, the human terms 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual' have no usefulness on my planet. Nevertheless, since I have studied humans for many years, I understand the question quite well, and hope I can help you.

Few human beings are entirely heterosexual or entirely homosexual. Most are bisexual to some degree, even if they never act upon some of their impulses. In particular, most human cultures frown on human males displaying same-sex affection, so males who are (roughly speaking) 97% heterosexual and 3% homosexual are inhibited from acting upon the homosexual side of their nature. Such a person would have *bisexual* inclinations, but would have only *heterosexual* behavior. Which term is the correct one? Maybe there is no correct answer.

For that reason, it is probably best not to try to place a name on your own situation right away. If you categorize yourself too soon, that may place a label on yourself that may conflict with your true self. No one likes to be stereotyped. Putting a label on yourself is accepting a stereotype. I encourage you to just be you for a while, and discover who you are.

Still, I can offer one suggestion. When you self-pleasure, what sort of imagery comes to your mind? What sort of imagery most increases your pleasure? Do you fantasize only about males? Only about females? Both males and females? This may help you decide the nature of your own sexuality -- where you are on the scale of bisexuality.

As to your second question, it is certainly okay to have romantic connections with more than one person. HOWEVER, it is both wise and fair for you to be honest with all of them. You cannot mislead one of them into thinking that he or she is the only person in your romantic life. Your partners don't need to know about each other, but they need to know that you are dating them on a nonexclusive basis, experimenting with more than one partner.

As always, with any of your partners, I encourage you to practice safe gamete exchange.


I have to do a project for AP Biology for the Science Fair. I was wondering what are some really good and interesting topics to do it on. Any ideas? (link)
Humans display great interest in the biological activities that accompany reproduction. It is also clear from the Advicenators site that many young humans are ignorant of, but very curious about, reproduction. Perhaps some aspect of this topic would be a suitable, educational and popular subject for your project. Many professional and amateur illustrations of gamete exchange are available for academic use.


haha, ok maybe fierce isn't the word i'm looking for. well, i'm looking for a song that's tough, like, you don't need anyone/any guy or anything. just wondering, i don't have anything in mind, but i can't think of any songs like that at the moment. however, i was looking for something a little like rock/soft rock? if not, its cool, im into a ton of different varieties. (link)
A popular tune when I first came to this planet was Simon & Garfunkel's "I am a Rock". It may express the sentiment you desire. Although I do not completely understand human categorizations of music, I believe its folk-rock sound would be considered relatively 'soft'. You may listen to this song at the following link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hhgFNRhgVP8




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