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Pressing Charges.
Ok, I haven't told anybody this...
It's hard to even write on the net, even though I
don't know any of you.
Here gos.
When I was 7, my uncle molested me.
I didn't tell anybody because I was ashamed, scared,
embarrassed, the list gos on!
I want something to be done about it.
Now that I'm older, and I could take it if he beat
me up, I've had my share of fights...
Actually, many people's share of fights.
But that's beside that point...
I want him to go to jail or something.
How do I know he isn't out there fuckin' molesting
some other poor soul. I don't want anybody else
to go through what I did.
So, if I told somebody, would they do something
about it, even though it's been years since it
happened??
I need to know, because if it's too late, I don't
want to go to the cops and tell them if they can't
do anything about it.
Advice?
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Same here.
I want to speak out about it but I know the result, it will break my family into peices.
Also it was when I was 16, and now I am nearly 19, so its quite a big gap, but it has affected my life ever since.
I think its up to you how you go about it, but be VERY careful, because its not simple.
There is alot of law aspects to cover. I think you should talk to someone in confidence first then work from there, either a friend or just someone on the rape crisis help lines, or a child abuse crisis line.
I spoke to a particular person and she gave me two options:
1. Tell the police, make a statement, get him sent down - but this would result in breaking my family in two as my uncle is my mums partners brother.
2. Live with it for now, I am not crying every single day, and I can cope if I think about other things and keep myself busy, and maybe later in life, Ill tell someone, at the moment I know he isnt harming anyone else, I know I was a one off, so I havent got that to worry about.
Its your choice, but make the right one because its not just as simple as ''he molestered me, send him down'' they have to try to find evidence, arrest him and question him etc.
Good luck with whatever you do.
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It's never too late, that jerk deserves to be locked in prison.
Good Luck =]=]
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Its definitly not too late. Get your but to the police and tell them!
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I advise you to talk to the police or a trusted teacher or school psychologist. They will help you, and tell you whether they can do anything about it (I suspect they WILL be able to do something).
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You need to go ahead and press charges. Even though you are bound to be affected, you know yourself that he could do this again (or may have already done so).
There are support groups as well as your friends, so you don't need to face this alone.
Check how the law stands on this, as advised in one of your other answers.
Be brave and hold your head up, he is the one who did wrong.
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SEND HIS FREAKEN BUTT TO JAIL!!!! Dude tell some one if you said something back then he would have gone to jail now I don't know he could still don’t let that sack of dirt get away with it (but don't go on a killing spree). Just do whatever it takes to get him in jail. Besides your probably to hot to be molested GOD HE MAKES ME MAD. Hope it works out.
Mr-Fix-It
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First off, I'm so sorry this happened to you, and that you've been struggling with it alone for so long.
Rest assured that speaking up is the best thing you can do, because you're right: you never know who else may suffer because of this man's lack of self-control.
In fact, if you keep this in mind, it may help the healing process.
Also, if your family is supportive, you should speak to them about what happened. Start with the parent who isn't blood-related to your uncle, if possible.
As for legalities:
Whether you can still press charges against your uncle depends on your state.
Do a Google search for this:
"name of state" + "statute of limitations on child molestation"
I found this on TheLaw.com forums:
"In general, the statute of limitations for rape or sodomy felonies is five years from the date the crime was committed. For misdemeanors (sexual contact without consent) the statute of limitations is two years from the date the crime was committed.
Since Legislature realized that young children who are victims of sexual crimes might not be apt to report them, the law was changed in 1996 to "toll" the statute of limitations or delay the clock from running until the child turned 18 or until the crime was reported to the police or Statewide Central Registry, whichever occurs earlier. So for example, if a crime occurred in 1997 then the parents of a ten-year-old child have 13 years (until 2010) to report and prosecute this crime if it�s a felony and 10 years (until 2007) to report and prosecute if it is a misdemeanor."
It may not be (and probably isn't) the same in every state.
Nevertheless, even if nothing can be done to your uncle, you still need to speak up -- suffering in silence is a damaging thing.
Best of luck.
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well i think that there is still something that u can do about this but you are going to have to act quick because every day you wait is just another day that you are letting him get to you so act quick
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