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How do you know if...and is it ok?
How do u no if you are bi,straight or lesbian?
Is it okay to be bi and have 1 gf and 1 bf?
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I am delighted to answer your very interesting question. My perspective may be a little unusual, since I come from the planet Procyon III. You may not be aware that my people are hermaphrodites, having both male and female reproductive organs. Thus, the human terms 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual' have no usefulness on my planet. Nevertheless, since I have studied humans for many years, I understand the question quite well, and hope I can help you.
Few human beings are entirely heterosexual or entirely homosexual. Most are bisexual to some degree, even if they never act upon some of their impulses. In particular, most human cultures frown on human males displaying same-sex affection, so males who are (roughly speaking) 97% heterosexual and 3% homosexual are inhibited from acting upon the homosexual side of their nature. Such a person would have *bisexual* inclinations, but would have only *heterosexual* behavior. Which term is the correct one? Maybe there is no correct answer.
For that reason, it is probably best not to try to place a name on your own situation right away. If you categorize yourself too soon, that may place a label on yourself that may conflict with your true self. No one likes to be stereotyped. Putting a label on yourself is accepting a stereotype. I encourage you to just be you for a while, and discover who you are.
Still, I can offer one suggestion. When you self-pleasure, what sort of imagery comes to your mind? What sort of imagery most increases your pleasure? Do you fantasize only about males? Only about females? Both males and females? This may help you decide the nature of your own sexuality -- where you are on the scale of bisexuality.
As to your second question, it is certainly okay to have romantic connections with more than one person. HOWEVER, it is both wise and fair for you to be honest with all of them. You cannot mislead one of them into thinking that he or she is the only person in your romantic life. Your partners don't need to know about each other, but they need to know that you are dating them on a nonexclusive basis, experimenting with more than one partner.
As always, with any of your partners, I encourage you to practice safe gamete exchange.
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