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I am emo, and I have had thoughts of killing myself. Over a potential rumor
14/female
I am emo, and recently, a weird kid at my school asked me to give him a blowjob. He said that if i didnt go out with him that he would kill himself. He said that if I don't give him a blowjob, he will tell the whole school sexual lies about me.
Before I knew he existed, I was at my friends house when he showed up. My friend left the room for like an hour. He touched me, and I kept saying stop, and he knows that it was wrong
He even made a fake Facebook account as a fake person so that he could talk to me. I did not/don't want anything to do with him. On facebook on his fake profile he apologized. I believed him.
I dont know what to do. I just want to kill myself so that it all stops. I'm truly petrified. I want to end it all. Nobody knows that I an emo besides my closest most bestest friend (: I call her my lil' sis :)
I don't know what I should do. If I kill myself, I will leave my friend, and I told her that I would always be there for her. Idk if my life is even important anymore... (sorry this is so long.. I just needed somewhere to turn to)....
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"I did not/don't want anything to do with him."
That is all you need to keep repeating to yourself. Even if he was sincere in his apology, that does not mean you have to have anything to do with him. Although you may go to the same school, do not communicate with him in any way. If he bothers you at school, tell the administration.
You can't stop him from telling lies about you. It doesn't matter if you do what he wants, or if you don't do what he wants, he is still the sort of human who would make that kind of threat. The last thing you should do is to encourage him to make such threats by giving him what he wants. You will always know the truth, and that's truly the important thing. The truth provides strength, while giving in to him is weakness; it will only make you think less of yourself.
All life is important. Human lives are short enough as it is; there is no need to shorten a life over lies. Live your life upholding your truth, and no lies can touch you.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. It is questions like your as to why I am an advisor on this website. It is my hope that giving straight answers to questions ans the wisdom of my age will be help full.
First let me put what this boy has done to you in real world perspective. By intimidating you into giving him a blowjob he has committed rape. Yes, oral sex is a form of sex known legally as sodomy. By forcing you to commit an act of sodomy he has committed rape. If you did not give him the blowjob he is guilty of attempted rape by his intimidation of you to get you to give him a blowjob. If your friend left the room knowing that he was going to do this then she is an accessory before the fact and just as guilty.
Killing yourself is not the answer. You will leave behind friends and family that love you who will be hurt and angry.
This boy has broken the law, he may not realize it, but he has. He has hurt you in the worst way a male can hurt a female. You need to show him that what he has done is not only morally wrong but against the law as well. If he did this to you he may have done it before and he will do it again. He must be stopped.
There are two ways you can do this. If I was your father I would hope you would be confident enough in my love for you to come to me with a problem such as this. Sure I'm going to get upset, not at you, but at him for hurting my little girl. Yes I will question you as to just what happened, not because I don't believe you or trust you. But because I need to make sure I have the facts straight so I can take the appropriate action.
Now just what is the appropriate action: I have two choices. I could go to his father and talk with him. Tell him what you have told me. Based on my conversation with his father I could leave it there trusting that his father will take the appropriate corrective action with his son. If I come away with the feeling that his father feels his son has done no wrong I have the option of filing a complaint with local law enforcement and letting them handle the matter.
The other choice you have, and I would suggest no matter what that you call them, is to call an organization called RAINN. This stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a hotline that is open 24/7 to help people just like you find people in your own town who can help you deal with what has happened. The number is; 1-800-656-HOPE.
I would hope you would do both, talk to your parents and call RAINN. At the very least call RAINN and let them help you, that is what they are there for.
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No do NOT kill yourself. There are many things in the future for you that you just don't know about yet. You're only 14 theres no need in that. Don't let some stupid immature petty lil boy try to make you feel so bad that you wanna kill yourself. There's so much more out there waiting for you. Don't let him bother you. Talk it all out with your friend or maybe tell someone that he is trying to sexually touch u and get him in big time trouble. I dont really know what else to say but hope I helped you change your mind.
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you have probably hear this time and time again but killing your self is not the answer.
what about your "lil sis" or your family.
just tell this kid you dont give 2 f****s, that your not interested and just to leave you alone.
if your really freaking out, tell him u have saved the online conversation and if he doesn't stop you WILL report him. you may be bluffing but you can be certain he will back away if not stop.
ignore this guy as much as possible! focus on you and your friends. if rumor gets out laugh it off say hes just desperate and wants attention and that the rumors are false. be confident, dont give in to him. your worth alot more than that, even if you dont see that just yet.
give it time and things will carm down.
i hope in a weird way this kind of helps :)
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First of all your life is worth alot more then some stupid rumour. This kid is obviously a waste of time,. and if he spreads rumors your real true friends will believe what you say not what is being heard around school. You are so so young and you have your whole life ahead of you,. If you really feel that you are on the edge of ending it then you should really talk to someone. as far if he keeps harrassing you,. i would talk to someone about that as well.
Because if you say no. and he keeps on,. than it is unwanted.
Hope This Helps. :)
~Jasmine*
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