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I was just dumped by this guy for another girl... and I got over it. I was fed up with having my heart broken. but while I was singing this love song that had girl part and a boy part, he comes and sings the boy part with me. I didn't know what to do... so I just stopped singing. But he does this every time I sing!! Plus he's still with the other girl..
What does this mean? I hate him, so I wouldn't like it to mean anything... What should I do??

Stay away from losers like him that move from girl to girl. Just pretend not to notice him. Time heals everything. :)

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I started to babysit for money. But there's this evil little kid that is very young (only 6!!) but is verrry perverted. He watches rated R movies, fastforwarding to sex scenes, and he's always trying to touch my parts. I'm 15!! How gross is that?! I told his parents about it, but they wouldn't believe me. He acts like an angel in front of them I guess. I yell at him and everything, but nothing works!!

WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

That is disturbing. Please stop baby-sitting him. Parent's never like to hear bad things about their children, so don't even bother telling them. Find other kids to babysit.

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i been getting advice everyday because of me and my ex-boyfriend i broke up with him and i still have feelings for him i dont know what to do can somebody help me cause i dont know if he still likes me so what now please help

I know it's hard, i know it's easier said than done. But please just try to move on. If you two were meant to be together than y'all will. If not you'll find someone better. Trust me... i've been there!

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I have two brothers, one is in high school and one is in collage, i am in middle school. Because of the large age gap, my brothers are great friends but i am left in the dust. Even when im talking directly at one, if the other one comes in, he completely looses focus of me totalk to him. Most of the time, i'll be talking and then someone will inturupt me without saying im sorry or anything and just continue with what they are saying. When i do that i get in alot of trouble for being"rude". I just dont think its fair that they can be so rude and inconsiterate to me. Can someone please tell me if i am overeacting? I mean they are my brothers and i love them to death, so why cant they love me back?

haha yeah it was the same form me growing up. My sisters were in HS when i was in elementary. Give it some time, you'll be a lot closer to them once you reach your adult years when y'all have more in common.

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I need help deciding between 2 pictures to send in for an audition. I know these are basically exactly the same, but I can't pick the better one.

Help?

http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b123/flippyfloppas/mebluee.jpg

http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b123/flippyfloppas/mebluee2.jpg

I like the 2nd one better.

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I told my best (male) friend that I wouldn't sleep with him. We had been friends for 3 years and really cared about each other. I felt that he was my "soul mate". The problem was that he is trapped in a bad marriage- really bad. They have nothing in common and fight constantly. People say they are like oil and water. I almost think he is afraid of her. They have never had kids and she is older than him with two grown kids who are heroin addicts. lt time I saw him he hinted we should fool around. I told him that as long as he were married I wouldnt sleep with him. Now he wants nothing to do with me. So does that mean he was never intending on leaving her and just wanted an affair? Because I think he really did care about me but is too scared to leave her. She is very vindictive. I know how unhappy he was with her because I could see the pain in his eyes when he was with her at social functions so if you think he's staying with her becuase he loves he it's not true.

That doesn't necessarily mean he's staying with her because he loves her, he probably just feels like leaving her would be too much of an inconvinence, no matter how bad their relationship is. It's sad that he chooses not to talk to you anymore, and if he's doing it mainly because you wouldn't sleep with him than you should move on with your life. If there is something else you did that emotionally hurt him than you should try to talk it over.

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I just got hit with a shock today. I am 61/2 months pregnant and my baby's father just told me that he wants to name our daughter after his best friend. I was upset because she is sort of the reason we broke up. I had just found out I was pregnant last summer and while we were having problems his best friend, 8 montns pregnant at the time and married was coming to visit him from out of state for the week end. I asked him if I could meet her and he accused me of being jealous and broke up with me. We had broken up a couple of weeks prior to that because we were initially going to have an abortion. We had a miscarriage back in april and he didn't want to be disappointed again. We were actually fighting about him not going with me to the procedure. We then got back together 4 days later and decided to keep the baby. Then we broke up again because of the reason mentioned earlier in this message. We fought for over a month about things with the pregnancy and everything. Then we finally worked through some things and it was decided that we would see where things go between us. Things are the same as before we broke up only he no longer tells me he loves me anymore. I will admit I was jealous when I first became pregnant but when I asked to meet his best friend I was really trying to be a good sport, figuring this was his best friend and I had hoped that extending my understanding for the situation that maybe he would see I was trying . When he broke up with me instead I was devastated. We made a deal because this is his only child, I have 4 others, that he would get to name the baby. We just found out we are having a girl yesterday and today he hit me with this. I have to admit I lost my cool. I see it as naming my daughter after someone who unknowingly had everything to do with our break up. I also feel a little hurt that his reaction for me wanting to meet this person is the reason we broke up. We fought about this back and forth today. I ended up recognizing that a deal is a deal.I agreed to name the baby according to his choice. He wouldn't even try to come up with any other girl names. He told me if I didn't agree to it then he wasn't naming the baby and he placed that responsibility in my hands. I didn't want that. I just wanted him to understand that it made me feel really hurt that he wasn't thinking about how I would feel about naming my daughter after her. Whenever we argue we often fight about how unreasonable he was for breaking up with me because I wanted to meet his friend. Even though that woman didn't mean to come between us, even though she is married with a family of her own, I still feel betrayed by this whole situation. He says I am being silly. I don't know about that. I feel like the man I love is asking me to agree to name his daughter after a woman who means more to him than I do. What should I do?He also informed me today that she will be coming to visit before I have the baby and will be around when the baby is born, he claims she is bringing her husband this time but I don't know what to feel. I think it is more apporpriate for her to come after we have the baby. This is our time. Coming to see the baby is one thing but coming before and staying until I have the baby makes me kind of angry. She has had kids before so you would think she can respect the situation. I would think my baby's father would understand that part too. If I have to name my baby after this woman I feel my birthing experience should be as I see fit. Please tell me if I am doing the right thing here or not.

It's your baby, it's comming outta you. Don't let ur child's name remind you if a hard time in your life.

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i like coloring my hair but i cant permanetly dye my hair because my mom said i cant but i want to REALLY BAD!! so i was thinking she would probaly let me dye it if it came out. like after a certain amount of time or washes. i think they have stuff like that but i dont know where i would get them, would they be at someplace like walmart? ive colored my hair but with things that come out after one wash. i want something that will last a little bit longer but not really long. but ive never seen anything that will wash out unless its like after the 1st time you wash it. where could i get hair dye like what i want?

It's called semi permanent and demi permanent. But it will not make your hair lighter. Try Sally's beauty supply, they have a huge selection of temporary hair color.

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OK. so my sister is married to this guy. who has a brother my age. and i was just wondering if there was anything wrong with dating him. because hes like my brother in law...but we're not blood related or anything. it was just something i always wondered.

I dont see anything wrong with it.

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Alright, let's call this guy coffee (hey, I'm staring at a coffee cup here)He's in 11th grade and I'm 9th grade. Well I really really like him and I think he likes me too. My friends keep on saying that he likes me a lot and he's hitting on me and that we'd make a cute couple. I know, grade difference...but I really don't think he wants to just get in my pants.

But anywhos, he's really super nice and sensitive to everyone's feelings and really sweet. We basically know each other through a good friend of ours...sorta I guess? Anyways, here are some things that gets me to think that he likes me:

He said he come to the strings concert (most people never come unless they're family or forced)He puts his arms around my shoulder in a nonpossessive way and walks with me to my classes. twice he did that, he almost got in trouble for not returning to class right away and almost being late. He made sure that I was okay when I was really upset and told me to cheer up and everything. He asked if I had a bf and if I did he'd feel bad about putting his arms around me. He talks about me (in a good way) to his friends and always introduces me to all his friends whenever it's possible. He calls me cute and pretty and compliments me all the time.

Anyways I really like him and do you think it's weird that I'm having this major crush on a 11th grader when I'm only a 9th grader? Do you think he likes me? And tell me the truth because I'm looking foradvice..not sugar coated answers. THANKS!

haha... i knew a guy named coffee... personally i don't think there is anything wrong with that. It sounds like he is interested in you. I would definitely go for it.

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I dyed my hair last night & I hate the color though it came out too red! :[ The box said it was suppose to be a medium reddish brown. But instead my hair came out red. Well when i got home from school i showered and tried to wash out the dye and it didnt come out like i hoped it would. It's permanent too so its not like it will eventually come out. My mom said she WONT redye my hair because its too expensive and i dont know what to do. My hair is short with layers so i know it wont take as long to grow out. Anways i was wondering if anyone had an suggestions on what to do or how to get it out faster besides dying it. Thanks in advice.

Give it a couple of days it will fade. Red is the worst color to keep up with. I use to color my hair burgundy when i was 16. I had to recolor it on a daily basis because it used to fade to auburn, and it sounds like that's what you want. Dont overwash it, because it will dry out.

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Okay people, heres the deal; This is gonna be my first Christams with my boyfriend. I really love him and I wanna get him something good. He gave me a few suggestions(a mini fridge, a video game chair, some video games that I can't remember right now) but I wanna surprise him. He's into techy stuff, he's really good with computers and he loves video games. He told me a while ago what he was going to get me, which was fine cuz anything is okay with me, but today he told me that he go me something else.
I really wanna get him something he'll like!!

My bf is like that too... what's ur price range? Does he own an Ipod. I saw this really cut ipod stand/radio... you can get it from radioshack... it comes in black and white... and you sit your ipod in it. It's about $100 (discluding the ipod)

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is it normal for my handwriting to change depending on what moods i am in? the reason i am asking is because my teacher recently gave me like 5 zeros because she said that hand writing wasn't mine...AND IT WAS ALL THE ASSIGNMENT! the questions were written in cursive and the answers in a loopy print....so what's the deal. i tried to tell her and i swore to her that i didn't cheat....i even tried to show here other work samples but she wouldn't have a look at them. what should i do? and do you think my handwrting is changing because of my mood?

yeah that's possible... mine changes all the time... if she refuses to discuss the matter with you than you should go talk to ur admin and get a parent involved. She should at least give you a chance to explain!!!

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Okay, so I'm going to need to fast for a long period of time to get a bunch of blood work done, ect. (I'm getting cholesterol tests, which is why I cant eat the days of the tests) so I was wondering if there are any ways to get my mind off food. I'm huge on eating many snacks during the day, so this will be hard for me. If any of you have any effective tecniques or anything, please help me out. =D.


Thanks Alot in advance!!
-Lynn.

Keep your hands bzy. Surf the net, play video games, read a book.

Update: No prb :)

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Female - 16

Hi, in my art class at school we are using clay and it really dries out our hands. If I put it on my face where I am oily would it dry it out and make the blemishes go away? What else might happen?

Thankss

Your face has millions of pores on it, and those pores produce oils, if you put clay on it it your face is going to produce more oil since the clay is going to dry it out. That's a really bad idea. Try to see a dermatologist.

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ok so my mom .. does not agree with me geting a lip peircing.. but i .. REALLY REALLY want one and have for the past few years and obviously i need her aprovil to get it done she things its gross cause its a hole and she thinks its grose cause its around the mouth but i would love to have one i put fake ones in all the time but i want permanemt and i wouldnt wear i fake one to school so how should i come about this.. how could i convince her what can i do ?

PLEASE HELP

15.m

I think you should get your laberet pierced. That's hott on guys. Just tell her that your old enough to make a decision like this, and show her that you are responsible. It may take some time before she gives in.

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I'm 15 years old. My hair is really thick. I get it thinned but it's still sooooo thick. Is there anything I could do about this problem. My hair is always poofy unless I straighten it before I go to bed and restraighen it when I wake up. Please let me know of anything to calm down my poof problem and some cute hair styles and hair do's.

Try using hair serum. Frizz ease and garnier have some.

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I'm a flat out slut.
I always let guys do stuff to me and take advantage of me sexually.
For some odd reason, i think its fun to get guys horny.
I used to think it was becuase they liked me, but they dont. And no matter what,I still continue to do it , Im not a bad person at all.
I just cant stop doing it!
I usually do it to guys I like or think is hot.
I want to stop, but I dont know how!
And I want guys to start liking me for who I am.
Please dont insult me, i just need help.

Thanks
14/f

You need to talk to someone, i trusted adult or maybe you should get some professional help. Also please get tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. There are plenty of free confindential clinics out there. Look it up online, and i think they can also provide some referals for therapy and emotional support.

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i was wondering if you just drink a little alcohol but not enough to get you drunk, then some weed.. would that get you really messed up?

I agree with sizzlinmandolin... don't smoke weed, it's a really bad idea. Drinking and smoking at the same time would be WORSE. I've seen a lot of people mess up their lives by doing so. Drink responsibly, and stay away from recreational drugs.

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How do i get over my first love, who i was with for 9 months? And he already likes someone new. And, everytime i get around or talk to another guy i just think about my ex. and i dont want to, i just want to be over him. i feel i'v cryed enough =[/. help!

Go out with you friends, meet new people. Find a new hobby. Try to move on from the things that you used to do when you were with him.

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