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Hoe.
I'm a flat out slut.
I always let guys do stuff to me and take advantage of me sexually.
For some odd reason, i think its fun to get guys horny.
I used to think it was becuase they liked me, but they dont. And no matter what,I still continue to do it , Im not a bad person at all.
I just cant stop doing it!
I usually do it to guys I like or think is hot.
I want to stop, but I dont know how!
And I want guys to start liking me for who I am.
Please dont insult me, i just need help.
Thanks
14/f
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why don't you just stop.. get some respect for yourself.. when you respect yourself guys will respect and like you.. and you're 14 which is just way to young to do this kind of stuff.. talk to someone about it.. and start loving yourself if you want others to love you back
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You need to talk to someone, i trusted adult or maybe you should get some professional help. Also please get tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. There are plenty of free confindential clinics out there. Look it up online, and i think they can also provide some referals for therapy and emotional support.
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Sex can be addictive, in a similar way to gambling or internet surfing. You may not be an actual sex-addict now, but you're definitely tending that way, and at the age of fourteen that's definitely not a good thing.
I'm guessing you've escaped pregnancy so far; count your blessings. You may have also avoided a nasty STD, but I suggest you get yourself to a doctor and make sure. Unfortunately, the damage to your reputation is probably done, and it's something you likely won't be able to shake for the remainder of your teen years. You are going to have a very, very hard time finding a boyfriend who's not interested mostly in getting an easy lay. The guys who are looking for a more meaningful relationship will probably avoid you so that their own reputation is not tarnished. That's just the bed you've made for yourself.
However, that's not to say that your situation is hopeless. You'll have a chance for a fresh start after high school, and with luck you may be able to turn things around before then. In the meantime you're going to need some kind of counseling. You may need to confess your behavior to your parents (judge for yourself whether they can take the news gracefully; there are some parents who will react very angrily to such things).
Most importantly, you must not define yourself as a "slut". If you must, think of that as who you WERE, so that you may begin redefining who you are and who you will be. And someday, you will be able to enjoy sex in a more fulfilling way.
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ok well what you can do is if you dress like a slut.. dont as much. like wear jeans and a sweatshirt not like short stuff and tight clothes or w.e.. and if you find a guy you think is hott or you like dont go after him like that. just like hang around with him become friends let him get to know the real you. and then he could fall in love. just dont go after the guys like you normally do. instead of just making out with them and stuff do other stuff. i mean i dont wanna control your life i mean you cna do whatever you want. but the guy that you find or really like just like give him hints that you do. like smile really cutely torwards him. like dont just jump on top of him.
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i dont blame the guys =p
um stop doing it and they'll like you for who u are. simple as that.
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The reason may be is low self esteem and lack of power in your life. To make guys horny, to be the one to decide whether they get sex or not, is a form of ego-boost and power. And I think that power is what attracts you the most.
When you say you think it's fun to get guys horny, it makes you feel good about yourself because in a way, it convices you that you are capable of doing something.
To make guys start liking you for who you are. Sit down, alone, in your room for a while and know thyself. Redefine lost boundaries, beliefs, likes, dislikes and don't really jump into romantic situations until you are sure that you feel good about who you are.
Then, when that happens, you can step out again and resume life in a way that you find fulfilling.
-Zeph
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Please don't call yourself a slut. This just gives other girls the incentive to call you a degrading name. Do you want to be talked about?
I'm sure you don't.
You like sex.
Admitting you like sex and calling yourself a whore are two different things. You need to discover the difference between the two before we go any further. Having sex just to be having sex and being addicted to sex is the difference. I think you have a problem. Being addicted to sex is considered a problem just like any other addiction. Watch "Someone to Love Me" on the Lifetime Channel and that will give you a new idea on your problem.
Try quiting cold turkey. As in just quiting and not thinking twice about it. If that doesn't work, talk to the school guidance councelor. Anything you or her says is confidential and she can help you.
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Okay! I think you should just slow down. I believe what you have is valuble and if someone really loved you then they would wait until you are ready. Plus you are way to young and there are alot of problems and diseases in this world. Men are men and if you are a kind of girl who likes to give away they are going to take that poourtunity. I belive you should pray. it may sound stupid but it works! i believe you are a good person too. but talk to your mom adn if you want just tell me. just tell yourself that you will stop over again and get your self-esteem up. but remember that no man who doesn't respect you is worth your time nor your purity!
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