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hey all music question coming at ya who sings this song " dear jamie" what band thanks

I found to possible bands, the lyrics came from Two Shots of Rye, but hellogoodbye is also a choice.

Dear Jamie, I've been waiting outside my mailbox
Waiting for redemption from some dear old friends of mine
Everyday I take this magic potion, when I'm with no one
It helps me transcend space and pass the time

Let me smooth your hair
Analyze your eyes
Don't let me fall victim
And become your poltergeist
Let me affect you
And elevate you to new heights
Remind you what it is to love
And to love me is only right

Dear Jamie, I haven't heard from you in a month
Thought we should try to keep in touch - I keep thinking 'bout touching you
Dear Jamie, it's not depression so Doctor says
The symptoms are all in my head
Well where else would they be?

Let me smooth your hair
Analyze your eyes
Don't let me fall victim
And become your poltergeist
Let me affect you
And elevate you to new heights
Remind you what it is to love
And to love me is only right

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I got a girlfriend who is acting like she high or sumthing.....could it be maybe she had to many reeses or sugar tonight?

I would vote for... maybe she is high? Just kidding (unless she's a druggy or something)
But no that couldn't be it because sugar doesn't make you hyper, that fact is wrong, or so I've been told.
Maybe that's just her personality, or she's excited to see you.

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Who *ELSE capitilaizes theiR "R"'s???? :) ;D

Mackenzie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Muah ha ha... thats who I thought it was.
But I'm signing off the computer now, so I will haev to talk to you later. Mucho Love ha ha

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well im 13 years old and weigh bout 108 pounds. im not overweight or anything but i wanted to get down to 105. is there anything i culd do to lose those 3 pounds? {other then the obvious excercise and dont eat junk food} thnx.

Play sports, it's a fun way to lost weight.
Run around, play with the little kids that live near you (if there are any) swim, it's summer, go to the mall. That helps any one in my area because our mall is at least a mile walk, so of course walking it a few times while excercising your wallet and credit card make for an excellent way to lose weight. And it's only 3lbs your looking to lose. Just have fun, run around, go swimming, walk the neighborhood or area with friends, do whatever is fun but still actually excercising.
I mean walk everwhere you go as long as it's not too far away. You could lose like 5 or 6lbs by just doing that, maybe more depending how much and how far.

Sorry if it's not the answer you're looking for, but it's all I got.

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i have 8 welts on my stomach from playen paintball its been 2 weeks and they still havnt gone away. how do i make them go away

i rate high

There is nothing you can do but wait.
I mean there are probably creams and stuff out there that you could find for bruises and welts if you went to a drugstore such as CVS or Walgreens or Eckard or something, but mostly you're just going to have to wait.

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I just got out of 9th grade and my mother still will barely let me do anything. She won't let me go to the beach unless there's an adult there. I can't go anywhere with anyone unless she meets their parents first. She flips out when guys call. I wouldn't care so much but a lot of times a miss out on doing fun stuff because no one elses parents chaperone, they just drop their kids off places, and then I'm not allowed to go. Forget parties, because there are no parents she can confirm with that i'll be safe and not drinking or doing drugs. Does she expect me to never do anything in highschool? She doesn't trust my judgement, and doesn't understand that I won't make the same mistakes she did. I'm tempted to start lying 2 her and sneaking around so that I'm not stuck at home all weekend doing nothing. Soon my friends are going to be able to drive and she says I can't ride in their cars. I'm going to have a lot of boring weekends! How do I show her that I'm responsible so that I can go places? What can I say to her that will help her let go a little and not be so protective?

Well first, if you start to sneak around, you WILL get caught, and then there you go, you completely ruined your chance and you just proved to them that you couldn't be trusted.

What you need to do is sit her down and talk to her like civilized adults. Even though you are just a teen. If I were you I wouldn't bring up the "I'm not going to make the same mistakes as you did" unless it's a last resort, that comment always got me in trouble (my mom got pregnant before she was married and she was only 19, I love my big brother, but I always use that against her and always get in trouble for it)

But you defintitly should sit down and just talk to her like adults. Tell her how you feel, and maybe make some compromises. Hopefully she'll lighten up a little. Like she'll let you go to the mall and movies without an adult, but she can do the driving so she knows exactly where you are. And if you have a phone, you call and check in every once in a while. (trust me, much better than not getting to go out at all)
Ummm, just sit her down and talk, if she won't listen or continuously interupts you then the only other way is to write down how you feel. But things in writing almost always sound worse and more mean than they should so make sure in the letter or e-mail or whatever that she knows you love her and that you know she's only trying to protect you, but it's overprotection and you need some kind of freedom.

Maybe she'll at least let you go to games at the school, that way she can go too, or at least there are teachers and cops (at least at our high school games, but that's usually only for football with the cops) and it's a much safer enviornment.

Just sit her down and be like "Mom we really need to have a serious talk"
Now don't start just attacking her, do one little thing at a time and let her get in some talking, but don't let her control the conversation completely.
"Mom I think you're much too protective" I know you love me and want to protect me, and I love you too, but we need to compromise on some things to make us both happy"

Can you take it from there? Leave on in my inbox if you still need anything.

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ok so i like this guy. he just moved in before christmas. i have liked im since then. well he knows i like him. but he talks to me when we're at home. but when we get to skool he doesnt and i dont know why. can you help me? bc idk why he doesnt talk to me at skool? and i want him to like me.so yeah im confused.

confused girl, age 15.

Sorry, it's been a while since I last logged on...

Maybe he only likes you as a friend? Is he older than you? If so then maybe he doesn't like hanging around the "youngins" at school.
Or are you older than him? Maybe he feel awkward and is uncomfortable hanging around you.
Or are you two the same age? Maybe you hang around with a different crowd and he doesn't know how to approach you when you're around all your friends.

Or maybe just maybe he is embarassed of you at school or something, but doesn't mind hanging around you at home.

Try approaching him at school, and if he acts strange, avoids you, or completely ignores you then ask him about it after school.

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How much sleep should a person get?

http://www.patientlinx.com/sleepinsomnia/sleepamount.cfm

^The first paragraph has about all you need...
This sums it up thought

Infants - about 16 hours per day
teens- 9 hours
adults - anywhere from 5-10 hours

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I have tried to eat exactly 3 meals a day iwthout anny snakcs, but I'm having trouble. As soon as I come from school I NEED a snack. How can I keep myself occupied while I'm doin homewrok so I don't snack?!

It's okay to eat a snack inbetween meals, most nutritionists would rather it. Just try and make it a healthy one. Such as an apple or a banana, or crackers with peanut butter or something. And then milk or juice or water to drink.

Or if you really really really want a way to keep your mind of food, you can listen to music and sing to it (lip sync if you can't sing) and then do your homework with the music and the singing in the background.
Unless you're one of those people who can't have noise or at least music on when doing homework.

Then I have nothing for you. Keep water or anything healthy to drink with you, maybe make a fruit smoothie. It's healthy, it tastes good, and it's not actually food, it's a drink.
Sometimes when you think you are hungary, you are actually thirsty or dehydrated. So everytime you're hungary just get something to drink, and if that doesn't hit the spot then eat a small snack. It's not going to kill you :-P

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okay guys. so my neighbors left for 2 nights and i had to watch their dog. i also got in their hottub but i forgot to put the cover back on and before i could go fix it..they came home.

the lady just recently called, and i ignored the phone call. then she walked over here, and my brother answered the door and told her i was taking a nap. she asked him to tell me to call her back.

i'm pretty sure it's not to thank me for feeding their dog, it's to bring up the hottub. theyre good, christian peopel who go to church like 230948 times a week. so i'm not sure if they'd yell at me. i just need advice on how to handle the situation. i'm sooo scared to call back.

help! :(

Well if you keep avoiding them then they know something must be up. I mean whenever I want to get out of trouble or just not talk about whatever is on my mind because I'm afraid of being yelled at or whatever else I avoid the situation, but whoever I'm avoiding does realize I'm avoiding them and knows something must be up.

So anyway... to a less confusing statement...

If they're just thanking you about the dog then politely say you enjoyed watching it, and you'll do it again sometime if they need you (but only if you really will) and if they mention the hot tub you could do the not so honorable thing and lie and say that you don't know what happened and that surely you wouldn't use their hot tub, or you could confess and say that you thought since you were doing such a nice thing for them that they wouldn't mind you using it and that you do apologize for forgetting to put the cover back on.
I would just call back and if the hot tub comes up, go with the truth, but do as you wish this is just my opinion.

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Does anyone know any like free teen hotlines?

What kind of hotlines? do you mean like teen talk or like a dating hotline?
This is all I got, and this is like if you want to anonymously talk about your problems. Other than that, I have nothing
1-800-650-8336

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Theres so many drugs and violence and sex in my school i some times feel left out and want to join the crowd by smoking or drinking or having sex i mean my friends do it and so do my brothers they seem to get all the girls to like no girls like me but they all like my brothers and my friends
Should i join the crowd and get the hot girls?
or
Should i stay sober and not have sex ?
Signed ~Very Confused~

Do what YOU want to do. Do you want to copy others, do you want to risk the consequences.
I personally have stayed away from drugs the best I could. I'll admit almost all of my friends do them. And I admit I haev drank in the past. It started out as peer pressure, and it ended up in the death of a great friend. I haven't touched any alcohol since. It was hard, I wanted to kill myself, but I got through it.

Do you want to put yourself through that. People that smoke and drink think it's no big deal. They will keep thinking that until something big happens. Do you want to risk it? It's all up to you in the end. Do you want to break the law to fit it? Do you really want someone who doesn't like you for YOU?!?!?!

If it were up to me I'd rather a guy like me for me then only like me if I were to sleep with him... I mean that's the major reason my ex and I broke up. But anyway, it's all up to you in the end. Just make the right decision, you don't want it to bite you in the butt afterwords.

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ok..this is like the nervous racking summer ever! cuz next year is jr high. elemtry skool ended bad (6th grade) and lke i got in a fite with my best friend that said im not kool enough for her and that like totally gave me huge dent in my selfesteem..but i really do have good other friends that im happy with. im so freakin scared about jr high like if ill be kool or whatever..idk..and im just stressed...and is there any advice you could give me of how to start out jr high and not be like a total looser..not being rude or anything..ok thanks ill give yall 5 ratings!
_*Hallie*_

Well that friend definitley wasn't worth your troubles.
To tell you the truth, the most popular people in junior high are specs in high school. They have to work their way up. They're competeting against a lot more people, and a completely different crowd.
I'm in high school, and though junior high was a lot of fun (my friends made it that way) it was a lot harder academically then high school.

In high school just don't be late to class, know where you're going, DON'T judge anyone until you get to know them, some people look scary or mean, but are really the nicest people you will ever meet.
Don't skip class, it's fun for a while, but you'll almost always get caught no matter how careful you are. Don't be annoying and follow around the upperclassmen. Don't tag along with people unless you're positive they want you there. Go to the sporting events, have fun, meet new people. Join a club if you can, even try out for a sports team if you're school allows the youngest grade.

My school system is
Elementary- K-5
Middle school/Junior high- 6-8
High school- 9-12

So it junior high only 7th and 8th graders could be on sports teams.

But anywho, just be yourself, meet new people, don't be a pest, focus on grades and remember... you start off with a clean plate in high school. Everything you do in middle school won't be remembered. Do your best and enjoy it. If you mess up, next year, or even high school will be your second chance.

Good luck and have fun :)

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I'm moving to a new school, in a different state this summer. The teacher who had most influence on me, was my chorus teacher. Would it be gay to get him a thank you card, and tell him how great of a teacher he was?

Of course not, teachers love things like that.
It makes them feel special ha ha.

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Ok i didnt know what this should go under but. I really want to go see the longest yard and i tried to ask my mom if i could and she said no it was to sexual. I was wondering is it really that bad could i talk my mom into leting me see it??

My sister just saw it last night, and I asked her.
She said she didn't think it was sexual... Does your mom know it's about a bunch of people in jail playing football??

My sister said the language was a little bad, but nothing more than that.

Maybe you can compromise with your mom, you pay for her too see it, and if she thinks it isn't that bad she will let you go and see it.

Was the old version sexual at all? Because this one is a re-make, my mom saw the old version but she isn't home for me to ask. Maybe that is a reason why.

That's about all I have. Hope everything works out, sorrry if your mom still won't let you go.

Maybe if you do stuff around the house, and if you're good and mature, and show responsibility she will change her mind. Try and find a way to see if the two of you can compromise.

I don't think Adam Sandler would do a movie that's too sexual.

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hi, i just want to know if anyone has some really good shooting tips for basketball. im a great player on defence but mmy shootings only like80 percent please help

Practice, A LOT. Try and find a sweet spot, but you never know if you'll always be able to shoot from the sweet spot so practice in other areas too.
Umm, I found this link. http://members.tripod.com/%7Ecoacheshome/shooting.html

This is where that link came from... http://www.knowledgehound.com/topics/basketba.htm

This site is okay too... http://www.2muchgame.com/shooting_tips.asp?shooting_drills=2

Basketball--- definitley the best sport ever :)
Good luck, and practice makes perfect!!

Then again... practice makes perfect, nobody is perfect, so why practice?
To get as close to perfect as you can!!

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i just want to know if eating to much whipped cream is bad for your brain.

Not for your brain... weight wise maybe... but unless you're trying to get high off of it (if thats even possible) then no, there's nothing it can do to your brain.

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my sister is pregnant and me and her were talkin about names. well for a girl i picked out Brooklyn Marie and for a boy she picked out Conner Blake. do any of you like these names? and if not what are some suggestions? these are just some idease of some names she likes

Those are really cute names. I don't really know her kind of taste in names, but umm, I'm not great with middle names, so I can say some first names and you can come up with a middle name if I don't give one.

Michael Christopher
Austin Anthony
Taylor Christian
Sam (samual.. sp?) Gregory
Daniel Joseph
Bryce James
Matthew Joel
Nick (Nicholas)
Matt (Matthew)
Jamie (James)
Jonathon
......

Brooke Christine (or you can use brooke as a nickname for brooklyn)

Katelyn Marie
Julia
Jessica
Michelle
Sarah Lynn
Ciera Rose
Emily Rose
Emily Ann


By the way, why is this under personal finance? ha ha.


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I was wondering if anyone knew what the slang phrase "mow my lawn" means. One of my guy friends told me that on his knees begging & I can't figure out what it means. Is it like guy code for something? I'm very confused!

xO HiL*

I would think if he asked that he meant for him to "mow your yard"
My first thoughts is that the pervert wants you to shave him down below"

Unless of course the guy was in a car accident and actually wants you to mow the grass outside of his house (I want that to sound as less sexual as possible)

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15-f what are a few signs that you can pick up when a GUY is about to ask you out??

Lots of flirting, lots of awkwardness or awkward silence, not looking directly at you, seeming nervous...
For the additional, you can flirt with him, make sure he knows you like him. If you're 100% positive he likes you, then ask him out yourself.

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