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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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would it be weird if you go to a dance with your cousin?? iam just wondering because i really want to know if it would be..but it would be in a friendly way..no attachment or else that would be weird to like your family member...gross..so if u think it is weird can you tell me!!!

People used to go to proms with their parents. And my aunt went to hers with her sister's husband. As long as you're not dating, it's not weird at all. Other people might think so, but o what. It's not an everyday thing, granted. But if you both just want to go to the dance, go ahead.


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Okay so generally when, in your opinion, does it look okay to dating a senior? When i dated one back when i was a freshman, everyone called me a whore and called him a pedophile. Can only juniors date seniors or something? In high school, what is considered too young and too old? I just don't understand the age differences when people think it's acceptable.

THANKS :]

People are going to call others whores no matter who they're dating. As long as someone's not taking advantage of you age doesn't matter all that much. Granted, fifth grade and second grade would be weird since that's too young to date. But freshmen/senior could work if you're both willing to try.


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does taking a bunch of advils enhance the effects of alcohol?

Yes, and it's also a very bad thing to do. Alcohol increases the absorbtion rate of medicines & therefore increases your chances of overdosing. It's not a good idea to consume the two at the same time.


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With pretty crappy grades (half C's, half A's) but a pretty good SAT score, would I be able to get into Boston University? If so, what kind of SAT score would I have to get? Oh, and would I have a shot at NYU, or is that out of the question?? What if I got OUTSTANDING SAT scores? (I guess I kind of know the answer to that question..)

Also, do you know any good schools (obviously not Ivy League, since I'm not a Straight A student...but still a school with a pretty good reputation) in the New Jersey, New York, Massachusets area??

Thank you for any info you can give me!!

The best advice I can give you is to register at:
www.CollegeBoard.com and search for various colleges. You can search by virtually any criteria: grades, location, SAT scores, percentage of minorities, majors, etc.

As for actually getting in, no one can say for sure. Your GPA is more important, as opposed to letter grades, because it imcludes grading weights. It also depends on other things like extracirriculars, essays, interview, things like that.


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My boyfriends sixteenth birthday is coming up in a month. I already know he is getting a car,so getting places won't be a problem. Coincidentally his birthday is also Our 0ne year anniversary too. he is more of the music type, not really into sports.

what i had planned is:
1. making him a cake the night before.
2. that day, taking him out to a nice sushi restaurant for our one year/ his birthday.
3. now i just need to take care of a gift,
something meaningful. but yet something he will like.

any suggestions?

Try getting tickets to a band he likes (but something you wouldnt' mind going to, either). If you buy them right as they're released (as in, the DAY and HOUR they're available, try ticketmaster.com) you can expect to pay about 100-150 for two tickets with service charges.

Or, buy a few CDs you know he likes & give them to him over dinner. Taking him out to dinner is really nice too, so long as he isn't allergic to fish =P

Congrats on one year! =]
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If x = 2a - b2, then a a equals what?

Solve for a. Add (b squared?) to both sides, then divide both sides by two; which will leave A alone.


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I just started taking paxil today. I know with antidepressants, there is a risk of weight gain. And this might sound stupid, but do you gain weight because the drug makes you want to eat more or is it something like retaining water? Thank you.

It's different for everyone. I know more about Zoloft, but I assume they're similar. Another side effect is weight LOSS. I don't think the changes are usually that significant. It's not guaranteed to happen, it's just on there as a precaution. A lot of prescriptions have that, I think it's your body's way of adjusting to it.

If you find yourself expereincing side effects, your doctor can help you out by adjusting dosages and such. He'll know a lot more than we will.

Hope that helped!
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I have a new, blank 700MB (703 to be more exact) CD-R & I was trying to write 141.1MB amount of songs on it from my iTunes & the iTunes said that the CD didn't have enough space. How is that possible?

Burning it as a music CD takes up a lot more space. I don't know the exact technical terms for it. CD-R discs say 700MB, 80 minutes. Basically that means it'll hold 700MB of data, or 80 minutes of music (playable in a CD player). You could still burn 700MB in MP3 files on that disc though. Hopefully that made sense, if not ask theymos this question. He can explain anything computer-related better than anyone else.


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I know this is a common question, but how do you know a guy likes you? I've read articles about how a guy likes you but it's kind of the opposite. I've liked this boy since 7th grade (Now im in 9th) and he's a grade higher (10th). I use to call him in the 7th but he didn't seem interested in me. It could've been he was nervous and shy or he didn't like me. At lunch, my table is a few yards away from his table. I could be wrong, but I think he somtimes looks at me with glances, but probably doesn't want his friends to know. I sit where I can see him, but he sits where is back is to me. Do you think I should interact more with him (i pretend im invisible because he thinks im a stalker...he doesn't notice i like him, stupid boy) so i can see if he likes me or not? Or do you think I should give up and just admit he doesn't like me. I can do that because it's easier to stop liking him that way.

I think the best thing you could do is walk right up to him and tell him that you like him. Preferably when he's not around all his friends, if you think he'd be embarrassed. That way, he knows that you're not a crazy stalker, and you'll get a straight answer from him. If he doesn't like you, it's not the end of the world. Surely he's not the only guy in the whole school!


Good luck!
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ok so it's my first year of high school tuesday and well the school i was at last year i guess people judged me alot on the way i look and stuff and made fun of me and i'm kinda scared it will either be the same or worse in high school so any suggestions on what i should do i mean i'm trying to change some of the things people made fun of me about cause i dont like them and i feel i will be happier if i do but that might take a while any ways to just make friends and be happy while i'm trying to change if that makes sense

Change yourself to make yourself happy, no one else. Why, you may ask? The friends you DO have, the people who aren't judgemental, will notice the change in you. Plus, you're never going to make everyone happy. Be yourself, and not somebody else. (That's a good song, btw. Be yourself, by rock start supernova)


Anyways, yeah. Highschool is different and the same at the same time. You realize what really matters and who your true friends are- and the people who are judgeing you based on your appearance are wasting time and energy on things that aren't important. If you don't let it get to you, they'll get over themselves & maybe find something else better to do.


Highschool is great. Enjoy yourself & learn everything you can, corny as that sounds, haha.
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Does anyone know when Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix is coming out on DVD? I've looked on the internet and couldn't find anything..

Also, this is kind of random, but towards the end of the book, where they find the prophecy, it says S.P.T. to A.P.W.B.D at the top. I know the 2nd part is Dumbledore's full name, but does anyone know what S.P.T. stands for?

Thanx in advance. :]

It's Professor Trelawney to Professor Dumbledore. She was the one who made the prophecy, and Dumbledore was the one she told. As for the DVD, I'm not sure. But I'm guessing sometime in September or October.


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Can someone give me some tips about ironing? I'm going to a catholic school this year so i have to iron all my clothes but I went over them like 20 times and there's still wrinkles!

Only iron one side of the shirt at a time. If you're ironing regular clothes (like, not delicate things) make sure the temperature's high enough, cotton sturdy or something like that. If your iron can make steam (most if not all can) make sure there's water in it- steam really does help. Go slowly but never stop moving the iron! Go about the same speed as you would straighten your hair. If you dry your clothes in the dryer first, take them out when they're still warm, otherwise as they cool they'll press in wrinkles. Airdrying, tug on the shirt a little after you put it on the hanger. Fold the collars of shirts down the way you want them to look, and unroll the hems of skirts & pants if they folded up. I'm assuming you're using an ironing board. Sometimes putting a clean, folded towel on top of the board (under the clothes though) helps make the fabric smoother. And if you have to use a table, the towel will protect the finish. If your clothes aren't coming out perfectly at first, don't worry. You'll get better with practice =]


Good luck!
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okay, you know when you're writing, and your teacher asks you to write a rough draft? well, I did. and my classmates took turns correcting it for me (as part of a class assignment)

my question is : when you're typing up the final draft, are there allowed to be changes in the actual story from the way the story in the rough draft was originally? like...are you allowed to add on scenes?
thanks.

Yeah, that's the entire point of a rough draft. You can reword things, delete entire paragraphs, add more information in, etc. Your final should, ideally, be a lot different than the first draft, or at least have improved spelling and grammar. Especially since so many people have read over it- more ideas were contributed.


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16/f. a friend of mine just died. and another friend, david, isnt really showing any emotion. and i know its affecting him cause he was like best friends with the kid that died. i told david that im here for him and such, but im worried. i know its not healthy to keep everything in. he'll talk to me when its just me and him. no body else around. and that doesnt happen too often. maybe its just a guy thing. idk. but im worried. and idk what to say or do.

Everyone deals with death differently. What David's doing is completely normal and common. You've already done the best thing possible- telling David you're there for him & listening when he wants to talk. It's not just a guy thing- it's just how he chooses to grieve. It gets easier with time, no matter how hard it seems now. You'll be fine, just be there for each other and help each other through. Keep living your life- no friend would want your lives to completely stop just because his was cut short (I don't know how to word that exactly, but I think you get what I mean). I'm terribly sorry for your loss, it's really hard :( My inbox is open if you want to talk.


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does anyone know a website where i can find all/most of the comics like this

http://s27.photobucket.com/albums/c187/krystles_black_rose/cartoon%20emo/?action=view¤t=iloveyou.jpg

www.ponandzi.com

EDIT- That site usually DOES work. Sometimes its bandwidth runs out or something,in which case you can just search "Pon and Zi" on any image search like google.

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Ok well if any one can answer this well i am really good freinds with this one guy but tonight when we were hanging out and he leans over and kisses me really nicly so idk what to do after that!?

Ask him why he kissed you. He probably likes you, but never assume. Depending on if you like him back or not, you could either ask him out, or tell him that you'd rather just be friends. He might br crushed at first, but it's better than finding out after dating you for three months, you know?


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i have a kodak camera from like 3 years ago. It came with rechargeable batteries but now when i put it on the charger when it says the batteries are charged i go to use the camera and it dies within like 3 minutes. Can i but mew rechargeable batteries for it? is there a certain kind i need, and will it even be available since my camera is so old.

You can also get regular rechargeable batteries. My Kodak camera came with a battery pack & also fits AA batteries of any kind. Inititally, the cost about 3-4 times as much as disposable ones, plus the charger. But they pay off so quickly sinec you can re-use them hundreds of times.


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ok so the last year ive been friends with a girl and shes like been a really good bestfriend and now a new girl moved and and we started being friends with her and then she started acting like it was her bestfriend and so i was like ok ill get a new bestfriend but its weird cause me and my old bestfriend still talked once a week and we still called eachother bestfriends but we both new we really werent then we got in a small fight made up but we still werent bestfriends now the other day she got mad at me cause she wasnt in my pro like it matters at all but my "new bestfriend" was now i guess she doesnt want to talk to me its such a dumb reason should i still be friends with or her

Well, do you still want to be friends? If that answer is yes, then be friends. If all she's going to do is get mad at you for stupid things, you might want to sit down with her and talk things out. She may have interpreted leaving her out of your profile as "replacing" her with this new girl- and I think that would make a LOT of people upset. So sure, she may have overreacted a little. But if the friendship is worth it (since you were best friends I imagine it would be) apologize and BOTH of you get over it. The closest of friends are going to argue at some point. Don't forget, either, that you can have more than one best friend. You should all hang out together =]


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Ok so labor day picnics are filled with junk food. I did a bit of checking around & the one I'm going to is going to have the basic burger & hotdog deal. I want to really stick to my diet so I was thinking of definiately planning ahead. Since it's going to be in the afternoon, I was going to eat a bowl of cereal like I normally do for breakfast & then at the picnic I was going to take one burger and put a bit of ketchup to dip into on the side, no bun & no cheese. Then I was going to have corn on the cob with no butter & no salt. Would the burger with a bit of ketchup be overloading it?? I'm a very light eater. Does anyone know accurate nutrition facts?? I was told it was approximately 280 calories with 13g of fat. Any ideas/opinions?? Thanks!!

Nothing wrong with eating a burger. Grilling eliminates a lot of the fat. The size of a burger changes its calorie content, but meat is healthy, in moderation. So unless this burger is the size of a tennis racket or something, it's fine. Ketchup's better than cheese. Corn on the cob is also a good choice, and this time of year it tastes better without anything on it so you're not missing out by skipping butter. Desserts are inevitable. Try eating something healthy first, like fruit salad (practically every cookout at least has a watermelon). If you find yourself really wanting a cookie, have one! You can't completely deprive yourself, right?


Have fun =]
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i am going into freshman year in 3 days and i little worried. i had this group of non popular friends that i hung out with in 8th grade and i was a little popular then. they didnt like the same stuff as me like shopping boys and make up i mean they did but not as much i started hanging out with this other girl in the summer ALOT and she is like my bff to me but i dont know if she feels the same way and when i go back to 9th grade i wanna hang with her alot but i am afraid her friends wont talk to me

Hang out with your best friend & her friends. Chances are they're a lot alike. Ask your best friend to introduce you. If you don't give them a reason to dislike you, they'll likely be friendly to you so don't worry about it.

As for the friends you had in 8th grade, there's really no reason to stop talking to them. Unless they start acting like total bitches around you just because you have new friends, you can still be friendly towards each other. Different interests among a group of friends isn't a bad thing.


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