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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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A passenger on a Southwest Airlines jet from Phoenix was stung by a scorpion recently. Yeah, I think things like this can happen so I'm not freaking about with, "What are the chances of being stung by a scorpion?!" but I am curious if the guy lived or not! I know scorpions are poisonous--or so I have heard. I can't say for a fact that I know that bark scorpions are poisonous. Anyway, all I really want to know if the guy made it through the sting or if he died...

Yup, he's fine. He was treated by airport physicians shortly after the sting.

I heard that when they did both autopsies of Michael Jackson's body that they found needle marks. The second autopsy came back with lethal amounts of something called propofol in Michael Jackson's system! I know that Michael Jackson probably was in a lot of pain often since he had all of that facial surgeries and what-not but I was hearing that they are believing he may have been murdered by his personal physician, Dr. Conrad Murray. Has anybody heard anything more about this? I want to know if Michael Jackson was murdered or not! I don't know any reliable sources and I'm soooo curious because I loved Michael Jackson.

Michael Jackson's death is being considered a murder, and with what they've found, it could end up being deemed that way.

I've heard a few places saying that he was taking anesthetics (drugs that put you to sleep, they use it in hospitals for surgeries) for his insomnia. Only problem is, how did he get them? Drugs like that cannot be prescribed as they are only used in hospitals.

They think his person doctor gave them to him, and that is where Conrad Murray comes in. He's denying it, but he very well could be guilty. Right now he's just a suspect, but I'm sure there will be more into the investigation.

my school just made a rule that we have to wear solid polos next year!
i have a very unique style. i like odd or bright colors. plus, im almost 5'11", meanin i have a long torso. plus d cups and an hour glass figure.

basically , i need polos that are long, form fittin, cover the boobage, and KIND OF affordable.
i know aeropostal is good, but i wanna get some from other places.

thanks in advance !

I would try American Eagle. They have nice polos, and though I don't wear them, I would assume they're affordable. :)

im a 15 year old boy and it may sound strange coming from a boy but i have been with my girlfriend for a long time and we both have agreed to have sex and im starting to get nervous becasue i dont wana let her down and i need to know what to do to give her the most pleasure.

If you're nervous about having sex, chances are you may not be ready. If you are, and you're completely sure you're ready, then disregard that.

It sounds like you may both be virgins, so I really wouldn't worry about giving her the "most pleasure." She's never had sex either so she doesn't know what's supposed to happen & what's supposed to be feeling good. She's new to it.

Since your both virgins, sex is something you can share and both get used to with each other. This is a team effort. Neither of you know what's good, but since that's the case, both of you can discover what is good with the other when it comes to sex.

Just remember to be safe when you have sex. Don't double up condoms, just use one. If she's on birth control, that's a plus. If she's not and can get on some, that's good too. Just be careful not to risk pregnancy. It really only takes one sex session to get someone pregnant.

Hello,

My good friend's grandmother has just passed away and she seems to be taking it quite hard, she cried a lot, too. Just a while ago, I came to her house and attempted to comfort her, but then I ended up sit down for almost two hours listening to her while she told me stories about her and her grandmother while she was still alive.

I am not a very good comforter so I didn't talk much then, not to mention that I know little about her grandmother. I just sat there and listen and occasionally say one or two sentences. I feel kind of . . . useless and awkward.

So do you have any advice as to what to say or what to give her to cheer her up? It's kind of awkward to just listen the entire time, you see.

Thanks,

P.S. Please don't tell me to put myself in her shoe to know how she feel like the other columnist did. I can't! Even when my grandparents died, I felt a bit sad, but not for long. Because it is inevitable that when you get old, you die. I just take die-of-old-age as part of life.

I think that just by listening to her, and being there for you, you were already helping cheer her up. While you didn't say much, you made an attempt and you listened to what she had to say.

Talking about things like that (usually the happy times) can usually cheer people up when they're sad. I understand that you don't get sad for a long time when people die, but everyone is different when it comes to death & grieving. It's a really hard thing to cope with when the circumstances are different. I've had many deaths throughout my family, and there were some where I wasn't really sad at all, and some where it hurt like hell and I didn't know what to do with myself.

I think you should just be there for her. Listen to her stories, tell her everything will be okay & tell her you're sorry. That's basically all you can do. Just be a support system right now, that's what she needs. But you're a good friend, don't worry. :)

what if your completely in love. well what you think is love... why should age matter... i dont think its grose to be with somone that 14 or 15 when there 18... but i really dont know.. damn i wish i wasnt so confused...

Age difference comes in to play at a lot of different times. There are times when it doesn't really matter, and there are times when it does.

Obviously, if you're 18 & wanting to be with a 14 year old, I would honestly think something was wrong with you. I personally don't find it all that appealing to be with someone so young. They're just starting out with high school & such, so they have a lot to get accustomed to and they're in a completely different stage of their life. While it could be exciting for them to be dating a senior or whomever, it could also get you in some serious shit if you were to do anything sexual with them.

Not only that, but at 18, you're going off to college soon, and that sometimes involves moving. Why should a 14 year old have to be in a long distance relationship? Does that seem fair? I doubt it.

I can understand an 18 year old dating someone older because it's perfectly fine & normal to be attracted to someone a little older at that age. I think the oldest a person who's 14 should date is 16, and no higher. As far as 18 goes, well, that's all about taste and how much older you're willing to go. It's not bad to date someone younger at 18 (say someone who's 16, 17) but definitely not 14.

I'd stick with someone who's your own age. It's easier, doesn't get you into trouble, and you're at similar stages in life.

A good friend told me he wanted to come visit me. He got here and within 48 hours had hooked up with a complete stranger. I never saw him at all for three days straight after that - then he went home without even calling to say "good-bye"!

Is it right that my feelings are hurt or should I be happy that at least he had a good time?

I am wishing him bad thoughts. Like, he'll get syphilis or something. Which is likely.

Am I a bad friend?

I'm kind of on the fence.

While I think you have every right to be mad at him for ditching you, I don't think you have the right to be mad about what he chooses to do.

First off, he did pay for this trip out of his pocket. I would probably say different had you paid for the trip, but he did, not you so how he chooses to spend his money and his trip is up to him. You are not the boss of him, and he is an adult, so he can spend his vacation how he likes.

Second, while what he did was stupid (I really hope he used protection), it's his personal life and you shouldn't curse him for it. I'm sure if you did something someone else disagreed with, you wouldn't want them to wish an STD on you.

You have a right to be mad, but you don't have a right to tell him how to live his life and spend his money. It was wrong of him to ditch you, but he's an adult. If it bothers you so much, call him & tell him that he hurt you, but don't be rude about it. Just be up front & polite. You can express anger without being rude, yelling, etc. :) Good luck.

my best friends hate me and say all i do is see my boyfriend and never spend time with them. i do spend alot of time with my boyfriend (obviously we love eachother) who ive been going out with for almost 8 months. but thought i was still finding time with them. they started making up things about mine and my bf's relationship, wich is not true. i dont understand why friends whould do this, and everytime i try to talk to them they wont listen and start abusing me and making it seem like its all my fault. what can i do?
-Sara 16

They don't sound like true friends to me. If they were, they'd understand how your relationship with your boyfriend is. It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend are still in the honeymoon phase where all you wanna do is be with him, and where you notice nothing else.

Your friends also sound jealous of your boyfriend and his time with you. I would definitely try to make more time for them, but I don't think they're worthy of it. Spreading lies about you and your boyfriend just because you don't spend enough time with them is really pathetic and I wouldn't wanna hang out with people like that.

ok im a 14 year old girl.
and i like this boy at my skool.
he's in 10th.and we exchanged numbers and all.and he say he like me but when i ask him a serious question,thru a text,he doesnt text back or he jus dont text back at all.and then when we are texting it seems like im the only one trying to make conversation.then when i ask him when can we hang out he doesnt text back.but then i ask him does he really like me and he says yea ur koo.then he askes me about all this other unorthodox stuff that has nothing to do with what i want to know.But my question is>>>HOW COME WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS AND WE SAY WE LIKE ONE ANOTHER,HOW COME WE DONT HANG OUT OR HOW COME WHEN I ASK HIM A SERIOUS QUESTION THRU A TEXT,HE DOES'NT ANSWER MY TEXT BACK? please answer this question im in dier need of the answer to this..

He could be either shy, busy, or he just isn't interested. I think you might've mistook his definition of like.

He probably meant that he likes you as a friend & doesn't have any interest in being more. If he did, he'd probably text you back more often. He could just be shy (yes, even through text) or he could just be busy & not have time to text you back.

But, in my opinion, I really don't think he's interested.

I need really gd advice! Im 16 and left school not long ago, the lad i like is 16 and left school not long ago too. I was going out with him for 2 months we did nothin but argue so we split up. I was stupid and got with his UGLY brother me and his brother broke up and he took me bk. I was with him for another month then we broke up again he said he heard tales about me. could this be true or is he makin it up? Hes got new g/f aswell he always tells me he likes me more and how much he would like to be with me n how much he likes me. i havnt had sexual intercourse with him, but hes had it with hes new g/f could this be it?? He also cheated on her, wiv me they other night, i feel so guilty and like he can just have me when it suits him. But i need help i cant stop thinkin about him everythin relates to him. thanks ill rate. Kim x

First off, stop hooking up with him. He has a girlfriend. He more than likely isn't looking for anything serious from his girlfriend or you. If he loved his girlfriend, or even cared for her, he wouldn't have cheated. If he cared about you, he'd be with you.

Also, it's not really a good thing to hook up with people in the same family. It's really trashy and gross, especially when you go back & forth between the two.

He's sweet talking you to get what he wants out of you. He's an asshole who doesn't give a shit about you. When you think about him, think about what a disgusting cheater he is, think about how he uses words to get women to do things for him, think about what a huge liar & manipulator he is. I can guarantee that if you think about that when he comes to mind, he won't be so appealing anymore.

Stop dating assholes. You can do better, and you deserve better.

Do guy's like it when girl's give them hand job's?

Yes.

17/f

Alright, this is sort of embarassing, but I havent had my period in a very long time. I started when I was 13 and have been irregular ever since I started.
I've only had about 9-10 periods in my life. I was concerned about it before, but when I talked to nurses they always told me it was alright to be irregular.
I've always felt really bad about it though. So a couple years ago I went on birth control (to regulate it). It worked, but it became a hassle because everytime i forgot to take a pill, i'd get a period. So I quit that.

But its been over a year now? Or around there since my last period. Im 17 years old. And im just wondering...that cant be healthy right?

I know I should be asking a doctor these questions, but I havent been to one in ages and its hard to make an appointment (they're always booked for months)

But this is probably going to have a bad effect on me im guessing. My biggest fear is that I wont be able to have children in the future.

So I guess what im asking is does anyone else have this problem? or has heard of someone with this problem?

...what do you all think of it? Should I be worried? Should I go back on the pill?

It's normal to be irregular, yes, but to the point where you don't get your periods for a year? No. That is NOT normal, and you really need to see better doctors. Any doctor that tells you that not having your period for a year is loony and needs to give up his rights as a physician ASAP.

You've had your period for 4 years - it should've regulated by now. Go see a doctor (a good one), and get yourself some help. That doesn't sound normal in the least to me.

ok theres this guy that ive been liking for about 2 weeks now. one day he e-mailed me and said he has liked me for over a month. then we started talking more and more over e-mail and we started to like each other more but he still hadnt asked me out yet. then i had found out that while we were messaging each other he was going out with my friend but they only went out for like a day. i keep hearing that hes wrong and that he'll cheat on me like he did his last girlfriend. but i still like him. what should i do???

If he's said to be a cheater, and is known to have cheated on his previous girlfriend, chances are he'll do the same to you. I wouldn't advise getting into a relationship with someone who has that type of rep, because they usually live up to it ten fold & it's almost always asking for heartbreak.

And think about it - if he really liked you, would he have went out with your friend (even for a day)? Highly unlikely if he really had feelings for you. Don't get into it with him. It just seems like heartbreak & drama will fly your way if you do.

15/f
okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for like .. 7 months now .. and i love him to death. but for some reason .. all we do is argue now. that`s all our conversations are. i try and prevent the arguements and everything but he just still argues. and he likes to hangout with his "homeboy" a lot more now .. witch his "homeboy" cheats on his girlfriend all the time . i`m starting to suspect he`s cheating on me or something. but i love him so much i don`t wanna loose him. what should i do.? or how can i make this work.?

I think you guys really need to sit down and get to the core of whatever the problem is here. Obviously it's that you guys argue a lot, but you really need to figure out why.

If you somehow get into an argument during this discussion, I would honestly just call it quits. Arguing is healthy for a relationship as everyone has to disagree with one another sooner or later, but when it comes to the point where you can't talk without having a fight, then that's unhealthy. And there's probably no fixing it either.

I would try and talk, but I'd rather you just call it quits. Besides, you're 15. Guys will come & go for a long time before you find the right one. I bet once you do lose this guy, you'll see how much better life is. Trust me. You can lose certain people, you just will have to be willing to drop them.

What does it mean when someone calls you shady?

It means you're fake. Definitely not something anyone should aspire to be called.

Okay, I just got my belly button pierced like 2 or 3 days ago, and I was wandering if it would be ok to change the little balls on it? or should I just wait four months?

I'd wait. Touching a new piercing can cause lots of infection if you're not careful, and I'm not even sure why'd you want to change it anyways if hardly anyone is going to see it.

Be patient and wait the 4 months to save yourself a health risk. :)

I am 13/F and I want to be a fashion photographer or fashion stylist. I looked online under the internship requirments and I seem to fit them (good attitude, powerpoint proficent, hard worker). My mom says you have to be over 18 to work as an intern but according to Nickelodeon's "True Jackson- VP", it looks like you could be 13 or 14. Please help and solve my crisis!

~free2sing09

Internships usually happen in the late teens. Most start at 18 but there are some that start sooner if you're lucky and depending where the internship is.

True Jackson VP is a tv show. It does NOT pertain to REAL LIFE. It is fiction, and based on fantasy. In no way would that ever happen in real life. Please learn to seperate reality from TV.

17/f.

i'm going to be a junior in high school & i think its really time i start narrowing my career path. these are the 3 jobs i'm considering: geologist/mineralogist, nutritionist, psychologist.anyways, does anyone know a good website where i can like find if its like a job that needs people right now, salaries, good colleges for it, etc., etc.

i'm basically looking for a career site .. anybody know of one?

http://www.careers.org/

I found that site. If you want an opinion though, I really think you should become an RN or something to do with health. Basically anything within mental health, a hospital etc. There will always be job in that career path. Lots of places are looking for RN's each year, and it's a career that doesn't take long to achieve.

Basically any community college will help you become an RN but if you're looking for a good Psychology program, I would try a university. I'm pretty sure CSU Northridge has a good program. UCLA would be a good pick too.

Im going into my senior year (2010) and im really far behind in credits. To make matters worst, my councilor is an idiot and gets things wrong all the time when it comes to my classes and grad progress.

My biggest fear right now is that im not going to graduate with my class. Im going to completely dedicate myself to my school work this year, but i also have to have a job for co-op, which is only two credits.

I really want to go to college, but there's no money there for me. And obviously i've been really stupid in terms of keeping up with school. My parents aren't too concerned with any of it, they just want me out of the house soon. I turn 18 in November. If I stay in high school I can live here until i graduate, other wise I have to be out in November.

Im so depressed and scared right now for my life. I have no clue what's going to happen. I dont think i can do it. I cant stop feeling so....helpless? idk. scared. nervous. .....all that. I cant stop crying and its the summer before my senior year.

Has anyone ever been here before? Please any advice....anything would help. I dont really have anyone I can talk to about this.

I ended up getting kicked out my junior year, but my cousin sort of had a similar situation.

She got pregnant in 06 when she was 16, and had her son in January of 07. She left school for the rest of the year. She went back the next year, and was absolutely dedicated to her work.

She juggled a job, a kid, a relationship, school AND went to night school on top of that. I think you should talk to someone about this. Maybe a principal. Is there a different counselor you can see when it comes to your grades and stuff? Is there a possibility that your school offers night school? If so, I would try going to school during the day, and then going to school at night to catch up. My cousin did that and ended up graduating on time with her class - something we didn't think she'd be able to do.

You really need to be optimistic about this. Talk to someone at the school and see what you can do. I'm sure there's someone you can talk to that will ease things up for you and make this year a little more sooner for you. I definitely wouldn't stop going to school when things get tough. It really doesn't help anything. :)

I really wish you the best of luck.

I don't know what's wrong with me! But everytime I read a book or try to study I can't seem to remember what I read =/ I know how to read its just I have a hard time remembering what happend and I can't seem to picture what's going on in the book inside my head like some people claim do. I'm trying to study for my permit test and I read the book like legit 7 times but I forget what I read everytime I'm done with it. Is this some kind of mental health??

I do this too sometimes. You're more than likely uninterested in reading the book and would rather be reading something else.

I've actually tried doing the studying online. On the DMV's website, they usually have practice tests. Those are a lot more fun. :) Whatever information isn't in the test, you can find in the book & just read that. I'm sure once you take the tests & are confident with the results, you'll find reading the book a bit easier. :)

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