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what if your completely in love. well what you think is love... why should age matter... i dont think its grose to be with somone that 14 or 15 when there 18... but i really dont know.. damn i wish i wasnt so confused...
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Age does matter when you're young, to an extent. I think the most important reason is because when somebody who is 18 is dating somebody under 18, it is considered illegal.
But once you're older and that 18 year old is, say, 25 and the 14 year old is 21, then it won't matter at all :)
-Laura (17-f)
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First of all, when you become 30 and he's 34, it WONT MATTER!! and sometimes this thing happens. As far as I'm concerned age DOESN'T MATTER! I have experienced liking guys that are twice my age, and sometimes it works out and other times it doesnt.
As of right now, it may seem like a huge age difference, but when you're older it wont be.
And whoever is saying its "gross" just doesn't understand and is immature.
I hope this helped.
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Age difference comes in to play at a lot of different times. There are times when it doesn't really matter, and there are times when it does.
Obviously, if you're 18 & wanting to be with a 14 year old, I would honestly think something was wrong with you. I personally don't find it all that appealing to be with someone so young. They're just starting out with high school & such, so they have a lot to get accustomed to and they're in a completely different stage of their life. While it could be exciting for them to be dating a senior or whomever, it could also get you in some serious shit if you were to do anything sexual with them.
Not only that, but at 18, you're going off to college soon, and that sometimes involves moving. Why should a 14 year old have to be in a long distance relationship? Does that seem fair? I doubt it.
I can understand an 18 year old dating someone older because it's perfectly fine & normal to be attracted to someone a little older at that age. I think the oldest a person who's 14 should date is 16, and no higher. As far as 18 goes, well, that's all about taste and how much older you're willing to go. It's not bad to date someone younger at 18 (say someone who's 16, 17) but definitely not 14.
I'd stick with someone who's your own age. It's easier, doesn't get you into trouble, and you're at similar stages in life.
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A few years age difference isn't bad. The age of the age difference is what some people thing is bad. Because one person is 14/15 and one is 18, it's a big deal because they're teenagers. One should be in junior high and one should be about to graduate from high school. Those are huge differences when you think in terms of maturity.
When someone is 30 and someone else is 33, it really doesn't matter because both people should be fully grown and mature by that time. Then, the age differences can be much wider without it seeming off or weird to people.
Another problem is that when someone is 18 and dating a 14/15 year old, they're dating a minor. It's against the law to do so and the 14/15 year old's parents really probably won't like it.
I don't personally see anything awfully wrong with it. I dated a guy that was 18 when I was 14. It's not a matter of it being perverse to me, like I said, it's more a matter of maturity. The 18 year old is putting the 14 year old in a position of trying to handle things that a 14 year old isn't mature enough to handle. The 14 year old is putting his/herself in that position, really.
Bottomline is, 14 year olds can't make the mature decisions that 18 year olds should be able to make because 14 year olds brains are rapidly maturing still. 18 year olds brains are still maturing, but are much further along in that process, in most cases. Those are pretty much the reasons people think it's wrong.
Darby(:
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