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friends making up lies cause i spend to much time with my b
my best friends hate me and say all i do is see my boyfriend and never spend time with them. i do spend alot of time with my boyfriend (obviously we love eachother) who ive been going out with for almost 8 months. but thought i was still finding time with them. they started making up things about mine and my bf's relationship, wich is not true. i dont understand why friends whould do this, and everytime i try to talk to them they wont listen and start abusing me and making it seem like its all my fault. what can i do?
-Sara 16
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Hi, I don't mean to trash other advice, but in my opinion your friends don't dislike your boyfriend, they are just protective and jelous in some sense! For example imagine if you 3 were all single and one of the other two friends suddenly starts dating this guy that you and the other friend dont know or hang out with! You and your friend would of course want the best for the other persons relationship but, in another sense your protective and scared of loosing them, or them getting hurt!
In conclusions your friends probabley miss you, and are afraid that your relationship is going to far! They just need some special time away from the relationship just to hang. So Here is is my advise
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Sara stop taking this crap your friends are giving you about you and your special guy! Stand up for your friendship. Tell them that this is crap and that they know it! Tell them to try and view it from your shoes like you have done and tell them and that your sorry! Because you probabley could have canceled one date a week just to hang with them.
When your friends and you reconsile plan a few days to shop and go to the theatre, or whatever you guys do and do and do it! Then when they are comforatable you may be able to combine your bf life with your your friendship life.
Meaning if they get to know better they may learn to like. Now I am not saying take them on every date, but just the oposite sorta! Take your boyfriend to SOME of your shopping trips or movie days with your friends! That way all is happy!
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i dont know if this is the case but it sounds like your friends dont like him (otherwise they wouldnt be making up stories about him and your relationship) its possible that they know something about him that you dont know and they dont want you to get hurt.
i know it might not seem like it but you'll probably not be with this guy forever, and when hes gone you should have friends to rely on,but if you ignore them (which maybe you are or arent doing idk) then you'll be left with no one. and you dont want that.
its hard to see the bad in someone you love, but no ones perfect, i say dedicate a weekend or week to chilling out with your friends so they dont feel so left out.. plus distance makes the heart grow fonder :]
hope i helped!
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It sounds like you accidentally spent too much time with your boyfriend, so they're feeling forgotten. They shouldn't be making up things about you and your boyfriend, but that's what immaturity will do to you. For the time being, I would just state your case and leave it be. Tell them that you thought you were making time for them, but that you see now that you probably weren't. Let them know that you want to spend more time with them and that you're sorry.
If they don't listen (which it seems like they won't right now), simply leave it be. They're probably just too upset right now to accept your apology and hang out with you more. The important thing is to not deny putting them on the back burner (even if you feel like you didn't do that). If they don't accept the apology now, leave them alone and just recheck with them once a week or so. Don't say, "Are you still mad at me?" Say, "I really am sorry. I don't want our friendship to be over because of this." and if they don't accept, just check back the next week. They're bound to grow up and forgive you sometime. And, if they don't, they weren't too great of friends in the first place.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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They don't sound like true friends to me. If they were, they'd understand how your relationship with your boyfriend is. It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend are still in the honeymoon phase where all you wanna do is be with him, and where you notice nothing else.
Your friends also sound jealous of your boyfriend and his time with you. I would definitely try to make more time for them, but I don't think they're worthy of it. Spreading lies about you and your boyfriend just because you don't spend enough time with them is really pathetic and I wouldn't wanna hang out with people like that.
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