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I used to be in gymnastics but I quit and I lost all my flexibility, now my dance teacher is expecting me to do the splits and I can't!
I can't even touch my toes without bending my knees anymore!
How can I get my flexibility back apart from practicing loads, haha? (link)
Try stretching every night. You should be able to go a little further every day. If not, try stretching more.


okay so me and my friends were going to go see star wars yesterday... please don't comment on star wars that isn't what my question's about... okay, so we didn't invite our other friends because they didn't want to see it, and we were meeting some guys there and one of my friends thought that they would make us look bad. I thought it was mean but i didn't comment. Anyways so now one of the uninvited people is mad at us because she actually did want to see ther movie. what do i do?
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She should have said something before. Tell her that the two of you can go see another movie, I recommend Willy Wonka and the Chocolate factory when it comes out. :)


ive recently been coughthing up blood and ive also had a high temperature and sometimes find it hard to breath occasionally it comes and goes what could it be? My mom and dad are alcoholics so they are never really at home i have told my mom thoe and she ses it will pass is that true. (link)
No! Something like that won't pass. Call child protective services, or 9-1-1 even. You aren't in a safe enviornment if you say they neglect you, and there are foster homes in your area that you can be sent to. Before you call anyone, talk to your mom and tell her you will call the police for child neglect unless she takes you in for help.


ok i like this guy @ school but he's going out with some1 else. every1 says that he likes me but i dont' think it's true because he would of asked me out right?? he doesn't know but then nikki ( 1 of my friends) told him on the stairs but the 8th graders were making 2 much noise so he didn't hear. luckly! but now she's going to tell him on wens. after finals but luckly again i dont' have any classes with him. should i move on and stop liking him or should i let nikki tell him ( i already tried to strangled her!) lol.
- to love or not to love (link)
i don't think you should let nikki tell him. if he's already going out with some1, then telling him that you like him might mess up their relationship somehow. don't worry, if you move on, then you'll find some1 even better that really really likes you


Ok i called my dad a idiot, i know it was bad but he was just pushing me!! Ok so y fi4rends are coming over l8r and im afraid he'lll say sometihnglike " Soand so would you ever cal lyour dad a idiot? What do I say i keep saying sorry but he says your sorrys dont work with me


Please help!!


tHnaks (link)
wow! you're acting like calling your dad an idiot is like cursing him out or something. It's just a name, I say worse things to my mom. So, don't worry about it. He'll get over it, just watch what you say next time. Find a more constructive way to take your anger out on. Like writing an angry letter to the person that annoyed you, then shredding it up, it makes you feel way better. Trust me, I used that approach so many times. But if it's really bothering you, then just tell him that he was making you angry, and it just slipped out, & you will be careful not to do it again. alright?
good luck!


So me and one of my best guy friends have kind of been a little more then friends latly. Like last night we were watching this movie and he told me to sit with him and we started cuddling but not like friendly..more like intimate and I liked it. His best friend told me that hes going to ask me out but I dont know if I should say yes or no...see there are positives and negitives:
Positives-
I wouldnt be single
I could french someone
hes perfect(except hes a perv)
Negitives-
Im going to camp and so is he in like 4-6 weeks and wont be able to see tim all summer
are friendship will die

Plzz help im 14/f and rate ^ lyl mwaaaa
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It's only normal to fall for your friends. For example, I used to be good friends with this guy, but eventually he started to like me. So, we went out,it was alright for lyk 4 months, but den all da fighting started & we kept breakin up & gettin bak 2gether & breakin up...until one day, we didn't get back together. Now we're not even friends nomore. So, you're right, if you go with this boy, your friendship will die. But the question is..what do you want more?


okay im 16and me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 2 years now we had a massive argument da ova day and he put a knife to my throat and ses he would kill me if i shouted at him like that again i really like him thought and he dont always act like that but now im scared just to have an argument with him ive talked 2 him about it and he ses im being stupid bt i dont wana break up with him what do i do? (link)
well i am sorry even if u love him if he did that to u then brake up with him


Does anyone know any websites that would have music you can listen to - without downloading? Thanks a bunch! (link)
ya mtv.com and vh1.com


ok well i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months now and i really love him. he has only had sex with one girl. but many times. they broke up long be fore we got together. so just say i lost my virginity to him do you think he would have any kind of std from having sex with just that ONE other girl.?? like do u think theres a chance of him having an STD, from that one girl and then having sex with me and then all of a sudden i get it??? thanks i rate HIGHHH (link)
she could have had an STD she might not have. take him to a doctor and find out.


is it safe to have sex while your on your period? (link)
more of a risk of pregnancy, plus there's also the chance that it'd be a bit of a bloody mess. just wait til it's over to do it.


My boyfriend and I went on a date yesterday, and when we got home we started making out. After that he sat me on his lap and I felt something poking my butt, so im pretty sure I gave him a boner. I'm wondering how you would tell if you gave a guy a boner and what you should do if u did and dont want to go any further, but i dont just wanna ignor it. My boyfriend and I are really close, if that changes anything. (link)
well it means you turned him on and he got horny. don't worry about it. but the fact is a boner isn't the only sign a guy is horny. i have been horny a lot of times and not had a boner. for a guy to be horny it's more than just popping a woody. it's a lot more mental than just that despite the fact that it might seem otherwise. i'll be with my girl and we'll be all making out and i'll finger her or something and totally get her off. and me i'll never pop a boner until she does more than just rubs my crotch a bit. and yet i'll still be horny through all of this. the penis is an odd thing. it goes up for no reason sometimes. but the fact is you got your boyfriend horny so be happy.


I know that every girl down there is unique, but im not a lesbian or anything but i see pretty girls in magazines and all of them dont have any visible things in their bottoms. like my question is, is it unattractive to have larger "lips" than most girls and will guys be turned away by it? I dont wanna sound weird its just i dont know who to ask without seeming like a weirdo. lol thanx! (link)
there's nothing wrong with having a large labia. infact i kinda like some nice soft lips on a vagina but that's me. i think you shouldn't worry about it and just have fun.


okay heres the story. my best friend cut really bad at the end of 7th grade(were in 8th now) and over that summer. the school, both friends and the administration, was aware but she never really got any kind of help. seh always carved peoples names who had hurt her or someone who was really important to her. okay this has to coem out to. shes bi so these people are girls. one was a best friend who stopped being friends with her another was a girlfriend and one is an x girlfriend. okay sorry that was kind of irrelevent. but anyway she got a lot better after this girl broke her heart. (i know you would think she would get worse) anyway she only cut maybe three times the whole school year. i stopped really worrying about it. but then in the past week she did it really bad. only me and this other girl who cuts too knows about it. before i always could see how unhappy my best friend was but this time i couldnt really understand. nothing really drastic happened and she seemed to be doing a lot better in recent months. okay heres my dilema. she siad not to tell anyone and if i did she would know it was me and not talk to me again or at least be extremely pissed. and i know shes not lying no matter how much i mean to her. now i want to get her help but i dont know how. i dont know if she can be helped with the additude she has now.
so: do i speak up and if so who should i tell?
what would be the best help to get her?
please give me any ideas. im open to anything. and dont waste youre time if youre going to be an ignorant a** like some people on this thing.
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have you asked your friend if she wants any help? i know it could be embarrassing, but if she tells someone like a doctor or something it would be extremely helpful. i would talk to your friend and tell her that you're very worried about her, and tell her your point of view. my best friend used to cut too, and i've got her help in the past. so my best advice is to talk to her from your point of view.

i hope i helped =)


my boobs are tooo big. should i get surgery done on them? help
luv big boobs (link)
no you should not cuz surgery could be dangerous and it may not turn out the way you want it to. jusy be happy with what God gave you.


Okay, there's this girl who is supposed to be my friend. Well, let's say she doesn't act like it. She calls me "idiot", "fool", and a bunch of other names. She's also (according to the guy I used to like) asked the guy I liked out, and I trust the guy I liked because I've known him for a while. She knew that I liked him. She also tries to make me look stupid and bad, because we're on the same sports team, and she'll throw the ball in a weird way and I can't catch it, then she'll say "What an idiot!" or something like that. I'm sick of it. Should I just stop being friends with her, and if so, how?

Thank you so much in advance. I'm sorry it's so long. (link)
hey. this same thing happened to me! she seems like the "all i care about is me" type of girl. you need 2 sit her down and tell her how you feel and if she still wanna act like a snob than stop talking and hanging out with her. if she asks you a question keep the answer short and simple then walk away. if she asks what is your deal and why are you mad at her tell her that your proble is her and you tried to tell her but she didnt listen. eventually she will get the message but if she doesnt well so you lose a friend, im sure you have many more!:-)


Is there any way to speed up the process of having your 1st period?! I've been waiting for a while and everyone in school has boobs except me! Or,what size bra should i buy? Any bras that have water or something? And lastly how do i no what size bra to buy and if theres any padded bras so my chest wouldnt be so flat!! (link)
don't lie about having boobs man. that's just kinda lame. just wait til yours come in. it shouldn't be too long if everyone else you know has theirs already. and who knows? you might end up with massive boobs that hurt your back. so be glad you don't have em now.


Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends? (link)
oh of course it'd piss her off man. you gotta remember chicks like to act like shit doesn't get to them when really it sends em over the deep end. girls are tricky, but they're not hard to figure out. if you like the one with the boyfriend go for that one. just talk to her a lot, and point out flaws in her boyfriend, then slowly move in on her. it's not hard to get people to break up with each other, it's just strategic.


I have sex almost every weekend, with the same person Ive been with for almost 4 months, we usually use a condom & we've used 2 different brands, lately durex & we use the ky warming lubricant, I started my period a week early Idk if that has nething 2 do w/ it but my labia itch & feel raw, soap doesnt burn but when urine touches it it does would that be from too much sex or an allergy to the condom or the lubricant an infection or what?? (link)
well it could be an allergic reaction to the stuff, but it's doubtful. it could be a UTI which would mean you'd have to lay off the sex and take the pills the doctor perscribes. it could also be the makings of a yeast infection if the location where sex is had or your vagina itself aren't sanitary. nonetheless go to a doctor and check it out.


I am gay and like men. I really like this guy at my school but he is straight. His name is CJ. And I wish I could convice him to be gay because I really want to play with his penis. (link)
ya right


My boyfreiend abuses me!!! I mean like he doesn't mean to but like we will be messing around and he'll grab my hand to hard and I get brusies, and I dont bruse easily!! I tell him it hurts but I know he doesnt mean to!! help!! (link)
it's not abuse man. it's him not knowing what he's doing. there is a difference. if he doesn't do it with a malicious intent. he doesn't know he's doing it, tell him it hurts a lot, and he'll try to stop. simple as that.




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