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Boyfriend's Boner

Question Posted Monday May 16 2005, 8:44 pm

My boyfriend and I went on a date yesterday, and when we got home we started making out. After that he sat me on his lap and I felt something poking my butt, so im pretty sure I gave him a boner. I'm wondering how you would tell if you gave a guy a boner and what you should do if u did and dont want to go any further, but i dont just wanna ignor it. My boyfriend and I are really close, if that changes anything.

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iAmAguy answered Sunday April 1 2012, 10:11 pm:
a boner is like when a girls nipple get hard. its uncontrollable under any circumstances, and doesnt at all mean he wants to have sex... havent you ever heard of the saying "a guy can get a boner when the wind blows?" - its true.

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hiroko93 answered Tuesday October 11 2011, 10:41 pm:
Yeah, it's pretty normal I suppose. I think as long as he doesn't start humping your leg just ignore it and maybe shift your hip slightly to one side to give yourself some space.
As long as he doesn't pursue it. lol. My boyfriend gets a boner on video chat just from me licking my lips. It's pretty ridiculous and it actually works on him. And I am very close with my boyfriend too.

guys and their bodily reactions...

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PaigeNichole38 answered Monday June 13 2011, 7:24 pm:
I give my boyfriend a boner just about everytime we make out or when he starts to finger me. It's totally normal and you shouldn't worry about it.

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godlynipplez answered Friday January 29 2010, 7:48 pm:
i get a boner sitting with my legs crossed in a chair if u are sitting on his lap and kissing him what did you think was going to happen?

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Lysander answered Tuesday September 1 2009, 1:57 am:
Well, you have a few options, but I only think one is truly viable. You could be less attractive to him so he doesn't get a boner in the first place, but that just sounds stupid, right? You could also confront him about it and tell him you don't want to go further, so he'll have to learn to control it or be alright with not using his bone stick. The option I think would work best for you would kind of delve into 'going further', but barely. You could indulge him in some dry humping, but if he tries to go further, you can just say you're not ready for that. Good luck on your 'boner problem'.

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blujay answered Tuesday May 17 2005, 8:54 pm:
touch it and if he moans lay him down and put it in my mouth

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mrs_radcliffe answered Tuesday May 17 2005, 2:32 pm:
You did give him one. You lucky thing you obiously turn him on.

luv roxie

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EJ47 answered Tuesday May 17 2005, 6:21 am:
Definitely gave him one... but you don't have to do anything about it. We get them all the time and have our /own/ ways of dealing with them -.-;. You shouldn't ignore it though, then he might feel you're ignoring /him/.

We take care of ourself when it comes to things like that and the other side isn't wanting much more from it, if you catch my drift. So dun worry about it :p


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Daisy answered Tuesday May 17 2005, 3:32 am:
Yes it sounds like you gave him one. If you don't want to do anything about it then don't and ignore it. If you are happy making out and he hasn't asked you to do anything else then don't. If you are really close then he will understand and you can take things really slowly.

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orphans answered Monday May 16 2005, 9:54 pm:
well it means you turned him on and he got horny. don't worry about it. but the fact is a boner isn't the only sign a guy is horny. i have been horny a lot of times and not had a boner. for a guy to be horny it's more than just popping a woody. it's a lot more mental than just that despite the fact that it might seem otherwise. i'll be with my girl and we'll be all making out and i'll finger her or something and totally get her off. and me i'll never pop a boner until she does more than just rubs my crotch a bit. and yet i'll still be horny through all of this. the penis is an odd thing. it goes up for no reason sometimes. but the fact is you got your boyfriend horny so be happy.

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????? answered Monday May 16 2005, 9:42 pm:
ok, it's not a big deal, because guys get boners pretty much all the time. some of them, all they have to do is hear a girl talk to get one, so dont worry.

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icey0990 answered Monday May 16 2005, 9:29 pm:
Ok just because a guy gets an erection, it doesnt mean you have to go farther like have sex or anything. Its a natural thing he cant control. Teen guys get boners from aanything..even for a girl who he has no feelings for. So what do you do? just ignore it..its your bf getting turned on by doesnt mean he wants to have sex..because guys cant just say to their penises "ok i want to have sex...give me a boner" it doesnt work like that..its all natural for him to get hard

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mArK's_advize answered Monday May 16 2005, 9:09 pm:
well, (im guessing your boyfriend is a teenager) teenage boys are very easy to arouse, just by looking at someone, a boy can get a boner, let alone hooking/feeling up a girl. so you shouldnt get mad at your boyfriend or anything, but if you dont want to go any further, just tell him. he probably isnt trying to go any further, because it isnt his fault that he got a boner. so if you really are close to him, im sure you can talk to him about it. hope i helped!

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