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my best friend cuts and carves
okay heres the story. my best friend cut really bad at the end of 7th grade(were in 8th now) and over that summer. the school, both friends and the administration, was aware but she never really got any kind of help. seh always carved peoples names who had hurt her or someone who was really important to her. okay this has to coem out to. shes bi so these people are girls. one was a best friend who stopped being friends with her another was a girlfriend and one is an x girlfriend. okay sorry that was kind of irrelevent. but anyway she got a lot better after this girl broke her heart. (i know you would think she would get worse) anyway she only cut maybe three times the whole school year. i stopped really worrying about it. but then in the past week she did it really bad. only me and this other girl who cuts too knows about it. before i always could see how unhappy my best friend was but this time i couldnt really understand. nothing really drastic happened and she seemed to be doing a lot better in recent months. okay heres my dilema. she siad not to tell anyone and if i did she would know it was me and not talk to me again or at least be extremely pissed. and i know shes not lying no matter how much i mean to her. now i want to get her help but i dont know how. i dont know if she can be helped with the additude she has now.
so: do i speak up and if so who should i tell?
what would be the best help to get her?
please give me any ideas. im open to anything. and dont waste youre time if youre going to be an ignorant a** like some people on this thing.
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well i had this same problem.. i cut and it would be really bad and when someone cuts it is really hard for you to except the fact that you need help.. but i ahd wrote a note to my friends saying how i was killing my self adn everything and they knew i cut but enevr really worried about it.. that days later on i got called down to the cudence office ( i was in 7th grade too) and my friends had gone and showed them the note i was so pissed off at them and wanted to ruin my friendship with them adn never talk to them again but then i woke up and relized that they were ym true riends by trying to help me.. i got help for it all and im better off now.. i think you should tell someone she mite be mad at you for a little while but you could seriously be saving her life.
hope this helps.
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You do need to tell someone, it's better for her. She seems to have some type of depression, which isn't uncommon for people your age. When you're depressed, there are times when you just feel horrible, even if nothing's wrong. These thoughts may be due to an inbalance of a certain hormone in the brain. If it's bad enough, you're friend may even be suicidal. So if you want your friend to end up in an "accident," then keep her secret, otherwise, get help. I would reccommend a counselor, a teacher, a nurse, parent, older friend, someone she can look upto. Hope I helped, and good luck. -Angel
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ok. my girlfriend used to cut and i know cutting is bad and anyone who does it needs help. But getting people to acept help is hard. If you want to keep her friendship try writing her a note about it and have her write back. Srategicly get a teacher to confenskate the note. You can do this many ways. One is if you have a really cool teacher talk to her about it and the whole situation and get her to "take" the note and have her give it to the guidence counciler. Another way is to "accidentally" leave the note in a classroom and have one of the teachers find it and give it to the school counciler to get her help. ANYONE WHO CUTS PLEASE STOP!!!! you will be much happier. If you dont believe me ask my girlfriend--horsesare666es
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i think you should just tell a school councler or her parents...she needs all the help she can get she will be soooooooo glad you did it...you could save her life...
hope i helped..
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I think you should tell someone. Be a friend and risk your friendship, you can really help her afterall. Tell someone you know you can trust, like a teacher or your parents.
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YOU NEED TO SPEAK UP. I cut, and it's lucky i had friends who got me help. I had a friend like that. I told the school counsler. She's getting help she never realized she needed. She is going to be mad. but you need to know that she is MUTILATING herself! what are you going to do if she kills herself! you knew about this and you weren't respoonsible enough to get up. People cut for 2 reasons, 1-depression caused by a chemical imbalance, or 2-they want attention and therefore pretend to be depressed. both cases can be cured. you need to get her help!! i keep repeating the same thing, but you need to understand that she needs help. she is going to get mad. but she will eventually understand. she needs help. help her get it. please.
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I think the first you should do is talk to her. I used to cut and can get addicting even if nothing's wrong she might cut just because it gives her a rush. She needs to get proffesional help she could really hurt herself if she cuts herself deep enough. She will probably say that she knows what she's doing and that she wouldn't make that mistake but it happens all the time. She could end up in the hospital and get very sick if she cuts herself too deep or isn't careful about what she cuts herself with. YOu need to tell someone. She may not talk to you but you need to get her some help. You have to ask yourself what's more important your friends health and possibly life or your friendship. I know that you care about your friend and you want to do what's best for her and getting her help is the best thing for her. You need to talk to your parents or a school counselor tell her that you are really worried about her and you want to get her some proffesional help. When I was cutting it got really bad my friends got me some help and at first I wanted nothing to do with it finally they sent me to a shrink who really helped me. At first I was pissed at my friend for telling someone but once I got some help and I straightened things out I realized that she did the right thing and I'm so glad that she did get me help. YOu need to do this for your friend. If it is really a problem for her then she needs help. Cutting is not helping and can be extremely dangerous. Talk to your parents, or the school and get your friend some proffesional help before she really hurts herself.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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I would think if she was your friend she would be greatful that you were so concerned about her. This cutting thing is not exactly healthy for her and if you tell responsible adults, they may be able to help her seek help through terapist sessions and alot of other stuff. It's would be a good idea to spend more time with her too, take her out to fun places like the amusement park.
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have you asked your friend if she wants any help? i know it could be embarrassing, but if she tells someone like a doctor or something it would be extremely helpful. i would talk to your friend and tell her that you're very worried about her, and tell her your point of view. my best friend used to cut too, and i've got her help in the past. so my best advice is to talk to her from your point of view.
i hope i helped =)
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