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ok well theres this clothing store i like. i found out about it when my friends told me about it. and when i went there to go look at it i thought it was awesome. but the problem is i think that my friends are going to get mad at me that i copied their store or something by shopping there. i dont want to get them mad at me so should i just not listen to wat they think and shop ther, or should i just not shop there at all??

-confused shopper (link)
no offense but they shouldn't get mad at you just because you want to shop at the place they shop at.try shopping there and see what happens. if they don't get mad at you then keep shopping there but if they get mad at you tell them that it's sort of stupid to get mad at someone for shopping at a place they shop. even if they get mad you, they'll forget about it quickly
hope i helped!


Well, i'm 13, and i haven't had my period yet. but for a while now, like several months, i always have a whitish discharge in my underwear, and i don't know what it is. it can be kind of sticky, and has an odd smell. i don't have any pain or anything, but i have no clue what it is at all. can anybody relate and tell me what is going on? thanks in advance!! (link)
It might be embarrassing, but talk to your mom about it. It could be a *SMALL* infection. And you could just need something simple to make it go away. (nothing serious, don't worry) Or it could be nothing, just a sign that you will be starting your period soon.


ook i went out with this kid last year on 5.20 and we broke up in december an 8 month relationship and i cant get over him i went out with like 6 other guys but i get jealous if he flirts with someone or if another grl likes him doo u think there is another way of getting over him cuz i really like him but i dont think he likes me like that rite now love, please help (link)
It might be hard, but try and get him alone, and confront him. Tell him you still have feelings for him, even though the relationship was over. Ask him to think about starting what you had over again, don't pressure him to answer right away, he will apprieciate your patience. If you really want to put him in a past, catch yourself when you start thinking about him, and push him out of your head, I had a similar problem with a 5 month relationship. I just apprieciated what we had had together and started shifting my focus to other things. I threw myself into acting and track, and within a month I had moved on. We are now both involved seriously with someone else.


I am in a school production of Bye Bye Birdie. I think I am doing OK with the memorization of my lines, but sometimes I foget where to go and don't know how to dramatize certain parts. (I play Mrs. Peterson, a huge over-reactor) i am usually good at giving advice about this stuff, but I am stuck. Does anyone know how I could be mroe dramatic and confident in myself?
~stage STUCK (link)
Try practicing in a mirror, you are your own worst critic. When you feel confident about how you perform in front of your mirror, you will feel confident in front of everyone else.As for the dramatization, don't be afraid to go to your directer to get their input. Think about your reaction to what is happening around you on the stage, and start from there. Blocking is hard to get down perfect, but just practice hard, and you'll get there. I have had all these problems with my performances, and these are just a few things I've picked up. Hope this helps!


Can you be in love with someone, and not be physically attracted to them? (link)
Yes. It's called platonic love. I love my friend, but do I want to jump on them? No.

If you mean romantic love, then I think it could happen. It's odd to think about since so much of romantic relationships revolve on physicality, but I guess it may happen.


well i met this guy about a month ago and i didn't see him to now and we really had fun hangin out together...but he's not a good kisser :\ i guess cuz it was his first time but how do i tell him without makin us both feel stupid ?? (link)
Make suggestions? I'm all for honesty, so I'd think "wow, you suck, let's practice." would work, but if you want to be more delicate, say you saw a website or a book about kissing and wanted to try some of the techniques out.


ok this probally going to sound really gross or whatever but..when i shave my arm pits theres still like black dots...and my arm pits usally get really red...what should i do to get rid of the black dots and redness (link)
Use a new razor. And shave at all angles. Up, down, then to the side, and diagonally if you have to. Use a new razor and a good shaving cream.


Ok, I'm a really bad procrastinator if I'm really not interested in doing something.

Tips to help? I know it's bad...how did you overcome it?

Thanks! (link)
Make a list, according to how badly you want it done, then do one thing at a time, make plans, get other peole involved so you wont back out and make them feel bad, that should help kick your procrastination problem.


My life is running on a basis of two things-acting and writing. There are (obviously)other things in my life, but these seem to be my strongest activities. I have had major roles in plays and have been very sucessful with writing as well, winning a $125 prize, a newspaper contest, etc. They are both things that I love doing and are good at, and find it hard to decide hich one I shopuld focus on. I would really like to choose one so that I may start to try out for plays or write for the paper or something, but I find it hard to decide. I am a straight A student, so grades shouldn't be a problem. Please help!
~WILL RATE 5'S!!!!~ (link)
Why give either up? Use both your gifts if you enjoy them.


Does anybody know if the movie 'Robots' Is a kids movie? like 4 and 8 year old movie? (link)
Yes, they will love it. :)


okay im 16and me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 2 years now we had a massive argument da ova day and he put a knife to my throat and ses he would kill me if i shouted at him like that again i really like him thought and he dont always act like that but now im scared just to have an argument with him ive talked 2 him about it and he ses im being stupid bt i dont wana break up with him what do i do? (link)
Do you have no self respect? No self esteem? You must. HE THREATENED YOU PHYSICALLY. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DO THAT. NO ONE, NO ONE CAN PUT A KNIFE TO YOUR THROAT AND YOU NEED TO REALIZE THAT. It doesnt matter if you dont want to break up with him, if you don't, you'll probably end up dead or seriously injured, and then it's your own fault. Get out while you can. Go to a police station or a shelter and TELL THEM.

Then get yourself into therapy, because you have some self issues if you think it's okay for him to treat you like this.


My BF and I have been going out for a month. And we kiss and W/E outside of school, but past couple of days we have been doing little kisses after 4th. we both feel kinda uncomfortable cause all my friends go AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW really loudly n obviously when we do and its really annoying! i've told them to stop but they dont! have can i make them?! i rate ^^ (link)
Don't kiss in front of them, maybe? I doubt your affection is burning so passionately you must make out in front of the puke green walls and dented lockers in order to cement your relationship.

and you know you just like the attention you get for it.


okay..there's this guy who likes me and I like him..and he knows that..but see he wont ask me out..and we were supposed to go on a date but he got put on resrtiction..so we didnt get to go..so he said that may-b when he gets off that we could go on one.But i dont know if hes off or not.but i realy wish he would ask me out.All my friends say that me and him are the cutest couple..but were not a couple! and I know he likes me.But what do I do? just sit around and wait for him to make a move? Or do something about it,and make the first move?please help!!
(link)
Make the move if you feel it's worth it, but he sounds like a waste of time.


hi my dad comes home high everyday. i know he smokes cigars and i was wondering if you can get high off cigars? or is he doing other stuff? (link)
If you're thinking of like "woah, illegal high." then no, not off cigars. How do you know he's high if you dont even know this?


ill be 15 in 2 weeks. but i really want to get some money. i know everyone will prolly say babysitting! .. and i consider that, but like how do i get people to babysit for?..you know like find people to babysit for? .. thats where im stuck. so can someone give me some suggesions? please!? (link)
If you cant figure this out, I wouldn't trust you with children.

-flyers are good. post some in local stores, ect.
-talk to family. they can put the word out.
-try pet sitting. it gives you a good base to start off with, because at fifteen, most girls/boys have already been sitting for a year or two, so you'll need to catch up.


so I've never been kissed but pretty soon its gonna happen and well, will he know? I dont wanan tell him just because its kinda embarassing. But can he tell? !! thanks. (link)
Well, if you slobber on his face and lick his eyeballs, yes. If you just relax and go with it and NOT MAKE IT A BIG DEAL, no.

Then again, you could always like, bite his tongue or something, which could clue him in. But what's so bad about never being kissed? I dont know your age, but really,I think it's rather cool, it shows you care about it.


So me and one of my best guy friends have kind of been a little more then friends latly. Like last night we were watching this movie and he told me to sit with him and we started cuddling but not like friendly..more like intimate and I liked it. His best friend told me that hes going to ask me out but I dont know if I should say yes or no...see there are positives and negitives:
Positives-
I wouldnt be single
I could french someone
hes perfect(except hes a perv)
Negitives-
Im going to camp and so is he in like 4-6 weeks and wont be able to see tim all summer
are friendship will die

Plzz help im 14/f and rate ^ lyl mwaaaa
(link)
You like him, which is good, but you seem to have the maturity of a small child, which isn't. Save dating until you can spell.


is there any way possible to make your period come soon? cuz i have to go swimming on the 1st of june and on the 6th of june and my period is due on the 1st of june. and i dont want to be on my period then. so is it possible to make it come really eary? like now? thanks in advance and ill rate you.
(link)
No sorry. :( It sucks but you will just have to use a tampon.


Is there any way to build strength without having to lift weights or anything like that.
We've started doing bits of break dancing in my hip hop dancing and it's really hard seeing as I'm not exactly strong and the teacher told me to figure out a way to build stregth without lifting weights or something
I've tryed to just keep practicing but I keep falling on my face 'cause I'm not strong enough to hold the weight of my whole body on my arms haha. (link)
Well it soundes like you are having problems with your arms and legs. Try pushups, and bike riding.


Alrighty... well I'm 14 and I weigh 90lbs and I'm about 5'2"! Well I can find some pants that fit me in my thighs.. I usually go for 0s but I have to find the ones with really skinny legs so they will fit tight on me! I wish my thighs were bigger.. and if I like try to eat fatty foods I'm sure that it won't all go to my thighs, so.. I wanted to make them more muscular so they can fit tightly in all my pants! What are some exersizes I could do to make my thighs bigger? It's almost summer break and I was thinking I'd want to go into 10th grade and have more muscular legs..so I could work on it! Any ideas? Thanks in advance (link)
Try getting involved in track, like long distance. Or go to the gym and hop on an excercise bike. You can also go to your school's coach and consult them on some good leg building excercises, specify quads or thighs unless you end up with boyish muscle-y calves. Watch a guy's calves when he walks and you will see what I am talking about.




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