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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Im a very nice young adult female.Single and never been in a relationship. Sorry to say this if it affect anyone who is married. But i am so annoyed to see poeple get marry so young and so fast these days. And make alot of babies and then get divorce. And this is about close to 100 percent seriously. Can anyone please tell me why everyone so rush in marriage and get divorce later? Is this how it works in this world? Does everyone have the same mind and feeling? It is just so crazy. Im still patiently wait for my true love. Oh wait. Another question is: Is true love real??? O dear
I can really only partly answer this question
I can tell you, You aren't alone. I also do not believe young people should marry and have children so quickly. However, In today's society that is sadly what the young generations are all about if not that then it's about sex and getting boyfriend/girlfriends at 11 years old. I really can't tell you why this is happening other then the influence and the rise of teenage hormones.
People "Think" they are in love therefore they "think" they are ready to take the next level in their lives. I personally did not get married until I was 25 years old and it's probably the best choice I've made. While I am more mature then I would be if I were 18 and I know what I want out of life. ;)
So yes, I agree with you there.
hi my name is jazzy im 12,im a girl, and i just wanted to no wat should i do because i am anxious to have sex but i think im under age also i think i am a lesbian wat should i do please give me advice also if there are lesbians out there chat me ;}
You are way to young to be having sex sweetie, The age to even consent is 16 in many states. Having sex at your age is wrong. Also, 9 times out of 10 you are not a lesbian you are just a girl that is curious about her sexuality.
Stop thinking about sex and enjoy being a kid. You have all the time in the world to worry about the adult stuff. Also, This is not the place to be looking for girlfriends/boyfriends.
I am asian. And as everyone know, all asian people have a flat nose. Well, beside korean people. I'm vietnamese. Vietnamese people are smaller and flatter nose. I've been taking care of my nose. I pulled my nose outward and up everyday but it does not help. I know i should be very happy how God created me. And i am very thankful for how i look. But, i just wanna know if milk does anything for you nose bone. Anyone know? I just want my nose to have a little lift. Thank you. Oh, also, does excercising alot help grow a couple inches when at age 23? Im dying to know.
You got whatever god gave you, Unless there is some kind of surgery done there is no way to increase the size of your nose.
May I add that I think Asians, Vietnamese women are beautiful. I highly doubt you need a change or are unattractive as you make yourself out too be. Us Americans often envy women of Asian decent.
Be happy with who you are
I only black out in the shower and it only happens every once in a while. Is there something wrong with me?
The reasoning for blacking out in the shower could have something to do with the water temperature. If it is too hot, It could be raising your blood pressure. If too cold it could be causing your blood temperature to drop.
I am not a doctor, I really cannot give you a diagnosis but those are possibilities. If this keeps on happening you should see a family doctor as it could be something serious.
we are both in our 40's. we are both married to other people but have this strong attraction to each other. Am I playing with fire? All we did so far was hug each other but express feelings towards one another. Please advise.
I wouldn't really call it wrong but I suppose it would depend on how much you are hugging this person too.
If you both are married then just know your boundaries. If you are constantly hugging him then maybe back off some, You don't want to give the wrong impression and cause chaos.
14/f
Okay a week or so again my boyfriend broke up with me. I didn't see it coming til that day. We were at our local county fair and it was so much fun and I wrote him a letter that had the reasons why I liked him so much because he kept saying I had to prove how much. That kinda scared me cause I had a feeling I new what he ment but I really didn't want that. Then all my friends were telling me all these bad things about him( I really didn't want to believe) He didn't come to the last two nights of the fair because he and his cousin (I have a bad feeling about him i don't know why) went to Iowa for there cousins party up there. Then on his way back he broke up with me. I had mixed feelings about it. Part of me wanted this and part didn't want it to happen. When we first started dating he said he wanted to be in a long relationship with me ( that scared me a little) but when he broke up he said he didn't want to be in a committed relationship. Then accused me of playing him. I did play guys but I had accually stopped before we even started talking because I had let one guy get under my skin. I tried to tell him that he didn't listen.Then he posted this on Facebook "why do they call it a heart break, when your whole body feels like it hurts" part of me didn't want it to be about me another did. I thought I was fine then I couldn't fall a sleep last night. He was never that bad guy all my friends said he was he was always so nice and sweet. He would always ask if he had gone to far when he kisses and he was always protective of me to other guys I'm so confused. I know relationships at this age aren't suppost to be a big deal but I can't stop thinking about him. I have all these questions and things I wanna say to him. I always prepare my self for the brake up but I never let a guy in so close before and lowered a lot of shields to let him in and know I'm so confused
You stated that he broke up with you again, Which tells me that you both have broken up before.
Really, You need to move on from him. Except that the kid is bad news and meet someone who will treat you right. If he was pressuring you into doing sexual things with him while you weren't ready then it's his loss. Guys that manipulate girls into having sex with them are jerks.
Why are you still looking at his facebook? This isn't going to help you move on from him. It will make the process much harder for you. People do not like being dumped and the fact is the more we are dumped and get back together with that person the more you break the bond with that person little by little.
Maybe he wasn't always a bad guy but the truth is people change. Sometimes we don't always want to believe it but they do. While I'm sure you know you are young, This isn't the end for you. There are going to be more guys that come into your life and hopefully they are the right kind of guys. I'm not sure if his facebook status was directed towards you but please don't let someone manipulate their way back to you. Guys have a tendency of sweet talking and if it didn't work out the first few times with him then you know your wasting your time.
does anybody know if i could bring my own baught earings to walmart and get them pierced there?
I'm not sure but you could always call and ask.
I do know that when you get your ears pierced they use a special kind of earring. (Usually earrings made of nickle or 14k gold)
A freshly pierced ear should not have fake silver in them as you increase the risk of it getting infected.
My Dad is dealing with clinical depression and we happen to live in a government funded low income neighbourhood. We just happen to live around drug-dealing, low-class and uncivil people.
Anyways, the kids in this neighbourhood are extremely rude and disrespectful. They have added numerous dents and scratches onto my Dad's car and are extremely rude to him.
For example, whenever they see my Dad walking outside, they will all stop and stare at him. Another time, my Dad told me they were standing near our backyard and staring at them and he asked them what their problem was and one of the kids was like "Who do you think you're dealing with? What the hell is wrong with you fucking Paki's, don't mess with us black people."
I've had neighbouring kids run to our front yard and rip out all our roses. I spoke to their mother about it, and she yelled at them a little but she didn't really care as she went around to other neighbour's and starting talking about my Dad (I know because one of my neighbours told my Dad that this woman approached him talking about my Dad negatively).
Anyways, how should I deal with this situation? The parents are about as ignorant and disrespectful as the kids. My Dad approached one mother and told her about her kids playing in the parking lot and hitting my Dad's car and she just gave him attitude and asked him "What are you going to do about it?"
We have a superintendent in our area but he is friends with all of them and he doesn't like my Dad either. So he won't be much help.
You report it to the landlord, If they decide to do nothing then you keep on filing complaints. If they STILL don't handle the situation then you should go above their heads. If you are in HUD housing, Then you contact HUD and file a complaint.
Your father has a right to have his peace in his own home. I also encourage you to ignore the neighborhood kids, If they do a stare down then brush it off and walk away. Asking them what their problem is will only make matters worse.
If you can get proof that the neighborhood kids are causing excessive damage to your fathers car then you could take it too the police station and file a report with them as well. If you need to step it up then you tell them if they continue to damage the car again, You will go to the police.
Well, I have a previous post about this same issue wondering if he was, It turned out he was cheating ;( He said that he only did it cause I argued with him everytime I saw him in the past few months...this is very true. I did do that A LOT. But most of our arguments stemmed from him not introducing me to his friends--I felt, even though he spent money on me and took me on dates, that he excluded me from his life--that I didn't feel like a part of it...that's where most of my upset stemmed from. I'm not perfect. There were times when I acted a little bipolar and wouldn't just get upset too often. But he said the cheating is "my fault" now I feel like it is:( I feel like if I didn't push him so much he wouldn't have done it....he said "when we fight it feels like I'm not with you." He said one girl, the one he cheated on me with, was a friend and the other was a girl at a bar he got when we broke up but I was always the girlfriend--he said he felt nothing for them and that he just mindlessly did it. That was his explanation for cheating.....I told him I never cheated on him....I even showed him texts of a guy I kissed when we were broken up who I said "You know I got back together with my bf right?" to prove how dedicated I was to him--that I was telling other guys to back off--that I love my bf. He just focused on the part that I kissed the guy when we were broken up...even tho he had sex once when we were broken up and supposedly had sex once recently with other girls during our relationship......I just feel like a fool...I pushed him away arguing so much....I just was so adamant about not playing games they tell you to in dating books like ignoring the phone and being distant if he upset, and instead I would always complain and tell him about problems--hoping that being authentic would work someday with some guy--even tho it hasn't yet, and once again, it got me nowhere. He said I didn't need to pester him--he would have immersed me in his personal life eventually and that he had to do it when he was ready--that because I was his first relationship in three years--he was just slower to incorporate me into friends and family, and that's why I didn't meet them, but I was going to eventually. He dumped me today, after I found out last night....the fool I am was going to stay with him because I thought if the cheating were for fights we could get along and prevent it...but if the cheating was purely physical reasons (which it wasn't) there would be nothing I could do. That was my rational. He said he thinks I am his soulmate and dreams of us marrying and living together, but at this time we can't be together and he needs to "explore other options" because he's drained....he says after our break up, anyone else it would be all physical and he loves me:(:(:( I feel just awful....I feel very much that I had a hand in this undoing....and I feel guilt and extreme sadness.......I don't want to date. I don't want anything physical with anyone else.....I just want to work, do my hobbies, and I hope eventually he'll come around. I feel like we can fix this--if the cheating was just due to emotional distance--and not a need for variety...I can fix it. Am I wrong for thinking that? Am I foolish? Stupid? What is wrong with me? Should I even bother hoping we'd be back again once more? Now I feel like, now that being honest about how i feel, and not playing games, and being a nice girlfriend who cooks and cleans and just wants a guy to introduce her to friends after maybe four months and expresses that never works...because I have showed the same behavior with all past bfs and they always in some way take advantage and run away.....or lose interest....even when they swear up and down that they love my honest and authenticity and my refusal to ignore, be distant, and play games.....I just feel like I need to be fake and play games if I am ever to find someone who loves me more than I love them for once... because it's always me loving more...me getting hurt....
Dump him
Blaming you for cheating is the worst excuse in the book. There is NO excuse for cheating, Doesn't matter how much you fought.
Point is, If he wasn't happy he should of showed you the respect and just ended it. Cheating is cowardly and dishonest.
He knows he is wrong and fails to take the blame for it which is why he turn it around and made it look like you were the reason for his actions. I find it somewhat bullshit that he just mindlessly went ahead and cheated as well. Why? He was well aware of what he was doing but decided to do it anyway. I do not think you are foolish but I do think you should dump him for good and move on. Someone who cheats and puts the blame on someone else is probably someone that you shouldn't be in a relationship with.
Is is cheating if you watch porn only because you want to educate yourself (not trying to cheat)& when u watched it you were thinking if that was me giving my bf what he needs & wants for example how to give a blo job? I'm in my late teens and don't have a clue. I've read articles with mixed reviews which left me quite confused is it cheating or not?? Also if i wanted to cheat i would have gone out and psychically cheated.
Watching porn is not cheating, Cheating is when you have physical relations with another person other then your partner. (In my eyes that's cheating) However, Everyone views things differently and has different opinions on the definition.
Viewing porn is actually quite normal. You'd be surprised at how many people view porn for educational purposes or even just for satisfaction. I don't think it's wrong at all
Okay so I am 16 years old and i cant do with just fingers anymore. I want to get a vibrator online (since i cant go to a store underage). And i have the money but how do i recieve it without my parents finding out? I dont want them to find it in the mail...and they always check the mail :( what do you guys suggest? also where would you suggest i hide it incase i somehow get one? (good hiding places!)
You need to be 18 to order from sites like that. Like the person suggest below me you are better off having someone that is 18 order it for you.
Also, When something like that is delivered it usually comes in a box. The box looks like a regular package with a label written with your name and address. It's almost impossible to tell what it is unless you open it.
As far as hiding it, Maybe in a closet?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. We are happy together and it has been a great relationship. There is only one problem. My bestfriend that I have been bestfriends with for years dosen't act very supportive of our relationship. She likes my boyfriend and we have all hung out together before but whenever I have exciting news she just says "oh cool" without any real response. It makes me upset because we are also friends with this other girl lauren. Lauren and her boyfriend have been dating for about a year now and my bestfriend always talks about how cute they are, saying how he is the best boyfriend ever, liking their pictures on facebook together, when lauren and her boyfriend fight all the time. Call me jealous, but I just don't understand my bestfriend is acting this way and not being supportive of my boyfriend and I. Maybe it's because she has been single for 2 years now? I'm not really sure what to do about this situation. I don't want to tell her all this because I feel that it's childish. I'm just not sure what to do. I want the love and support for my bestfriend with the guy that I love and someday might marry.
Your friend is jealous. She also may feel left out to some degree and in some way she envies you.
It's shitty after being single for so long. While some people enjoy being single others get bored out of their wits being alone and not having things to share with someone. Either way, I think you need to be honest with her. It is never childish to express how you feel and if you both have a good friendship then communication is important.
Also remember, This may be your best friend but you never need someones approval to date someone. Instead of be jealous, She should be happy for you and respect your wishes.
Do you have skype? I am agoraphobic and am recently trying to get help for it. I want to talk to someone that has made steps with it. I think it would help me out so much.
I have yahoo messenger
You can email me at Veroxidone@gmail.com and I will give you the screen name. I also have the same problem and I'd be glad to help you.
Is 2 years and 6 months older creepy? People tell me 2 years isn't that bad. But does the extra 6 months make a difference? I'm going to be a senior in HS.
Not at all, You being a senior in high would would make you almost 18. Therefore you are legally an adult so no, I don't find it creepy.
If you were 13 and were looking to date someone who was almost 16 well then yes, I would say that's a bit wrong.
I've been trying to get myself off the internet. And there's this site called mylife.com
It has my name, age, birth year, and the city I live in. WTF, how do I get that off? I never signed up, it probably got the info from social network sites that I used to use, I deleted those already. But mylife is stupid and creepy. I have a rare last name too. Is there any way that I can remove my info?
I'm not sure if there is a way to get all your information off the websites. These websites gather information data from mostly social networking.
A lot of these "People Finder" websites are bogus. They provide very little real detail but also provide bogus crap to lure in people to join their websites. This is why it is very important when you sign up for things like email, facebook, twitter etc. That you never put your real information.
I've become a 'sexoholic' with my boyfriend,the thing is that he's great at sex:)so it's become like my addiction and even when we don't have the appropiate place to do it(we don't live together)I get mad and suggest going anywhere,even outdoors or in the car.I'm crazy!What can I do?it's not that we do not do other things,though,but it's like my favourite part of the relationship and it's starting to make me worry,thanks!
Therapy
While you think it's the best part of the relationship, It could very well end up being the reason your relationship won't work out. Relationships are not all about sex, While your boyfriend may enjoy occasional sex once in awhile sooner or later he may he feel like he is or becoming an object to you.
Having sex in a public place is real risky, If caught you and your boyfriend could be charged with public exposure and disturbing the peace. Having sex out in public, Is most certainly not a smart idea.
Please seek yourself some counseling before this really becomes a problem for you.
okay so im 14 and there's a guy whos been sending me sexual texts like "heyy;)" and "are you in your room;)" and before it used to be "hey:)" also he has been getting more touchy feely with me. I'm kind of curious about all of the whole sexual relations and whatnot but i am thinking that id feel guilty afterwards and school would just be really awkward. i want to give in and see what its like but then again i dont... any advice?
You aren't ready to proceed the into physical activity, If you were, You wouldn't be here asking.
Maybe it's not exactly considered "sexual" but it's the start, As long as the kid knows he can sweet talk his way in of course it's going to only lead to more.
If you are uncomfortable TELL HIM, Never ever let a guy continue to make you uncomfortable or lead you to something you aren't ready. Many boys will pretty much tell a girl whatever they want to hear as long as they think it will get them what they want.
21/F
I've been dating this guy off and on for 4 years. Recently I've noticed he never seems happy about anything I'm excited about. For example I got a really good grade on a final that he knew I was stressing about for weeks and all he said was good job and diverted the conversation.. Another example is I just bought my very own new car and I was so excited when I signed the papers and I called him up about it and all he had to say was "it's only a V6? You're excited about a V6"... Idk but little things like that make me upset about him because when he's excited about something I'm just so happy that he's happy but it never seems like he does the same for me. Do I just care more about him than he does me? I mean I've talked to him about it and he's like no I'm happy for you but you can tell he thinks I'm stupid for being so enthusiastic... It just hurts me that he can't be happy cause I'm happy.. Maybe I'm just with the wrong guy?
Some people just aren't as enthusiastic as others. I'm actually the same way you described your boyfriend.
You see, When my husband got a new job I was super excited but I didn't jump and down for joy I just congratulated him. I also do not smile and I am not enthusiastic at all. Many assume that I am bitchy, mad, miserable but in fact I am very happy.
Some people also do not know how to show excitement the way others do. When someone gives me a gift, I thank them but I have a hard time showing appreciation the way they expect me to show it. This doesn't mean I don't like the gift nor am I grateful for it. It just simply means I don't know how to express myself sometimes.
This doesn't mean your boyfriend isn't happy or doesn't love you, I'm sure he does. Like I said he may just not be as upbeat as you. Sometimes it is a bit aggravating (I get it from my husband at times) but it's just who we are. It's a bit hard to judge though but I'm assuming this could be it?
I can't move in my sleep. I have scary dreams about the devil & demons.I'm a christian and believe in god. I had a dream that I was marrying the devil once and it scared the crap out of me and I also had a dream that I was in hell and I and another were my house was burning and I could not move and a voice told me I was going to hell and a devil and all these people talking about hell. Then I was with my mom dad and sister in a town and they all died. I was on the ground and people ran around and fire was everywhere. I woke up scared. I've had these dreams a couple of nights in a row and I've even prayed before I slept.
It was as if I was in a coma like state, awake, but not able to move or talk, I tried to speak and wanted to speak but couldn't nor could I move,my body wasn't and didn't respond to my desire to wake up and I couldn't open my eyes.I tried calling out for help but it nothing wanted to come out, (this is not the first time it happened to me) This was real and creepy. It's like I wasn't even asleep. i actually feel like im really awake. I hate going to sleep after it happens.
I try to reach out and grab someone or call their name, but I get nothing. I guess its in my head, cause I can't speak. I think to myself but this the scariest stuff ever. I Don't know how to get away from it and wish I could. This happens all the time. I'm a grown man and it makes me scared to be alone at night or sleep alone. When i finally woke up from the state, My arms were no floating and they were right where my face was as sleeping... can anyone tell me what the heck happened? Is this something supernatural?
Why am I having these dreams? Help?
Pls share ur ways of shaking it, if you have any pls!
Devil
To see the devil in your dream signifies fear, limitations, and negative aspects of yourself. You may be harboring feelings of guilt. It is time to release these feelings. Alternatively, the devil represents intelligence, cunningness, deception, and cleverness.
To dream that you fight off the devil indicates that you will succeed in defeating your enemies.
To dream that the devil talks to you suggests that you will find certain temptations hard to resist even though you know it is not in your best interest.
To dream that you and the devil are friends suggests that you are easily influenced and can be persuaded into doing something you do not necessarily want to do. Alternatively, you may be dealing with issues of morality
I believe you are the same person who was diagnosed with sleep paralysis, Perhaps you may have night terrors as well?
So I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and he's been getting really mean lately. He's never been physical with me just always putting me down for something and calling me names and just really hurting my feelings. Hell always yell at me just for any reason at all and I try to ignore it for the most part and ill ask him to stop and then hell tell me that I'm the one who's mad and I need to chill out. And I've been applying to about 6 or 7 jobs a week for the past month and I've had 1 interview and a couple odd cleaning jobs. So I'm trying. But he always tells me how lazy I am and how I useless I am since I don't have one yet. But the only reason he has a job is because he works for the company his dad works for. I really try my hardest. I clean the house, ill make him or get him anything he wants. But its still not enough for him to stop putting me down for everything. He's cheated on me before(which he later changed his story to saying that he just made it up to hurt me). I moved to a new state where I don't know anyone for him and he gets mad and acuses me of cheating on him if there's a guy looking at me, even if I never look at the guy. So I have absolutly no friends. My friends from home don't like him. And I've left him twice before but I let him talk me into coming back because he said that he would change. Things were good for a bout a week and got bad again. Its so hard for me to leave since I'm 700 miles away from anyone I know. also what's keeping me from leaving right now is we got a car and its in my name since his lisence is suspended but I haven't paid a cent for it so id feel bad taking it. But I legally can't move from the state while its in my name and payments are still being made. I just feel so stuck. I know its not a good relationship and his dad has had problems with getting physical with him and past relationships. So I'm worried if I stay longer that my bf would get physical with me. Someone please give me advise
You need to leave him for good
Your boyfriend is emotionally abusive towards you and after two times of going back to him he is NOT going to change. You are clearly intimidated by him it points it out right here "So I'm worried if I stay longer that my bf would get physical with me."
Even if you are trying, It is not you with the problem it's him. You've always stated that he has cheated on you before which clearly the relationship has no trust. Seriously, End it and cut contact with him. There is a reason that your friends don't like him and that would be he's nothing but an asshole. As long as you are with him you are allowing him to abuse you, Over time your self esteem with be down the shitter. If you want to be happy then you have to allow yourself to make the choices too become happy. This guy is controlling and does not deserve you. Also, He doesn't deserve you in a relationship he most certainly does not deserve your friendship either.
A relationship is about partnership, love and communication. When you are down, He picks you up vice versa.