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is it wrong to hug my married co worker when I am also married?
we are both in our 40's. we are both married to other people but have this strong attraction to each other. Am I playing with fire? All we did so far was hug each other but express feelings towards one another. Please advise.
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The advice below 'stop hugging' isn't proper advice because they've obviously not realised that this is hard if you both like each other.
My advice would be to talk to each other-communication is key in relationships. Talk to each other whether it's just friendly or whether you do hold feelings for one another.
If you do hold feelings for each other its best to be honest and from then on, you can get help about how to deal with the respective partners.
You need to adress your true feelings before just dismissing them because usually your gut will tell you things for a reason.
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What makes this wrong and puts this in the classification of "Playing with fire" is the words' "STRONG ATTRACTION."
Because of the fact you are attracted to one another hugging is a physical act that transmits this attraction. If you were just friends happy to see each other or you were congratulating someone for a job well done; then the hug is just a hug, not the warm embrace of your attraction or signal of desire for more. That is were the playing with fire comes in. Your hug could be sending a signal you want more than hugs. If received as such you might even allow an escalation to more physical forms of showing of attraction.
My advice stop hugging.
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Okay if there is an attraction between you guys, it wouldn't be the right thing to do.
It's not that it's wrong to hug, but it just gets your thoughts going.
You're married and you wouldn't want your spouse to be hugging someone else thinking the same thing about them.
I'd keep my distance if I were you.
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Well what is the reason for hugging each other? If it is a friendly hug, then there is nothing wrong with it. Like, hugging each other when you first see each other at the start of the day.
But if you BOTH KNOW that there is something else in the hug, and are using this just to be close and not raise suspicion, then of course it is wrong.
If you have feelings for each other, then you either need to ignore them, or tell your respective spouses.
My advice: you are playing with fire. If you want to be together, end your marriages. But don't mess around. Just back off, if you want to save your marriage.
Good luck. :)
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I wouldn't really call it wrong but I suppose it would depend on how much you are hugging this person too.
If you both are married then just know your boundaries. If you are constantly hugging him then maybe back off some, You don't want to give the wrong impression and cause chaos.
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