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I hope that even if you absolutely hate my answer that it'll kick start your brain. Hopefully you'll begin taking your time to respond instead of hurried answers that are useless to an already confused person.
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does anyone know where I can purchase a glass water bottle for work. I would like to stop using plastic bottles...maybe something like a nalgene bottle just not plastic? thanks (link)
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I'm sure you can find plenty of glass water bottles. Choosing to use a glass water bottle instead of a plastic one is very earth friendly. Going "green" helps the planet by reducing the amount of trash that is accumulating.
There is a very neat website that you can order a glass water bottle through. Love Bottle is reusable, earth-friendly, and customizable to an extent:
http://www.lovebottle.net/index.asp
There is also Aquasana Designer Glass Water Bottles, here:
http://www.aquasana.com/glass_decanter.php
The Aquasana website says:
"The only way to keep water truly fresh and pure is to store it in a glass container. All plastic bottles leach plastic byproducts like BPA and phthalate into the water, affecting both taste and purity. The longer water sits in a plastic container, the more contaminated the water will become.
Glass maintains the pure quality and taste of filtered water. When you open your refrigerator door and see a crystal-clear, cold glass bottle of water, you will naturally drink more. Treat yourself with some fresh fruit flavored Aquasana water using lemon wedges, strawberries, limes or oranges!
Drinking more water is one of the very best health habits we can learn. Every health related process that happens in our body, happens with water. If our water tastes, smells and looks pure and healthy, we will instinctively drink more and be healthier as a result.
Glass is also better for the environment, as it can be continuously reused and is 100% recyclable. Bottled water use results in over 60 million plastic bottles being produced, filled, transported and then disposed of every day in America alone!
So do yourself and our planet a favor - Bottle Your Own, and GO GLASS!"
Lastly, another recommendation would be to order from Sesen, as their glass water bottle BPA free, scratch-resistant, lead-free white inked with their logo, and even comes with 100% recycled plastic bottle bag and ice blanket:
http://www.glasswaterbottle.net/
The worst kind of water bottle is the kind that you usually only use once--the PET (polyethylene terephthalate) bottle that you find in grocery stores and gas stations, used for water, soda and juice. This kind of plastic has been proven to leach DEHP (Bis(2-ethylhexyl)phthalate) after repeated use and is a probable carcinogen. They can also harbor bacterial growth inside any cracks and crevices inside the bottle, which cannot be too good for your health either.
If you are looking for a healthier option you may also want to look into purchasing stainless steel reusable container (such as Kleen Kanteen in the link below):
http://www.reusablebags.com/store/reusable-bottles-c-19.html
or heading to Think Outside the Bottle for a pretty nifty stainless steel bottle:
http://thinkoutsidethebottle.org/?gclid=CMb85rDuh5cCFQEoGgodA0-Q_A
So, your best bet is to shop online or find a bottle that you feel comfortable using at home (unlikely to happen as they will probably have plastic closures). There are plenty of options available. Here is a last note on why you should stay very much away from Nalagene water bottles:
http://www.treehugger.com/files/2008/04/bpa-in-water.php
"Many Nalgene water bottles and other hard plastic sport water bottles are made of polycarbonate (#7 on the bottom) , which may leach Bisphenol A, an estrogen-like chemical. Canada is considering a ban of products containing Bisphenol A (BPA) and a new American study links it to breast cancer and early puberty, and is particularly concerned about the effect on babies. Others have raised concerns about the effect of feminizing hormones on men, such as breast enlargement or dropping semen counts."
I hope you find a nice glass bottle to begin using as a water bottle at work. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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i finished my period on a monday then i had unsafe sex the following day (tuesday)..does that mean i can still get/be pregnant??????
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A woman ovulates, roughly, 14 or 15 days from the beginning of her last period; however, if your period is not a perfectly exact 28 day cycle then this can be thrown off. Ovulation lasts a few days. Your body's temperature slightly changes during this time and you secrete more cervical mucus to ensure there is enough for sperm to travel in properly. During this time sperm that entire your body are able to live slightly longer than usual. Sperm typically can live in a woman's body for 5 - 7days, though it is not unheard of to find a few still alive at the two week mark.
It only takes ONE sperm to fertilize your one egg. Sperm are well equipped to find their way to their goal and they will do anything to ensure fertilization. A man's pre-ejaculatory fluid can be hard to distinguish after engaging in unprotected sexual intercourse because it is a smaller quantity and is thinner. Yes, it is likely it contains sperm that can still impregnate you just the same.
Also, ovulation is actually when you are at your peak fertility zone. Basically, you are equally fertile every day of your cycle, including the days you are on your period. The only time you are more fertile than usual is when you are ovulating (when the egg has been released from the ovary and begins traveling down the fallopian tubes). So, this means you can get pregnant during ANY day of your regular cycle equally and you have more chance of becoming pregnant during ovulation.
Ovulation tends to last a couple of days. Usually sometime during this travel is when the egg becomes fertilized and it attaches to your uterine wall when it reaches your uterus. Sometimes the egg is fertilized in the uterus; sometimes the egg is fertilized in the fallopian tube way too early and a baby begins to grown in the tube (which can cause MAJOR issues and can be very dangerous).
It can be difficult to tell if you're ovulating or not if you're not keeping a very close track on your daily discharge and internal temperature. Many things can also throw off your regular ovulation cycle such as: stress, hormonal birth control, antibiotics, and major diet changes.
Yes, you can most definately become pregnant. Remember, you are fertile during your ENTIRE cycle, just a little more fertile than usual during a couple of days. Counting that it would be 2 weeks or there abouts (if you have a regular 28-day cycle) for ovulation to take place, this would probably be a higher-than-usual risk time. Yes, you can very well become pregnant.
I hope I've helped you out in understanding how your body works. If you have any other questions regarding this matter feel free to ask me :)
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I write a column for my school paper, and I was wondering if it would be offensive to anyone if I said the Mayan calendar looks like a Monopoly board on crack. Because it does... (link)
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I'm not sure if it would offend someone, but it would not be tasteful at all and your paper would probably not be taken seriously by your peers, let alone the faculty.
Simply say that the Mayan calendar doesn't appear to be set-up properly from the naked eye or that it appears disoriented from first view. There are many ways to say that something is "stupid" looking without saying it in such a harsh manner.
It may appear as a "Monopoly board on crack" to you, but in writing a paper that your peers and people with seniority over you will read then you should definately word that more appropriately. Someone views it and thinks the world of it so it's best not to belittle it to a joking manner. Be clear, informative, and proper in writing to lessen the risk of offending the public.
It may be funny or cute to say but it definately shouldn't be done in a school paper. If you absolutely must say something like that then try to do it in a joke, comic, or other area of the paper that isn't considered "news" or something that is taken seriously. People want information in their news, not funny jokes or commentary.
Try to use etiquette while writing and people will take you more seriously. Try to be more classy with your wording, that's all :)
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this is embarasing.... so me and my bf were dry humping he had on boxers and i had underwear and capries he ejaculated on my upper thigh when i went to change my clothes i could feel wetness from me in my underwear then a dry area then wetness from him on my capreis so our discharge did not touch. could i get pregnent? im freaking out please please help me (link)
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If the wetness actually touched your vagina then yes.
If the wetness did not touch your vagina then you're alright in the pregnancy-risk department.
Sperm must have liquid to swim through. If something is damp, then they can "swim" through it, only at a slower pace. Yes, sperm aren't "smart" but they do what they do--swim and fertilize. If they can swim through it, they will. If something is dampened by moisture, guess what? They can swim through it because they are very teeny tiny creatures.
As a note, do not listen to what the first person say about washing yourself off with "hot" water. A human's body is, typically, 98.6 degrees. Ideal temperature for sperm is actually slightly higher than that, as a matter of fact. If you put water on your vagina that is ~98 degrees then I sincerely do not think you're going to be a very happy girl. Seriously, use your brain, if you can seriously put "HOT" water on your vagina then something is wrong with your sensations down there anyway.
Also remember that sperm swim in fluid. Water is fluid. If they have already made it inside your vagina then pushing water around isn't going to make that much of a difference. It's even likely to help them on their way.
Lastly, NEVER put soap onto or into your vaginal area. That will cause a very, very nasty infection. You could end up with an irritating yeast infection or an infertility-causing bacterial infection if you do put soap in/on your vagina. Soap in those areas are a big No-No!
If you're going to continue this then just USE A CONDOM. Seriously, even if he isn't going to put his penis in you or on you it can still help keep the sperm at bay, for the most part. It would be a lot less worry and is a fairly cheap solution. You could buy a pack of condoms and keep them in your room, before you two dry hump (with clothes on, hopefully) he could put a condom on. This would make for good "practice" for when you two DO have intercourse--you two won't be fumbling with the condom as much.
Remember that if you choose to have that condoms are only about 88% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage. Please consider the severe consequences before engaging in intercourse. People use condoms every day and end up pregnant from one sexual act. Please remember that if you two do choose to have his penis touching your area, with or without a condom.
Also note that condoms do not protect from STDs at all and virgins can most definately have STDs. Seriously.
The best way to find out if you're pregnant is to wait until your period is suppose to come. If it's late then pick up a home pregnancy test and pee on the stick, as they say. It is extremely low chances that you're pregnant if his fluid did not come in contact with your vagina or vaginal fluid.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
P.S. Technically, yes, sperm CAN go through three layers of clothing as long as they're moistened. They could go through 10 layers of clothing as long as the area is moist that they are traveling through.
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I have been driving myself nuts looking all over the internet looking for this donnie darko quote! i can't find it anywhere. It's weird. It's a quote that Donnie's dad says to him. It's about how people will look down on you, or try to keep you down or think you're weird, etc. something like that. and then it ends with him saying "..and what do you say to them? F**K YOU!" What is the whole quote? Where can I find it?
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This may not be considered a "famous" quote, meaning it would be very difficult to simply search out; however, a really good idea on finding this is to read the script from Donnie Darko! :)
The Donnie Darko script will be written by Richard Kelly if you want authentic. At IMSDb (The Internet Movie Script Database) has a copy of the Donnie Darko script by Richard Kelly on their page, here:
http://www.imsdb.com/scripts/Donnie-Darko.html
Donnie Darko's father is named Eddie (or Edward Darko), by the way, which may make searching a little easier for you. Any way it is, you might find it interesting to read the script from Donnie Darko--just for fun. Although Donnie Darko's father appears multiple times in the movie, he doesn't have many lines actually.
There is a transcription of Donnie Darko by Mark Taylor that you may be able to find to help you. He has even listed the specific songs that are played during the movie Donnie Darko.
Of course, you my also find it especially amusing to read some other famous quotes from the movie Donnie Darko (IMDB has loads of quotes):
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0246578/quotes
As a last resort, just rent the movie! I'm sure you like the movie you're wanting to quote it, so another watch wouldn't be so terrible. Since you can go back a little with DVD players, you can probably write the quote directly from the Donnie Darko DVD word-for-word. Personally, that's the way I'd do it so I got the wording perfectly, but I'm not sure if you're willing to take that time.
I hope I helped you out a little. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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In my company there is a colleague from America. (I'm a chinese ).Sometimes when he walks over and starts a conversation with me, he tends to touch on my arm (almost like just a brush ).I feel it too intimate because in my country colleagues of different sex normally don't have any body contact except handshake .
So I'm wondering is this normal in his culture or does he try to mean anything? (link)
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Sometimes this means that the person is interested in dating you or seeing you outside of work, but sometimes this means that the person is only being friendly. The touch, in any way, is suppose to be sort-of a light bond--you two work together and if the company is "as close as family" then he may feel like the brush is just the way he'd touch his mother's arm.
Please do not feel bad about this. I highly recommend you ask him the next time why he does it. Since he KNOWS your Chinese and that your culture is different he will completely understand your questioning. Simply say, "Sometimes you touch my arm lightly. I am Chinese and we usually don't do things like that so I was wondering, does that mean something in America?" For all you know his response could be, "I didn't realize I was doing it!" or "It was just a friendly gesture because you're like a sister to me." I'm sure he will be fine with answering that question for you.
Don't be ashamed to ask. I'm sure he's well aware of the cultural differences and he probably has overlooked this contact. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, PLEASE let him know! It is perfectly acceptable to say, "It makes me a little uncomfortable when you lightly touch my arm sometimes because in my culture we do not do that. Could you please try to stop doing that?" He should definately understand, especially if you do it this politely. Being from America, he is probably use to hearing some really rude ways of saying that ;) (As an American, I must admit, we are a bit rude as far as various cultures go.)
So, like I said, it could mean a multitude of things. We, as Advicenators, do not really know since we are not in that situation at the time. It's sort of a at-the-moment contact--not well thought out so there is not a 100% certain explanation for doing it.
Just ask your colleague why he does what he does. If it makes you uncomfortable politely request that he stop doing it. If things get out of hand, speak to your boss or higher-up to get the problem resolved. You need to be comfortable at work so you get the job done right the first time.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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I had a really bad day..my mom took me to the doctor and i was barely told that the shot i was taking was Gardasil. I told my mom about the bad things i'd heard about it but she wouldn't listen to me! She asked the doctors and of course they told us that the media was lying to me. When i got in the nurses room, i seriously began to cry. There was some old bitch there telling me that later in life i'll thank my mom, whatever, I googled it and i read there are serious issues with the vaccine.
http://ppjg.wordpress.com/2008/04/24/whats-in-your-gardasil/
Really? How bad is this? I also read it was FDA approved and other good crap about it so now i'm kind of feeling guilty of what i told my mom, but i'm just really confused and really concern with my health. My arm has been hurting where i got the shot but apparently thats natural.. (link)
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I am 100% with you on not trusting this vaccine. There isn't really a big point of it. If you don't whore yourself out then you're not really at a huge risk for HPV, and, at that, this vaccine only helps to prevent 4 strains--OUT OF OVER 100! Now, when the hell did that make any sense?!
So, if you stick with ONE partner your entire life, who only sticks with you his entire life--then where is your risk? I understand if you have 3+ partners, who have also had partners, but if you're smart then that wouldn't be the case at all.
Believe it or not, the Gardasil shot is not all it's cracked up to be. There are serious reported cases of things like seizures, blood clots, and even possible deaths. Now, no vaccination tends to be 100% effective but we're not really sure what this vaccine will do entirely for many years to come.
Here is a link in which a woman reports the death of her daughter possibly being linked to the Gardasil shots:
http://www.eastbayexpress.com/news/one_less/Content?oid=637364
Here is a link in which a person has gathered side-effects from various women that had the shot. The person has made a table of them (which is sort-of small but readable):
http://www.kkrasnowwaterman.com/blog/tabid/2962/bid/4484/HPV-Vaccine-Gardasil-seizure-fainting-paralysis.aspx
...That includes things like seizures, death, and severe headaches/pain.
This site:
http://www.judicialwatch.org/6299.shtml
...also said:
"Side effects published by Merck & Co. warn the public about potential pain, fever, nausea, dizziness and itching after receiving the vaccine. Indeed, 77% of the adverse reactions reported are typical side effects to vaccinations. But other more serious side effects reported include paralysis, Bells Palsy, Guillain-Barre Syndrome, and seizures."
Here is also another site that informs others how serious the side-effects can be:
http://www.macleans.ca/article.jsp?content=20070827_108312_108312&source=srch
This also has some things to say about the Gardasil vaccine:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/261430/concerns_grow_as_gardasil_the_cervical.html
I did read that Merck (the makers of Gardasil) did add to the side effects list: Bells Palsy, paralysis, seizures, and Guillain-Barre Syndrome. Those are all very serious conditions to be developing after a vaccine used to help prevent only four types of HPV. (If this isn't considered a "reliable source" then I don't know what is! If you're going to trust the makers that it's safe then you have to trust the makers when they say it isn't safe!)
The four strains of HPV it helps prevent are numbers 16, 18, 6, and 11. There are more than 100 strains of HPV though. Strains 16 and 18 cause cervical cancer and 6 and 11 cause genital warts; however, there are many other strains that cause the same thing and that are transmitted the same way. EDIT TO ADD IN: Gardasil does NOT prevent ovarian cancer and has nothing to do with the prevention of such cancer.
Genital cancers are caused by HPV strain numbers 16, 18, 31, 33, 35, 39, 45, 51. Genital warts are caused by 6, 11, 42, 43, 44, 55 and some others I'm not sure of. Other different strains of HPV are also responsible for warts on the hands and feet, a scaly skin disease, and even an oral infection that causes masses on oral mucus membranes.
I also want to point out that as I was searching for links to post here for you to check out, I saw a lot of lawsuit websites where some people are taking legal action to sue Merck for the severe side-effects they experienced. I'm not sure if they have a true lawsuit yet or if they're just claims so far.
Like I said, no vaccination tends to be 100% safe. It's up to you to decide if you want to risk the possible very-harmful side effects that could come along with it. For me, I'd like to give it a few years before even thinking of possibility getting the shot.
The vaccine is so new for all we know it makes women infertile (a major fear of mine which is why I refuse to get the vaccination). We won't be sure what exactly it MAY do to our bodies until quite a few years down the road. I know that in pregnant women it causes miscarriages and major birth defects but it's still early to really find out if it causes anything in women who get pregnant AFTER receiving the shot.
I hope you find the things you're looking for and I hope I've helped your search a little.
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first time and it hurt quite a bit. but the thing is it dint feel good. why not? will it ever feel good? (link)
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Other users answered the hurting part (you do realize that your body needs to stretch to...accommodate, right?), but I'd like to touch on something that nobody has mentioned.
Many, many women have sex and NEVER in their entire lifetime actually enjoy it, orgasm, or have a "feel good" time. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be.
A lot of young women keep having sex with various partners because they're looking for that magical, mind-blowing sex they've heard about from their friends. The problem is, everyone really thinks sex should be awesome the first go-around--or the seventh go around--but you need to realize that it simply isn't for most women. This being said, when young women now say they have been with 15 guys in 6 months because it's so "addictive and wonderful" it tells me that they had sex with those guys, trying to figure out WHY it isn't mind-blowing.
Of course, nobody is going to admit that, but I will. And, no, love has nothing to do with it--you can deeply love someone but always have awful, unfulfilling sex.
I've had really, really bad sex before. I've had really, really awful sex with two men. Sex I pretended was fairly good, sex I ended up figuring out as, "This must just be normal...wow...what a freaking waste of time." I never told my female friends that the sex I had was boring, uneventful, and stupid though. Who wants to be the girl that says, "My boyfriend really SUCKS in bed. He's horrible," or, just simply, "I NEVER have a good time in bed..."
After the first time, I figured it would get better but it didn't. After the 5th time, I kept expecting it to get better--but it never did. Eventually I had a second partner and I expected that sex to be better than my previous encounters--but it wasn't! Turns out, I was just finding out that what all my little girl friends at school were saying about their experiences with so-and-so-boy were all very stupid lies.
See what I'm saying? ;)
Don't expect miracles at any point. That's all.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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alright i need to know where the hymen is. lol. like where?? in the opening? middle? way back there? until i have the answer i will probley be deathly afraid of sex. help! (link)
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Your hymen (aka "cherry") is actually not inside of your vagina. If you have a hymen, it can clearly be seen by simply looking at your genitals.
Here are some great drawings of what a hymen is suppose to look like. Be aware that they come in different forms so there are a few drawings to see:
http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html
The hymen usually has a small hole in it as it is. A hymen is made of very thin tissue and it is fairly easy to tear or stretch. It's located at the entrance to the vagina so, actually, it isn't inside of the vagina. The hole is there to allow menstrual blood to escape the body and is usually too small to accommodate an entire penis to enter the vagina.
It is rare but some females are born with an imperforate hymen--or a hymen with no opening. A doctor will do a simple surgery to create a hole in the hymen of these newborn females so that blood from later menstrual cycles does not back up into the body.
Anyway, since women have a small hole in their hymens anyway things can go into the vagina and, obviously, come out of the vagina. This being said, if a guy got his semen on your vagina in some fashion then there IS a chance of pregnancy to occur.
If you do have vaginal intercourse and you do not completely break/tear your hymen it will stretch out and create a larger hole, just as your vagina will naturally stretch out to accommodate the penis. Some hymens are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter without tearing, or they will tear only partially, and there may be no bleeding at all.
I hope I answered your question thoroughly enough. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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I went to this Xanga site, and it had a URL with actualy interview pictures of Edward, but filled in what he was saying and captured his facial expressions and he was talking about everything that happened in Breaking Dawn.
Its frkn hilarious but I can't find it. If anyone knows what im talking about could you send that to me.. or anything funny about Twilight haha. Love them.
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The Breaking Dawn parody is fairly popular at the moment as Twilight is about to come out in theatres.
I can't seem to find it anymore. It is "Edward's" perspective about Twilight, from what I gather. It has funny photos of Robert Pattinson's MTV VMA interview.
The site is actually on a website called Livejournal:
http://community.livejournal.com/lion_lamb/1651773.html
Twilight comes out in theatres Friday November 21, 2008. Kristen Stewart, Robert Pattinson and Nikki Reed will all star in the Twilight movie, being directed by Catherine Hardwicke. Twilight is actually a series of vampire novels, which include the following titles:
1. Twilight
2. New Moon
3. Eclipse
4. Breaking Dawn (Fall of 2008)
5. Midnight Sun (No set release date)
Breaking Dawn is actually the last book that tells Bella's story. Midnight Sun is Twilight but from Edward's point of view.
There are some very hilarious quotes that people have posted from the Twilight series that you may want to look for. There is even a Twilight trailer spoof that you can watch from YouTube:
http://www.screeninglog.com/journal/2008/9/15/funny-twilight-trailer-spoof-hits.html
There are few funny photos of characters in Twilight I've found, including a few funny Twilight icons:
http://i221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/SillyVampire.jpg?t=1226549961
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_YouSmell.jpg
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_AdrenalineRush.png
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_DamnyouJacob.png
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_L0L.jpg
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_Jasper-1.jpg
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_NotFunny.png
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_Readit.jpg
http://s221.photobucket.com/albums/dd139/Pokkadotion/Twilight/th_TwilightConfessions.gif
http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2113/2344943963_8d860d4b1b.jpg
Even a collage of funny Twilight pictures:
http://kimberleyjane.glogster.com/Funny-Twilight-Pictures/
There is also a very funny twilight interview with Rob Pattinson, regarding Twilight:
"When you read the book," says Pattinson, looking appropriately pallid and interesting even without makeup, "it's like, 'Edward Cullen was so beautiful I creamed myself.' I mean, every line is like that. He's the most ridiculous person who's so amazing at everything. I think a lot of actors tried to play that aspect. I just couldn't do that. And the more I read the script, the more I hated this guy, so that's how I played him, as a manic-depressive who hates himself. Plus, he's a 108-year-old virgin so he's obviously got some issues there."
See more here: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_D6_ARyGSHrs/SLBJ8KKLVFI/AAAAAAAAAHU/toKXKLpYJ2s/s1600-h/emptwi4.jpg
As for a few actual quotes from the Twilight book:
1. "Will you turn into a bat?" I asked warily.
He laughed, louder than I'd ever heard. "Like I haven't heard that one before!"
2. "Not what you expected, is it?" He asked, his voice smug.
"No," I admitted.
"No coffins, no piled skulls in the corners; I don't even think we have cobwebs... What a disappointment this must be for you." He continued slyly.
3. "I'm really glad Edward didn't kill you. Everything is so much more fun with you around." (Emmet)
4. "I can’t imagine how awful that must feel. Being normal? Ugh." (Bella/Eclipse)
5. "I know you think that I have some kind of perfect, unyielding self-control, but that’s not actually the case." (Edward /Eclipse)
6. "Aren't you hungry?" he asked, distracted. "No." I didn't feel like mentioning that my stomach was already full - of butterflies. ♥
-Edward and Bella.
7. "How exactly opposed are you to Grand Theft Auto?"
-Alice
...and plenty more out there! Just do a Google search for funny quotes from Twilight and you'll get plenty, including a few from adult women who are infatuated with the main character, Edward!
I hope you found some of that, at the very least, amusing. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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is there a really good halloween party planner on the south shore because before we move into our house and rebuild it we want to have a "haunted house" party in it any names? (link)
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There are many party planners, but I'm not sure if any are specifically for haunted house parties. I do suggest you rent a few costumes and go shopping :)
I found this:
" Looking to spook up the house? Or perhaps you want the perfect costume to please even the most finicky of partygoers. Whatever your reason, check out the Halloween Warehouse, at 2951 Arthur Kill Rd., Charleston. The Warehouse has everything you need, including party supplies, costumes and spooky sound machines.
Need candy, costumes, a new bed sheet, towels and paper towels for the kitchen? Get your Halloween shopping and your home shopping done under one roof at Target. Located at 2900 Veterans Rd. West, Charleston, Target is a one-stop shop for all your Halloween and personal needs.
Shore Family Fun appears each week in the Shore sections of the Advance. Sherrina Navani can be reached through the Advance at shores@siadvance.com "
From http://www.silive.com/southshore/weekly/index.ssf?/base/news/1223558109249470.xml&coll=1&thispage=2
You may also be interested in getting a DJ for the night. I found The South Shore DJs:
http://www.mypartyplanner.com/vendors/The_South_Shore_DJs_75061.html
You can call (781) 740-4080 and ask to speak to Gregg Macdonald about setting up an appointment. The parties they tend to do are:
* Wedding
* Birthday
* Anniversary
* Corporate/Company
* Private Party
* Reunion
* School Event
* Graduation Party
* High Schools
* College Events
* Bachelor/Bachelorette
* Picnic/Luncheon/BBQ's
* Sporting Event
* Pool Party
* Bridal Shower
* Retirement Party
I would definately still ask about having a haunted house party. I'm sure they get some crazy requests every now and again. A DJ, coupled with a caterer, would go very nicely. The only thing left to do is decorate, in which I'm sure you can find VERY cheap Halloween decorations right now.
It doesn't take much to spook a place up. Grab some fake cob webs and start going to town, there's a start. You can find super cheap things and spook the place up :) Good luck.
Open up your phone book and call some caterers, DJs, and party planners. Even if they only do, specifically, weddings, they may be able to direct you in the right place since they're from your area.
I hope all goes well with the party. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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does anyone know the cheats for love hina date sim? (link)
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Cheats for Love Hina Sim Date (RPG for PC) was fairly easy to find on Google. This is what I found:
To Start with $250,000 on Love Hina Sim Date:
moneygrowsontrees
For +15 Intelligence, $1,000 on Love Hina Sim Date:
theincredibleyou
To Play as Naru on Love Hina Sim Date:
naruhaseyes
For Insane conversations on Love Hina Sim Date:
sofarsgood
For Shinobu dress up game on Love Hina Sim Date:
rainbowsrgood
For Motoko dress up game on Love Hina Sim Date:
motokoismotoko
For Secret movie on Love Hina Sim Date:
eva4hidden
For All moves, including "Revive" on Love Hina Sim Date:
allyourmoves
For 100 for all stats on Love Hina Sim Date:
theincredibleyou
For The Springs Are Hell on Love Hina Sim Date:
hellissprings
For Mutsune dress up game on Love Hina Sim Date:
smashwatermelons
For Random credits on Love Hina Sim Date:
randomamv
Girls sometimes walk around with limited (less) clothing on Love Hina Sim Date:
crazygirlmot
All cheat codes for Love Hina Sim Date taken from Game Winners:
http://www.gamewinners.com/DOSWIN/bllovehinasimdate.htm
There is also a tip for Love Hina Sim Date, which is:
"there is a person in most rooms just click around and you should find them in suspicious places" from the Cheats Guru page for Love Hina Sim Date:
http://www.cheatsguru.com/pc/love_hina_sim_date/cheats/128883.htm
I have also checked CCG and IGN, both of which list the same cheats for Love Hina Sim Date, really. If you have a specific question about Love Hina Sim Date then maybe it would be more helpful. Even a question like, "How do I get more money on Love Hina Sim Date?" would be beneficial to a better answer.
As you may really like Love Hina Sim Date you may want to check into another game out called Galaxy Angel Sim Date. Galaxy Angel Sim Date is suppose to be about the same concept. From what I've seen, some people think Galaxy Angel Sim Date is better than Love Hina Sim Date.
That's all I could find on cheats for Love Hina Sim Date to help you out. I hope you have fun! If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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I was looking at your column and I was wondering where you got your information when answering the question about the 16 year old who thought she might be pregnant.
Mainly this statement: Condoms DO NOT protect from STDs--which can be carried by VIRGINS.
If a std is a infection/diseases that is transmitted by sex how it is that a virgin when the definition is 'a person who has never had sexual intercourse' carry one?
And how does a condom not protect against an std, I do know that they are not 100% effective.
I really would like to know where you got this information being that it says you are 22.
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Hi!
I am 22, as of September 8, 2008 :) So, a freshly-turned 22, at that. I've been on the site for over a year, as well.
Many websites (for example, a herpes one I visit frequently http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/ ) has a section dedicated to parents who have given their offspring the virus. People are not just born with herpes, it is transmitted during delivery, infancy, or adulthood. In delivery, if the mother passes the virus along, the baby can be born blind and may suffer complications which could result in death.
There are so many posts about babies with herpes on their genital region, thighs, lips and gums, etc. Their outbreaks may be severe as infants but could taper off as their immune system grows stronger to this world. They may end up not having another outbreak until they are in their mid-twenties--never knowing that they carried the virus that entire time. For note, you can definately spread herpes without having ANY visible signs AT ALL! Now, that's something to scare you, coupled with the fact that over 80% of the United States is infected with this!
Yes, there are post upon post of parents going, "Little Suzy is STILL having a horrible breakout on her thigh! We were stupid and forgot to wash hands before changing her and she became infected! How can we help her symptoms, she seems very bothered by them!" I can even link them if you need further proof.
I also know of my trainer at the local Curves. She has HSV-1 (oral herpes) and apparently had spread it to her child--at a very young age. Her daughter, now an adult, has SCARS ON HER GUMS from outbreaks of herpes during infancy. She also has scars around her lips from them too. Guess what? She didn't know they were herpes until I said, "You know...there are a lot of supplements that help...well...you know...herpes outbreaks..." in which she went, "HERPES?!"
My mother had HSV-1 when I was growing up. We rarely shared eating utensils and the like, but, occassionally, I would have a sip of her drink on a cold day. I never, ever kissed anybody on the lips when I was 5, but I remember my first outbreak very clearly. The pain, swelling, uncomfortable feeling--plus, the embarrassment of having to go to school with a giant, swollen lip! My mother NEVER told me it was herpes or that she gave it to me--she acted as if it were completely normal. I am 22 and she STILL has not told me that what I experience is herpes. I went years not knowing that it was an STD, years that I could have spread it to my peers from pecks or sharing drinks. I was 5!
AIDS is commonly transferred from mother to offspring during delivery, which is why it is very complicated to give birth while trying to prevent the infection of the baby. This is also why the AIDs epidemic hasn't gotten any better--people, unknowingly infected, become pregnant and give birth, passing along the horrible disease during delivery.
STDs don't just poof out of no where. They originated somewhere, usually from people who were very unclean and sexually promiscuous. My theory is this:
If at some point someone DEVELOPED, say, gonorrhea before it had EVER been known of before, then it can be developed now. Assummingly this would happen from very unclean people, practically living in their own filth.
Condoms do not protect against STDs because they do not cover your entire body. Seriously.
You can contract chlamydia, gonorrhea, AIDS, herpes, etc. from an infected area touching you (and, yes, you can also get oral chlamydia, gonorrhea, and herpes too). Say the person has herpes, and they usually break out on the very tip of their penis. As they are sliding the condom on they accidentally touch the tip of their penis, but they aren't currently having an outbreak so they don't think to go wash their hands. They roll on the condom and touch their pubes lightly. Their pubes are, most definately, not covered by the condom so when it comes in contact with your bare vagina, well...oops!
This happens to all STDs, not just herpes. One person doesn't know they have something, something accidentally grazes you, unwashed hands (by the way, HPV can live in your finger nailbeds) and you've contract XYZ!
It's like, did you know that the Gardasil vaccine does not actually prevent HPV? Did you know there are over 100 strains of HPV and Gardasil only helps protect you from 5? Did you know that some STDs can literally eat away your brain within years, as it hides in your body with no visible symptoms?
Their are also tiny, tiny holes in condoms, much like pores that we have. These pores, believe it or not, are not small enough to prevent some STDs from slipping through. They are easily torn too (think of all the busted and ripped condoms you hear about) so they allow even more seepage through.
I get my information from my schooling, books, and the internet. I had a very good sexual health education class when I was in 3rd, 4th, and 5th grades. Some things I just know from that time in school. It's like:
How do you know you need to wash your hands before you eat?
Because that's what scientists told you was right and healthy. YOU didn't do the studies yourself, but you trust in the word of certain individuals. Well, I trust in the word of my schooling back then, plus some of it is just common-knowledge that, for some reason, this generation is not getting.
I get most of my statistics from online sources, which I usually list in my answer if I feel it's appropriate so if a percentage is used I can usually back that up. There are one or two things that I have long lost the informative website that included the number, but I know they are right so I have no problem in listing them.
I wouldn't post lies just for the hell of it, you see. I simply want people to understand, learn, and grow. I made mistakes when I was younger and I hope to prevent others from following that same path.
If you have questions regarding sex, I can usually answer them. If I don't know the answer, I can find it. I don't try to "scare" anyone--which I have gotten a few "You're just trying to scare me! GOSH!" responses, but it isn't true at all. I simply sit down and look through webpage after webpage until I find the right answer. I skim books at the library sometimes, trying to pick up a bit of information here and there. I read online forums to learn the horror that is hidden. I hear stories from people that surround me about these sorts of things.
Like I said, I've done things I've not been proud of. I've slept with 3 people, 2 of which were not the wisest choices. I've sat on my bed after sex, squeezing down a condom to see if it had any leaks after usage. I've had to take STD tests at the clinic to ensure my health. I've had to take a couple of home pregnancy tests when periods were late.
I've been depressed for losing my virginity, or sleeping with so-and-so. I've looked back and literally cried because of the mistakes I've made. I belittled myself, setting myself up for life-failure. I've looked at my younger siblings and went, "Why did I have to show them this! Why did I have to show them that all of this is acceptable!"
Somehow, I've made it through. I've learned some valuable lessons. I've retained some useful knowledge. I have grown to accept what I am, what I've done, where I'm going.
It's just been hard and I don't want others to follow me.
I am sorry if I wasn't clear in anything I've said here. I had a lot to say...and still more, but I am trying not to make you read a novel. I will just say this:
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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I am about to go on an interview with a cell phone company. Do they generally get paid hourly plus commission or how does that usually work? Also, what are some other pros/cons to the job?
Thanks for your help. (link)
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Cell phone sales are usually paid straight commission unless you don't earn enough commissions to earn minimum wage, in which they will pay you minimum wage because it's required by law.
If you don't make more than minimum wage, on average, then you probably won't be there very long anyway ;)
If you're selling anything to the public you will have to deal with stress. People will come in, wanting a quick-but-efficient job done. People WILL come to you when something you haywire, thinking that you will magically be able to explain and fix their cell phone or cell phone bill. You will get people trying to rip you off, probably daily, claiming that so-and-so told them they could get $20 off or whatever crazy lie they can come up with on spot.
If you like people then you'll get to meet plenty of them and converse about their lives. People will probably tell you why they're purchasing the phone and you may even play a part in which service plans they purchase for it based on why they need it. With a friendly face, smile, and attitude, you can make people's lives brighter that day simply because they stopped to ask how much a Blackberry from your company would cost.
My boyfriend and I stopped at the Appalachian Wireless booth in the local mall one evening to inquire about monthly service plans for their cell phones. The woman was such a nice, friendly woman that it gave us a lasting experience of the place. She was helpful, smiled a lot, and gave good explanations of the plans that were available in our area. We told her how we were looking to purchase a VERY affordable phone and plan for a friend in need at the time and she was more than happy to assist us. THAT is what you have to keep up though all day long--that sort of attitude, even after customer has ranted to you for an hour about how much your company is "jipping" them on this-and-that.
During your interview, it is completely acceptable to inquire about wages and such. If you've already put in an application then they already know if you've worked with that cell phone company yet or not, and, if you haven't, they already know that you're wanting know about the wages. They are human too ;) just relax and ask them what you need to know. They KNOW you're wanting the job for cash, not just because you have a silly cell-phone-sales fetish ;)
I hope your interview goes well and you find all the information you need about the job right away. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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I notcied that in her music video for Love Story, she had a really cute key necklace on.
does anybody know where she got it, or where I can find one similar to it? (link)
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From what I read, Taylor Swift's necklace in Love Story is actually an antique skeleton key. Chances are, you won't find one exactly like hers, especially if you're looking for a real antique skeleton key. From what I am have been told, true skeleton keys are actually one-of-a-kind.
Here are a few really cute skeleton key necklaces much like the one Taylor Swift worn in her music video Love Story:
Nordstorm Key Necklace:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2982702?cm_cat=datafeed&cm_pla=jewelry:women:necklace&cm_ite=juicy_couture_sterling_silver_key_pendant:228057&cm_ven=Linkshare&mr:referralID=74ae843a-a5f2-11dd-bfff-000423bb4e95
Ron Herman Key Necklace:
http://www.ronherman.com/detail.aspx?ID=18854
Couture Candy Key Necklace:
http://www.couturecandy.com/jessica-elliot/large-sterling-antique-skeleton-key-necklace/product.html
Fred Flare:
http://www.fredflare.com/customer/product.php?cat=283&productid=4010
There are plenty of Key Necklaces you can find online that are cute and very affordable. Here is one from Portia Jewelery that is similar to the one that both Alyson Hannigan and Rihanna owns and wears:
http://www.portiajewelry.com/inc/sdetail/3127
And Erica Weiner has some terrific antique iron skeleton keys, dating back as far as 1850, that you can purchase for about $30.00 each. They come with a 28" antique stainless steel chain:
http://www.ericaweiner.com/n_skeletonkey.php
You can also try Etsy, as I'm sure plenty of crafters have a handful of these keys. Here is a really neat looking skeleton key necklace on Etsy that I found:
http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=5106558
Eves Addiction even has a Tiffany Inspired Sterling Silver Diamond CZ Key Pendant you may be interested in (make sure to check out the sidebar to your right that says "You may also like..." ):
http://www.evesaddiction.com/nlz10111.html?gclid=CMq_x8Hj7pYCFQO5GgodCg-uqw
If you cannot purchase online, you may looking your local mall, as even Claire's may even have one to purchase. I am sure if you ask any jewelery place if they have a "Key Necklace" or "Skeleton Key Necklace" they will be able to point you in the right direction.
So, as far as I can tell, you're simply not going to get the exact necklace that Taylor Swift has in the Love Story video, but you can get darn close, especially since they are definately coming into style now. Enjoy shopping.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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ok. so long story short.
i had protected sex with this guy at like 2 in the morning but i didnt take my pill until 7 or 730 the same morning and i usually take it at night.well he didnt cum but i know there is precum that guys dont feel coming out. so i started feeling bad about 2 or 3 weeks after having sex and then my period was a day or two late and it was super spotty. i usually bleed through a tampon in 4 or 5 hours but i didnt wear a tampon or a pad and the blood didnt leak and it never came out with my pee but it was there when i wiped and after a day or two the blood was pinkish orange. well i dont know if im pregnant so i went to the doctor and they told me to wait three more weeks to take a test. i just want to know if anyone has had these sames symptoms or just any advice would be great. thanks
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It should be "safe" to go on and take a home pregnancy test. The good ones actually say they can be taken a few days BEFORE your period is due to get a result.
After you have sex you actually do not instantly become pregnant--it can take days before the sperm find and fertilize the egg and then another 6 - 10 days for the egg to actually attach to your uterine wall. Sperm can live in your body for a long time--they've even been some found alive in a woman 2 weeks after being ejaculated inside of her!
This being said, it could take weeks to actually become pregnant after one sexual encounter. If it was 2 or 3 weeks after your sexual encounter that you begin to "spot" then it was about the right time for implantation--meaning you could have simply had spotting due to implantation bleeding (when the egg officially attaches to your uterine walls SOMETIMES it will cause very, very light spotting, much like you have described).
So, in short, since your period has already "missed" and it's been 2 - 3 weeks AFTER the sexual encounter it's pretty safe to go on and buy a couple of home pregnancy tests and take one now. I'd probably take one every week for the next 3 or 4 weeks before heading back to the doctor so they could take some blood and do a pregnancy test that way.
Some home pregnancy tests are better than others, obviously. According to a couple of studies done, First Response and Early Result Pregnancy Test are the two best kinds to purchase because they are slightly more sensitive than the others.
I suppose you can find either of these at your local pharmacy or Wal-mart for a reasonable price.
For future note, condoms are only 88%, typically, effective on preventing pregnancy. That means that out of every 100 sexual encounters between people, 12 women will become pregnant. Condoms DO NOT protect from STDs--which can be carried by VIRGINS.
The hormonal birth control pill is only 92% effective with typical usage (something they "forget" to take into consideration when they claim 99.9% effective). So, that means that out of every 100 sex encounters, 8 babies will be conceived. The Pill also does NOT protect from STDs--again, which CAN be carried by virgins. The later you are taking the pill, the lower the percentage gets. The percentage can vary based on life stressors, poor eating habits, alternating the times in which you take it (and WHAT you take it with, believe it or not), and various other things.
The "pull-out" method is only about 75% highest effective on preventing pregnancy. The number actually fluctuates between 29% and 75%. This, of course, doesn't protect against STDs either.
Relax, purchase a few home pregnancy tests, and take one already. If it shows positive, you are DEFINITELY pregnant. If it shows negative and your period doesn't come by this time next week then take another one--repeat for a few weeks before heading back to see the doctor.
I hope all is well. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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that shows past missing children records from the 1990s-2000s (preferably just old records, so they'll show up even if the child has been found) for the state of indiana? thanks (link)
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I have found a link or two regarding old missing children reports. I am not finding one specifically for Indiana, but the report always includes where the child went missing.
Here is link to missing children from 1999 and older:
http://www.crimeandjustice.us/forums/lofiversion/index.php?f31.html
Here is a link to missing children from 2000 to the present 2008:
http://www.crimeandjustice.us/forums/lofiversion/index.php?f31.html
It may also be beneficial to send something to missingkids, the national center for missing and exploited children, as they, most likely, have back-dated information as well:
http://www.missingkids.com/
Their front page includes a form to search for any missing child on file. All you need is the child's gender (male or female), state, and within how many years it has been since they have gone missing. It may be tedious if many children come up, but I am search that you could do a page-search for the specific name if it was listed.
You can contact the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children by writing to:
National Center for Missing & Exploited Children
Charles B. Wang International Children's Building
699 Prince Street
Alexandria, Virginia 22314-3175
The United States of America
or by sending an message through their online form for inquiries, here:
http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PageServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US&PageId=1285
There is a 24 hour hotline regarding missing children that you might like to call as well:
1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678)
Here is also a website that has a missing children's directory, that may be beneficial; however, I am unsure if it goes that far back (it's called the Vanished Children's Alliance):
http://www.vca.org/
Here is the directory:
http://www.vca.org/pages/directory.html
That's really all I'm finding online at the moment. I hope it's enough to help you out. Remember that about 800,000 children go missing (family abductions, nonfamily abductions, and kidnappings) every year in the United States.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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when you go to the gynecologist, what do they do to you? will it hurt? please dont give me a link to a website, can someone just explain it to me. thanks! (link)
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A papsmear is usually an annual thing for all women. It's best to start having the tests when you begin having periods but most women tend to wait until they become sexually active.
Pap smears can be incredibly uncomfortable. Some women experience pain while others go through it like a breeze. It really depends to on the person and how skilled the doctor is.
In my personal experience, they are extremely uncomfortable and I have been known to cry during the procedure. I know that it's something I need to do each year to make sure that I am healthy so I continue with my check-ups. The procedure doesn't last very long at all and ensures that everything is working properly and is healthy so I endure it.
In short, the doctor will take a urine sample from you first to run a pregnancy test, usually. After taking your blood pressure and asking you a few questions regarding your sexual status (be honest, they've heard it all and are not allowed to inform anybody else of the information you provide them).
They then usually send you to a clean room to completely undress and lay on a table. The table has foot rests for your heels. You will be instructed to position yourself in a manner that is helpful for the doctor to work at. They will let you know how to lay and such. You may feel uncomfortable and embarrassed at this time but it is fairly normal and the doctor has seen plenty of naked bodies.
Your doctor may do a breast exam on you to begin with. He/she may also listen to your heart and lungs and press on your body and ask if you feel any pain anywhere. The doctor will then simply look at your vaginal area for signs of infections or visible STDs after switching on a very large, bright light at your vaginal area and gloving up. They may ask a couple of questions while doing this.
The doctor then will separate the walls of the vagina with a speculum. The speculum is a slender metal (or plastic in some cases) instrument that looks somewhat like a duckbill. It may be warmed or lubricated before being gently inserted into your vagina. With the speculum in place, they can visibly see your cervix.
Your clinician will then insert a special swab, brush, or stick to wipe off cells from inside the opening of the cervix and from the outer part of the cervix. The cervix can be very tender and this scraping can cause some bleeding and discomfort. It is not unheard of for this scraping to cause your legs to twitch.
The doctor will next place two gloved fingers into your vagina while their other hand gently presses on your lower abdomen. This identifies the size, shape, and position of your uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. It can also let them know if you have any masses growing or any abnormalities.
The doctor may also do a rectal exam at the end of this procedure. Not all doctor's do this but it is no big deal either. They simply slide a finger or two into your anus to feel for masses and to check the back of your uterus.
The more you relax, the smoother things will go. It's okay to ask questions throughout the entire thing and your doctor already knows you are nervous so they are prepared for all sorts of things. If something is painful, it completely acceptable to inform the doctor about it.
I hope the doctor's appointment goes well and you are healthy. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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I am not sure what color shirt to wear under it. I was thinking brown. Help! :) (link)
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Brown would be a basic color to match with a cream colored jacket; however, now you can get by with spicing things up with a little brighter colors to pop the outfit.
Cream is a very, very light shade of brown, really, or an off-white (white with a touch of yellow or very, very light touch of brown). Try to keep with earth tones because of this. You could go with an ocean colored blue and still make the outfit mesh.
Earth tones would be colors that resembles those of the earth. When you think of the earth you usually think of certain blues, greens, browns, and maybe even greys.
Personally, I would not go for very, very bland colors like another cream, light beige, pale yellow, etc. It would make your outfit look very plain and ordinary and, depending on the natural undertones, may cause your skin tone to blend in far too much. The eye would pass over your outfit quickly, details would be lost, and you wouldn't look very interesting.
To be more flirty, you may pair the jacket with even brighter colors, but at caution. Pinks and reds may go well with the jacket, but sometimes you may end up looking like a clown. I'd imagine a fairly light pink would go well opposed to a very bright, eye-popping pink. If the color is too bright, your jacket will be lost in the color and "ignored" by the eyes.
Brown is a good selection.
If you could supply a good photo of the jacket it would be even more helpful in determining the perfect color; however, it sounds like you already have a pretty good idea.
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there are girls in my school who pretend to be depressed/cut/have eating disorders. it drives me crazy! But i don't want to just assume that it is simply attention seeking. what do you think are signs of attention seeking? (link)
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Something to remember is:
If someone is attention-seeking in this manner then something, deep inside, is truly messed up with them.
If you find someone attention-seeking like this then you should feel sorry for them because, obviously, they aren't able to handle reality. I use to get very mad when I found out someone wasn't really doing XYZ that they claimed was so horrible, but I realized that they had deeper problems that than for making it up in the first place.
Everyone wants to fit in somewhere. If you're pretending to harm yourself just to fit in, what does that say about you? Obviously you feel like a completely outcast and like the only people that would even turn their heads toward you are the people that really DO hurt themselves.
People that pretend to have these sorts of illnesses need to go into therapy just as much as the people that really do suffer from those things. THAT is something you need to remember too.
The only way you can tell if someone is attention-seeking is if they claim to do one thing and really don't do it--ever. That can be very hard to do so your best bet is just to assume they are ill anyway--which, even if they are attention-seeking, is very true.
Think of it this way:
Eating disordered women usually lose weight very quickly or are very thin. (They don't eat, or go to the bathroom directly after eating. They have thinning hair, brittle nails, dry skin, etc.)
Self-injurers usually have marks on their bodies, although, they might hide them under clothing. (They can cut on, say, thighs for all you know)
Depressed people usually have major things going on in their lives--even if you don't feel it's major though, they may feel it is. (High school = major)
But people can pretend very easily. People can be naturally thin and pretend they are ill. People can pretend they self-harm every day in inconspicuous places because they know you won't/can't check those areas. People who are happy can pretend to be depressed because they have, at some point, learned that emotion.
It's like a little kid that lies and says he is sick so he can't go to school. He isn't REALLY sick, but he may look the part. He may even begin to believe it for the day and mope around the house a little. The real reason behind him pretending to be sick is that he wants to avoid something at school. Maybe he doesn't fit in with the kids and this is the only way to avoid the humiliation of being in the class.
This may be the only way the people can see to actually fit in somewhere. People can create lies that would amaze you and some of them are pretty good at keeping them up, but the lies aren't coming out of the blue for no reason at all. There are reasons as to why these people are making up lies--and I guarantee it's MUCH larger than simply wanting attention.
Even if it ALL it is happens to be wanting attention then think about what may have caused such a demand for it. They must lead very lonely lives at home or they had a very lonely childhood. Their parents may be neglectful in some way. They may feel like they don't deserve attention so go about strange ways of seeking it.
You will see this throughout your life. People pretending to be gay (or bi)--not because they are, but because they think someone will love them then. People pretending to have extremely busy lives because they don't know how to communicate with others--so they sit at home ALONE each and every evening watching the television. People pretending to have partners so they feel more like an accepted human being than some lonely creature who cannot find a mate. So many things you will see as you grow older.
Just move on with your life past these sorts of people and pray for them. You don't have to go along with their pretend game, but you should not drive them into the ground because they are mentally unstable. If you want to make things better for them, start suggesting they see the school's therapist each time they begin bringing up their "problems" to you.
Encourage them to seek help.
Don't encourage them to continue being "ill" anymore than they are. Making them feel more of an outcast (yes, even when they have 50 friends they definately can feel this way) will only cause them to create more made-up scenarios.
These people are just sick.
Encourage them to get help and move on with your life.
I hope things go well and you understand that these people aren't as simple as you may have thought. It can be very frustrating but you just have to remember that they ARE sick in some way--even if it isn't the way they are claiming. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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