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Im going to CAtholic High school, how is it...are the girls slutty like rumors say, I need to know school starts in a few weeks, and none of my friends arent going...they are going to another high school, besides im not catholic..will I have to attend mass..what do they do there by the way

I went to an all girls catholic high school. honestly, you'll make friends really quickly. don't worry about not having your friends with you because that's actually better... the people form my gradeschool tried to keep me the same when really high school is about change and finding yourself. the first couple weeks can be awkward but by second semester everyone pretty much says "to hell with it" and tries to have fun. There are people that aren't catholic. yes, you have to attend mass and most likely will have to take a religion class. it sucks but most people, even the catholic girls, pretty much hate it. slutty... they can be. i don't think they are any more slutty than people at public school tho. it depends: some girls are really all about saving themselves for marriage and others just really enjoy sex in general. what do we do... we show up to school in uniforms, hair a mess, little or not make up and just careless in general. some people don't shower very often and no oe really cares how they look. anything else, lemme know.

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can u make perfume stay on longer

It last longer when you spray it in your hair of clothes instead of on your skin.

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Well...this is kind of an odd question. I weigh a bit more than my boyfriend, and I'm afraid that if I sit on his lap or something that it would hurt him. I heard guys naturally are stronger, but I don't know much about this. Do you think it would hurt him?

my ex was about 30 pounds lighter than me and he gave me a piggy back ride. i thought i would break him in half & i told him but i didn't. he was fine so i don't think you will hurt him.

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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...

Tell her that at 13, dating is just like having a close friend of the opposite sex. tell her you will go with a group and you can learn to make good choices that will help you when dating is real. that's how i got my mom to let me... i was 14 tho. you're going to have to compromise but i promise you that dating isn't real till about highschool so you are not really missing out on much.

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Well today i wen't to my friends house.I wen't to keep my best friend company because our friend(the owners house) was in her room with a guy and she called me telling me she felt uncomftrable.So when i got there like 15 minutes later the guy left and my friend came out the room. When we were all kicking it outside they started smelling their hands talking about they smelled like weed!I was so dissapointed in my best friend because it had been so long since we hung out together and i didint know she had started smoking that stuff!So i told her "when did you start"and she said "we tried it last week" and i said "i thought u were never gonna do it again"and she stood quiet 4 a while and promised this was the last time.Then when we were in the back they took out the pipe and started smoking it and asked me to do it.I said i didint want to and they just looked at me like saying wtf!But the truth is i know i should trust her but i know shes gonna try it again.I don't want her to start doing it alot because shes barely 14 but idk wut to do so she won't!wut would you do??

ok so i've been around that stuff for a while and my advice: don't tell her parents.
try asking her to stop. she'll eventually get sick of it but keep insisting. you can pretend to give up all together but keep and eye on how often it happens and with who so you can keep her in check. as long as she isn't pressuring you into doing it, there's not much you have against her. the first time i found out one of my friends did it, i cried. it's dissappointing, yes, but it's inevitable growing up. tell her you care about her well being and you want her to stop. don't make her "promise" because i doubt she'll suddenly see the light and stop. for some people it just takes time. don't completely start hating her tho, it will just make her want it more. anything else, just let me know, i'm here for ya.

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1. Ok so I just made out for the first time and it was only our 3rd date. Does that seem right or do you think that's too soon to be making out?

2. I have a horrible gag reflex and I almost gagged a couple of times. Does anyone know what to do about this?

Thank youuu!

1. that doesn't see wrong. i think it's fine.
2. that's not supposed to happen... he's putting his tounge in too far. just push it back a little or lead next time so he gets the picture.

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my sister is 2 grades ahead of me and almost 3 inches taller, and we weigh the same. should i be losing weight? every inch in your height is supposed to be 5 pounds, so that means i should lose 15 pounds to be a healthy weight, right? i'm so confused. help would be much appreciated, thanks.

Unless you are overweight, you don't need to lose any weight. I know a lot of sisters that are like that. Sometimes because the other person is older, their body's are more mature so they lost any baby fat they had or just because your bodies are different so don't worry about it.

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Female. I used to have a lot of best guy friends, we had this huge group. One guy got all of them in to drugs, now they spend their days getting stoned. They're so perverted now, they expect since I have big boobs that I`ll do things with them. I've fallen really hard for one guy, he's totally sweet and respects me, but I hear from everybody he does drugs too and he's not a virgin. (Keep in mind, were 13)

What should I do? Is this guy totally unsafe and wrong to be around?

wow that's pretty young for all this to be goin on. not saying it doesn't but still, i think you should stay away from them for a while. not because they smoke, but because they want to do stuff. that's bad especially if you're basically the only girl in the group. about the guy... the virgin thing might not be true. you'd probably have to ask him about it to be sure. you can still talk to him but dont go by yourself with them.

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ok, me and my girlfriend have decided we want to have sex, the only probleam is i am not sure how i am going to get my hands on a condom, i am 13, and don't give me stuff saying im too young or anything cause we have made up are mind, im just not sure how i can get my hand on some condoms. can i just buy them? what? and also what kind should i get?

my friend & i were disscussing this earlier: self check out lane at krogers/grocery store. you can just grab a box of trojans and scan them yourself to save some of the dirty looks/age issues.

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well i am moving to a new school. i mean these girls are beautiful and very mature. i made 3 new friends over AIM but they seem to be real sexually active. like they grind with boys, make out, and one girl even sticks her hand down boys pants! but i have never even kissed a boy and there are parties and stuff and i dont think i know how to grind or kiss or anything. I find it kind of gross but, i want to fit in. wat do i do?

I know it seems like everyone is doing it but really, i think you just met the wrong people at the wrong time. there are a lot of people like you, don't worry. when i first went to high school, i had never grinded with anyone because at my gradeschool it was considered the sluttiest thing ever. by the middle of the year, i tried it out and it was fun. it kinda comes naturally so don't worry about it. if you want to sorta fit in, do that every once in a while but DO respect yourself. come to think of it, i was a lot like you & i was happy. i waited for the right guy before we kissed. don't just makeout with anyone to say you have. the sticking hands down pants... out of the question for now. keep the friends... you probably wont be exposed to any of it anytime soon. eventually you'll meet some more people and then you can pick and choose who you hang out with. let me know if you need anything else!

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My friend told me he started smoking weed so I want to know how bad it is. Is smoking weed considered a drug? And is it worse then ciggarettes? And is it addictive? Any more info about it would be appreciated!

yeah it's a drug. it's not really known if its worse than ciggs or not... the gov. doesn't like it and all the above the influence people tell you the worst possible things that can happen. when have you heard of someone dying from weed? people die because of alcohol related things all the time and that's not illegal. from what i've seen, it's not addictive but i guess if a person needs it to be happy, then it's an addiction. usually people stop smoking when they get sick of it so don't go all crazy on them and tell all the adults you know... not THAT big of a deal. when i first heard my friend did i like cried cuz i thought omg they're ruining their lives but really, they're fine and life goes on. don't judge them about it either or they will probably just get mad about it... just let them get bored with it.

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im 5'3'' and am 135lbs. i am 13/f and i would like honest answers. i am i fat? please tell me the truth. thanx in advance!!!

no, i don't think you are fat.

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how do you guys get your summer reading done? the library has a hold list of books &
going to the bookstore for extended periods of time is hard to do &
borrowing from people is annoying
do you just buy the book? i dont like to since i might not like the book or reread it ever again.

i got my book from school this year but things i've done in the past are: buy the book, go to half-price books & get the book, borrow from the people a grade ahead, order the book from another library (in my area they'll find in at another library for you), read sparknotes. let me know what book it is i might be able to help.

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I can't really get a teacher right now.
I would love to know if I'm singing through my nose or not. When I record my voice.. I hate it.
I'm looking for a kelly clarkson-ish voice. And I'm either a mezzo-soprano or a soprano. Anyways.. How do you know if youre actually singing right or not?

well american idol is basicaly "what no to do" when singing... all the screaming out high notes is BAD for your vocal chords.
anyway, for the nasal-y thing, hold your nose. if you can still soud like yourself while holding it, you're not nasaly. if you can't, you need some work.

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my boyfreind are thinking about sex. and we know we are both ready for it so please dont say anything along the lines of "you might not be ready".
but anyways. we are going to be safe about it. but my boyfreind doesnt want to buy condoms, he just thinks its embarssing. and isnt that supposed to be the guys job?

I know you think you are ready & i'm glad you are being safe... but if he can't bring himself to get comdoms he either doesn't want it bad enough or isn't mature enough to be having sex. maybe i'm wrong but i think if he can share his body with someone, i think he should be able to get them. and yeah, it's the guys job. if it will make him more comfortable, go with him when he goes, get some other stuff too. i recommend target actaully because they have them in the same aisle as feminine supplies so it won't be as akward.

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I need help, really bad.

I lied to my boyfriend about something really big, not going to get into details, it's a VERY long story! He just called me & told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me right now, because he just can't handle it.

& I have absolutely no idea what to say or do to make everything better. I can't handle thinking what it would be like without him, it's just WAY too much for me.

So, PLEASE. If you were in my position, what would you do?

Thanks in advance.

So I did the same thing not so long ago... I never lie but i did to him and i apologized a trillion times and it didn't change anything. not saying it'll never work for you but i'm just saying, be ready to let go. it will hurt for a while but you just gotta bear with it.

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when someone says i.e

a teacher of mine said it meant "in example".

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i used to see these shirts around but i never see them anymore.. the have like rips right across the chest and its like a tight shirt.. i dont knnow how to explain it but if anyone knows what im talking about, do you know where to get it?

they don't sell them anymore that i know of but i would try tjmaxx, gabriel brothers or even Deb.

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OK first off i've never been on a date before. Tomarrow, I will be going on my first date and I'm extreamly nervous. I have no idea what to do. We're going to a movie and than out to eat. I hate eating in front of people, so I'm horrified. Please tell me what you do on these types of dates. For example, during the movie do you just sit there and watch it? Or what? I'm so confused, and nervous it's crazy. So please help! Also, what are some things I can do to be less nervous? I need to know before later Sunday night! PLEASE HELP!

♥ Lisa

it's normal to be nervous but try ot to be... it'll be fun! at the movie, just kinda watch it and he might put his arm around you or something. if you like him and want to, put your head on his shoulder. Don't cross or hide your hands... he might hold you hand during the movie. (guys... they're all different!) at dinner just get something to eat. don't be scared. don't just get a salad either... that might end up with green in your teeth. just put on a cute outfit (don't think too hard). before the movie, go to the bathroom. while you wash your hands, put dots of cold water on your neck to help you cool off... not a lot just a little. smile! dont be nervous!

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I want just wondering what everyone notices first in both the opposite and same sex. I want to know what to spend more time on so people will notice me. I don't want to say if I'm male or female because I want to know what both sides think. Thanks.

face in general, confidence, how put together they are.

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