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omfg!i was like so disappointed!
Well today i wen't to my friends house.I wen't to keep my best friend company because our friend(the owners house) was in her room with a guy and she called me telling me she felt uncomftrable.So when i got there like 15 minutes later the guy left and my friend came out the room. When we were all kicking it outside they started smelling their hands talking about they smelled like weed!I was so dissapointed in my best friend because it had been so long since we hung out together and i didint know she had started smoking that stuff!So i told her "when did you start"and she said "we tried it last week" and i said "i thought u were never gonna do it again"and she stood quiet 4 a while and promised this was the last time.Then when we were in the back they took out the pipe and started smoking it and asked me to do it.I said i didint want to and they just looked at me like saying wtf!But the truth is i know i should trust her but i know shes gonna try it again.I don't want her to start doing it alot because shes barely 14 but idk wut to do so she won't!wut would you do??
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ok so i've been around that stuff for a while and my advice: don't tell her parents.
try asking her to stop. she'll eventually get sick of it but keep insisting. you can pretend to give up all together but keep and eye on how often it happens and with who so you can keep her in check. as long as she isn't pressuring you into doing it, there's not much you have against her. the first time i found out one of my friends did it, i cried. it's dissappointing, yes, but it's inevitable growing up. tell her you care about her well being and you want her to stop. don't make her "promise" because i doubt she'll suddenly see the light and stop. for some people it just takes time. don't completely start hating her tho, it will just make her want it more. anything else, just let me know, i'm here for ya. <3
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What I would do is try convincing her to seek for help to stop consuming that stuff,watch her,if I see her I will keep on telling her that by taking that she's going to kill herself one day,that it's very dangerous,if she still won't listen I will tell her that if she doesn't I will have no alternative but to tell her parents if she doesn't do what I told her to,and that I'm doing this because I care about her a lot.
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talk to her about how you feel. sit her down and tell her the effects of marijuana usage. tell her you don't want her to screw up her life. tell her you love her and you're her best friend, you don't want to see her get hurt.
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Tough love seems like it would work in this situation. Tell her that if she dosen't stop this, you'll have to tell a parent. It might not seem like a good plan now, because it will most likely cause her to get mad at you but it's for her well being.
Hopefully she'll listen to your warning, but if not, tell a parent, because she cant' go on thinking it's okay because she wont get caught, because she probably will and that will result in even more trouble.
Tell her how much you worry about her, and how big of a problem you really see this as.
Good luck with everything, and I really, truely hope this helps, because this is something I hate to see. Please, feel free to message me with ANYTHING you might need!!
By the way, I'd just like to say great job on not smoking it yourself. It takes courage to stand up to that!!
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I know you might not like what i would do but,since i warned her once twice THREE times and she didnt listen then you can try first by telling her if she does it again you dont want to be her freind,you shouldnt hang out with her she will influence you into smoking OR you can (if that wont work...you never know,she might do it behind your back so....) TELL HER MOM.yes.It might ruin your freindship but at least you did what is right and saved a freind from dying because of what shes doing.She wont talk to you for a while,but after that shell come thanking you like HELL.THAT is what i would have done.
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