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Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?
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its funny that this was the first question i clicked on, bcus im going through the same thing. honestly, the only thing you can do is try. spend time together & do things that used to make you guys happy & make you guys smile. let him know everything that is goin on in yer life so he knows why yer upset and irritable. keep reminding him how much you love & appreciate him. dont let a good thing pass you by, bcus once its gone, you'll never regret anything more then watching him leave & not doing anything about it.
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Q: iight. me and my ex been over since 2~20~07 we was together for not along time but the reason we broke up was 1:my parents was agaist us and 2 cus we cud hardly c eachother. but not even a week after we broke up 2 of his best friends told me he still was feeling me and y i don't call i told them y don't he call me, shit he got a phone. But anywayz i ended up calling on March 12th we talked he still was feeling me but he told me when he think of me he thinks of that song "Outta My System" by Bow Wow i waws like iight. and i still talk alil but now another guy is trying to get at me. HE just remind me of how my ex is much better. i like my ex still alot but he don't wanna call or shit like he tryna avoid me. So what that mean? what should i do? i'm so lost.
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call him. don`t make it seem like you`re being distant too. if he`s still feelin you and you`re still feelin him, then you`re supposed to be together.
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Q: Well today i wen't to my friends house.I wen't to keep my best friend company because our friend(the owners house) was in her room with a guy and she called me telling me she felt uncomftrable.So when i got there like 15 minutes later the guy left and my friend came out the room. When we were all kicking it outside they started smelling their hands talking about they smelled like weed!I was so dissapointed in my best friend because it had been so long since we hung out together and i didint know she had started smoking that stuff!So i told her "when did you start"and she said "we tried it last week" and i said "i thought u were never gonna do it again"and she stood quiet 4 a while and promised this was the last time.Then when we were in the back they took out the pipe and started smoking it and asked me to do it.I said i didint want to and they just looked at me like saying wtf!But the truth is i know i should trust her but i know shes gonna try it again.I don't want her to start doing it alot because shes barely 14 but idk wut to do so she won't!wut would you do??
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talk to her about how you feel. sit her down and tell her the effects of marijuana usage. tell her you don't want her to screw up her life. tell her you love her and you're her best friend, you don't want to see her get hurt.
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Q: My boyfriend and I are completely in love. We've been dating for 3 and a half years. I really see a future with him..but we don't agree on a lot of things. For example, I don't want kids and he does. I want to someday live in another country and he doesn't. He's Jewish and I'm Christian. These are HUGE differences that we share, but we really love each other. What should we do?
~Age 26
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you guys aren't going to agree on EVERYTHING. you have to make compromises in relationships. if you wanna live in the country and he wants to live in the city, then live in the suburbs. when you get married, he's gonna have to convert to chritianity or you're gonna have to convert to judaism. maybe if you don't want kids and he does, adopt or just have 1. if you truely love each other, then everything will work out.
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Q: okay so me and this guy were together for pretty much a long time, and he still likes me.. well he says he does but hes always like "i love you" to other girls.. idk if you know what i mean or not, but now all we do is fight when we talk. I still like him, nobody knows, and he still likes me, supposevely, but i dont really know if i wanna be with him like that... i dont even know if i wanna be friends, do you think if we just stopped talking all together we'd forget about eachother and it would be easier?
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i'm going through a smiliar situation. if down deep, you want to be with him, then test him to see if he really likes you. if you fight, then sit him down and try and talk it out. if you stopped being friends, then i do think it would be easier to get over him.
i hope i helped.
&lexxx
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Q: ummm hey. i have this problem with this one friend. im jealous because of her pet snake.. shes always spending time with it instead of me and i dont know what to say i try to get to her but i just dont think that she would understand. Do you know of anything that i could do to get to her, to let her know i miss hanging out with her because i dont just wanna come out and say "im jealous of your snake" when deep down i really am.
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ask her to hang out and tell her that you would like to hang out at the mall or something. make it so that she can't be near the snake.
hope i helped [:
&lexxx
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Q: i'm a guy and was wondering something. as the question implys, i would like to know whether most people put feelings or morality first, and why. my example is pre-marital sex. there must be at least 20 questions on that topic before this one...some say 'do it if you feel ready' while others say 'no because you'll regret it and it's not meant to be that way'. both seem good reasons for or against it. is it both? should you really put your feelings and that of another first, or should you stick to your moral values, reguardless of what others or society has to say about pre-marital sex. thanks, will rate.
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it depends on how someone views it. personally, i say if you want to and you're ready and you have SERIOUSLY thought about it and you're with the RIGHT person, then it's all up to you. you should sit down with your partner and talk about it. most people just jump into sex like it's a pile of money. most of the people that do that regret it everyday afterwards. don't let anyone pressure you into anything. if you want to be abstinent until you walk down the aisle, good for you. if you want to have sex 5 years before you get married, great. just think about it and make sure its the right choice.
hope i helped :)
;Lex!
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Q: How do you get someone to finally let you into their hearts. I'm totally in love with this person but they are so scared to let others in becuase they aren't used to having someone love them so they totally ignore the fact that I do. We're still very good friends but ... I dont know what to do. Can someone give me an idea on how to make him open up to me and be my boyfriend? We used to date but he broke up with me becuase he wanted to sort through some things he said he's never felt a connection like this with anyone else but he's pulling away from me becuase I know he's scared, its been 3 months since we broke up, all our friends say it seems like he wants to be with me but one week he'll be flirty with me and then the next he'll try to start fights with me even though I don't budge and I still stay by his side ... can someone help me becuase he's leaving for a week and a half, I just want to give him something to think about while he's gone, I want him to know I won't hurt him. How do I do this?
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you can't get anyone to do anything i'm afraid. you can help them along though. you have to show him that you won't hurt him. be there for him through everything and stick by his side even when he gets upset. tell him how you feel. 3 months may seem like a long time but for someone trying to sort stuff out, its not very long. talk to him. let him know exactly how you feel.
hope i helped :)
;Lex!
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Q: Very recently, I found out one of my very best friends (a girl, I am a guy)got a boyfriend. This only happened recently, and I found out via myspace while I was bored and looking through other profiles. I came across hers and noticed all the comments about it, and I looked and checked and found out it was true. No one told me, I just happened across it (although, I am sure I would have found out by tomarrow)
I knew they were good friends, and when I read it, I was happy at first. But soon my happiness for her turned into a sick feeling in my stomach and I felt on the verge of a collapse. I felt sick and desperatly wanted to just go and die. To go away and maybe wake up and realize it wasn't true, to hope it wasn't true. And as reality settled into my mind, I felt the urge to do something I have almost never done, cry.
Every part of my mind says I should be happy for her, to be so glad she finally found someone decent. And I really want to, but my heart won't let me. She has always been there for me and has helped me through alot of bad times and vice versa, I have done the same for her. We've been friends for awile now, and I was always one she would come to for help, and I would do the same thing. I care for her as much as I humanly can.
I don't know why I feel this way, I shouldn't feel this way and yet I do, there is something in me that just won't accept it and is rejecting it completely.
Can anyone please tell me why I still feel like I do? Why a part of me just won't accept it. Won't let me be happy for her?
You have my most sincere thanks...
-Chooses to remain unknown
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my advice is probably like everyones elses.
you probably have feelings for her. you guys are so close that you fell in love with the friendship.
also, you're probably afraid that now that she has a boyfriend, she's going to be with him more and talk to you much less.
you're worried that she's going to leave you high and dry and go off with this boy.
don't think that. she's you best friend and if she's REALLY your best friend then she will not leave you. you've taken care of each other and been there through so much. just stay with her through this.
hope i helped :)
;Lex!
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Q: Ok so yesterday i was raped =(....but see the thing is i dont know how to tell my parents....or anyone. I kind of feel embaresed that it happend and idk. But should i tell them and how should I tell them.
thank you soo much
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You need to tell soeone. Your parents, the police, a cousenlor, somebody. You might feel embarrassed but someone needs to know so you can go to the doctors and see if anything is wrong. It will help you get it off your chest. You will feel much better. Good Luck!
-- alexis nicole x3
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Q: ok im 15 and sometimes i feel like my boyfriend wants me to do more than just making out. But i dont think im ready and i dont want to yet. We've been together for 6 months and some people say thats a long time. But what should i do? is it bad for me to be 15 and not wanna do anything yet? is 6 months along time?
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It's not bad for you to be 15 and not want to do anything. Talk to him and tell him you're not ready. If he truely likes you he will understand and he won't want to force you into anything. 6 months is long now a days in the 21st century but it's not very long in the sense of things. When you're ready then you can do whatever you want, but not until you're ready because then you'll be uncomfortable. Good luck!
-- alexis nicole x3
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Q: my gf Sandy and I are close..in her point of veiw. I dont like Sandy at all. But Sandy REALLY likes me. People want me to kiss her..but i dont want to.I just want to be friends. Besides..my friend Jack likes Sandy i think..so Jack gets mad at me. and if i break up with Sandy people might get mad at me. But i really want to break up with Sandy. Its hard to break up with her to.. because we talk on the phone all day and stuff. I really dont like her.
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Well, you need to tell her that. You need to sit her down and tell her that you don't feel the same about her that she does about you. It might hurt her but it's better then staying with her and someone else telling her that you don't like her. People might get mad, but it's better then losing a friend. Good luck!
-- alexis nicole x3
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Q: i feel like im the only person my age that doesnt have a boyfriend. im 14/f and it feels like everyone around me is together. because all year this year ive heard oh my gosh my boyfriend this and oh my gosh my boyfriend that and i was lookin' around and everyone was like holding hands and stuff. i have a few friends who dont have bf's and we feel like we are the only ones.... IT SUCKS! is there anyway i can get a guys attention or should i just wait. is this a thing that everyone is just trying out? ITS SO SCARY ITS ANNOYING! and any guy that likes me is a nerdy guy! its gross...
PLEASE HELP I RATE 5'S IF YOUR ADVICE IS GOOD!
thanks alot
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You're deffinetely not the only person without a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend can be great, but without a boyfriend there's so much more you can do without having "restrictions" and what not. A way to get a guys attention is be yourself. Duh! If he doesn't look at you because of YOU then he's a waste of time. One thing to keep in mind is that it's always good to be friends with a guy before he becomes your boyfriend. Good luck!
-- alexis nicole x3
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Q: Ok well today I had sex for the first time and it kinda went bad because it only lasted for about 5 min becuz my partners penis kept falling out!!! It was his first time to so I don't know if it was my fault or his..it was really akward after we stopped..because we didn't talk until I told him I was going home. I just don't know what to do should I call him or something and tell him im sorry? Or I don't know PlEASE HELP! ILL RATE 5's!
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You should call him. Tell him how you felt about what happened. If you both want to give another try then go for it. ALWAYS use protection. We don't want little kids running around at young ages. (=
-- alexis nicole
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bio
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My names Alexis. I'm turning 16 in about 2 months. I've been through quite alot so my advice is very openminded. My friends say i give great advice. I help everyone.
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Info
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: new yawkk Age: 15 AIM: Member Since: June 20, 2005 Answers: 14 Last Update: October 6, 2007 Visitors: 1194
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