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do you think people can change back to the way they were ?
my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?
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to be able to change both people must want to change and be commited to it. i don't think that when people "change back" that they change back to the way they were 100 percent because of life experiences but i think you can get pretty close. you two should go out to dinner or something. dedicate a night for just you two to spend time with each other and remember the good times. if you guys have been together for 3 years then i think you can work it out.
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Sometimes you can't.
it all depends on if you both are willing to try,
or you could just accept the new changes, and help eachother through stuff.
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Being honest wtih eachother never hurt. Three years is a long time with someone and I'm sure you don't want to ruin what you have. I suggest a little brake so you guys can both figure out the problems you have and sort them out. A break doesn't mean you've broken oup, and it DEFINATLY DOES NOT mean that you can go hook up with a million other guys. It jsut means that you have time to thnik about you two and get back on track. Realationships usualy need a brake sometime and doesn't prove that you're not strong. When you come back together after one you feel stronger and happier.
If you defiantly don't want to take a brake, you can always jsut talk to him about how he feels and try to satisfy his needs.
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its funny that this was the first question i clicked on, bcus im going through the same thing. honestly, the only thing you can do is try. spend time together & do things that used to make you guys happy & make you guys smile. let him know everything that is goin on in yer life so he knows why yer upset and irritable. keep reminding him how much you love & appreciate him. dont let a good thing pass you by, bcus once its gone, you'll never regret anything more then watching him leave & not doing anything about it.
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Thanks for your question.
If you both want to fix things, then start by spending some quality time together. You need to talk about how you've both changed and why. There must be reasons. Explain to him you'll stop acting how you have been too.
I can't advise you much in this situation, because I don't know how you both used to be. Only you 2 do.
and only you 2 can fix it really.
Do the things you used to and more. (new things).
Perhaps even spend a little time away from each other so it will be more exciting when you see him. (Like a week or two). You'll have lots to talk about and catch up with also.
I know this isn't much help, but I hope things work out fine for you.
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of course things can be back to the way they are. if your depressed for no reason just go see a doctor and they can give you some medicine. maybe your depressed because of the whole family issues. maybe the problem is, your not communicating enough. tell him about your problems and he can comfort you through them. you guys really haven't changed just your going through some stages. and you surely don't want a 3 year relationship gone with the wind. Just talk to him, it might help. Hope i helped.
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