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what's put first, feelings or morality
i'm a guy and was wondering something. as the question implys, i would like to know whether most people put feelings or morality first, and why. my example is pre-marital sex. there must be at least 20 questions on that topic before this one...some say 'do it if you feel ready' while others say 'no because you'll regret it and it's not meant to be that way'. both seem good reasons for or against it. is it both? should you really put your feelings and that of another first, or should you stick to your moral values, reguardless of what others or society has to say about pre-marital sex. thanks, will rate.
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Sex is SUCH a personal decision, dont base it on your friends, parents, or yes, even your religious beliefs..its about you and your partner. Yes, do it if you absolutely feel comfortable and there's not a single negative thought in your head. Your first time will always be in your memory so make sure it's with someone you want to remember for a long time. It's really tough to stick to your morals in the society we live in today but if you can do it, then more power to you. But sex should really be about what YOU feel is right, now what someone/something tells you is right.
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sex is not a bad thing.but if are confused about whether or not to wait for marriage, then you should definately wait until you are in love.that way it means something.but it's really up to you. don't listen to society,listen to me!
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it depends on how someone views it. personally, i say if you want to and you're ready and you have SERIOUSLY thought about it and you're with the RIGHT person, then it's all up to you. you should sit down with your partner and talk about it. most people just jump into sex like it's a pile of money. most of the people that do that regret it everyday afterwards. don't let anyone pressure you into anything. if you want to be abstinent until you walk down the aisle, good for you. if you want to have sex 5 years before you get married, great. just think about it and make sure its the right choice.
hope i helped :)
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see, morals are there forever, but the feeling comes and goes. prostitution, drunk sex, rape, etc. are bad, but if you love the other person and are doing it based on your readiness and feelings for eachother, then it isn't that horrible. and about regretting it later, sure maybe you will.. but if you wait until marriage, then how will you know? what if you never get married? there are some things you can't always base on morals, but by your own judgement, what you truly want in your heart.
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Well im a girl, hints the name, i would rather have someone whnen they're confident and ready than when they're scared. So if i were you (which im not) I would wait till your good and ready and wait for someone that you really care about.
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I think feelings and morality connect in a way. Everybody has to decide what they think is MORAL. I don't think pre-marital sex is immoral. Why? It is sex. If you believe there is nothing more to it then a dick and a pussy, why would it be immoral? If you believe that religion ties into it and peoples feelings, then some would believe it IS immoral. A person who is strongly aginst this wouldn't put their feelings first, they would do what they believe is moral. A person who doesn't believe that strongly that " pre-marital sex is wrong" would for sure put their feelings first because they don't believe it is wrong in anyway. So pretty much what I'm saying is that it completely depends on what the persons belief of moral is. :o) good question!
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Honestly, I'm in this same kind of situation for a while. My religion, as well as my beliefs, are that sex should be saved for marriage. While I am contemplating whether or not I should stick to this, my heart tells me I should. Seriously, are you ever going to find that "special person". If they're special enough to have sex with, then they should be special enough to marry. If you're not going to marry them, then obviously, they're not the one.
Your moral values are yours. No one can degrade them or take them away from you. I'm sticking with my decision to wait for sex, despite the immense amount of peer pressure.
Besides...I don't really want the pressure of worrying about whether or not I'm pregnant, or if I caught an STD. And you don't want to worry about your girl getting pregnant or yourself getting an STD.
Wait for marriage and uphold your moral values.
With much respect
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Most people definitely put feelings first. They do things in the heat of passion. They don't think most of the time before they do something stupid like have sex. Unless you feel VERY strong about morals, then most people go with feelings. I would stick to what you truly believe in. But, everyone's morals are different.
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I think that in my opinion you should wait until you are married to do that sort of thing. If you have sex before you are married and break up with this guy and then you are with someone else and you decide to marry. I dont think it would be as special if you werent a virgin rather than a virgin. I think that you should feel you are ready before you do it. I believe they are equally the same both feelings ad morality.
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If you dont want to dont dude as a girl I know I hate it when all guys talk about is sex, most females do we respect a guy who can just sit and hang out and not try anything, if your a christian hey right on if you just dont believe in it even better but dont let anyone pressure you into something you dont want to do, I've made that mistake many times dont do what I did you'll regret it.
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Whenever anyone asks a question like this everyone gets on their high horse about it and says exactly what their view is on it and how anything other than their view is wrong. I don't believe that anyone has the right to do tell anyone else whether they should or should not have sex as long as they are of the legal age. Therefore each person has to do what's right for them. Some people have moral or religious values that say they sould wait until they're married before they engage in sex and in this case these values should be upheld. What's the point in having strong values if when it comes to the crunch you're going to go ahead and have sex anyway? If someone has values to start off about sex then they will only regret their actions later on. However, if someone of a legal age wants to have sex and they feel ready for it and they're not married but they're entirely happy about the situation then why not? It's all about individual differences! Well that's my little rant over!!! Hope that was of some help!
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I think it is really a personal choice.
It is so easy to get wrapped up in the moment that I think you have to have some very strong moral values not to do it.
I don't think its wrong to have sex before marriage, but I think there are very valid reasons to wait. Especially with AIDs being out there.
It also can change your entire life. My husband was married to me when he was your age.(I am magic and can see your age)
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Scary thought isn't it?
So, weather its moral set aside, I think the better question to put to people would be this.
Are you mature enough to handle the consequences in a moral way? If not then don't do it. :)
Still married by the way.
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I think it has the most to do with the consequences that premarital sex can have. Pregnancy, STD's, false emotional attachement, a bigger breakdown after a breakup, and regret of any kind. Obviously you should never have sex if you're not ready no matter what the circumstances and if something goes against your moral values you shouldn't do it either. The problem is, most people aren't sure of their values at young ages when sex becomes an option to them. What people need to make their decision on is whether they are ready to face all the consequences that sex can have. What if I have a baby? What if I don't spend the rest of my life with this person? What if I get an STD? In my opinion these kind of physical consequences are more important to think about than feelings or morality at the time of the event. That's why people get into trouble. They don't look ahead and say how will I view this in the future? If I had to choose between feelings and morality I would go with morality. Morality are values that have been built up and are what keep people from doing things they will regret in the future, while feelings often suffer the heat of the moment and can change from one extreme to the other at any time. I hope I helped!
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my feeling is to wait. it saves you from regret. even if you are sure you love the person, if it doesn't work out, which it most likely won't no matter what. you will regret it even the tiniest bit. if you think you are going to be together forever..they say why wait? but think of it this way..why not wait?
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This is a difficult one. I believe in abstinence.. that is waiting until I'm married. I don't believe in it for religious reasons, simply my own reasons. I wish to wait because to me when you lose your virgnity, you lose a part of yourself by giving yourself to someone. For me, I would prefer to give it to my husband rather than someone I may not end up with. Once you lose your virgnity, you can never get it back. It's much more worth it if it's meaningful.
I do however believe people should make up their own mind. Its THEIR lives.. and they are the ones who will have to deal with the consequences of their actions. That's why I don't think people should get their morals from religion. Religion to me tells people what to do and instills fear and guilt in people as a form of control. And a lot of what religious leaders tell people to do isn't listed in the bible. I feel that if people want to live a moral life (in religious terms) they should live according to the bible rather than SOMEONES interpretation of it. I'm referring to all those Chastity books peope write and stuff.. those're ridiculous.
I don't preach abstinence to people, however, I do feel people should wait until they're at least 18 to make an important decision about losing their virginity. A lot of people lose it at a young age these days by simply following their hormones. They don't listen to their conscience, they just want a "release" of sexual tension.. lol. Most of these people end up regretting losing it this way.
Anyway, my point is people should stick to THEIR conscience. If it feels right to them, then they should do it. If there's any doubt, then they shouldn't. It's true, morality is relative...
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