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am i the only one?
i feel like im the only person my age that doesnt have a boyfriend. im 14/f and it feels like everyone around me is together. because all year this year ive heard oh my gosh my boyfriend this and oh my gosh my boyfriend that and i was lookin' around and everyone was like holding hands and stuff. i have a few friends who dont have bf's and we feel like we are the only ones.... IT SUCKS! is there anyway i can get a guys attention or should i just wait. is this a thing that everyone is just trying out? ITS SO SCARY ITS ANNOYING! and any guy that likes me is a nerdy guy! its gross...
PLEASE HELP I RATE 5'S IF YOUR ADVICE IS GOOD!
thanks alot
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the fact that you don't have a boyfriend is probably one of the best things that can happen in your life. you'll feel so motivated to become a better person, physically and emotionally. at first it'll seem like you're doing it for the sake of getting a bf, but eventually you'll only be doing this for yourself. you'll gain confidence, look better, feel better, be soooo utterly attractive inside and out. this is because everyone else has a bf, and you feel like you're not as good as everyone else. so this is your motivation to start improving your life. the results will amaze you. don't become desperate and look for a boy, you don't need him to make you feel better, or to help you fit in.
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i am 14/f also and i didnt have a boyfriend all year! and i didnt really have a problem with it. i think that it is perfectly okay that you dont have a boyfriend. i think that you should wait cause you should just be yourself and if a guy dosent like you for being yourself then he is not the one for you to go out with! and you shouldnt want to go out with someone just to go out with them...wait till someone really special comes along! good luck! hope i've helped at least alittle!
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dont worry your not the only one. Im 15/f and i still dont have a bf.. but dont worry all the girls and guys that are single now will probably be the ones that have the best relation ships when their older.
simone<3
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You're deffinetely not the only person without a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend can be great, but without a boyfriend there's so much more you can do without having "restrictions" and what not. A way to get a guys attention is be yourself. Duh! If he doesn't look at you because of YOU then he's a waste of time. One thing to keep in mind is that it's always good to be friends with a guy before he becomes your boyfriend. Good luck!
-- alexis nicole x3
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Just wait. Eventually a great guy will come you're way. You could always try talking to guys, become friends with some, you never know, every relationship has to start somewhere. And if you don't become more then friends, then hey, at least you have another friend.
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Oh god you are NOT alone.
And I would think not having a boyfriend is such a bad thing. Yes there are times when I would loooove a boyfriend to hold hands with and o walk down the halls with. But really there are quite alot of work. there is the working to be together, beaking up etc.
So don't guys at this age are pretty immature anyways. I swear one day he'll come along and that day is not that far away.
single and (kinda) proud
~kooka
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just wait!! having a boyfriend isnt everything...it can get annoying having to be considerate of the other person. most people at 14 are either 1) in it to get some action 2) dating to say they have. it just leads to a bunch of heartache and not to mention the drama. hang out with your single friends...you can flirt with guys without feeling guilty about it or getting dumped. just have fun and wait mr. right, not mr. right now. hope this helps! <3
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I'm 14/f and i don't have a boyfriend either. and i'm HAPPY! when i look around, i don't see happy couples. i see people who are dating just for the sake of dating. and that only leads to heartbreak! the point of boyfriends and girlfriends and dating is to find the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. chances are, that's not going to happen at 14. just wait a while! the right guy will come along. you shouldn't have to work extra hard to get a guy to like you. if he is worth it, he'll be able to see that you're great without you having to flirt or dress extra sexy or wear a ton of makeup.
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I'm going to give you advice I have given to many other people. This is something everyone that wants a boyfriend should hear.
You don't have to worry about being lonely for the rest of your life! You are only FOURTEEN. You have plenty of time to find your soul mate.
My brother is twenty three and he still hasn't found love. I'm not sure if he ever will because he pushes away everything and thinks marriage is stupid. That doesn't mean his life is worthless. You don't have to get married just to be happy. There are many people out there that are not married. Your life doesn't have to revolve around a man. And if you have excellent friends you can live life happily without being tied down to a guy.
So whether you find someone or not, you will be happy, as long as you try to be and work for it.
My point is, everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend at different times. Even though it may feel like you're the only person "lonely and single", believe me, lots of other people are too.
So the solution is to stop wanting a boyfriend. We make ourselves suffer only because we want things and because we are selfish. If we put those selfish wants aside, they will come to us when they come and you don't need to mope around all day waiting for it.
Nobody "needs" a boyfriend. Heck, we could go through life without one. Don't be a dependant person. Enjoy life single while you can. A girl doesn't need a man just to be happy. If you kept yourself happy and surrounded yourself with awesome friends, you wouldn't worry about getting a man all day long. There are many things in life we can achieve and they don't require having a man by your side.
Being desperate for a boyfriend is not a good thing. You know why? Because it makes your judgement cloudy. You'll probably say yes to any old guy that asks you out. That's bad because you want someone special. Which is exactly why you should just let life take its course and wait for the perfect guy to roll along.
And if he never comes, so what? The truth is, not everyone finds love. But that doesn't mean your life is worthless. Your life is what you make it. So make life great.
As for the "nerds" that like you...have you ever even gotten to know them? Don't label people before you get to know them. They could actually turn out to be very sweet.
It's hard not having a boyfriend when everyone else has a guy kissing them or hugging them. But you have to realize it'll happen to you someday. When you see your friends with their boyfriends, just think about how you might be like that some day with YOUR boyfriend. And when they talk to you about how great things are, just think to yourself it might be like that when you have a boyfriend.
I will not give you fashion tips or whatever. A pretty girl is a girl that is confident and happy. That makes her radient. Not tons of eye shadow to cover your face or whatever. You can get more guys to notice you just by talking to them. Be a good friend. That's the easiest way. Conversations are hard to start sometimes, but just say whatever you think, and eventually your conversation will be rolling along.
Just be yourself and be happy. Just wait.
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No way are you the only one. I know how you feel, and I know it can suck, but hear me out. Try to wait, okay. I know that it seems like everyone has a boyfriend, and I know how giddy girls can be about having a new boyfriend - hence "oh, my boyfriend this" and "oh, my boyfriend that" But don't worry, they'll get over it. This year was the year I got my first boyfriend, and yep - we're still together. But that's not my point. I know it can be annoying when your best friend won't shut up about her latest boyfriend, or the last thing she did with him - I know, it can be annoying. Don't try to get a guys attention, and don't be "hard to get" either, because ... that's just not attractive. Be honest, kind and fair. If you try to get a guys attention, you will probably wind up looking stupid or slutty. And we both know that's not what you are, right? Just wait it out. <i> Any period of singleness is a gift from God. Make sure your heart is right with Him before pursuing any relationship. </i>
Hey! Are you insulting nerds? I've been called a nerd before! Nerds can be sweet! And if you don't like him, don't sweat it. But if you don't like him because he's labled "Nerd," maybe you should reconsider being his friend. Maybe not his girlfriend, but at least get to know him... or try.
Girls want to have boyfriends at this age, I know it. But you've got to realize that if you're hurrying trying to get a boyfriend, and you just get the first guy that'll go out with you, you'll end up with your heart broken. Don't let that happen to you.
-FunnyCide
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Aww sweetie, I PROMISE you are not the only one who hasn't had a boyfriend. I'm sixteen, and I've never had one. I'm not a nerd either, a lot of my friends are guys. Maybe they just think of you as the "friend-type." If you really feel like you want a boyfriend, you should start talking to the guys more and flirting a lot. I remember when I used to like guys, all me and my friends would do was just sit there and talk about them, but nothing would happen of course. You have to get out there and show them that you're confident in yourself and that you know what you want. Don't settle for the nerdy guys, but don't reject them harshly either. Believe it or not, guys watch your every move, and they're watching to see how you turn down the nerdy guy. If you're nice to them, then they'll think you more likely to be nice to them, even if you reject them. Hope that helps!
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Nerdy guy?
Beggar's can't be choosers love.
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Having a boyfriend is completely up to you. If you want one that badly, try going out and meeting guys. If you have any guy friends, invite them places and ask them to bring any out of school guy friends or something like that. Hope I helped.
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